The Outlaws

In this powerful episode of Your Relationshift, Hindi Kalmenson and Chayale Tzukernik tackle a deeply relatable challenge sent in by a listener: what happens when your husband seems more emotionally connected to his mother and sisters than to you? With compassion, honesty, and wisdom drawn from Torah and Chassidic teachings, they explore the emotional undercurrents of feeling sidelined in marriage, the pain it can trigger, and how this dynamic can shake a woman’s sense of value and connection. They reflect on the symbolic meaning of breaking the glass under the chuppah, highlighting the transition a man undergoes from being a receiver in his family of origin to becoming a mashpia (giver) in his new home.Rather than offering blame or simple fixes, Hindi and Chayale empower listeners to view these situations through the lens of growth, abundance, and self-awareness. They discuss how perception—how we choose to receive and interpret a mother-in-law’s presence—can shift an entire dynamic. They introduce practical tools like trusting the connection, reinforcing your essential value, and cultivating respect for the mitzvah of kibud av v’eim (honoring parents). This episode is a heartfelt invitation to look inward, embrace personal agency, and transform a place of pain into an opportunity for deepening both marriage and self.