288. What does your environment say about your life?

I’ve heard this statement “How we do one thing is how we do most things.” several times in the past year and when I first heard it I wanted to disagree but the more Ive thought about it, it’s true. For example, how the outside of your home looks, is probably pretty indicative of how the inside looks. If someone doesn’t cut their grass or make the outside of their home look beautiful, they are not doing it on the inside either. Just like if someone goes out looking like they just rolled out of bed, clothes are wrinkled, or dirty, their hair looks dirty , I find myself often imagining subconsciously how their bedroom must look or the state of their home must be a wreck. But does our environment only include our home? No of course not, Realistically our environment can include every single place we go, the people we surround ourselves with, the things we allow into our mind.  But for this episode I simply want to talk about our home. The bare minimum of our environment, the part of our life that undoubtedly display how we are doing in life, the way we care for our home will tell you a lot about how you view yourself. How often do you leave your house with dishes left in the sink? Your bed is unmade, there’s clutter all over the island, maybe your front porch plants gave up a while ago, there are so many things that bother us but we just can’t seem to find time to change it. And listen there is no judgment here, I’m going to be pretty vulnerable with you guys about this. I used to be pretty messy. And looking back at my life, I understand why. I was a wreck on the inside, and it was showing up on the outside. When I was about 25 going through a divorce from my first husband, we had two dogs which I got to keep thank goodness but I was also working and look those dogs would sometimes go to the bathroom in my house and I would try to clean it up, I remember one time sitting on my living room floor, it was carpet, and just crying uncontrollably because of the state of my house, my life, my ability to care for my dogs, it was not good. So if this is you, or some version of that is you, there’s hope. You don’t have to settle for that. I look back at that girl crying on the floor and send her so much love and you know why? Because she didn’t accept that as her lot in life, she slowly but surely started getting it together. She got help through coaching, she read books and went to seminars and surrounded herself with people that raised her standards. She was doing the best she could at the time, while knowing she deserved better and actively worked towards it. No one was going to knock on my door and offer to help clean or care for the dogs, or get my mindset right, I had to do that and I did and I still work on it every single day. And if that sounds tiresome to you, imagine the weight of staying in the misery of being a wreck, that’s a whole heck of a lot more tiresome, I can say that from experience. Her house mirrored her life…and at the time, it was a wreck.