Beyond Coaching: An Impactful Coaching Project Podcast

In this Podcast Short, Dustin and Rob explore trust. When trust is high, a coach can misspeak, show emotion, or even put his foot in his mouth—and players give the benefit of the doubt. When trust is low, even neutral comments are filtered negatively. Every word becomes suspect. Every interaction becomes evidence.The difference isn’t charisma. It isn’t quoting John Wooden. It’s the daily work of building trust through consistent, transactional excellence.Key Themes1. High trust changes interpretation. Players don’t just hear what you say. They interpret it through the lens of trust.Low trust: “Coach meant that negatively.”High trust: “Coach is competitive. I know what he meant.”2. Transactional precedes transformational. We often chase transformational impact—life change, influence, legacy. But transformation is built on transaction:Be on time.Do what you say.Communicate clearly.Own mistakes immediately.Follow through consistently.You cannot skip the small disciplines and expect large relational impact.3. Competence builds credibility. If you want to transform lives, dominate your practice. Be organized. Be detailed. Teach the game at a high level. Competence is the foundation of trust.4. Erosion is subtle. Most broken cultures don’t implode overnight. Trust erodes:Missed follow-through.Double standards.Poor communication.Non-verbals that contradict words.Losing seasons without emotional steadiness.Small cracks compound.5. Ownership resets trust. High-trust coaches:Apologize quickly.Admit when they’re wrong.Hold themselves to the same standards they demand.Avoid talking at players during conflict.Players can handle intensity. They struggle with inconsistency.Practical Takeaways for CoachesBefore chasing transformational language, master transactional behavior.Ask yourself: “Do I respond to players the way I expect them to respond to me?”Communicate proactively—especially when you’re late, frustrated, or distracted.When trust erodes to the point where players hang on every word defensively, you may need a reset—not just a speech.High trust isn’t built in emotional speeches. It’s built in the next 90 minutes of practice.Beyond Coaching is produced by the Impactful Coaching Project in partnership with Friends University.Learn more at:impactfulcoachingproject.comSign Up for our Free Newsletter at impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob sits down with two guests who live at the intersection of faith, sport, and formation:Matt Moberg – professional artist and chaplain for the Minnesota TimberwolvesMike Jaderston – Dean of Campus Ministries at Friends University and third-generation coach’s kid.The conversation starts with Matt’s unusual path to becoming an NBA chaplain and why he begins every chapel with the same line:“Who you are is more important than what you do… even if what you do gets more attention than who you are.”From there, the three dig into identity, loneliness, and the quiet cost of “making it” at the highest level. Matt talks about the hidden sadness he sees in NBA locker rooms, the pressure of short contracts, and the difference between coaches who see players as people versus assets. Mike pulls the lens back to the college context—how injuries, role changes, and family expectations expose identity issues in student-athletes.They explore what it takes to build environments of psychological safety and toughness at the same time:holding everyone to the same standards (stars included)pairing authenticity with real competencecreating clear “community rules” so athletes know they can fail and still belong, as long as they live inside the values.The episode closes with practical formation habits: Matt’s AA rhythm and commitment to telling the truth, Mike’s yearly retreat tradition with trusted friends, and why coaches must own their mistakes without abandoning their responsibility to lead.In this episode, we cover:What an NBA chaplain actually does on game dayWhy so many elite athletes feel lonely and disoriented at the “top”The line Matt repeats to players every chapelHow coaches can build belonging in transient, transactional environmentsAuthenticity + competence as the non-negotiables for leading this generationPsychological safety vs. “safe spaces” and why standards still matterWhy formation can’t be rushed—even in six-month windowsPractical habits that sustain coaches and chaplains over the long haulIf this podcast is helpful to you, we go deeper in our weekly Substack newsletter. Subscribe at impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com for practical leadership frameworks, insights, and research for coaches, ADs, and leaders who want to build sustainable excellence.

In this short episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob and Dustin sit in a tension that every competitive leader feels but few articulate clearly.Winning matters. It always has. The time, preparation, and emotional investment are real. Losses still sting—even years removed from the sideline. Rob admits that as an Athletic Director, he still goes home frustrated after tough losses. Caring deeply about outcomes doesn’t disappear just because your role changes.At the same time, some of the most meaningful growth in athletics happens in seasons of struggle.Hard years often expose blind spots. They reveal leadership gaps. They force clarity around culture, accountability, and fit. Dustin reflects on a season that felt like a train wreck—high talent, poor retention, misalignment—and how that year shaped him more than the historic season that followed.The conversation explores several key questions:Can you pursue winning relentlessly while still recognizing that growth often comes through losing?How do you avoid “loser talk” while still naming real progress?What’s the difference between adversity that builds a program and dysfunction that erodes it?Why do younger coaches sometimes struggle to bounce back from hard seasons?How does emotional constancy become a competitive advantage?They discuss the discipline of perspective—remembering you are never as good or as bad as you think you are—and why leadership in the valley often matters more than leadership on the mountaintop.This episode doesn’t offer easy answers. Instead, it offers a framework: hold both truths.Compete to win. Lead for growth.And in the middle of hard seasons, choose constancy over emotional volatility. Sign up for our FREE newsletter at https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com.

