Aces Up Your Sleeve

Have you ever wondered where that praise or degradation kink stems from? Or if it's possible to hyperfocus on kink and fetishes? Let's talk about it on this week's episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We're talking about the importance of meeting your needs, libido discrepancy, differences of opinion when it comes to kink, and more!We're answering:Is it normal to develop a praise kink when you grew up AuDHD and never got good feedback from parents or teachers or anyone really?So my husband (DX, no medication) gets these phases where he needs sex / kinky things in his life SO badly, he becomes really desperate. Like - talking about it in his sleep, getting really upset, sad, angry, dramatic about the topic etc. sometimes up to a point where the intensity of it all scares me.Context: We've been together for 10 years, have sex on average l'a say 1-2x per week, do looots of crazy kinky things. Which I think is pretty damn great, but it never seems to be good enough for him. We also have an open relationship so he'd even be free to find other outlets if his drive is just higher than mine. But he says he needs this with me.The only other situations where I see him getting that intense are when he hyperfocuses on problems... So I'm wondering if hyperfocussing on sexual needs is a thing that happens for people with ADHD? If so - what could be done about it?PS: Lately he's worked on some self-reflection and communication skills, which heeeelps so much, mostly cause he's a bit more at ease and it's not always a catastrophe to him if I don't want to do something kinky or have sex. But it's still not easy and creating a lot of pressure for me...BTW: This is part 2 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month. It’s called THRIVE and it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters!On Upping the Ante, we’re helping you find ways to avoid castration and still get your desires and needs for intimacy met! We explore challenges that may be unique to ADHDers when it comes to sex, connection, and even climax. Give it a listen!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the wonderful Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti! Gloria (she/her) is an educator and community discussion facilitator who has been teaching workshops on shame, consent, neurodivergence, and identity in kink communities for several years. As a late-diagnosed autistic woman, she brings both lived experience and thoughtful dialogue to conversations about communication, ethics, and belonging in BDSM spaces. This week, she’s answering listener questions about neurodivergence and kink with us! If you’ve ever wondered if you might be kinky, this episode is for you. We’re also giving some suggestions about how to tell your long-term partner that you’d like to explore kink in the bedroom.We're answering:I’ve wondered for a while now if I’m kinky or if I just like thinking about kinky things. I’m ADHD and Autistic and have only ever had three partners but we never did anything but what most would call vanilla. Single now so nothing fun’s happening lol. But how do I know if I’m kinky or if it’s just fun to think about?Hello Aces, I am a 45 yr old late diagnosis autistic woman who has been married for ten years this August. I need help knowing how to tell my husband that I want us to be more adventurous between the sheets. How do I do this? I have never asked for anything of the sort and never complained about our romps in the bedroom. Thank you for any suggestionsBTW: This is part 1 of our 3-parter mini series on kink as we look forward to an event later this month. It’s called THRIVE and it’s a virtual BDSM and mental health conference. THRIVE is from May 29 - 31st, all online, and it’s by donation - your donation towards your ticket ends up going right to the volunteer staff and presenters! (This is for all audiences, not just therapists!)Show notes: Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GloriaJacksonNefertitiGloria’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gloriajacksonnefertiti/Gloria’s linktree: https://linktr.ee/gloriajnGloria's recorded presentation on Autism, Kink, and Consent: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1KgodjGR59KWPuyvC-ykANaYMr4AUkwdX/view?usp=drive_linkTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Who did we look up to as autistic little kids? The answer is tricky- and we’re sharing it with you on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We’re covering “good” and “bad” autistic representation and where to find it. (Hint: it might be both harder and easier than you think!) Join us in reminiscing about special interests and all of the autistic traits we notice in media.On Upping the Ante, we're critically examining the darker side of neurodivergent celebrities and autistic influencers. We're focusing on harmful behaviors, accountability, and the impact of misusing a platform. Join us to hear more about why it'd be great to have more autistic celebrities and how tough fame must be for autistic folks.A list of neurodivergent celebrities: https://www.imdb.com/list/ls545872590/To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Ready to hear all about chronic pain, illness, and being autistic? We're ready to talk about it! Join us for a raw and real conversation about what it's like to navigate these challenges, especially when the onset is pretty sudden. We're answering this question about autistic health challenges:Are there any unique experiences for autistic people who suddenly get injured or start to have an on-going illness? I’m already bad with transitions and now I have to deal with all of these other changes. Any tips or tricks?To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

