Episode 293: The Hard Days

Try out The Weekly Accountability Group for FREE! Last week I talked about accountability and discipline. Today, I want to talk about hard days. I did not have a good night last night. I didn't sleep well. I'm going through some physical discomfort. Nothing serious, but just physical discomfort. And I just got down. And one of the things I've learned is hungry, angry, lonely, tired, halt.   If you get too hungry or you get too angry or you get too lonely or you get too tired , and I also will add hormonal in there, I find that is when my negativity, my catabolic energy comes up. And the thing is I woke up and I was like, "okay, I didn't have a great night's sleep. I'm not feeling that great about me at the moment. And I'm just having one of those days. I'm having a hard day."  So every morning I make a cup of tea. And I go out to our garden, and I sit, and I talk with the Universe, and this morning, I was resenting the Universe. I was like, "I'm not feeling so great, Universe, and for some reason I want to blame it on you."  I just didn't feel great.  And then a little voice came to my head that said, do what you always do.  Don't treat this day any differently than any other day. And so slowly I started to say my mantras that I say and I opened up my little journal and I read some of my affirmations and I got myself present by naming the birds that I was hearing and the sounds that I was hearing. And I said, "okay, look, even though you don't feel so great today. I'm still going to suit up. I'm still going to show up and I'm still going to be Peter Pamela Rose reporting for duty today."  And had my breakfast, took a shower, put some makeup on, had my first meeting. I've already done four meetings today and it's not even 10:30 in the morning and here we go, and now I'm doing a podcast. And it was while I was in the shower that I said I should do a podcast about when things aren't so great, when you're not feeling so wonderful.  The Language of Letting Go This reading is about getting through the hard times. This is about getting through the hard times, and as always, I'm going to be using her words for inspiration, and I'll be talking a little bit about it.  "Hard times. Stressful times. Are not all there is to life, but they are a part of life. They are a part of growth, and they are a part of moving forward." I was working with a client privately recently, and we got to this bit where I said, you work, you grind, you get to the next level. Repeat. You work, you grind, you get to the next level. Repeat. You work, you grind, you get to the next level.  And the thing is that days like I'm having today, guess what? That is part of growth. It is part of life. It is part of moving forward.  This is the key, even though it doesn't feel like it. "We can use the energy of hard times to work out and work through our issues." Why would you treat this day differently than any other day?  No, you keep to the routine. Because the routine is on the path to growth.  So again, we use the energy of the hard times to work out, work through our issues.  And we can use it to fine tune our skills and our spirituality. In other words, even though I don't feel like I had faith in that moment, I practiced and acted as if I did.  "Or we can go through these times suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change." I'm sorry that's just not my bag anymore. Just don't want to do it. I only want to be moving forward. I only want to be growing.  A friend of mine said to me recently, she's you know what? We can do hard things. We can do hard things, and sometimes doing the hard thing is doing what you've always done to keep you on track, even when you most don't feel like it. Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. Why? Because it instills desire and discipline in us.  "We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of learning, loving and growth. The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude toward the event? Will we question life and our higher power by asking what we're supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old negative beliefs?" Oh, hell no, we're not doing that. Hell no.  Where we say things like, nothing good ever happens to me. I'm just a victim, people can't be trusted, life isn't worth living. Hell no! No, we are not going to do that.  And this is the thing, As I've shared on this podcast, I'm very much into working out and fitness because it really works against that trigger word of mine, which is weak because working out makes me feel strong. And one of the things that I've noticed is particularly with abdominal exercises is that when I find an abdominal exercise that I really don't like, that is the one I drill into, that is the one I practice. Why? Because that's where I'm weak and I want to get strong.  And it's the same thing when I'm doing, let's say, an abdominal exercise. And it's the same thing. It starts to burn and it starts to feel uncomfortable and I want to quit. That's when the strength is building.  That's when the strength is building.  So when this morning I said to myself, that little quiet voice said, do what you always do. Do your morning routine. That was me continuing on even though it was uncomfortable. That was me getting stronger.  "We do not always require hard energy or stress, to motivate, to grow or change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it's there, we can learn to channel it into growth and using it for achieving what is good in life. We can use the hard times to get better. We can use the hard times to get better." Also, if you would like to be held more accountable in your acting career and you would like more of this. core work in your life. Please, I beg of you, take a chance and try out one of our classes for free. They are life changing.  And if you can't make the class, we tape it.