In this episode, Bruce Brown returns to discuss one of his most countercultural ideas: Positive Conditioning.Most coaches were conditioned the way they condition. Running is often used as punishment. Effort is demanded through anger. Mistakes are followed by sprints. But Bruce challenges that entire framework.What if conditioning wasn’t something athletes dreaded? What if it became a privilege? What if it was the most culture-building part of practice?Bruce walks through the philosophical shift that reshaped his coaching career. After realizing he was building frustration into the end of practice just to justify conditioning, he spent an entire summer redesigning his approach. The result was a system that:Rewards effort instead of punishing mistakesBuilds interdependence (“don’t let your buddies down”)Reinforces athlete-owned behaviorsCreates pride in conditioningStrengthens culture under fatigueAt the center of the model is a simple shift:If being in better condition makes you a better player, and better players make better teams, then conditioning is a privilege.Bruce explains why verbal reinforcement—using both a player’s name and the specific action—is the most powerful tool a coach has. He shares practical examples including:Free throw conditioning where winners earn the right to runEffort-based push-up variations that eliminate punishment loopsInterval drills built around “help your buddy” exchangesThe “Push Day” tradition that athletes eventually asked forWhy stopping conditioning early can be the most powerful consequenceThe deeper principle is cultural, not physical:Conditioning becomes a vehicle for interdependence, ownership, and shared pride.Rob presses Bruce on common objections:What about preseason benchmarks?What about older-school resistance?Can coaches test this halfway?Bruce’s answer is clear: You cannot dip your toe in. You must understand it, believe it, and fully commit.If you are serious about:Building athlete accountabilityRaising effort without angerEliminating punishment-based motivationCreating a team that pushes itselfThis episode will challenge how you run practice.Key TakeawaysConditioning used as punishment undermines its purpose.Effort and attitude are athlete-owned behaviors.Verbal reinforcement (name + action) drives behavior.Rewarding great effort produces more great effort.Interdependence is built under fatigue.When athletes buy in, conditioning becomes culture.Connect with Bruce BrownLearn more about Bruce’s work at Proactive Coaching at https://proactivecoaching.info/.Sign up for our free newsletter at: https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

Dr. Lisa Riegel joins Rob Ramseyer to translate neuroscience into practical coaching leadership. She explains why behavior is the intersection of biology and context, how athletes’ (and coaches’) perceptions are shaped unconsciously, and why teams under stress often lose access to their best decision-making. The conversation moves from brain science to culture-building: psychological safety, proactive leadership, conflict, and why compliance-based leadership produces short-term obedience but not long-term commitment. Lisa closes with actionable routines coaches can use with large rosters to build self-awareness, self-regulation, and trust.Key Topics CoveredNeurowell + leadership: Why real change “starts in the brain,” not in policies.Biology + context: How leaders shape the environment to reduce friction and increase performance.Safe, supportive, proactive culture: A framework for building teams that sustain pressure.Perception filters: Why athletes respond differently to the same coaching behavior.Stress states & performance: Calm → alert (good) → alarm (bad decisions).Team-wide strategies: How to teach self-awareness at scale without needing a massive staff.Psychological safety: Not softness—an engine for disagreement, learning, and resilience.Positivity as training: How routines that notice “good” can shift team worldview and cohesion.Compliance vs commitment: Why punishment-based leadership backfires and what to do instead.Rapid fire: Favorite book, definition of success, favorite podcast, and a daily joy practice.Practical Takeaways for Coaches1) Coach the brain, not just the behaviorAthletes’ reactions are often driven by unconscious perception filters. If a player shuts down, it may not be “attitude”—it may be how your style is being associated with past experiences.2) Teach self-regulation like a skillLisa offers a simple framework coaches can run in groups: “Name it, Own it, Control it.”Name it: What do you look/feel like when you’re losing control?Own it: What’s underneath it—what fear is driving the reaction?Control it: What works for you in the moment (breathing, reset routine, self-talk, walk-away, etc.)?3) Build “safe, supportive, proactive” cultureSafe: Emotional + intellectual safety (including real uncertainty around AI and change).Supportive: Agency + autonomy with accountability.Proactive: Don’t get mad at predictable barriers—plan for them.4) Normalize conflict and train resolutionPsychological safety includes how a team handles conflict without fear of getting crushed or ignored.5) Use simple routines to shift team mindsetLisa describes the power of building “positive noticing” into team life (e.g., “two good things” at dinner; appreciation loops in teams) so athletes begin scanning for what’s working, not only what’s wrong.6) Replace compliance with commitmentPunishment may create compliance, but coaches want buy-in. The better pattern: clarify the “why,” provide a replacement behavior, and reinforce progress with meaningful positive feedback.Memorable Lines / Concepts“Behavior is the intersection of our biology and our context.”“You can’t be upset by predictable situations.”“Compliance isn’t commitment.”“When the alarm system takes over, the thinking brain checks out.”Books Mentioned / RecommendedNeurowell — Dr. Lisa RiegelAspirations to Operations (includes the 8C Commitment Framework) — Dr. Lisa RiegelAvailable on Amazon.Connect with Dr. Lisa Riegel ([email protected])Educational Partnerships Institute (Founder & CEO): www.epinstitute.net Books: Neurowell and Aspirations to Operations (Amazon)www.lisariegel.com

