651: Ford School of Public Policy Adjunct Attia Qureshi on the Hidden Psychology Behind Effective Negotiation

Attia Qureshi examines negotiation not simply as a business skill, but as a core leadership capability that shapes influence, alignment, and decision-making. Drawing on experience across consulting, startups, academia, and international development, she explains why many capable professionals struggle in negotiations despite strong analytical skills. The discussion explores several practical themes: why preparation is often undervalued, how fear and emotional reactions affect judgment under pressure, and why negotiation should be treated as a skill built through repetition rather than theory alone. Qureshi also distinguishes influence from manipulation, emphasizing that durable cooperation is built through trust, reciprocity, and understanding shared interests. The episode covers organizational alignment, stakeholder management, rejection, and emotional resilience, including lessons from work in Colombia helping farming communities transition away from coca production. Throughout the conversation, Qureshi argues that effective negotiators are not necessarily the most aggressive or persuasive, but the ones who can stay disciplined, build trust, and navigate difficult conversations with clarity and composure. This episode offers practical insights for leaders seeking to improve negotiation, relationship management, and organizational effectiveness in both professional and personal settings. Attia Qureshi is an adjunct at the Ford School of Public Policy and previously at MIT's Sloan School of Management and Ross School of Business. The founder of Attia Qureshi Consulting, where she supports companies through negotiation, conflict resolution, and organizational strategy. Get Attia's book, Never Settle, here: https://tinyurl.com/2fyjhb5m Claim your free gift: Free gift #1 McKinsey & BCG winning resume www.FIRMSconsulting.com/resumePDF Free gift #2 Breakthrough Decisions Guide with 25 AI Prompts www.FIRMSconsulting.com/decisions Free gift #3 Five Reasons Why People Ignore Somebody www.FIRMSconsulting.com/owntheroom Free gift #4 Access episode 1 from Build a Consulting Firm, Level 1 www.FIRMSconsulting.com/build Free gift #5 The Overall Approach used in well-managed strategy studies www.FIRMSconsulting.com/OverallApproach Free gift #6 Get a copy of Nine Leaders in Action, a book we co-authored with some of our clients: www.FIRMSconsulting.com/gift