305. It's not all about you

I feel like we’ve been having some come to Jesus episodes lately but I just really feel like the thing that helps me the most is when someone simply tells me with love of course, the truth. When someone tells me like it is. When you have things going on in your life that you know don’t feel good or you know you want to improve and you hear someone that is well meaning say “you’re perfect just the way you are” they mean well but you know that’s not true because you can tell by the way you feel that something needs to change. Jordan Peterson says no-one wants to hear someone say “you’re perfect just the way you are” especially when you’re having a rough patch, because you know you don’t want to stay there so of course it’s not perfect and you know it deep down.  So I love you and you should love yourself as you are but also know that the ability for you to grow and improve lies with one person…YOU We each have something very very unique from the rest of the billions of people on earth. Unique only to us. And that is that our world revolves completely around us. No one else has your exact experience. No one. Not even your twin sister because one of you was the one that came out first or the funny one or the favorite. Theirs always something that differentiates you and develops your uniqueness. You might be thinking this is quite different from the title where I said it’s not all about you. But here’s the thing. Because we each take us with us every where we go, we have a tendency to shape every experience into being something about us. Someone is having a bad day and is grumpy, we wonder if we did something to them. Someone is casually talking about their experience and we inject our same experience into the conversation. Someone has something really good happen to them and you wonder why those things never happen to you. Your friends or family are going on vacation together and you feel left out that you weren’t invited. Whatever it is, there we are subconsciously or even consciously factoring in what this means about you or how it affects you. Now this is human tendency, I just want us to start realizing we are doing it because it often leads to hurt feelings, comparisons, anger even in some cases.  To continue, listen to episode 305!  Love you guys!