This episode breaks down why hard conversations often go poorly in coaching and how to handle them with clarity, calm, and consistency. Rob and Dustin outline a simple, repeatable framework that works with today’s athletes and staff.Key Ideas• The 10–90 Rule: The first 10% of a hard conversation determines 90% of the outcome. How you start matters most.• Why these conversations matter: Most athletes have low reps in real conflict. Avoidance and emotional escalation are common. Coaches who handle conflict well build trust and stability.The Six Steps1. Invite — don’t ambush Set a clear time, place, and purpose. Avoid vague “we need to talk” messages.2. Identify the issue Name the problem and stick to it. Don’t drift into personal attacks.3. Inform the process Set simple ground rules: listen first, ask clarifying questions, work toward next steps.4. Listen to understand Not to win. Let the other person fully empty the tank.5. Give back Acknowledge the kernel of truth. Take the low seat when appropriate; it strengthens trust.6. Take action Agree on next steps and walk out aligned. Clarity and unity matter.SummaryConsistent structure + emotional regulation = better outcomes. Coaches who embrace hard conversations—not avoid them—lead stronger teams.LinksApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150 Spotify: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150 Substack: https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob sits down with Russell Smelley—NAIA Hall of Fame coach, longtime Westmont College faculty member and coach, and one of the most thoughtful voices in collegiate coaching—to explore what it really means to coach people, not just train athletes.Russell shares stories from nearly five decades in coaching, including his journey from proving himself through wins to measuring success by trust, character, and long-term impact. This conversation cuts straight to the heart of the profession: identity, psychological safety, competition, and the quiet work of shaping people who thrive well beyond sport.This is a grounded, honest discussion for coaches who want to win and lead with integrity.Key Themes & TakeawaysTraining vs. Coaching: Why developing people must take precedence over chasing results—and how the best coaches do both.Psychological Safety (Done Right): Safety doesn’t mean low standards. It means accountability without fear.Evaluate, Don’t Critique: How post-competition language shapes trust, learning, and long-term growth.Competing in the Context of Relationship: Why opponents aren’t enemies—and how respect fuels healthier competition.Focus vs. Obsession: Where intensity helps and where it becomes destructive for athletes and coaches alike.Winning Isn’t Enough: Russell reflects on when he realized success had to be defined by more than outcomes.Mentorship & Patience: Why some lessons take years to land—and why that’s okay.Advice to Young Coaches: “Say no more often. Be clear. Get a mentor. Don’t vacillate.”Memorable Quotes“The coaching part says my ego takes second place to wins and losses.”“Evaluate, don’t critique.”“Psychological safety isn’t avoiding hard things—it’s opening the door to more responsibility.”“Your opponent is not your enemy. They’re there to help you get better.”About the GuestRussell Smelley is a longtime cross country and track & field coach at Westmont College, a multiple-time conference Coach of the Year, and an NAIA Hall of Fame inductee. As both coach and faculty member, Russell brings a rare blend of competitive excellence, faith-centered leadership, and deep care for athlete development.Russell is currently developing workshops on transformational leadership for coaches, educators, and parents—focused on moving from transactional outcomes to lasting impact.Contact Russell: [email protected] & SubscribeApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150Spotify: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150Beyond Coaching is produced by the Impactful Coaching Project, in partnership with Friends University. ICP exists to develop coaches who lead the whole person and to advance best practices for coaching the 21st-century athlete.Learn more at impactfulcoachingproject.com.

Rob continues his conversation with coach and youth-sport observer Shaun Reid, moving from diagnosing what’s broken to exploring practical solutions. Shaun argues the core issue in youth sports is a lack of parent education. Most parents don’t know what healthy support looks like, which leads to over-involvement, pressure, and confusion.Topics covered include how parents unintentionally make things harder for their kids, what healthy involvement looks like, why youth coaching has almost no barrier to entry, how to navigate pay-to-play without burnout, what the U.S. can learn from countries like Norway, and why the youth-sport dropout rate (around 70 percent by age 13) continues to rise.Shaun closes with rapid-fire reflections on formative books, failure, coaching success, and how his faith has shaped his life. Shaun can be reached at [email protected] the Impactful Coaching Project The Impactful Coaching Project exists to help coaches lead with competence, care, and constancy through research-backed frameworks, practical tools, and ongoing conversations about holistic coaching.Listen and explore ICP resources: impactfulcoachingproject.com impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this conversation, Rob and Dustin explore the difference between clean and dirty motivation—why both forms drive behavior, why one is healthier, and how they show up in coaching, leadership, and athlete development. The discussion draws from a story on The Knowledge Project podcast and connects it to real experiences inside locker rooms, practice environments, and the broader youth-sport ecosystem.The episode challenges coaches to examine what fuels them, how that fuel shapes their leadership, and how to help athletes move from external validation to internal clarity, purpose, and ownership.Key Themes 1. Clean vs. Dirty Motivation • Clean motivation: mission-driven, value-aligned, sustainable • Dirty motivation: chip-on-the-shoulder, prove-them-wrong, short-term adrenaline • Dirty fuel can win games—but rarely builds lasting joy, culture, or impact2. How Dirty Motivation Shows Up • Creating imaginary critics or “haters” to spark emotion • Heightened volatility in decision-making and relationships • Misalignment with what today’s athletes actually respond to • Athletes quickly see through inauthentic motivational tactics3. How Clean Motivation Shows Up • Strengthens trust, relationships, and identity beyond sport • Better aligned with holistic coaching and the whole-person model • Requires intentionality because it lacks the emotional spike dirty fuel brings4. Athlete Identity, Family Pressure, and Motivation Drift • ICP research shows family is a top motivator for college athletes • When athletes detach identity from outcome, performance can improve—or decline • Many athletes discover they were competing more for their parents than themselves5. The Coach’s Role • Authenticity is mandatory—modern athletes sense inconsistency immediately • Coaches shape whether athletes use their motivation in healthy ways • Clear roles, communication, and purpose are essential to sustaining clean fuel • Winning doesn’t automatically convert motivation—it often amplifies pressureFeatured Quotes • “Dirty motivation works—until it doesn’t.” • “If you’re manufacturing haters, you’re building on sand.” • “Clean fuel builds people. Dirty fuel burns them.”Learn More & Explore ICP ResourcesImpactful Coaching Project Website https://impactfulcoachingproject.comICP Substack (Articles, Show Notes, Research, Updates) https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comBooksCoaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGLP9PP5Athletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CGM3VZ3J

