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E76 - Rewriting The Narrative

An episode of the The Ugly Duckling Diary podcast, hosted by Mags Thomson, titled "E76 - Rewriting The Narrative" was published on August 18, 2019 and runs 16 minutes.

August 18, 2019 ·16m · The Ugly Duckling Diary

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 When we are addressing triggers and trying to heal from traumatic experiences, we need to change the stories we tell ourselves. Have you ever had an extremely emotional response to something that turned out to be pretty trivial? Well, looking back at that moment, you can probably reconstruct the story you told yourself. They often go something like this: Better not forget my bag on the bus  Yeah, you're going to forget that bag, and it's going to cause problems  You can't be trusted even to bring along your husband's things See, you're a failure at EVERYTHING  You are worthless! Or at least, that's how my brain would respond to such a thing happening. Of course, you won't forget the bag... but it's a rabbit hole. So, how do you stop that story of doom from running through your mind every time something unexpected happens? That's what today's podcast is about. Mags explains how you can change the stories that are triggered and create lasting change. Main Take-Aways: To change the stories, we have to address how we feel about our triggers.  We cannot change from a place of fear. Desensitising is a great strategy, but we can't bully ourselves in that process Encouraging ourselves from a loving compassionate place means taking baby steps It also means celebrating all the progress we make 

 When we are addressing triggers and trying to heal from traumatic experiences, we need to change the stories we tell ourselves. Have you ever had an extremely emotional response to something that turned out to be pretty trivial? Well, looking back at that moment, you can probably reconstruct the story you told yourself. They often go something like this:

Better not forget my bag on the bus 

Yeah, you're going to forget that bag, and it's going to cause problems 

You can't be trusted even to bring along your husband's things

See, you're a failure at EVERYTHING 

You are worthless!

Or at least, that's how my brain would respond to such a thing happening. Of course, you won't forget the bag... but it's a rabbit hole.

So, how do you stop that story of doom from running through your mind every time something unexpected happens? That's what today's podcast is about.

Mags explains how you can change the stories that are triggered and create lasting change.

Main Take-Aways:

  • To change the stories, we have to address how we feel about our triggers. 
  • We cannot change from a place of fear.
  • Desensitising is a great strategy, but we can't bully ourselves in that process
  • Encouraging ourselves from a loving compassionate place means taking baby steps
  • It also means celebrating all the progress we make 
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