Being Authentic in Your Relationships with Marie-Elizabeth Mali

What is authenticity? It's become this license for many of us to throw all our unmediated stuff at people and be like, "Well, that's my authenticity!" It's become an excuse for absolving ourselves of responsibility of working with what's genuinely coming up within us. 

To me, being authentic is more about sharing your truth and having the courage to reveal your tender places— your joy, pain, desires, curiosities, fears and the full range of feelings you may have.

Tune in and learn more about Being Authentic in Your Relationships with Marie-Elizabeth Mali.

Key points covered in this episode:

✔️ You and your habitual reactions. Notice your first reaction to a trigger, a happening or an event. It's likely coming out of the past. It's a conditioned response that you've adopted since you were young, and your brain automatically responds to that stimulus in that way. You can't truly be authentic until you start getting to know who that real you is beyond who you've been taught to be.

✔️ Being authentic with others. Authenticity doesn't include control. Authenticity is just realness. It's not about the other person, getting them to change, or about making them wrong. It's about letting people see and feel the real you so that you can mutually decide if you want to keep engaging with one another or if you're not a good fit. 

✔️ You and your assumptions. Your assumptions about yourself that came out of traumatic or difficult experiences are not the truth of who you are. They come out of learned survival behaviors and fears around being unlovable or unworthy. It's never too late to get to know who you truly are beyond those assumptions. Get to know yourself better because who you are is WAY more than what happened to you.

✔️ You and your joys. Allow yourself to be seen in your delight when someone excites you and makes you happy. Notice: do you put a lid on your delight because you don't want to seem too eager or too easily pleased? Being an easily pleased woman is an incredibly attractive quality. Don't allow others to tone down your joy. 

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Marie-Elizabeth is the founder of Relationship Alchemy, where she helps women leaders create loving and nourishing intimate relationships that support their work in the world.

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As a Relationship Alchemist, two-time TEDx Speaker, and host of the Relationship Alchemy podcast, Marie-Elizabeth Mali shows women leaders how to cultivate deeper love and connection in their intimate relationships. Drawing on her Master's degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and over 20 years of working with clients, she teaches women how to show up as authentic leaders in their relationships and work instead of twisting themselves to fit in. Marie-Elizabeth's work has been featured in Thrive Global, SWAAY, and Forbes. She is also a member of the Forbes Business Council, a published author with an MFA in Poetry from Sarah Lawrence College, and an underwater photographer who has a thing for sharks. Learn more at http://relationshipalchemy.com.