In Part 1 of Rob’s conversation with Shaun Reid, they diagnose what’s gone sideways in youth sports. Shaun—originally from Wales and a longtime soccer coach—breaks down why the youth sports “system” has drifted from child-centered development toward a pay-to-play business model. Rob and Shaun discuss dropout rates, parent pressure, over-trusting underqualified coaches, and the way “selling a dream” can hijack the purpose of youth sports. Part 2 will focus on solutions.In this episode, we cover:Shaun’s background and why he sees youth sports differentlyWhy youth sports has become a “system” with predictable outcomesThe integrity gap: when the business model replaces the kid as the priorityThe impact of parent identity, comparison culture, and social mediaHow young coaches can become “experts” to parents—and spread bad informationThe “selling the dream” problem: promises that don’t match realityWhy Rob believes it’s not just individual coaches—it’s the structure around themWhy this conversation is split into two parts, and what’s coming nextKey takeawayIf youth sports is producing rising dropout rates and decreasing participation, it’s not an accident. It’s the result of incentives and expectations that put adults—often unintentionally—ahead of the child.Next episode (Part 2)Rob and Shaun shift from diagnosis to solutions: practical guidance for parents, realistic development for coaches, and ways to reduce harm inside a pay-to-play reality.

This Best of 2025 episode brings together the most listened-to and most shared conversations from Beyond Coaching this year.Each segment tackles a reality coaches deal with every day: how to build culture when not everyone plays, how to develop leaders through failure, and how to handle stress without trying to eliminate it.You’ll hear from Brent Hobson, Jim McNeal, and Mitch Hull—three coaches and leaders working in very different environments, but wrestling with the same leadership challenges.Different settings. Same issues. Leadership, pressure, failure, and building programs that last.Episode HighlightsBrent Hobson – Value Beyond Playing TimeNot everyone plays—but everyone still shapes the culture. Brent Hobson, longtime head coach of Friends University Women’s Soccer, explains how he intentionally builds value for athletes who may never see the field, including why the only award in his office has nothing to do with wins or goals. This is what team-first culture looks like in practice.Topics include:Building value beyond the lineupThe Garland Award and why it mattersCoaching honesty without lowering standardsWhat’s actually changed—and hasn’t—with today’s athletesJim McNeal – Failure as a Leadership ToolJim McNeal, retired Navy Reserve Rear Admiral and leadership mentor at the U.S. Naval Academy, explains why the Academy is intentionally designed to make high achievers fail—and why that matters.Failure isn’t accidental. It’s part of the training.Topics include:The Naval Academy as a leadership laboratoryWhy leaders are judged on how they lead people, not just resultsHelping high achievers learn to fail safelyShifting from external success to internal standardsMitch Hull – Stress, Pressure, and the ProcessWe spend a lot of time trying to remove stress from sport. Research suggests that approach often backfires.Mitch Hull explains why stress itself isn’t the problem, why perception matters more than pressure, and how coaches reduce stress by focusing on habits, preparation, and daily execution—not the scoreboard.Topics include:Why “stress is bad” is the wrong messageReframing pressure as preparationProcess-over-outcome coachingHelping athletes perform when it matters mostBeyond Coaching is produced by the Impactful Coaching Project, an initiative focused on helping coaches lead the whole person—not just the performer.The Impactful Coaching Project exists to support coaches at every level as they navigate leadership, culture, pressure, and the realities of coaching today’s athletes. Through podcasts, writing, research, and coach education, ICP emphasizes practical leadership, honest conversations, and systems of care that help teams perform and people grow.Learn more at impactfulcoachingproject.com

In this Beyond Coaching Podcast Short, the conversation centers on a simple but often neglected truth: care doesn’t happen by accident—it has to be planned.The discussion explores how coaches can create intentional platforms for honest, constructive dialogue with players. When athletes are given the right setting, clear expectations, and healthy boundaries, most are fair, thoughtful, and invested in making the program better—not tearing it down.The episode also highlights the enduring power of small, personal gestures. A handwritten note. A name written in ink. A quiet moment of affirmation without an audience. These practices still matter—and they still work.Beyond individual actions, the conversation zooms out to culture. The stories a team tells—about gratitude, care, and looking out for one another—shape identity far more than win-loss records. What gets noticed, named, and repeated becomes who the team is.The bottom line is clear: if care isn’t built into weekly rhythms, practice plans, and systems, it will get crowded out by scouting reports, recruiting, and schedules. Coaches who want it to last have to plan for it.Key themes:Creating healthy structures for player feedbackWhy most athletes are fair when given the right environmentThe lasting impact of handwritten notes and personal affirmationUsing stories to reinforce team values and cultureWhy care must be scheduled—or it disappearsListen to Beyond Coaching:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150Spotify: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150Learn more about the Impactful Coaching Project at: https://impactfulcoachingproject.com

