Mindset Matters - Episode #215 - Why You Get Triggered and How to Change the Story

In this Mindset Matters conversation, Patrick and Steffany explore one of the most misunderstood emotional patterns people face daily. They unpack the real reason we get triggered and why the trigger is rarely the event itself. Instead, it is the story we attach to the moment that activates our nervous system and sends us into reactivity. With honesty, humour and real life examples, they dive into the hidden beliefs and identity based narratives that sit beneath the surface and shape how we respond. Patrick opens with a playful question about whether he triggers Steffany, which leads into a deep discussion about what actually activates our stress responses. They explore how tone of voice, bureaucracy, expectations, old identity wounds and subconscious beliefs like I am not enough or I have to get this right can all intensify the reaction. They also highlight how triggers often clash with meta values like freedom, security or integrity, creating emotional friction that feels bigger than the moment. Together, they offer practical insights for how to pause, breathe and interrupt old patterns. Rather than blaming the person or circumstance, they emphasize the importance of asking What is the story I told myself in that moment. They share personal anecdotes, including Patrick’s well known airport frustrations and a humorous look at “Prince Patrick,” to help listeners see that awareness dissolves emotional charge. This episode is a powerful look at emotional responsibility, self awareness and the freedom that comes from understanding your inner world. It teaches listeners how to stay grounded, reduce reactive behaviour and create healthier relationships by owning their responses with clarity and compassion.