Becoming Whole

Send us Fan Mail*The topic is anger, but the stories are tender, so please pause, pray, breathe, and listen as you feel ready.*Anger is often misunderstood—and often buried.But what if anger isn’t just something to control… What if it’s something to understand?In this episode, we explore how anger can function as both a signal and a driver—especially in cycles of unwanted sexual behavior. Drawing from Scripture, personal stories, and practical tools, we talk about how to: Recognize anger as more than a surface emotion  Understand what anger may be protecting or revealing  Avoid the two common traps: explosion or suppression  Bring your anger into the presence of Jesus in a healthy way  Begin moving toward healing, clarity, and restoration We also reflect on Psalm 139:23–24 as a pathway into honest prayer:“Search me, God, and know my heart…”If anger has felt confusing, overwhelming, or even shameful—this conversation will help you take a next step. 👉 Learn more about coaching and supportMen's CoachingWomen's Coaching Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailShame has a way of pushing us into the hottest part of the day, alone, doing life where no one can see us. That’s why John 4 hits so hard for anyone carrying sexual brokenness, porn use, compulsive fantasy, secret hookups, or a past that still stings. We walk through Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman and pay attention to the details that reveal His heart: He goes where others won’t go, He initiates conversation, and He starts with a humble request for a drink.We talk about isolation and defensiveness as survival strategies, and the way Jesus takes the lower place in their dialogue. Instead of shaming her, he offers “living water” that speaks to the deeper thirst beneath every substitute. When Jesus asks her to call her husband, we slow down and ask why: not to mock, not to expose her publicly, but to bring her full story into the light so nothing stands between them. Love can’t fully reach a version of us that is still hiding.If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who feels stuck, and leave a review so more people can find hope. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailA head turn in the park. A glance across the sanctuary. For many couples healing after infidelity, pornography, or sexual addiction, those tiny moments can feel bigger than the whole week of progress. We sit down with coaches Aaron Tagert and Anne Donahue to slow the moment down and name what’s really happening: betrayal trauma in her body, shame and helplessness in him, and the split-second choice between defensiveness and connection. We talk about why “I wasn’t looking” usually backfires, even when it’s true, and how a betrayed spouse can experience that as being left again. Then we get practical. Aaron and Anne share simple tools for nervous system regulation, taking a pause, and moving toward your spouse with empathy. We also unpack a framework called SAVES: see, ask, validate, empathize, and provide security through your presence and your actions. Lastly, we tackle what “realistic” healing looks like for couples in recovery. Noticing is part of being human, but seeking and fixating are different, and intent matters. We discuss the distinction between fleeting intrusive thoughts and fixating fantasy, plus guidance on getting outside support without turning it into spouse-bashing. If you want a marriage marked by honesty, tenderness, and real repair, press play, then subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more couples can find the conversation. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailAddiction and unwanted sexual behaviors often feel like a mystery: “I don’t want this, but I keep doing it.” We sit down with Chris Coursey, co-founder and president of Thrive Today, to explore a different diagnosis for overcoming sexual addiction. Addiction, a maturity gap that forms when our brains never receive key relational skills. When these skills are missing, we don’t stop needing comfort, connection, or relief. We just reach for substitutes that work fast and fade faster.We dig into the Life Model framework and the neuroscience of relational transformation, especially the difference between happiness and joy. Joy, as Chris and Dr. Jim Wilder define it, is “glad to be togetherness,” and it changes everything from fear-driven living to our ability to rest. We also discuss God’s "hessed", loyal love, and how recovery accelerates when we start to trust that God wills our good rather than demands performance.From there, we get practical: emotional capacity, “enemy mode,” attachment pain, and how people can learn relational skills even as adults through practice and community. We connect these ideas to both sides of the healing journey, those fighting compulsive behaviors and those carrying betrayal trauma. If you want a Christian recovery conversation that blends spiritual formation, brain science, and real-world tools for change, this one will meet you where you are.Subscribe for more, share this with someone who needs hope, and leave a review that tells us what topic you would like us to cover next.Resources from this episode:Taking your relational temperature19 relational skillshttps://thrivetoday.org/  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan Mail“I watch porn because my wife won’t have sex with me” sounds like a blunt confession, but it’s usually a doorway into something much bigger: intimacy, rejection, power, trust, and what we believe sex is actually for. We sit with that statement pastorally and honestly, and we ask a hard question many couples avoid: when sex disappears in a Christian marriage, what is the wise, loving, God-honoring next step?We walk through why sex is more than a physical outlet. It’s connection, “knowing,” and covenant communion. Then we slow down in 1 Corinthians 7, a passage that often gets quoted to demand sex, and we add the missing context: Paul is offering concession in a sexually broken culture, not giving a license for coercion. We also discuss the reality that a sexless marriage can signal deeper issues like pain, postpartum recovery, trauma, resentment, or relational rupture, and that healing usually requires patience and care rather than pressure.If this conversation helps you, share it with a friend, subscribe for more, and leave a review so others can find it. What part of the topic do you want us to unpack next? Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan Mail“Are you affirming?” might be the most common question churches get about sexuality and it’s also one of the easiest traps to fall into. We want to be clear on historic Christian teaching about marriage, singleness, celibacy, and chastity, but we also want to lead with the better invitation: come follow Jesus, and let him reshape every part of your life. That shift changes the entire atmosphere, especially for people who feel like their sexual struggles make them unwelcome at church. We dig into why sexuality is not just a “hot button issue” but a doorway into some of the deepest discipleship available. Beneath behaviors are questions about desire, identity, self-mastery, wounds, relationships, and what we’re truly thirsty for. We talk about Jesus and the woman at the well as a picture of truth and grace in the same moment, and why avoiding the topic often means missing a powerful opportunity for heart transformation. Then we get practical for church leaders and members: should a church put its stance on sexuality on the website, or keep it relational?  