To wrap up our mini-series on Teens this week, we’re mostly talking to parents about how to support their autistic and ADHD teenagers! We’re joined by Jamie Roberts, an AuDHD LMFT, who specializes in supporting teens and has published two books for ND teens. We’re answering how to know when they need down time, the importance of recharging, and when you ought to be concerned. We’re also discussing why neurodivergent teens may not seem “motivated” toward independence these days - and how to support them.We're answering:Can you talk about the importance of down time/alone time in high masking autistic teens, how to help them/their parents/family support that need, how to recognize the difference between helpful alone/down time and down time/alone time that may be signs of isolation?What do you recommend to parents of neurodivergent older teens/young adults that show no motivation for moving towards independence, taking into account the complexities of society right now and how next to impossible society makes it for young people to survive?Jamie joined us today for our teen mini series because of the upcoming virtual GEMS ND Summit on Autistic + ADHD Teens on May 16th! Therapists and mental health professionals can check out neuropebble.com/gems-summit for more info. (This is the last week of the Early Bird pricing so snag a ticket soon!)Jamie at www.neuropebble.com or @neuropebble on InstagramGEMS Neurodiversity Community for therapists on FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/924737776755804Neurodiversity for Teen Girls (Jamie’s new book!): https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648486234/neurodiversity-for-teen-girlsTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

This week's episode involves us exploring the complex topics of self-harm, self-stimulatory behaviors, and support strategies for autistic and ADHD teens. (We definitely talk directly about all of these topics, so feel free to skip this one if you need to!) We're sharing about harm reduction, stigma, communicating with parents and guardians, and ways to support teens compassionately.This is part 2 of our Teens miniseries where we're talking to and about working with teens! If you're a mental health professional, we'd love to see you at this year's virtual GEMS Neurodiversity Summit on May 16th - link below in the show notes - where the focus is on Autistic + ADHD Teens.EARLY BIRD TICKETS - Therapists, join us at the GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens: https://www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit-teensTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Welcome to season 2! We're starting off with a small series on Autistic & AuDHD Teens in light of our upcoming GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens event in May. For today’s topic, we’re discussing success during teen years and answering listener questions: I’m writing to you two on behalf of one of my students. I’m a Sophomore English Teacher and I have a student who is very bright but barely talks and does not participate in class discussions. Though he has an Individualized Education Plan that lists him as autistic, his only accommodations are (1) getting breaks as needed during class and (2) extended test-taking time. Are there other ways I can support him in class? Do you two have any words of encouragement for him and students like him?Hi I desperately need to make money to afford my own things. I’m 17 with a drivers license but Im shy and not good at masking. What jobs can I do? Who could hire me?You'll get some school accommodation ideas, autistic-teenager-friendly job ideas, and more!On Upping the Ante, we spoke more about “successful teens” and what that looked like for us as teenagers, including what expectations were tough on us. We’re sharing some personal insight- maybe it’ll resonate with you? Let us know!Possible IEP Accommodations list: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1iOj9EAboD-ekOGyr_Rz1ThPNWJxwHM859AMOQDzMHt8/edit?usp=sharingDestiny Huff, IEP Advocate: https://www.instagram.com/destinyhuff_iep_advocateWA PAVE: https://wapave.org/ EARLY BIRD TICKETS - Therapists, join us at the GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens: https://www.neuropebble.com/gems-summit-teensTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Our season finale is a special one- we’re participating in the 4th annual Podcasthon! This week, over a thousand podcasts are highlighting a charity of their choice and we’re choosing to support the Black Trans Travel Fund! Tune in to hear about why we chose them, what they’re all about, and how to support them. We’re also answering questions regarding the intersections of autism, race, sexuality, and gender. How do you know if you’re masking or code-switching? Whose parent gets to decide if you’re trans or if it’s somehow “just your autism”? We weigh in on these topics and provide some supportive ideas and words of wisdom.On Upping the Ante, we’re giving you a peek inside what Season 2 might look like! You’ll get to hear about potential upcoming changes and all of the things we hope to keep the same for you in our next batch of episodes.Forest Euphoria by (book): https://patriciakaishian.com/forest-euphoria Compulsory Sexuality by Sherronda J. Brown (book): https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710512/refusing-compulsory-sexuality-by-sherronda-j-brown/ Please send all donations to the Black Trans Travel Fund at www.blacktranstravelfund.comTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

