Beside Every Calling

Send us Fan MailBeside Every Calling | Episode 06: Staff Spouse Life — What No One Tells You📩 Connect With Us: If this episode encouraged you, we’d love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] this episode, Debbie and Jill sit down with Dana Hutsko and Bethany Jack for an honest conversation about the real experience of ministry spouse life on a church staff.From the early days of feeling unprepared and alone to learning how to build community and stay grounded, this conversation offers both validation and practical wisdom for every season of ministry life.In This Episode: What they wish someone had told them before ministry life  Navigating loneliness in the early years  Practical ways to find your people and build community  Staying grounded in your identity beyond the role  Encouragement for those just starting out Table Talk Questions: What has surprised you most about ministry life?  Have you experienced loneliness in this season? What did that look like?  Who are your “safe people,” and how did you find them?  What helps you stay grounded in your identity outside of ministry?  What advice would you give to someone just starting out as a staff spouse? Follow Along: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/besideeverycalling Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/besideeverycalling

Send us Fan MailEpisode 05: Family & MinistryBeside Every Calling with Debbie & JillIn this episode, we talk about the real-life tension of balancing family and ministry—especially in the early parenting years, through busy church seasons, and into the empty nest.We share personal stories, practical rhythms that helped our families, and honest conversations about expectations, boundaries, and protecting your home.Whether you’re raising young kids or navigating adult relationships, this episode is a reminder that your family is your first ministry—and you don’t have to do this alone.In This Episode:Practical rhythms for Sundays and busy ministry seasonsCreating a home that feels safe, peaceful, and life-givingSetting boundaries with church expectationsSupporting each child’s unique personality and callingWhen and why to seek counseling for your familyTransitioning from parenting to friendship in adult yearsKey Encouragement:You’re doing better than you think.Your family matters deeply.And you are not alone in this.Table Talk Questions:What rhythms could help our family feel more peaceful during busy seasons?Are there any expectations we need to release or reset?How can we better support each person’s uniqueness in our family?What would it look like to make our home feel even more safe and life-giving?📩 Connect With Us:If this episode encouraged you, we’d love to hear from you.If you have a topic you’d like us to discuss—or just want to connect—email us at [email protected]

Send us Fan MailIn this honest and deeply relatable conversation, Debbie and Jill reflect on the realities of being married to a ministry leader. From the early years of burnout to learning healthy boundaries and discovering their own calling within ministry, they share the lessons they wish someone had told them sooner.Together they explore the central question many ministry spouses quietly wrestle with:How do you support your spouse’s calling without losing your own identity?With vulnerability and wisdom gained through decades of ministry life, Debbie and Jill offer encouragement for anyone navigating the unique tensions of leadership, marriage, calling, and personal identity.In this episode we explore:🔹 Burnout in the Early YearsThe “all-in” mentality that many young ministry couples embrace—and how it often leads to exhaustion before healthy rhythms are learned.🔹 Learning Boundaries (Before Anyone Was Talking About Them)Long before books like Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud became popular, Debbie and Jill were learning the hard way how important it is to say no.🔹 The Ministry of PresenceOne of the most powerful callings of a ministry spouse: simply showing up, being with people, and offering a steady presence.🔹 Finding Your Hidden MinistryHow each season of life reveals a different way to serve—and how many spouses discover their own quiet ministry within the larger calling.🔹 Balancing Real LifeNavigating full-time work, raising a family, and carrying unpaid church responsibilities.🔹 Unspoken ExpectationsThe pressure that often exists for ministry families—and how those expectations can go unspoken but deeply felt.🔹 Loneliness in Ministry LifeWhy ministry can feel isolating and why finding peers who truly understand the journey is so important.🔹 Can You Have Friends in the Church?Debbie and Jill challenge the common advice that pastors’ families shouldn’t form close friendships within the congregation.🔹 Serving in Undefined SeasonsOne of the hardest seasons of ministry: when roles are unclear and there is no roadmap for what your contribution should look like.Wisdom from Experience✓ Protect your personal Sabbath time with God✓ Learn to set healthy boundaries✓ Find mentors who model long-term ministry health✓ Remember who you are first: a beloved child of God—not just a ministry spouseThis episode may especially resonate with:• Pastors’ spouses navigating identity and calling• Ministry couples in early or mid-season leadership• Anyone supporting a spouse in a demanding calling• Church leaders seeking to better understand ministry familiesThank you for being part of this conversation. If you have a question, story, or topic you'd love us to cover, email us at [email protected] from Experience✓ Protect your personal Sabbath time with God✓ Learn to set healthy boundaries✓ Find mentors who model long-term ministry health✓ Remember who you are first: a beloved child of God—not just a ministry spouseThis episode may especially resonate with:• Pastors’ spouses navigating identity and calling• Ministry couples in early or mid-season leadership• Anyone supporting a spouse in a demanding calling• Church leaders seeking to better understand ministry familiesTable Talk Questions1. What part of Debbie and Jill’s story resonated most with you?2. How can couples support each other’s calling without losing their own identity?3. What boundaries might help protect your spiritual and emotional health in this season?4. Have you discovered a “hidden ministry” within your current role or season of life?5. How can churches better support ministry families and their