We also explore leadership and membership decisions, from serving on teams to eldership, and why different roles require different standards. Using 1 Thessalonians 5:14, plus scriptures from Titus and 1 Timothy, we argue for holding both clear qualifications and process-based growth, including humility, truth-telling, and knowing when it’s wise to step down for the sake of care and integrity. If you’re trying to navigate sexual discipleship with wisdom, clarity, and real compassion, listen now. Subscribe, share with a pastor or friend, and leave a review so more churches can find a better way forward. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, our hosts share what they hear most from clients who love their local church yet feel stuck. Either sex is never addressed; it shows up as a quick “thou shalt not” list, or the tone implies “if you struggle, you’re bad.” We also explore the website dilemma: when clarity is loving, when vagueness backfires, and how a perceived bait-and-switch can retraumatize people who already fear rejection.If you’re a pastor, a small group leader, or a church member who wants to help, listen and then share this with someone you trust. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what would it look like for your church to become a safer place to grow sexually whole?Show NotesBWP: There’s no such thing as heterosexuality Luke 5:1-11 describes the miraculous catch of fish, followed by Peter’s plea, “Depart from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man,” and Jesus’ invitational response, “Follow me, and I will make you a fisher of men.”Brief synopsis of Side A, B, X, and Y beliefs:Side A - God made people LGBT+ and affirms LGBT+ sexual identities, desires, behaviors, and social structures. Side B - God forbids same-sex sexual expression, so LGBT+ people should abstain from LGBT+ sexual behavior. However, there are a variety of reasons that it is good for those who experience non-heteronormative feelings to embrace LGBT+ identities. Side X - LGBT+ feelings and attractions are a result of childhood wounds and/or underdeveloped masculinity or femininity, so these inclinations can be changed with appropriate interventions. LGBT+ feelings and attractions should not serve as an identity marker for Christians. Side Y - LGBT+ feelings and attractions may or may not be a result of wounds; they may or may not change, but they should not serve as an identity marker for Christians. Like all Christians, those with same-sex attractions are called either to faithfulness in heterosexual marriage or abstinence in singleness. Regeneration’s view (which we believe more accurately aligns with orthodox Christianity through the ages): God’s sexual design for humanity is both biological and theological: Biologically, men and women’s bodies are oriented toward the other in design—each with one sexual organ procreatively designed through sexual union with the other sex. Theologically, men's and women’s bodies are designed to image God. One distinct part of this design is that the marital sexual union is meant to point to the ultimate spiritual union between Christ and his bride, the Church. Whether single or married, all Christians are called to Christlikeness, which requires growing in the virtues of chastity, temperance, and love.  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the way we talk about sexuality is the very thing keeping us stuck? We trace the surprising origins of “heterosexual” and “homosexual,” unpack why those categories took hold, and explore how turning desires into identity reshaped culture, conscience, and the church. We draw from Michael Hannon’s “Against Heterosexuality” and Michel Foucault’s history of sexuality to show how an invented binary promised clarity but delivered confusion, shame, and pride.We share why language isn’t neutral—names create lenses—and how the orientation frame quietly shifted moral questions from action and virtue to inner self-analysis. For those who experience same-sex desire, we acknowledge the weight of being told a label is who you are. For those who consider themselves “straight,” we challenge the complacency that excuses lust as normal and forgets that chastity is for everyone. Together, we re-center three layers: desires that need formation, behaviors that shape us, and an identity received from the One who made us male and female with purpose.If this resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more episodes, and leave a review with the one question you still want us to tackle.Resources from this episode:Article reference: Against Heterosexuality - First Things by Michael W. Hannon Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if your imagination isn’t a liability but a lifeline? We open a candid conversation about fantasy, romance, and the deep longings that quietly direct our relationships with ourselves, others, and God. Rather than treating desire like a problem to fix, we treat it like a compass—one that often points to unmet needs for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure.Join us, get curious, and take the next brave step. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review.Also, we want to hear from you. What is your longing pointing you toward?Resources from this episode:Unwanted IntensiveStuck in unwanted sexual behaviors and wondering, “How did I get here—and how do I get out?”Regeneration is launching our next Men’s Small Group Intensive, based on Unwanted, designed for men ready to go deeper in recovery.Over 8 weeks, you’ll:Engage your story with curiosity and compassionIdentify patterns that keep you stuckShift from a “freedom from” mindset to a “freedom for” lifeExperience deeper healing, connection, and wholeness🗓 April 7 – May 26🕐 Tuesdays | 1–3 pm ET (Zoom) 👥 Limited to 6 men | High-support, high-accountabilityLed by Aaron Tagert, Certified Unwanted Guide👉Sign-up for Unwanted IntensiveHealing Through StoryDiscover how your story has shaped your life and how it connects to your unwanted sexual behavior.This is an 8-week course to help you learn the structure of your story, how to share your story, and, in turn, learn the power of your story. 🗓 April 20 – June 22🕐 Mondays | 7–8:30 pm👉Sign-up for Healing Through Story Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailShame, Isolation, and Why Community Is the Opposite of Addiction Join us in today’s episode as I (James Craig) sit down with Regen coach Aaron Tagert to talk about what keeps people stuck in addictive cycles—especially around porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Aaron shares three major drivers he’ll cover in an upcoming men’s webinar: shame, isolation, and the uncomfortable truth that there can be something about porn that part of us “likes.” We focus mainly on isolation, pulling from Marcus Warner’s "Slaying the Monster" and the idea that the opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety—it’s community. We unpack how isolation turns suffering into trauma, how many wounds happen in relationships, yet healing also comes through relationships, and why belonging matters more than accountability. We also get practical with four simple ways to start building community—smile, validate, help, and share—, and we invite men to Regeneration's live webinar on March 5th. If this helps you, share it with someone who feels alone in the struggle.Resources from this episode:BATTLE podcast Slaying the Monster bookTED talk on addiction Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailRepentance doesn’t have to sound like a finger wag. We explore a better way: turning as realignment with God’s character and kingdom. Especially for those worn out by “just stop it” advice or