In this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve, we are exploring the complexities of “coming out” as autistic, with a focus on the decision-making process regarding disclosure to family and medical professionals. We take the nuances of family dynamics into consideration and examine the potential risks and benefits of sharing your neurotype, as well as the importance of finding supportive medical providers! Listen to learn why we prioritize self-advocacy, safety, and the significance of community support for autistic folks.On Upping the Ante, our free exclusive Patreon bonus content, we’re answering whether or not you should tell a child they’re autistic and, if so, how and when to do that. We also share more about our own self-disclosure and how we navigate that with professionals, colleagues, and others in our lives. Check it out in the Upping the Ante collection here on Patreon!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

This week is all about adult autistic meltdowns on the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast. We discuss our personal experiences with meltdowns, the differences between autistic and Borderline meltdowns, and the importance of understanding your own unique sensory triggers. We talk about the need for community support, coping strategies, and the significance of meeting basic needs to help manage overwhelming situations. We also dispel some misconceptions about meltdowns and highlight the importance of finding the right therapeutic support- it is out there!On Upping the Ante, our free bonus content here on Patreon, we look at the internal side of autistic meltdowns and share our experiences with those. We talk about how to help yourself if you’re experiencing meltdowns and shutdowns. You’re not alone!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

This week on Aces Up Your Sleeve, we’re joined by guest Patrick Casale, LMHC, to discuss neurodivergent entrepreneurship! If you’re autistic and struggling at work, AuDHD with a million ideas and interests but aren’t sure how to start, or neurodivergent and needing a change in your career, this episode is for you. We touch on burnout, juggling friendships, the struggle of finishing a project, and more! We’re highlighting lived experience and giving real ideas to help you navigate these tricky topics.On Hit Me Again, our exclusive paid bonus content with our guest Patrick Casale, LMHC, we answer whether or not autism plays a role in running your own business. We’re talking more about burnout, communication, and the importance of community! Find that in the "Hit Me Again" collection here on Patreon.Patrick at @patrick.casale on Instagram and www.allthingspractice.com Doubt Yourself Do It Anyway Summit (Portland, Maine on Sept 1-3, 2026 with Patrick and Sabrina): https://radicalinsights--allthingsprivatepractice.thrivecart.com/maine-summit-registration/To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

If you're feeling helpless or hopeless right now, you're not alone- and there are things we can do (as ADHDers and autistic folks) to help make movement and change! We're answering questions this week about advocacy, activism, and volunteering in our communities. We discuss different roles we can play based on our strengths and weaknesses, ways to find places to volunteer, and the differences between visibility and change-making. Listen in for some fresh insight and check the show notes for resources!Content note: We do briefly discuss death, murder, systemic oppression, fights for civil rights, liberation, and other related topics. The primary focus of the episode is on the roles we individually play in our communities.On Upping the Ante, the free bonus content here on Patreon, we're continuing the conversation by sharing about some of our volunteer, advocacy, and activist experiences.To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

