#30: When You Have Big Needs, Big Sensitivity, Big Wants

After years of therapy, coaching, somatic work, personal development, spiritual work and more, I felt frustrated that I still felt like a hot mess on the inside and that I couldn’t be perfectly “regulated” and symptom-free. It wasn't until I learned (and have to keep remembering) to embrace that I am highly sensitive with big needs and big wants by default that I stopped feeling so broken. Think of this as an audio love letter to all the highly sensitive "too much" folk who tried to heal it away and it never worked. (Especially if you too are autistic/highly sensitive/neurodivergent.) In this episode I cover: Embracing your bigness When you’re highly sensitive or neurodivergent Putting a lid on your emotions How I manage my own sensitivity Trying so hard to fix ourselves when we’re actually autistic or neurodivergent Being sensitive, having big needs and big emotions as default When we try to squash our own bigness What triggers us in others reflects something about ourselves Where are you still inadvertently squashing yourself? Being married to an introvert when I am an extrovert The 3 big taboos: Food, money, and sex Having the ick about your needs and wants in general Going on a want walk When having wants is a sin  When you should only want what “God” wants Playing mind games instead of asking for what you want directly Overriding what your body wants in school Accepting being highly sensitive and having high needs as your default rather than needing to be healed Playing to your actual size Quotes: “What if you can accept that you are a big emotional person, incredibly needy, with high sensory needs and accept that as your default rather than something that needs to be healed away?” “Where am I still denying that I have these needs and I’m not a big emotional person and have high sensitivity? Where am I still pretending something doesn’t matter to me when it does?” “If you’ve got low desire, low libido, have no idea what you like in sex or struggle to ask for what you want in bed, I guarantee you have get the ick about having wants and needs in general.” Less stuff. More oooooohh. This Black Friday, don't buy more. Invest in your sex life instead. ⁠⁠Get 60% off your annual subscription to Beducated until November 30th here!⁠⁠ Come to Embodied Brilliance: Confidence workshop for women I’m hosting with NIWA on December 7th in Vienna: ⁠https://niwa-at.org/events/⁠ Learn more about how I can support your sexual liberation and apply for the Shameless/Liberated program for women here: ⁠⁠⁠https://lucyrowett.com/liberated-coaching-program/⁠⁠ Links I mentioned: Witness the Bigness podcast episode by Tamu Thomas: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4YaqqzzYAKN788kSK1aQ3V?si=bcd952b89a5f4b83 The Trauma Geek: https://www.facebook.com/TraumaGeek ---- Follow this podcast on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/0MdbEOJW9nXRqLsAMSTRAn?si=13d9a8abecfe4ac0⁠ Follow this podcast on Apple podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-naked-unashamed-life/id1682478750⁠ Want to connect more? For the shameless sexual confidence, pleasure and deep satisfaction you’ve been craving, head here: ⁠⁠https://lucyrowett.com/⁠⁠ Free PDF on how to confidently ask for what you want in bed: ⁠https://bit.ly/askforwhatyoureallywant⁠