Rob sits down with Brent Hobson, longtime Friends University women’s soccer coach. Brent became a head coach at 24 and has spent nearly a decade shaping a program built on clarity, honest feedback, and team-first culture.They dig into what it actually takes to coach Gen Z, how to lead players who aren’t getting the role they hoped for, and why self-evaluation is one of the most underrated tools in a coach’s toolkit.Key ThemesCoaching a Generation Under Constant PressureBrent sees today’s athletes as more visible, more individualized, and more influenced by social media. Instead of complaining about the shift, he explains how coaches can adapt and still build connected teams.Valuing Every AthleteBrent created the Garland Award, named after a former player who rarely played but shaped the program through character and commitment. It’s the only award displayed in his office—and a reminder that contribution isn’t limited to playing time.Honest Conversations About Role and RealityWhether it’s the athlete who won’t play much or the athlete upset about their role, Brent leans toward clarity over comfort. He outlines how to help players understand how they can still impact the team—and why these conversations require coaches, captains, and teammates working together.How 3D Coaching Changed His ApproachInitially skeptical, Brent now credits the 3D framework with helping him slow down, reflect, and rethink his relationship-building as a coach. It gave him a needed “renewal” in how he leads.What Administrators Need to HearEvaluations shouldn’t be a hunt for mistakes. Brent urges ADs to look at the whole athlete experience and share what’s going well—not just what needs work.Rapid-Fire HighlightsBook recommendation: Shoe Dog by Phil KnightFailure that shaped him: The challenging 2020 COVID seasonDefinition of success: Lasting relationships with players and alumniBest golf score: 73 at Cherry OaksNew habit: Listening more—to players, colleagues, and his kidsListen on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150 Spotify: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-coaching-an-impactful-coaching-project-podcast/id1711128150More resources at impactfulcoachingproject.com

Rob sits down with longtime softball coach Suzanne Unruh to unpack how coaching has changed over the past decade—and why today’s athletes require a different kind of leadership. Suze shares how she evolved from a win-driven, blunt young coach to a purpose-focused mentor, emphasizing emotional intelligence, individualized coaching, and building identity beyond the game.The conversation highlights how showcase culture has impacted competitiveness, the importance of connection off the field, and why faith and relational trust have become central to her coaching philosophy. For anyone leading this generation—on the field or beyond—it’s a timely, honest look at what it takes to coach well today.Key Themes:Coaching evolution: Suze reflects on how her approach has shifted from winning at all costs to leading with purpose, patience, and trust.Showcase culture and shifting motivation: Today’s athletes often come from environments where exposure matters more than winning. Coaches must reframe the meaning of competition and team success.Individualized leadership: Modern athletes expect relational coaching. Knowing how each athlete wants to be coached is key to earning buy-in.Mental health and emotional awareness: Athletes today are more open about emotions. Coaches need emotional discipline and active presence, especially in high-pressure moments.Rebuilding identity: When athletes don’t get the role they want, identity can crack. Coaches play a central role in helping athletes understand their value beyond the lineup.Relational trust: Off-field connection strengthens on-field performance. Suze shares practical ways she invests in athletes as whole people.Faith and long-term impact: Suze views coaching as ministry and mentorship—emphasizing purpose, relationships, and post-college connection as her deepest success markers.Notable Moments:01:10 – Suze on early coaching: “I was good, so I thought I’d just make them good” 03:20 – Becoming a head coach at age 22, unexpectedly 07:55 – Mistakes made early on—blunt honesty without relational context 12:40 – Comparing JUCO and four-year athletes: mindset, priorities, and approach 16:13 – The showcase era and its impact on competitiveness and team dynamics 18:20 – Athletes say they love competition—but do they mean it? 20:14 – The rise of emotional transparency in today’s athlete 22:30 – How Suze keeps the bottom 10 on the roster valued and engaged 24:00 – Building identity outside the game to prepare for post-athletic life 27:42 – The cost of showing visible stress on the field 29:10 – What Suze wants it to feel like to be coached by her 32:45 – A coaching failure that almost made her quit—and what pulled her back 36:00 – Rapid fire: books, mistakes, success, and favorite coachesBooks mentioned: Tony Dungy’s leadership books, Pat Summitt’s coaching philosophyPractical Takeaways:Rebuild the team-first mindset. In the showcase era, many athletes arrive focused on visibility, not competition. Reframe the value of team success and shared goals.Coach the individual. Modern athletes need coaching tailored to how they receive feedback. One-size-fits-all approaches don’t work.Establish identity beyond the sport. When roles change or playing time decreases, identity gaps can become emotional gaps. Use relationship to fill them.Manage your presence. Your emotional regulation sets the tone. Athletes quickly absorb your body language and energy.Value the whole roster. The culture often depends more on how the “non-stars” are treated than how the stars perform.Lead with relationship. Know their story. Trust and influence grow when athletes feel seen beyond the field.Keep faith at the center (if it aligns with your context). For Suze, purpose flows from faith—and that purpose informs how she coaches, leads, and supports her athletes long-term.Notable Quotes:Suzanne Unruh “They need to know I know how they want to be coached—and how not to coach them.” “Being told you’re appreciated and you have a purpose is one of the most important things an athlete needs today.”Connect with the Impactful Coaching Project: X: @ICP_Project Instagram: @impactful_coaching_project LinkedIn: Impactful Coaching Project