How do autistic and ADHD people make romantic Valentine’s Day plans? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! Whether you’re throwing a party with friends or trying to take your partner out on a date, we’re giving our ideas on how to make it an unforgettable time. Is it the thought that counts or should you snag inspiration from movies? Join us to hear our thoughts- and leave us a comment to let us know how you prefer to celebrate V Day!On Upping the Ante (bonus content here on Patreon), we’re talking about how to celebrate Valentine’s Day if you’re single or alone. We’ve got some suggestions on what you could do to still enjoy yourself, but also ideas on how to lean into other feelings, too! Whether you enjoy or hate V Day, we hope you’ll find something useful in the free bonus content this week over on Patreon.To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Are you worried you might hurt your partner’s feelings if you were to come out as ace, demi, or on the asexuality-spectrum in general? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast! We explore ways to express yourself to your partner(s) and give a strong reminder that your identity exploration is ultimately not about your partner's worth- it's about understanding your own desires and yourself. If you’re feeling ready to have that conversation, come listen!On Upping the Ante, our free bonus content here on Patreon, we explore how to tell new dates that you’re on the asexuality spectrum. We also discuss how to bring it up to your therapist (and how to look for red flags!)To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Need to brush up on your Neurodivergent Flirting Skills? Flirting can feel like a complex game with no clear rules, especially in the context of modern dating. In the latest episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we explore the nuances of flirting, how to recognize when someone is interested, the challenges of interpreting intentions, and how to approach flirting in a more effective way for autistic folks! You’re right at home if you feel like you’re playing a game that’s outside of your control. Join us to hear what to do about that.On Upping the Ante here on Patreon, we take this a step further by discussing how to avoid giving off desperate energy and how to phrase things on dating apps. We also uncover some reasons you might be getting ghosted or left on Read that have nothing to do with YOU and how you’re showing up!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Whether you’re a millennial or not, you may be wondering why so many millennials are suddenly realizing they’re autistic! We attempt to answer that, as well as provide insight about autistic millennials in general and what similarities we have (if any.) Is it a Tiktok Diagnosis, a trend, or deep self-realizations?On Upping the Ante, we talk about what it was like to be parented by different generations of neurodivergent parents. If you’ve ever felt like it was a little tough growing up and want to commiserate with us, join us over on Patreon for this free bonus content!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We're joined this week by Kyle Rutherford, LMFT-Associate, a therapist, a partner in a neurodiverse relationship, and a proud ADHDer & HSP! He specializes in working with neurodiverse relationship constellations in Austin, TX and online for Texans. We discuss differing expectations and communication styles, when to "toss a relationship in the bin", and how to navigate tough things. We also explore why there's primarily a certain type of advice out there when it comes to autistic & allistic relationships.On Hit Me Again, our (paid) guest bonus content here on Patreon, we're covering breakups through an autistic lens. If you've ever felt like you can't get someone out of your head or are driven to look them up even if it's been years, this might resonate with you!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We discussed being autistic at work in this episode! How do you move up the corporate ladder? Should you even try? What makes a good supervisor? We share our tips and tricks for supervising people, carving out roles that work with your strengths, and more! If you’ve ever wondered how autistic people supervise or manage, this episode will answer those questions.On Upping the Ante, our free bonus content here on Patreon, we take this even further and share about some good and bad supervision experiences we’ve had. We also explore the pros and cons of getting promotions. Give it a listen after the main ep!*NOTE: We recorded on a different platform than usual- our apologies if the volume is quieter than normal.Radical Candor by Kim Scott (book)To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We’re letting you in on a little known secret: Where to find autistic therapists and community! It shouldn’t be a secret but it’s tough to know where to look to find others like yourself- and us. We discuss the importance of community, tips to getting closer to other autistic therapists, and how to start a community space if you feel up to it.On our free bonus content (here on Patreon) called Upping the Ante, we cover how to “do all the things” while being an autistic therapist. There is a ton of stuff to balance and we let you in on how we do it. We also give away our secrets (AKA accommodations that we find useful and wish more people implemented!) Join us on the free bonus content to get more tips and ideas. We hope it’ll inspire folks to join and/or stay in the field!Autistic Clinical Insights: https://www.autisticclinicalinsights.com/ THRIVE virtual convention: https://thrivevirtualcon.com/ Doubt Yourself, Do It Anyway (Portland, Maine summit) with Sabrina: https://radicalinsights--allthingsprivatepractice.thrivecart.com/maine-summit-registration/ Radical Insights Consulting mailing list: https://www.radicalinsightsconsulting.com/newsletterCurious Cryptid Learning mailing list: https://cryptidlearns.kit.com/ NeuroPebble: https://www.neuropebble.com Therapists Supporting Neurodiversity FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/721847776303787To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

