136. Are You Enough?: Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto is an ex-investment banker turned executive coach. She has coached, facilitated, and trained hundreds of senior leaders (many in Fortune 500 companies) over the past 17 years. She has a doctorate from Cambridge, is a Fellow of the Association for Coaching, and has been featured in Forbes, The Times, Fast Company, Psychologies, Inc., and on CNBC. Her show, Enough, the Podcast, also ranks in the global top 2%. She lives in Wimbledon with her husband, teenage kids, and her toy poodle, Herbie. In today's episode, Nada and Mandy discuss career coaching, "Mandyisms," and the concept of  "enoughness." Mandy shares how her shifting purpose in life led to several vastly different careers, and how she honed her personal and professional values into catchy mantras along the way. After identifying her coaching superpower, she was able to help others unlock theirs to find their purpose. Nada and Mandy reflect on what it means to be enough and how the 13 Sucky Commandments prevent us from seeing our wholeness.Learn more about Mandy's work at www.mandylehto.com. Follow on Instagram: @mandylehto. And check out Bronnie Ware's book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. And as promised, The Thirteen Sucky Commandments of Chronic Not-Enoughness: 1.   I must fixate on my mistakes and even point them out to others. 2.   I must disbelieve compliments. They’re just being nice. Or they want something. 3.   I must constantly feel like I don’t fit in. 4.   I must avoid burdening anyone with my requests for help and support. 5.   I must stay in perpetual busyness to avoid irrelevance. 6.   I must avoid rest and relaxation – or at least feel twisted with guilt whilst doing it. 7.   I must be excellent, but never enjoy or celebrate any wins. Next! 8.   I must find constant fault with my appearance and fixate on my flaws. 9.   I must put myself under extreme pressure to be exceptional, to outrun ordinariness and mediocrity. But (see 7) it’s a game I’ll never win. 10. I must find others' shares of vulnerability endearing and human, but the same rules do not apply to me. Heavens, no! 11.  I must defer happiness to the future, for when I’ve earned it. That’s code for ‘never,’ but yeah, tough... 12. I must avoid the frivolity of feelings, especially anger (so unbecoming.) 13. I must constantly compare myself to others and obsess on all the ways in which I’m losing. And a loser. Please follow us at @thisislibertyroad on Instagram; we want to share and connect with you and hear your thoughts and comments. Please rate and review this podcast. It helps to know if these conversations inspire and equip you to consider your possibilities and lean into your future with intention.