The comparison trap

Comparison is one of the most human things we do. But for parents of children living with ADHD it can become one of the most damaging. This episode looks at the science of social comparison, why measuring your child against their neurotypical peers was never a fair contest, and how shifting that comparison changes everything. The only measure that is fair, honest and genuinely motivating for a child living with ADHD is who they were yesterday. This episode explores why and how to make that shift at home.Be Everything You Are! OrganiserSCIENCE REFERENCESFestinger, L. (1954). A theory of social comparison processes. Human Relations, 7(2), 117 to 140.Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The what and why of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self determination of behaviour. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227 to 268.Hoza, B., et al. (2004). Self perceptions of competence in children with ADHD and comparisons to their peers. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 72(3), 382 to 391.