For Episode 12, we're joined by B Lourenco, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, to discuss the complexities of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and its impact on parenting and relationships. We explored the nuances of PDA, the challenges faced by parents of PDA children, communication and collaboration strategies, and the importance of repair in relationships. B shares insights from her personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the need for understanding, autonomy, and playful communication in navigating the unique dynamics of PDA!On Hit Me Again, our paid guest bonus content here on Patreon, we explored dating as a PDAer and answered a question about a PDA partner who's "not pulling his weight." Join us to hear our considerations and how we might approach those situations!B Lourenco at www.blourencotherapy.comTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Just in time for a couple of holidays, we’re talking all about being autistic and giving & receiving gifts! If you’re someone who struggles with giving the “right” reaction to presents or with knowing what gifts to get people, you’ll find some helpful tips and tricks on this episode. We’re also giving you some ideas for how to create new traditions, accommodate yourself, and set boundaries around holidays and gift exchanges. On Upping the Ante, our free exclusive bonus content, we’re exploring what we’ve enjoyed for gifts in the past and how to navigate work-related Secret Santa, White Elephant, or general gift exchanges! It can be tough to know what to get and how to present it- let us help you out!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We made it to episode 10! We've been asked to talk about how to prepare (emotionally) for an autism assessment and the results, so we're giving you our favorite tips. We also cover how to prepare yourself for potential second opinions and how to secure an affirming evaluator in the first place. If you've ever wondered if it's worth it to get diagnosed, this episode (and our Patreon bonus content) are for you!On Upping the Ante, our free exclusive bonus content here on Patreon, we're going even deeper on WHY you were "missed" as a kid and what to do about it now. We also talk about whether or not you need a second opinion if your evaluator said it's "just the trauma" and not autism.Sabrina & Patrick episode: https://allthingsprivatepractice.captivate.fm/episode/191Kade & Patrick episode: https://www.allthingspractice.com/blog/podcast-episode-216-closing-gaps-in-care-for-disabled-queer-non-cis-autistic-and-audhd-clients-kade-sharpEmbrace Autism tools: https://embrace-autism.com/Divergent Conversations podcast with Patrick & Megan Anna: https://www.divergentpod.com/Guide to Finding a Neurodiversity-Affirming Provider: https://www.embracethemuchness.com/blog/guide-to-finding-a-neurodiversity-affirming-providerTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Are you ready to talk about demisexuality? We’re helping listeners explore whether or not they may be autistic, demisexual and/or kinky! We debunk the “pillar” of a romantic relationship, talk about the impacts of autistic masking on desire and connection, and explore other ways to connect intimately with people to get your needs met. If you’ve been wondering how to reconcile being on the asexuality spectrum AND being kinky, this is the episode for you!On Upping the Ante, our exclusive free bonus content over on Patreon, we explain how we figured out we were kinky and demi, as well as how this shows up in our lives and experiences with others. If you’re interested in learning from folks with lived experience, join us!To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Join Sabrina, Kade, and our guest Olivia Belknap, AMFT, as we discuss autistic medical challenges, medical self-advocacy, and more! Many of us are more sensitive to meds, need support conveying what we mean to providers, struggle with providers who think we’re malingering or exaggerating our experiences, and could use extra tips in navigating complex medical systems. We’re sharing our tips and tricks, as well as validating that it’s not always an “us problem”! Long COVID, autonomic struggles, Mast Cell Activation Syndrome, and other common health challenges for autistic people are discussed.On Hit Me Again, our exclusive guest bonus content on Patreon, we’ll be diving even deeper into self-advocacy, especially for folks with medical trauma, and how to navigate getting “fired” by a doctor when you really need care. We’ll pay special attention to folks who are struggling with ovary-related health issues, too: PCOS, PMDD, endometriosis, and more.Olivia Belknap at www.oliviabelknaptherapy.com and @oliviabelknaptherapy on InstagramTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

In the 7th episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we discuss the complexities of Family Meal Time, especially for folks with dietary restrictions and sensory needs. We’re highlighting the importance of self-advocacy, communication, and setting boundaries to navigate family dynamics during the holidays. The conversation also touches on coping strategies for dealing with uncomfortable comments from family members and the significance of prioritizing mental health over traditional expectations. We cover this for both teens and adults. Join us to hear all of our tips, tricks, and ideas to navigate holiday meals with family!On our Patreon series of Upping the Ante bonus content, we discuss how to talk politics and what to do when it comes to disordered eating challenges at family meals.Find more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