Rob sits down with longtime coach and mentor Dean Jaderston to unpack the transitions that shaped his career—from Minnesota high schools to college men’s hoops, and eventually to leading women at Friends University. Dean lays out a clear contrast between coaching men and women, why the collective psyche matters on women’s teams, how to move from managing to leading, and what it takes to stay steady in a public, always-on era. Faith, patience, and the willingness to play the long game thread through the whole conversation.Key ThemesTransitions that grow you: High school → college; men → women; what Dean “didn’t know he didn’t know” about recruiting and preparation.Coachability & confidence: With men, puncturing overconfidence; with women, raising ceilings and naming their potential.The collective effect: Public praise/critique lands differently on women’s teams—use “we/us” language and handle most individual feedback 1:1.Lead, don’t just manage: Dean’s “one big rule”—you either bless people or curse people; hold to that and cut the bloated rulebook.Faith as framework: Total-release effort as worship; coach the whole person—spiritually, emotionally, psychologically.Reality of the job: Life and coaching are messy; don’t overreact, don’t take it personally, watch actions over words, and keep vision front and center.Listening builds buy-in: Seek first to understand; today’s athletes spot inauthenticity fast.Vision sustains: The Hartman Arena story—nobody believed it early; vision made the work coherent.Notable Moments00:15 – Why Rob almost changed jobs just to learn from Dean01:36 – High school → college: “I didn’t know what I didn’t know” (recruiting, prep)06:00 – When talent stalls: the cost of being uncoachable06:33 – Men vs. women: confidence gaps and ceilings08:52 – Language shift: use “we/us”; keep praise/critique mostly individual10:49 – Why schemes/X&O often matter more in the women’s game11:58 – Teaching bug: chasing light-bulb moments and durable confidence14:35 – Faith, “audience of One,” and coaching the whole person20:17 – Coaching in the information age: echo chambers and public scrutiny21:18 – From rules to leadership: Dean’s single standard (“bless vs. curse”)23:13 – Adapt the system to the roster you actually have24:04 – Listening as strategy for buy-in26:00 – Hope and vision: conditioning with the end in mind30:26 – Don’t take it personal; judge actions over words31:02 – Playing the long game when your job feels year-to-year33:44 – Embrace the mess; prepare for age-appropriate, inappropriate moments35:25 – Rapid fire: books, failures, definitions of success, habitsRapid-Fire ReferencesBooks mentioned: Coach K’s leadership book (annual reread); Frosty Westering’s Make the Big Time Where You Are (ethos: maximize what you have, where you are).Podcast: Better Questions by Matt Davis.Definition of success: Help people see and seize their potential—spiritually, academically, emotionally, athletically.Practical TakeawaysShrink the rulebook. Hold a single, culture-defining standard and enforce it consistently.Reframe confidence. With men, calibrate realism; with women, remove ceilings.Mind the locker room dynamics. Public praise/critique has second-order effects on women’s teams—coach individuals individually.Lead with listening. Credibility follows curiosity and presence.Keep vision visible. Name the destination daily so effort has context.Don’t chase validation. If behavior changes, let that be the win.Check out more of our stuff (and sign up to get a free resource) at impactfulcoachingproject.com.

In this episode, Dustin Galyon shares a real-world coaching moment involving a senior student-athlete who skipped a team workout and responded with uncharacteristic defiance. Instead of reacting with discipline alone, Dustin leaned on years of relationship-building to have a direct, honest conversation—one that ultimately deepened trust and ended with mutual respect.The conversation explores how coaching has changed over the past decade, why relationships matter more than ever, and how today’s coaches can lead with both accountability and empathy. It’s a reminder that the best coaching happens when leaders stay connected, even in tough moments.Brought to You By:The Impactful Coaching Project helps coaches lead today’s athletes with a more holistic approach to leadership. ICP offers training, tools, and research-backed resources that connect mental, emotional, and physical health to strong team performance. Learn how to build healthy, competitive team cultures at impactfulcoachingproject.com.

In Part 2, we dig deeper into how the U.S. Naval Academy develops ethical, resilient leaders—and how those same lessons apply to coaching. Jim breaks down the Academy’s leadership lab, the sophomore ethics course, and the “2 for 7” contract that defines a midshipman’s commitment. We also talk about his new book, Crucibles—what inspired it, the diverse organizations studied (from NASA to the Gurkhas to the Mafia), and what modern teams and coaches can learn from how these groups design challenges that forge true belonging and purpose.TopicsThe Academy as a “leadership laboratory”Sophomore ethics: Ethical & Moral Reasoning for the Naval Leader“2 for 7” commitment and the cost of serviceMoral stress tests: real-world ethical scenariosTime management and “the alligator closest to the boat”Jim’s new book Crucibles — lessons from NASA, Gurkhas, Mafia, and moreThe fine line between initiation and hazingDesigning crucibles that build learning organizations (five elements)Why standards—not comfort—should define leadershipLightning round: Season of Life, standards > stats, defining success, early morningsFive takeaways for coachesTeach ethics like a skill. Pressure-test decision-making.Lead with standards. Stop chasing external validation.Design your crucible. If it doesn’t serve growth, it’s hazing.Master time. Handle “the alligator closest to the boat.”Build a learning culture. Focus on mastery, challenge, culture, expertise, and strategy.Resources mentionedCrucibles — Jim McNeil & Eric Smith (audiobook available)Season of Life — Jeffrey MarxPull quotes“If you can’t tie a tradition to a positive result, it’s hazing.”“Crucibles define who belongs—not by exclusion, but by shared purpose.”“You can’t lead others unless you know yourself.”“Standards—not external judges—have to drive us.”“Time management is the skill: handle the alligator closest to the boat.”Listen & linksApple Podcasts: Beyond Coaching on AppleSpotify: Beyond Coaching on SpotifyWebsite: impactfulcoachingproject.comPlease review! In your review, tell us your biggest takeaway from this episode!