guilt-heavy apologies that never seem to change anything. Drawing on the idea of metanoia—the turning of the mind—we share how repentance becomes a process shaped by what we feed our attention, who we walk with, and how we pray with our bodies when desire runs hot, and feelings run cold.If repentance as realignment sounds like good news you could live with, press play. Then share this episode with a friend who needs hope, subscribe for more, and leave a review to help others find their way into freedom.Resources from this episode:7 Hebrew Words For Praise.pdf Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the missing piece in recovery and marriage isn’t more discipline, but deeper confidence? Not swagger. Not self-worship. A grounded assurance that you’re God’s workmanship, made very good, and called to show up with your whole self for the good of others. We unpack how this kind of confidence breaks the cycle of lust and fantasy by replacing shortcuts with purpose and presence, and why it’s the difference between real love and people-pleasing.If this resonates, share it with a friend who needs courage today, subscribe for more conversations like this, and leave a review with one belief about yourself you’re ready to replace.Resources from this episode:Good Will Hunting (🚨 language warning)Genesis 1:31, Ephesians 2:10, 1 Corinthians 12Created for Greatness: The Power of Magnanimity by Alexandre Havard Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailTemptation rarely arrives out of nowhere—it rides in on pain, pressure, and old stories that never got the care they needed. In this episode, Josh checks in with coaches Aaron Tagert and James Craig to explore a kinder, braver way to face unwanted sexual behavior: trade shame for curiosity, isolation for relationship, and quick fixes for deep repair.We start by reframing triggers as signals of emotional or physical discomfort, then show why “why” is the wrong starting question. Instead, we lean into who, what, when, where, and how—questions that ground you in your body, invite empathy, and open space for God’s presence. From there, we walk through practical tools: story work you write and read aloud to a safe person, grief work that honors losses across the years, and healing prayer that invites Jesus into the memory where the wound began. These practices create integration and reduce the power of secrecy.If you’re tired of white-knuckle rules and want a path that blends neuroscience, spiritual formation, and practical steps, this conversation offers clarity and hope. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us which question you’ll practice this week.Resources in this episode:7 Desires of Every Heart.pdfAnatomy of the Soul by Curt ThompsonUnwanted by Jay Stringer Email us questions!  [email protected] Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailThe way we talk about sex shapes what we see—and too often, we’ve learned to see in parts. Today, we take a jackhammer to the pavement of cultural scripts and rebuild a vision where sex isn’t “a thing” to get, but a way to love a whole person. We explore how lust reduces and love restores, why the body speaks of a person’s worth, and how honoring freedom, story, and dignity transforms intimacy.If you’ve felt trapped in the loop of demand, disappointment, and dull desire, this conversation offers a way out: strengthen the will, slow down to see, and practice love that gives rather than takes. We also address consent beyond the checkbox, the quiet pressures that bend a person’s yes, and why a richer view of union and procreation can deepen trust and joy. Listen, reflect, and share with someone who’s ready to see more. If this resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and tell us: which lens will you practice first? Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailSecrets starve intimacy, and silence keeps marriages stuck at the surface. We pull back the curtain on what it really takes to move from hidden struggle to honest healing: starting real recovery, disclosing wisely, and building daily safety through empathy, boundaries, and rhythm. With coaches Ann Donahue, Aaron Tagert, and James Craig, we break down betrayal trauma in plain language so both partners can understand why the body panics, why the mind spins, and what actually restores a sense of safety after trust has been broken.We walk through a practical framework for momentum. The three C’s—community, content, and coaching—establish personal sobriety, but sobriety is only the baseline. The heart of repair is becoming a safe, present partner whose actions speak louder than words. You’ll hear how empathy and attunement rewire connection, why boundaries protect what’s good, and how initiative from the struggler communicates care. We also share concrete tools: the FANOS check-in to structure weekly conversations around feelings, affirmation, needs, ownership, and sobriety or safety, plus guidance on setting frequency and limits that fit your home.For couples facing years of secrecy, we explain full therapeutic disclosure and why it can reset the foundation with clarity and care. Instead of drifting on separate islands of “individual work,” we explore couple-centered recovery that brings partners together sooner, aligning healing and avoiding mixed signals. If you’ve wondered whether telling the truth will end your marriage, this conversation shows how thoughtful disclosure, steady practices, and compassionate support can open a path to connection you didn’t think possible.If this helped you, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so others can find it. Your story might be the spark for someone else’s healing.Resources from this episode:5 Essential Steps for Husbands in Recovery PDFAwaken check-in FAQsBecoming Whole Podcast: Aaron Tagert & Lyshel Burket on check-insFANOSR2M ApplicationBecoming Whole Podcast: Disclosures Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if telling the truth is the only way to make home feel safe again? We dive into the messy, honest reality of confession around sexual brokenness and how to navigate it when your spouse says they don’t want the details. With James hosting alongside coaches Aaron and Anne, we unpack why secrecy keeps control in place, why many betrayed spouses want truth without graphic play‑by‑play, and how to honor both integrity and nervous system safety at the same time.We walk through five essential steps for real recovery. It starts with getting help: a community that tells the truth, content that explains the roots beneath behavior, and coaching or counseling that brings the story into the light. If your spouse knows nothing, we explain how to disclose with care and name what’s changing so the truth arrives with a plan. We emphasize support for the betrayed partner, groups, trauma‑wise guidance, and structure that restores daily stability. Then we outline how brief, scheduled check‑ins reduce dread and build credibility through consistent action rather than desperate, reactive confession.If you’re ready to trade secrecy for integrity and fear for honest repair, this conversation is your roadmap. Listen, share it with someone who needs hope, and subscribe for part two as we unpack the remaining steps. If this helped you, leave a review and tell us what question you want answered next.Resources:5 Essential Steps for Husbands in RecoverySacred By Design Podcast Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the most important part of talking with our kids about sex isn’t a perfect script, but a different posture? We unpack why the one-and-done model backfires, how tone silently teaches more