You may know her as the neurodivergent teen expert, but today we’re joined by Jamie Roberts, LMFT, talking about all things dating! We cover how to pick a dating app and how to deal with the exhaustion that comes with engaging on the apps, giving some tried and true tips & tricks. We also discuss how to date when you have limited time (with a focus on single parents.) And we answer the increasingly common question on everyone’s mind: “What deity must I conjure to find an Autistic woman willing to live in Indiana?” If you’re stuck in a dating rut, about to get back in the dating scene, or want to know what other autistic & AuDHD folks are doing, you won’t want to miss our 6th episode!Jamie Roberts at www.neuropebble.com and @neuropebble on social mediaFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastHiki dating appRelationship anarchy smorgasbord imageSecond relationship anarchy smorgasbord imageTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Our fifth episode is all about navigating Competing Sensory Needs! Neurodivergent sensory needs are real and valid - so how do we support each other when ours all differ? We’ll be sharing about the importance of compromise, strategic communication, and understanding sensory needs. We go further than just different sensory needs and talk about varied “love languages” and communication needs too, providing ideas for communication techniques to support each other. Whether it’s family, friends, a partner, or an extracurricular group, we’ve got you covered!On Upping the Ante bonus content over on Patreon, we talk about competing needs in relation to sexual and romantic partners.To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

We cover what autistic teens and kids can do to respond to bullying, how we handle insults, what you can do as a therapist or parent/guardian, and more! Autistic folks often get bullied and it’s hard to know how to fight back- but we need to know we’re not alone. We talk about the power of community and how to cope. On Patreon’s Upping the Ante bonus content, we explore our own lived experience around being cyberbullied, stalked, and doxxed and how those have affected us.School accommodation ideas: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1iOj9EAboD-ekOGyr_Rz1ThPNWJxwHM859AMOQDzMHt8/copyTo ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

It’s time for our third episode: Am I Asexual or Autistic? We’re answering some questions about how to know if you’re “asexual or just autistic” - and the answers might surprise you! We give tips on how to explore your sexuality and we normalize different ways to be sexual and engage with others. (Check out our next post here on Patreon to hear more about our journeys to figuring out we’re on the asexuality spectrum!)Life is a journey of self-discovery and there's no such thing as normal!We'd love to know: What societal norms have you thrown out??To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Oops! I did a mistake and uploaded the Upping the Ante bonus content instead of the regular episode this week, we're all fixed now but if you think you listened to this episode it's time to listen again! Welcome to our second episode: Coping with Seasonal Transitions! We’re answering how we get through Fall, what we’re looking forward to, and how to navigate socializing as the weather changes. (Special attention is given to autistic sensory needs, of course.) You'll hear about disability accommodations, the disgusting reason public pools have fees, and what to do if you're trapped indoors due to weather!Glad you could check in with us! What's your favorite way to socialize in autumn? Best solo activities?To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Check out our first episode: Autistic Baggage! That’s a literal title; today we’re exploring backpacks, purses, and plushies. We talk about the benefits of backpacks, stigma around carrying your comfort items with you in public, and the connection opportunities that come with bringing your items everywhere! Over on our Patreon we'll also be posting our Upping the Ante bonus conversation about backpack significance in queer culture and the role that stuffed animals play in kink.ThinkGeek Bag of Holding: https://www.rollacrit.com/products/rollacrit-messenger-bag-of-holdingThanks for hanging out with us! What's your perfect bag or backpack??To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Get ready, new episodes coming soon! And remember, we want to hear from YOU! Go to neurokink.org/ayus to share your story or ask us a question which we might answer on the air! To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)

Get ready for a new podcast focused on autistic relationships of all kinds! To ask us questions, fill out the form at www.neurokink.org/auysFind more content on Patreon (18+): www.patreon.com/AcesUpYourSleevePodcastSabrina at www.radicalingingishtsconsulting.com or @radicalinsightsconsulting on social media (FB, IG)Kade at www.cryptidlearns.com or @cryptidlearns on social media (FB, IG)