Send us Fan MailEpisode 3: Male Spouses in MinistryIn this meaningful conversation, Debbie and Jill sit down with Chuck Sunburg and David Nicola—two men who share the unique experience of supporting their wives’ call to ministry.As more women step into pastoral leadership, their husbands are navigating a role that few people talk about. Chuck and David share honestly about identity, sacrifice, faith, and what it looks like to faithfully walk beside a spouse’s calling without losing your own.In this episode we explore:🔹 Supporting a Called SpouseChuck shares how his wife Carla transitioned from nursing to becoming an ordained elder and now serving as a General Superintendent in the Church of the Nazarene, while David reflects on Gina’s journey from therapist to ordained pastor and community center leader.🔹 Identity & SacrificeBoth men talk openly about the decision to “decrease so she could increase,” stepping back from their own ministry paths in order to support their wives’ calling without resentment or ego.🔹 Finding Your PlaceDavid emphasizes the importance of male spouses discovering their own role in ministry—whether through worship, service, leadership, or support—rather than simply standing in the background.🔹 Guarding What MattersThe conversation also explores the protective instinct that comes with watching your spouse face criticism, people walking out during sermons, and navigating assumptions about women in ministry leadership.🔹 Keeping Your Eyes on JesusChuck reminds us that the foundation of any ministry marriage is first being faithful followers of Christ—both individually and together.This episode offers rare and honest insight into a growing reality in the church: supporting female pastoral leadership requires humility, intentionality, and a Kingdom-first perspective that goes beyond cultural expectations.This episode may especially resonate with:• Male spouses of ministry leaders• Female pastors and their families• Couples discerning a shared calling in ministry• Anyone interested in the evolving role of women in church leadershipThank you for being part of this conversation. If you have a question, story, or topic you'd love us to cover, email us at [email protected] Talk Questions1. What part of Chuck and David’s story resonated most with you?2. How can couples better support one another’s calling without losing their  own identity?3. What challenges do ministry spouses uniquely face that people outside ministry may not see?4. What does it look like to “decrease so another can increase” in a healthy way?5. How can churches better support both women in ministry and their families?

Send us Fan MailIn Episode 2 of Beside Every Calling , we talk about discipleship across every season of life.  Early in our faith we often have someone pouring into us.  But as years pass and leadership grows, many quietly lose the voices who once discipled them.  In this conversation we explore what it means to always be "in the middle" being shaped by someone ahead of us while encouraging someone coming behind us.  Discipleship doesn't end when leadership begins. It's how we stay grounded beside the call without losing ourselves within it.If something in this conversation resonated with you, we would love to hear your story.  Email us anytime at [email protected] Talk Questions:1. Who is someone one season ahead of you who still shapes your faith today?2. Who might God be inviting you to encourage or disciple right now?

Send us Fan MailIn this first episode of Beside Every Calling, we introduce ourselves and share a little of our story walking beside our husbands in ministry. We talk about how long we've been in ministry, what life beside the calling has looked like for us, and our hope for this space.Beside Every Calling is meant to be a place of encouragement for spouses walking beside the call- a safe place to talk honestly about faith, ministry life, and how to create a life you love beside the call without loosing yourself in the call.If something in this conversation resonated with you, we would love to hear your story.  Email us anytime at [email protected] Talk Questions - Episode 11. When you think about your life beside your spouses call, what parts of your identity have been strengthened - and what parts may have gotten lost along the way?2. What has helped you stay grounded in who you are, not just in the role you serve beside someone else's calling? 3. Is there a woman or man walking beside a calling whose story or friendship has encouraged you in this season?