than content, and what to do when your own fear, shame, or grief flares in the moment. You’ll hear practical language for “I don’t know yet, but I’ll get back to you,” and how that single line can keep your child coming to you rather than Google. We also tackle the tricky middle ground of vulnerability without oversharing, focusing on emotions and beliefs—shame, belonging, body image—rather than graphic details, all while making sure kids know they aren’t our support system.Caught your teen in sexual sin? We outline a third way between withdrawal and control: affirm love first, then collaborate on next steps. Expect rupture and repair, not instant perfection. Re-narrate the story with truth about brain wiring, cultural pressure, and real hope for change, and add wise guardrails that serve the relationship rather than replace it. Along the way, we challenge purity culture’s fragile target and point to a sturdier aim: spiritual maturity and Christlikeness, whether the journey includes clean stretches, hard setbacks, or both.If you want scripts, tone, and a long-game vision rooted in mercy and truth, this conversation will steady your steps and open new doors at home. For more support, grab Treading Boldly by Josh Glaser and Daniel Weiss, explore our Parental Guidance workshops for churches, and look into Redefine Student Recovery for teen-focused care. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a parent who needs a deep breath and a fresh start.Resources from this episode:Treading Boldly Book Theology of the Body YouTube videos Redefine Student Recovery with Blake  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the goal isn’t to bubble‑wrap your kids from a sexualized world, but to raise resilient, shame‑resistant disciples who know how to repair? James Craig sits down with our newest staff member and parenting resource lead, Blake Brinkman, to tackle five urgent questions parents are asking: shielding kids from porn, responding to rebellion, setting wise screen rules, navigating complexity, and leading from your own healing. Together we rethink control, anchor everything in the Incarnation, and show why exposure may be inevitable, but shame doesn’t have to be.We dig into why porn hooks the developing brain, how rupture and repair build secure attachment, and what freedom looks like beyond fear tactics. You’ll hear practical steps—shared‑space devices, filtered networks, clear consequence ladders—and the crucial shift from one‑sided edicts to co‑created agreements that teach teens to self‑govern. We contrast healthy boundaries with rigid rules, explain how to talk about desire without panic, and point to trusted resources like Theology of the Body for connecting design, dignity, and delight.If this helped, subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the question you want us to tackle next. Your feedback shapes future episodes and resources.Reach out to us at [email protected] with your questions and topics that you would like us to dive into. Resources from this episode:Treading Boldly Book Theology of the Body YouTube videos Redefine Student Recovery with Blake  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailEver felt like you’re living two lives—one that prays and serves, and one that hides, aches, or acts out? We go straight at that divide and ask what Advent is really saying to our bodies: the Word became flesh. If God chose skin and bone, then your body isn’t a liability to your faith—it’s the home where Christ loves, heals, and restores.If this met you, share it with a friend who needs hope, subscribe for more conversations on embodied faith, and leave a review with one takeaway you’ll try this week. Where does your body most long to meet Jesus? Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailStart with a simple claim that changes everything: your body is not an accessory to your soul; it’s where God meets you. We explore how the incarnation—God with us in a body—reframes three charged realities shaping our lives right now: transgender ideology, AI’s growing role in sexual temptation, and a culture-wide surge of loneliness.If this conversation helps you rethink identity, desire, or connection, share it with a friend, subscribe for more, and leave a review with one practice you’ll try this week.  If you have any follow-up questions, we would love to hear them.Resources from this episode:Rise & Triumph of the Modern Self by Carl TrumanLove Thy Body by Nancy PearcyPsychology Today articleUnwanted by Jay Stringer Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the loudest name over your life isn’t the truest one? Opening with Genesis and the image of God forming humans from the dust, declaring us very good before performance, accolades, or failure ever show up. From there, we take an honest look at the voices that compete for our identity—worldly success metrics, other people’s wounds, cultural comparison, and the enemy’s oldest tactic of questioning who we are. These voices don’t just echo; they shape thought patterns, build neural pathways, and quietly script the false self we end up wearing.Resources from this episode:The Return of the Prodigal Son - Henri NouwenAbba’s Child - Brennan ManningJamie Winship - Identity ExchangeIf this helped reorient your heart and mind, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a new name today, and leave a quick review so others can find it. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if freedom from porn isn’t about fighting harder, but about growing deeper? We sit down with author and coach Drew Boa to reframe the struggle with clarity and compassion, exploring how porn often acts as a regulator for unprocessed emotions and unmet attachment needs. Instead of battling urges with shame, we talk about befriending the parts of us that first learned to cope this way and inviting them into real safety and connection.Ready to trade counterfeit comfort for a real connection? Listen now, then share your biggest takeaway. If this helped, subscribe, leave a review, and pass it to someone who needs hope today.Resources from this episode:Husband Material WebsiteDrew Boa WebsiteOutgrowing Porn WebsiteOutgrow Porn Free Chapter 1Amazon Link for Outgrowing Porn Porn Free Man ConferenceThe Rescue  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailSafety isn’t a feeling you can force, and “good” isn’t a real update. We sit down with coach and Hope Redefined founder Lyschel Burkett to map out a better way for couples to reconnect after betrayal: structured, mutual check-ins that trade control for connection and shame for safety. If you’ve tried to talk and ended up in a spiral, this conversation gives you words, rails, and hope.If this episode helped, follow the show, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a rating and review so others can find it.Resources from today's episode:Hope Redefined Hope For Wives PodcastHope Redefined Couples Check-in Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the questions we ask about sex are too small? We take on role-play, masturbating while thinking about a spouse, and the habits modern culture treats as normal—and then we lay out a bigger, braver vision for intimacy that actually heals.We start with the allure of role-play. Playfulness and communication are good, but pretending to be someone else can fracture the connection by elevating a mask over the person you vowed to love. From there, we tackle solo sex “about” your spouse. It feels faithful, but fantasy edits reality and guarantees availability in ways a real spouse cannot. Training our bodies on images—yes, even of a spouse—forms us toward self-directed