EP 28: How to end Good Girl Syndrome

Have you ever found yourself doing something without really understanding why you are doing it - especially if it is something you don't want to do? It isn't unusual to find ourselves women driven by a narrative that tells us who we have to be and how we have to move.  We have unknowingly been held prisoner to something I call Good Girl Syndrome.  But I believe most of us would prefer to be women who write their own stories based on what we want and value. Does this resonate?  Do you want to stop being driven by the laundry list of what others define as “good”? Then it is time to start deconstructing old narratives and beliefs to see where your truth lives so you can write a new story where shame avoidance isn’t a driving factor for behavior. Many of the women I have worked with have come to realize they live their lives based on this unspoken or internalized set of rules. They aren’t even conscious of how much this “Good Girl Syndrome” is controlling their lives. When they recognize it, a fire begins to burn within them. Together we work to suss out all these areas rooted in this Good Girl Syndrome narrative. We spend time listening for the inner voice spouting the good girl narrative.  You know, the one that tells you you must keep up appearances so everyone knows you are indeed a "good girl".  Sadly though, this cycle leaves us hyper-aware of feeling shame and needing to avoid feeling more of it thus creating the rinse and repeat cycle of good girl syndrome.  It is wrong to have your life controlled by shame and a set of rules someone gave you without your permission.  It is time for you to deconstruct the Good Girl syndrome you have lived with and build a world where you shrug off shame, define your own life rules, and write a narrative where you choose what kind of woman you want to be. In this episode, I will share some tips to help you deconstruct this hidden narrative.  If you follow this process, you will become aware of areas where your choices are based on good girl syndrome.  Once you are aware, you can write a new narrative - one where you make the rules for living your own story. If you apply this process consistently, you will: Put an end to Good Girl Syndrome Gain an understanding of why you do what you do Become clear on how you want to move Make choices that align with who you choose to be Move forward writing your own narrative Listen to the episode, and let's start identifying times when we are being “good girls”  instead of following our own intuition and aligning with our core values. Head here to find the blog version of the episode. Follow us on: Instagram: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast or @RS_Coach_and_Strategist Facebook: @Coming-Out-Gold-Podcast  or @rscoachandstrategist Royalty-free music from Pixaby.com