I Can Love You (But First, I Gotta Love Me): The Psychology of Mar J.’s ‘I Can Love You’

EPISODE · Jan 21, 2026 · 27 MIN

I Can Love You (But First, I Gotta Love Me): The Psychology of Mar J.’s ‘I Can Love You’

from Stay Mentally Dope · host Charmaine Beasley, LPC-S & Jasmine Bishop, LPC-S

I can love you better than her, do you believe me or do I need to explain more? In this episode, your two favorite therapists are discussing Mary J Blige’s song, I Can Love You, and what it looks like to try to prove your self-worth and love, codependency, and what it looks like to need validation from other people in order to feel valid within yourself. Yea, we know it’s a lot but of course we also do it with a lot of information, a lot of dopeness, and a lot of fun. Time stamps: 00:00 intro00:45 overview 07:40 What is self-esteem (when you have to have others validate you)15:30 Codependency (when you don’t know who you are outside of other people)20:20 Going to therapy and only talking about someone elseVideos mentioned: Gabrielle Union video:Podcasts versions are at:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-dope/id1673538196Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DiRPvXY1ua6ftLg5FR98Q?si=aa3601b4b9ca490fAmazon Music: ​​https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2a85c229-4bd8-4526-a65d-66b453998bce/mentally-dopeMental health x Black culture #Blackculture #mentalhealth #therapy #blacktherapist #blackyoutube #blackpodcast #blackmovies #blackwoman #blackwomenoftiktok #blackwomenshealth #blackwomenpodcasts #therapistpodcast #fortheculture ##mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealthjourneyPodcasts for womenmental health podcast podcast for black women

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