pleasure rather than mutual self-gift. Throughout, we return to the telos of sex in the Christian story: union, openness to life, and joy woven together by self-giving love. Bodies speak a vow—all of me for all of you—and that vow matures as we’re known more deeply over time. The surprising payoff? Pleasure can grow richer when performance gives way to presence. If you’ve used role-play or fantasy, this is not a verdict; it’s an invitation to something fuller, kinder, and more durable.If this resonates, share the episode with a friend, subscribe for more thoughtful conversations on sexuality and wholeness, and leave a review with the one question you want us to tackle next.Resources mentioned in this Episode:Heart of Dating Podcast: Heart of Dating Podcast Featuring Host Kait Warman | Heart of Dating Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the pull of porn is really a hunger for connection and joy? James Craig sits down with Dr. Marcus Warner to map a route to sexual integrity—one that trades shame and isolation for belonging, identity, healing, and maturity. We unpack the BATTLE model: build community that fosters true belonging, act like your real self as a protector, tackle roots by addressing wounds, lies, vows, and strongholds, take down the enemy by revoking permission and standing in authority, live by the Spirit through a daily relational walk, and expand maturity so emotions no longer derail you.Marcus reframes recovery with two game-changing insights. First, belonging—not mere accountability—drives transformation because we will fight for people who are glad to be with us. Second, addiction often signals stalled maturity rooted in unresolved trauma and missing skills. If this conversation resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review. Tell us: which part of the BATTLE model do you plan to focus on this week? Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailTwo hidden habits might be quietly prolonging your struggle with sexual sin—and they often masquerade as maturity. We dig into self-hatred and self-pity: why they feel justified, how they attach to faith language and real grief, and what to do instead. Rather than piling on shame or dwelling in sorrow, we unpack a path of self-compassion that keeps dignity, responsibility, and growth at the center.If you’re ready to trade contempt and pity for courage and compassion, join us. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the one shift you’ll practice this week. Your voice may be the nudge someone else needs. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailCulture keeps shouting two bad options for men: shrink your strength or dominate with it. We want to share something truer and more human —a third way shaped by Jesus, the one who washed feet, wept with friends, and laid down his life. This conversation explores how Christ-shaped masculinity can transform recovery from a project of behavioral control into a path of formation, where shame is faced, strength is refined, and love prevails.If you’re ready for a path that turns shame into strength, clarifies desire, and forms a man who gives his good for others’ good, this one’s for you. Listen, share with a friend, and tell us: where do you want to grow in Christ-like strength today? And if this helped you, subscribe, leave a review, and pass it on to someone who needs hope.Resources:Forming Men Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailDo your desires feel like enemies to be conquered, or could they actually be signposts pointing toward your truest fulfillment? In this conversation with Christopher West, we discuss how our hungers—even our unwanted sexual behaviors—reveal something beautiful about our design.Christopher shares his journey from the "starvation diet gospel" of his Catholic upbringing through the "fast food gospel" of cultural gratification to discovering what our souls truly crave. His insights on John Paul II's Theology of the Body offer a radical reframing: we're not just called away from sexual sin but toward glorifying God in our bodies.Whether you're struggling with unwanted behaviors or simply wondering why your faith hasn't eliminated your deepest longings, this episode offers a life-changing perspective. Your hunger isn't your enemy—it's your heart's compass pointing home.Listen in and discover how to transform your yearnings into prayer and your dissatisfactions into signposts toward genuine fulfillment.Resources from this episodeTheology of the Body Institute:The Ask Christopher West podcast:Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher West:Peter Gabriel's "Blood of Eden": YouTube or SpotifyFlorence and the Machine: "Hunger": YouTube or Spotify Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailA simple sentence could transform your recovery journey: "I feel ___ about ___ because ___." In this conversation with Sue Moore of Forgiven Much Ministries, we dive deep into an advanced technique for processing emotions that can break cycles of unwanted behavior.Whether you're struggling with unwanted sexual behavior, processing betrayal trauma, or simply wanting deeper emotional awareness, this conversation offers practical tools for becoming whole. For parents and caregivers, these techniques represent an opportunity to equip the next generation with emotional resilience skills that could prevent future addiction struggles.Ready to transform how you process pain and emotion? Download the reflective listening resources mentioned and begin your journey toward authentic healing today.Resources:TED Talk about addictionFMM Reflective Listening WorkshopBoundaries by Cloud and TownsendFMM Gospel Centered Sexuality Course kicking off this fall Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailOn this episode of the Becoming Whole Podcast, we welcome Sue Moore, the founder and CEO of Forgiving Much Ministries. Sue walks us through a basic emotions reflection exercise to help us process negative emotions and overcome unwanted sexual behaviors. Learn about her personal journey and how emotional health is crucial for dealing with betrayal, parenting challenges, and personal addictions. Discover practical steps to cultivate emotional resilience by pausing to reflect on your feelings, understanding their origins, and seeking healthier ways to meet your emotional needs. Don't miss this episode filled with hope and actionable advice.Resources:Forgiven Much Ministries (FMM) FMM Reflective Listening WorkshopFMM Gospel Centered Sexuality Course kicking off this fall https://forgivenmuchministries.org/gcs-class/gcs/  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat kind of legacy are you leaving in your home? For many men, this question cuts deep. They're physically present but emotionally absent—buried in work, numbed by addiction, or simply disconnected from their own hearts. Meanwhile, their families feel the void: wives longing for connection and children navigating life without the emotional safety they desperately need.In this powerful conversation, Aaron Tagert sits down with Joel Warneking, Executive Director of 423 Communities, who shares his journey from sexual addiction to wholeness. Joel's story follows a familiar pattern—childhood exposure to pornography that developed into a full-blown addiction lasting through Bible college and ministry positions. Living a double life of public ministry and private shame eventually led to a breaking point that became his pathway to healing.The heart of this episode explores how men's healing transforms entire family systems. When fathers engage with their own emotional wounds and develop sexual