This special Best of September edition of Beyond Coaching brings together some of the most eye-opening and practical conversations we’ve had this month. From the sidelines of youth sports to the leadership labs of the Naval Academy, each guest shared powerful stories and truths that speak directly to the challenges coaches and leaders face every day.We kick things off with Mitch Hull of the 3D Institute, who challenges how we think about parents in youth sports. Then, Jamy Bechler joins us with a dose of real-world coaching leadership that bridges theory and the chaos of daily decisions. And finally, Jim McNeil from the U.S. Naval Academy offers a look inside how future leaders are forged—not just through wins, but through failure.Episode Timeline & Highlights[1:16] – Are parents the problem—or just a symptom? Mitch Hull reframes the youth sports narrative. [4:19] – Playing time is king: What most parent complaints are really about—and why it matters. [6:00] – Why 70% of kids quit sports before high school. It's not about the scoreboard—it’s about what we model. [8:16] – “Simple, not easy”: Jamy Bechler on how leadership breaks down when the day gets messy. [10:51] – Twelve walk in, not two: A surprise team meeting tests Jamy’s leadership approach in real time. [14:08] – The Naval Academy as a leadership lab: Jim McNeil on how midshipmen judge adults by their leadership. [17:24] – Permission to fail: Why the Academy pushes high achievers to fail early, reflect deeply, and grow fast. Links & ResourcesMitch Hull – 3D InstituteJamy Bechler – jamybechler.comJim McNeal – Author of CruciblesLearn more at impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comIf this episode challenged or inspired you, I’d love it if you’d share it with another coach, leader, or parent. Be sure to rate, review, and follow the podcast on Apple or Spotify so you never miss an episode. Thanks for being part of the Impactful Coaching Project!

In this first half of my conversation with Jim McNeal, we dive deep into what it means to lead, fail, and mentor in one of the toughest leadership pipelines in the world: the U.S. Naval Academy. Jim, a Naval Academy alum turned coach, mentor, and author, shares how he coaches high school and collegiate athletes, why failure is intentionally built into the Academy’s system, and how he guides students to own responsibility instead of blaming external circumstances.We also unpack how coaching high school differs from coaching at the college level in terms of maturity, mindset, and purpose — and why the Academy functions like a leadership laboratory, where every interaction matters. The pressure is intentional. The lessons are real. And failure is expected — as long as you learn from it.Episode Highlights[00:45] – Jim’s background: Naval Academy grad, Supply Corps officer, journey into coaching & mentoring [08:05] – Differences between coaching high school vs. college athletes [12:31] – Why the Naval Academy functions as a leadership laboratory [15:38] – The intentional role of failure in the Academy’s growth model [19:49] – Helping high achievers internalize responsibility instead of blame [24:43] – The importance of loving the process over focusing only on outcomes [29:21] – How coaching generational shifts—and building trust—has (or hasn’t) changed over time🔗 Links & ResourcesCrucibles by Jim McNeil & J. Eric SmithBeyond Coaching Podcast: beyondcoaching.alitu.comImpactful Coaching Project: impactfulcoachingproject.comClosing ThoughtsThanks for tuning in to Part 1 of my conversation with Jim McNeil. In Part 2, we’ll dig into his new book Crucibles, pull out lessons for coaches and leaders, and explore what it really takes to lead through adversity.If you enjoyed the episode, make sure to follow, rate, and review the show, and share it with a fellow coach or leader who needs to hear it. In your review, put your favorite part of this episode!

“Simple Isn't Easy"Guest: Jamy Bechler – Leadership Consultant, Former Coach & AD, Host of Success Is a Choice PodcastIn this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob sits down with Jamy Bechler—someone who's done it all: NAIA coach, high school AD, college interim AD, and now a full-time leadership consultant working with athletic departments around the country. Together they dive into the realities behind the leadership buzzwords.Highlights Include:What it’s really like to step back into the AD chair after consulting from a distanceThe myth of the “perfect plan” and how Jamy handled a surprise full-team meetingWhy leadership is simple, but not easy—especially when emotions are highA candid look at coachability and the lack of it—even among experienced coachesThe impact of changing environments vs. changing kids (hint: the onus is still on us)Practical strategies for hiring when you don’t know the sport inside and outJamy’s take on how responsibility and blame get confused in athletic leadershipWhy “Success Is a Choice” still matters—and how Jamy stole it from Rick PitinoThis conversation is packed with real-world application, tough truths, and encouragement for coaches navigating today’s complex athletic landscape. Whether you’re a young coach or a seasoned AD, this episode will challenge and equip you.Resources Mentioned:Success Is a Choice by Rick PitinoSeven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen CoveyDig Your Well Before You’re Thirsty by Harvey MackayCoach Wooden and Me by Kareem Abdul-JabbarFollow Jamy Bechler:Twitter/X: @CoachBechlerWebsite: www.JamyBechler.com

