There is No They: Lessons from the Unlikable

Let's stop a bit to look at the "understood they." The dehumanization and villainization that comes from othering. Creating this separation lets us play the victim and make the success we see in others wrong all while limiting our own. Like the grammatical understood you, understood they is an imperative. It creates separation between ourselves and others. We don't name our subject, just blame them. Separation allows us to create a dichotomy- by making others wrong, we make ourselves a victim and give up our power. Being a victim is a permission slip for inaction. What if you could shift language from "me and them" to "we and us?" When we are one, there can be no competition or jealousy. Instead, we can be in gratitude to those who are drawing our attention. We can thank them for leaving breadcrumbs of their path to success and even appreciate their mistakes for illuminating the pitfalls for us.   This excerpt was from the Stress-less Success Workshop  If you'd like access to the recordings, you can click here. Stay Inspired, Angela   Join the architecting community: Facebook Group Instagram LinkedIn Clubhouse 2:00 PM EST 3rd Sundays- Critical Conversations- A raw look at the state of our profession Twitter 9:00 AM EST Mondays- Architects as Healers: Buildings as Medicine Learn more and connect architectingpodcast.com   Interested in sponsoring a show or having me as a guest on your podcast or community? Stop here to get information. Into/outro music Alive by Richard Wasson Copyright 2019