competency, they create safe spaces where rupture and repair can happen naturally. Joel explains how understanding our physiological responses to stress—what happens in our bodies when we feel triggered—allows us to respond thoughtfully rather than reactively to our spouses and children.Perhaps most powerful is the discussion about parenting teens through sexual development. Before parents can effectively guide their children through conversations about sexuality, they must first do their own work. Creating an emotionally safe home where children can bring their struggles without shame becomes the foundation for healing across generations.Whether you're struggling with your own unwanted sexual behaviors, trying to build a healthier family system, or wanting to guide your children through today's hypersexualized culture, this episode offers both hope and practical wisdom. The journey begins with allowing yourself to be fully known so you can be fully loved—by God, others, and even yourself.Resources:423 Communities  Awaken Retreat Sacred By Design RetreatTreading Boldly Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailEver feel completely exhausted despite getting enough sleep? There's a reason for that—and it goes beyond physical fatigue. In this second episode on rest, we dive deep into four often-overlooked forms of restoration that are essential for wholeness and recovery.Continuing our exploration of Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith's seven types of rest, we move beyond the physical, mental, and emotional to discover spiritual, social, sensory, and creative rest. Each offers a unique pathway to restoration that many of us desperately need but rarely recognize.For anyone on a recovery journey or supporting a loved one through betrayal trauma, these forms of rest aren't luxuries—they're essential practices for healing and growth. Join us as we discover God's multifaceted invitation to find rest for our weary souls.Ready to experience deeper restoration? Subscribe now and discover which form of rest might be your missing piece.Resources:Sacred RestRest QuizHealthy, Holy Alternatives from Awaken 360Boundaries by Cloud and TownsendLectio Divina Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the missing piece in your recovery journey isn't more discipline or accountability, but specific kinds of rest you've been overlooking? Dr. Sondra Dalton-Smith's concept of "sacred rest" offers a framework for understanding why many of us remain stuck in cycles of unwanted sexual behavior despite our best efforts. Kyle Bowman and I explore how three distinct types of rest—physical, mental, and emotional—directly impact our ability to heal from sexual brokenness.This conversation challenges the subtle Gnosticism that pervades Christian thinking—the idea that physical limitations are spiritual weaknesses rather than divine design. Even Jesus slept! Your recovery journey might transform not through trying harder but through resting more intentionally in the ways your body, mind, and heart truly need.Resources:Sacred RestRest QuizHealthy, Holy Alternatives from Awaken 360Boundaries by Cloud and TownsendLectio Divina Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailRecovery fatigue is a rarely discussed but a common experience for men trying to rebuild after betrayal. What happens when all the meetings, check-ins, and recovery work start to feel overwhelming or—worse yet—like they're not making a difference?Dan Drake, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex addiction therapist with over 20 years of experience, joins us to unpack this challenging reality. He shares insights on how recovery motivation makes all the difference: "If I'm checking boxes trying to do these things to get my wife back and stop her from pestering me, that's going to be a different motivation than 'I get to do these things to thrive and become a better human being.'"Resources:Awaken RetreatThe Intimacy PyramidKintsugi Recovery Partners (Find a Disclosure Guide)Books:Surviving the HolidaysBuilding True IntimacyFull Disclosure (For the Disclosing Individual)Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal Vol 1 (For Partners)Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal Vol 2 (For Partners)Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal Vol 3 (For Partners) Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailCaught between exploding and imploding? You're not alone. This episode uncovers the hidden connection between acting out (through behaviors like porn, alcohol, or overworking) and acting in (through withdrawal, passive-aggression, and emotional shutdown). What looks like self-control on the surface might actually be self-contempt in disguise.Ready for transformation? Join us for the men's Awaken retreat (October 3-5) or the women's Sacred by Design retreat (November 7-8). Space is limited, so reserve your spot today through the link in our show notes.Resources:Retreat linksDr. Nathanson on ShameMinwalla ModelBrene Brown's Ted Talk on Shame Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if your recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors could be strengthened by simple physical practices you've overlooked? In this episode, we dive into often-forgotten physical disciplines that transform spiritual recovery. From breathing techniques that calm the nervous system during moments of temptation to the profound impact of proper hydration on decision-making, we explore how our bodies are designed to function optimally through specific practices.Whether you're just beginning your recovery journey or have been walking it for years, these physical disciplines offer practical tools for creating the optimal conditions where spiritual transformation can flourish. This is part 2 of this podcast, and we encourage you to listen to part 1 if you haven't already.Resources:Harvard Prof Arthur Brooks Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailHave you ever considered that your body might be your greatest ally—not your enemy—in recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors? Many of us approach healing as primarily spiritual or psychological, overlooking the role our physical existence plays in transformation.Your body isn't just a vessel carrying your spirit through life; it's an integrated part of who God designed you to be. From the very beginning, Genesis shows humanity as formed from dust and brought to life by divine breath—we are simultaneously matter and spirit. This isn't incidental to your recovery journey—it's foundational.In this episode, Josh Glaser and James Craig explore five physical disciplines that God has woven into our design as assets for healing: breathing, hydration, eating, sleeping, and exercise. These aren't merely biological necessities but theological realities that point to our dependence on our Creator. Each discipline, when practiced intentionally, helps regulate our bodies and minds, creating space for healthier choices and emotional stability.Resources:Harvard Prof Arthur Brooks Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the solution to overcoming pornography addiction isn't found in behavior modification but in healing your heart? In this episode, Sathiya Sam shares how addressing the root causes of unwanted sexual behavior leads to genuine freedom that behavior-focused approaches simply can't deliver.Sathiya, the architect behind Deep Clean—a program that has helped thousands of men overcome pornography addiction—reveals his personal 15-year battle with porn that began at age 11. His journey from struggle to freedom led him to develop an approach combining