Healing After Leaving Mormonism — Identity, Grief, Self-Trust, Relationships, and Joy

At 17, Jess sat in sacrament meeting hiding bruises on her neck and did the math. She knew she would have to leave. This is the episode she and Hannah wish someone had handed them on the way out the door.  Leaving Mormonism isn't a swap of one belief system for another — it's the collapse of an entire existential architecture. The identity work that follows isn't recovery of a self that existed before; there was no pre-Mormon self. It's construction from scratch. Jess and Hannah cover the grief that ordinary frameworks can't hold (you're not just losing a religion — you're losing your community, your cosmology, and your entire social operating system); how to rebuild self-trust after decades of being trained to doubt your doubts; therapeutic approaches that work for religious trauma specifically; the relationships that survive deconstruction and the ones that don't; and what joy looks like when it's no longer tied to a cosmic scoreboard. This episode includes practical resources: the Mormon Mental Health Association therapist directory, the Secular Therapy Project, and the Religious Trauma Institute. In this episode: why leaving Mormonism is an identity collapse rather than a belief change; grief frameworks that actually apply to religious deconstruction; IFS (Internal Family Systems), ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy), and Narrative Therapy for religious trauma; how to rebuild self-trust after being trained to doubt your instincts; which relationships survive deconstruction and why; the Mormon Mental Health Association, the Secular Therapy Project, and the Religious Trauma Institute as starting points for finding help. Support the show: buymeacoffee.com/postmormonpostmortemAd-free listening from $2/month: patreon.com/postmormonpostmortemTikTok & Instagram: @postmormonpostmortempostmormonpostmortem.comNew episodes every Sunday at 9 AM — just in time for sacrament meeting.