311. Their approval is NOT worth your happiness

I always say every single one of us came out of the womb with an agenda. And some will ignore that agenda to please others and some won’t. Those that won’t walk and create their own path which leads to the life you were meant for, it’s not easy to do but the other option of following someone else’s path for you isn’t easy either for a lot of different reasons. Stop trying to fit yourself into someone else’s dream for you. It’s not your job to fulfill someone else’s dream, it’s their job. Love them where they are and don’t require them to have to return that favor. They may not be able to. I read a post by Lindsay Mango the other day that said “what if YOUR happiness is more important than THEIR approval?” And it hit me that my happiness IS more important than other people’s approval. And society wants to tell you that’s selfish. You should put yourself last, the ones that only think of others are praised, oh she’s so giving. Oh she never thinks about herself, only others. But if that’s true for someone, I’ll show you someone whose internal light has burned out or is close to burning out and they are trying to get light externally which will have them burning the candle at both ends just to feel loved, which only happens when other people need them, but what happens when other people stop needing them? there’s a darkness again because you’ve never tended to your own internal light. That’s a tiresome, dangerous game. Because you’re at the mercy of other people for how you feel. You have to tend to your own light and let it shine so brightly, you do that, and it will attract others with that same light and the good just keeps getting gooder. Not a word, but I liked saying it. And look, your light may be too bright for some people, it may confront them that they’ve allowed their own light to be dimmed or to go out all together. When you follow your own heart, there will be those that don't approve and it may sting and you may wonder if it would just be easier to just do the thing and get the approval, but if you’ve ever tried that you know it’s a never ending gig and you’ll end up resentful and bitter, that in my opinion is so much harder than forging your own path.  Listen to the entire episode....I love you guys!