biblical wisdom with scientific research that targets what lies beneath the surface of compulsive sexual behavior.Ready to move beyond surface solutions? Listen now to discover how true freedom begins below the waterline.Resources:Man Within Podcast Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailThe world has a plan for your formation—are you consciously designing your counter-strategy? In this episode, we continue our conversation about developing a "rule of life" that helps us resist the powerful current of cultural formation pulling us away from Christ-likeness.We tackle one of the most common obstacles to spiritual disciplines—the subtle belief that these practices earn God's favor rather than create space for relationship. When morning prayer becomes an obligation rather than a connection, we've missed the point entirely. Instead, we explore how disciplines function as training exercises that prepare us for lives of love.Resources from this episode:Rule of Life WorkbookCelebration of Discipline by Richard FosterSacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley BartonDaily examen Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailFreedom doesn't happen by accident. Whether we realize it or not, our daily routines, habits, and patterns are shaping who we're becoming—either drawing us deeper into wholeness or reinforcing cycles of brokenness.The practice of a "rule of life" offers hope and structure for those struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. From scripture reading and prayer to solitude, fasting, and physical exercise, we discuss practical disciplines that support recovery from sexual struggles. Rather than one-size-fits-all prescriptions, we discuss how to personalize these practices to match your unique needs, personality, and circumstances.Jesus himself demonstrated a pattern of spiritual practices: early morning solitude, regular community worship, and intimate relationships with close disciples. His example invites us to consider what practices might create space in our busy lives to be with Him, become like Him, and do what He did.Resources from this episode:Rule of Life WorkbookCelebration of Discipline by Richard FosterSacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley BartonDaily examen Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when a seminary-educated lesbian pastor encounters the Holy Spirit in an unexpected way? Elizabeth Woning never planned to question her gay identity or theology. As a gay-affirming Presbyterian minister, she believed the church needed to change, not her sexuality. Then came the moment that shattered everything. During an awkward visit to a Pentecostal youth service, a teenage boy approached her with a prophetic word that answered a private prayer she'd never shared. "Does God know me specifically?" she wondered. "And if He does, I have no idea who He is."This realization launched Elizabeth on a years-long journey of reexamining Scripture without her postmodern filters. What she discovered challenged everything she believed about identity, sexuality, and the human body. As co-founder of The Change Movement, she now offers a provocative perspective on why labels like "gay Christian" might actually limit our human experience and separate us from the full work of redemption God wants to do.Elizabeth's story raises several questions: Can same-sex attraction be viewed more like depression - something experienced but not identity-defining? How does Christ's incarnation speak to the unity of body and spirit in ways our culture misses? What happens when we stop letting our desires define us and instead allow God's love to become our primary identity?Episode resources:https://changedmovement.com/https://changedmovement.com/navigating-lgbtq Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if your sexual struggles aren't merely obstacles to overcome but doorways to deeper healing? In this episode we welcome our guest Marco Casanova as he shares his story and journey of wholeness. As Associate Director of Desert Stream Ministries and coordinator of their Living Waters program, Marco brings a fresh perspective to one of our culture's most polarizing topics. Having left the Catholic seminary after eight years when he realized his same-sex attraction made him uncertain about celibacy, Marco shares how discovering Living Waters transformed his understanding of his sexuality and ultimately his destiny.For anyone struggling with unwanted sexual attractions, addictions, or desires—or for those who love someone who does—this conversation offers both challenge and hope. The church, Marco suggests, should be a place where people have "the freedom to struggle" without shame but with a vision of who they're becoming in Christ.Resources:Desert Stream MinistriesLiving WatersOur Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher WestMan and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body by John Paul IIA Meditation on Givenness by John Paul II Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat does it mean to be truly yourself while following Jesus? Kyle Bowman's transformative journey from embracing a same-sex lifestyle for eleven years to discovering her authentic identity in Christ challenges our assumptions about sexuality, spirituality, and personal transformation.Kyle's story begins with a seemingly typical childhood where performance became her pathway to connection. As she discovered her attraction to women, she fully embraced that identity until emotional turmoil and emptiness led her to reconsider the faith of her youth. The turning point came through an unexpected friendship with a Christian who demonstrated Christ's love without judgment or condemnation.Whether you're wrestling with same-sex attraction, pornography, or any struggle that feels deeply embedded in your identity, Kyle's testimony offers hope without empty promises. Her message is revolutionary: God isn't trying to strip you down to nothing—He wants everything that doesn't belong to fall away so your authentic self can emerge. Join us for this powerful conversation that might just change how you view your own journey toward wholeness. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the very storms you're desperately trying to outrun are actually the pathway to your healing? Sexual brokenness, unwanted desires, betrayal, and shame can feel like overwhelming tempests in our lives. Many of us respond by running—numbing out through pornography, hiding in isolation, staying in denial, or blaming others. In today's podcast, we look at the unique actions of buffalo.Unlike cows that flee from storms (only to spend more time in them), buffalo turn and charge directly into oncoming weather. With their thick, protective coats shielding their most vulnerable areas, they instinctively understand that the fastest way through a storm is straight through it. This behavior parallels the recovery journey perfectly.While Scripture acknowledges there are appropriate times to flee from temptation (like Joseph running from Potiphar's wife), lasting healing requires the courage to eventually face our storms head-on. Are you ready to stop running and start facing? The freedom and wholeness you seek await on the other side of your courage. Listen now to discover how to approach your recovery journey like a buffalo rather than a cow. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat has your body been trying to tell you all along? In this profound conclusion to our three-part series, we explore how our physical bodies, specifically as male and female—communicate God's most essential nature: love that gives itself away.Diving into Genesis, we see human beings as image-bearers of God. The first attribute mentioned about humans in scripture is that they are "male and female," suggesting our gendered bodies communicate something vital about our Creator. We examine how the Fall distorted this vision, introducing shame where there had been blessing and dignity.Our pornographic culture has further blinded us, reducing bodies to objects of pleasure rather than carriers of God's Image. By gutting the body's message of family, commitment, and self-giving love, we've lost sight of what our bodies are trying to tell us about who God is and who we're meant to be.Whether you're struggling with pornography, wrestling with body image, or simply longing to see yourself and others as God sees you, this episode offers a vision of human embodiment that dignifies rather than degrades. Join us in praying, "Lord, help us to see as you see."Resources from this series:Celebration of the Disciplines by Richard FosterSacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley BartonRule of LifeDaily examen Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailWhat if the way Jesus saw people wasn't exceptional, but exemplary? What if His vision—His ability to perceive beyond surface appearances—is actually how we're designed to see?This episode continues in the importance to see people as whole human beings rather than objects for pleasure or obstacles to happiness. Josh opens with a powerful story about a seemingly "grumpy" waitress whose true circumstances completely transformed how he perceived her. Throughout the Gospels, Jesus consistently demonstrates this different way of seeing. When a woman touches His garment in a crowd, He doesn't just feel the touch—He stops everything to see her face-to-face. When Simon the Pharisee judges a "sinful woman," Jesus challenges him directly: "Do you see this woman?" These moments reveal Jesus not as an exception to humanity, but as our example of what true humanity looks like.Suppose you're struggling with lust or judgment. In that case, this episode offers hope beyond "managing" these tendencies—it invites you into a transformed way of seeing that aligns with how you were actually designed to perceive the world. Join us as we learn to ask, "Lord, show me what you see."Resources from this series:Celebration of the Disciplines by Richard FosterSacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley BartonRule of LifeDaily examen Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailHave you ever wondered if freedom from sexual struggles is actually possible? This episode challenges the common belief that lust is simply "a lifelong battle" that Christians must endure.Starting with the question—what happens when we forget what we truly are?—hosts Josh and James explore how our understanding of human sexuality has been distorted by both culture and limited gospel perspectives. They compare how differently we approach other struggles like anger or theft, where we expect real transformation, versus sexual integrity where we've normalized partial victory.For anyone who has struggled with repeated sexual failures and wondered if real freedom is possible, this episode offers genuine hope. Not through trying harder, but through reconnecting with who you truly are in Christ. Jesus didn't just come to forgive your sexual sin—He came to restore your sexual integrity. Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailThe digital world has transformed parenting in profound ways, creating unprecedented challenges for families navigating sexuality and technology. In this eye-opening conversation, Jacob Volk, Co-Executive Director of Into the Light Ministries, brings clarity and hope to parents feeling overwhelmed by these complex issues."The average child is exposed to explicit content at age eight," Volk reveals, underscoring why conversations about sexuality can't wait. But rather than approaching this reality with fear, he offers a compassionate framework balancing protection with preparation. Parents today face what he calls a "triple challenge" – the inherent difficulties of parenting, the pervasiveness of pornography, and the complexity of managing ever-evolving technology.For parents who discover their teens are already struggling with pornography, Volk offers hope through stories of families who've navigated these challenges toward restored relationships. His message resonates with grace: it's never too late to begin these conversations, even if it requires acknowledging past hesitation or mistakes.Perhaps most powerfully, Volk reminds us that sexuality is God's beautiful design, not the distorted version our culture presents. By reclaiming this territory from "the devil's turf," parents have the opportunity to guide their children toward a healthy, integrated understanding of sexuality as sacred rather than shameful.Ready to better equip yourself for these crucial conversations? Visit these resources below and begin transforming how your family approaches these essential topics.Into the Light Ministries: Parenting and Pornography: Tech Safe: Treading Boldly through a Pornographic WorldCovenant Eyes  Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Becoming Whole, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna RaabSmith to discuss their personal journey of recovering from marital betrayal and the work they do with other couples to rebuild intimacy. They share their unique story of whirlwind romance, struggles with sexual addiction, and the steps they took towards healing and recovery. The conversation delves into their development of the 'intimacy pyramid,' a framework to guide couples through honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, and ultimately, intimacy. Matthew and Joanna provide insights on navigating recovery, sexual reintegration, and building a thriving marriage post-betrayal. This episode is a beacon of hope, courage, and practical guidance for married couples in recovery, as well as singles looking to understand relational dynamics.Resources discussed in this episode:Freebies from the RaabsmithsMatthew & Joanna's Book Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)

Send us Fan MailImagine driving past a house that looks a bit off, maybe the porch is sagging, or the house seems to lean. That’s what happens when a foundation is compromised, and you know, relationships can face the same troubles, especially after betrayal. Today's podcast talks about how full therapeutic disclosure can be a game-changer for couples dealing with betrayal. It’s like laying down a solid truth foundation. It’s not just about spilling the beans; it’s about sharing everything in a safe, guided space. While the disclosing partner might feel a sigh of relief, the betrayed partner gets the information needed to begin healing. It's quite a journey, holding each other's hearts gently and stepping into healing with honesty and care. It often leads to a relationship full of renewed trust and intimacy, stronger than before. If you or someone you know is walking this path, there’s hope and help out there to rebuild that foundation.Intimacy Pyramid from Dan Drake and RaabsmithsFull Therapeutic Disclosure Linkshttps://youtu.be/ik-PG_8H_RM?si=lGQbsI7m2s2euZ5uhttps://helpingcouplesheal.com/understanding-disclosure-with-dan-drake/Books for couplesDisclosing Spouse https://a.co/d/eMwqvTuBetrayed Spouse (Three Volumes)https://a.co/d/3ABcnNWhttps://a.co/d/4xikqbthttps://a.co/d/aAPHRrEhttps://disclosurehope.com/ Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole:👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)