In this episode, Rob welcomes back Mitch Hull for a honest conversation about how to fix youth sports. They explore the root causes of parent conflict, why playing time dominates every sideline conversation, and what coaches and athletic leaders can actually do to shift the culture. From parent meetings to post-game behavior, Mitch shares practical, field-tested advice on how to create transformational environments rooted in purpose—not pressure.This episode is for anyone who’s tired of the noise around youth sports and ready to do something about it.Topics CoveredAre parents the disease or the symptom?Why every conflict eventually comes down to playing timeHow to run a parent meeting that sets the toneWhy kids quit—and how coaches and parents unintentionally push them awayWhat it means to “coach the experience,” not just the outcomeSimple tools to humanize the game and build real connectionKey TakeawaysParents judge what they see, and if coaches don’t show value beyond playing time, that’s all parents will care about.Playing time is finite—so give parents something infinite to hold onto: their child’s experience, character, and growth.We can’t wait for others to fix youth sports. Coaches must lead—early, often, and intentionally.Small, consistent moments of connection (thanking officials, affirming opponents, celebrating effort) transform culture more than any policy ever will.The best programs teach kids how to respond to adversity—not avoid it.Rapid Fire WisdomBuild trust early: share your “why” with parents and athletesTrain coaches to lead, not just manageNormalize mistakes and model healthy response to pressureReinforce values through routines (trash pickup, handshakes, put-ups)Resources + Links🎧 Listen to more episodes: https://beyondcoaching.alitu.com📰 Coaching insights, articles, and tools: https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com📚 Books:• Coaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete• Athletic Department Leadership and Developing CoachesAvailable now on Amazon.

In this special Best of edition, we revisit some of the most meaningful conversations from August on Beyond Coaching. These highlights capture the real work of coaching—leading people, shaping environments, and creating cultures that last.Featured SegmentsJason Schmidt on Early Coaching Lessons Jason reflects on stepping into a head coaching role at a young age, learning the hard truth that leadership isn’t about the title—it’s about serving athletes where they are.Balancing Care and Competitiveness Jason unpacks one of coaching’s hardest tensions: building a culture of care while still demanding competitiveness. He explains his 80/20 roster philosophy and how transformation happens when competitiveness and culture coexist.Generation Z and Coaching Today Jason shares insights on working with Gen Z athletes—why they test everything, how attention spans are shaped by technology, and why intentional systems of care and relational leadership matter more than ever.The Messiah Method and Creating Environments Rob and Dustin dive into The Messiah Method, discussing why the coach’s primary role is to create an environment where athletes can grow and thrive. They explore how environment becomes culture, why nothing should be left to chance, and what daily habits give programs meaning beyond wins and losses.Learn Moreimpactfulcoachingproject.comimpactfulcoachingproject.substack.comKeep an eye out for the upcoming Impactful Coaching Project Online Coaching Class—a new way to develop as a coach through our proven frameworks, resources, and conversations.

In this episode of the Beyond Coaching podcast, host Rob Ramseyer talks with Jayson Schmidt — a branding consultant for college athletic departments and a former Division II women’s lacrosse head coach — about the realities of leading in today’s sports landscape.Jayson’s journey took him from corporate marketing into coaching, where he quickly learned that leadership is less about titles and more about intentional relationships. From earning just $5,000 as a part-time assistant to running his own consulting business, Jayson has built his career on understanding people, serving them well, and creating cultures that balance competition with care.Key Themes in This Episode1. Lessons from the Early Coaching YearsJayson shares what he “didn’t know he didn’t know” when stepping into leadership as a 23-year-old coach. He talks about the difference between thinking you understand servant leadership and truly living it, especially when coaching former teammates.2. Balancing Relationships and WinningHow do you recruit athletes who not only fit your culture but also bring the competitive edge needed to win? Jayson explains the “80/20 rule” for roster makeup, how to handle strong personalities, and why some of his most meaningful relationships came from players in that 20%.3. Leading Generation ZJayson works daily on recruiting, marketing to, and leading Gen Z student-athletes. He offers insights on what’s similar across generations (youthful skepticism, testing boundaries) and what’s different (shorter attention spans, higher expectations for intentional connection).4. Building Systems of CareFrom setting phone reminders to reach out to athletes, to keeping an open-door policy, to adopting a “double exclamation” text system for urgent needs, Jayson shares practical ways to make players feel seen, valued, and supported.5. Redefining Toughness in SportsDrawing from Do Hard Things and his own coaching experience, Jayson breaks down the three pillars of team toughness:Psychological safety — an environment where players can mess up without fear of exclusion.Opportunities to get better — skilled coaching and intentional development.Shared adversity — going through hard things together, on and off the field, and maintaining relationships through them.Memorable Quotes“This isn’t about you. This was never about you.”“The moments that create toughness aren’t always on the field; they’re in the hardest moments of life, when people come around you.”Who Should ListenThis episode is for:Coaches looking to deepen relationships while staying competitiveAthletic directors seeking cultural alignment in recruitingLeaders of Generation Z in athletics, education, or businessAnyone interested in intentional leadership and team cultureResources and Links MentionedConnect with Jayson Schmidt: https://www.hellopreseason.com/brandingforathleticsBook: Who Not How by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin HardyLearn more about the Impactful Coaching Project: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comVisit us at: impactfulcoachingproject.comSubscribe on Substack: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

This Best of July episode highlights the most impactful moments from recent conversations on Beyond Coaching. The theme that emerged again and again: congruence. Luke Jones of Reclaimed Today reframes authenticity as the alignment between what we say and how we live—something Gen Z athletes are craving more than ever.We also revisit core pillars of the Impactful Coaching Project: competence and care. From filtering meaningful content in a noisy world to building real systems of care for your team, this episode offers practical takeaways for any coach committed to leading well.Presented by: The Impactful Coaching Project, in partnership with Friends University. We develop coaches who coach the whole person.For more, visit: impactfulcoachingproject.com impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this episode, Rob and Dustin dive into The Messiah Method—a book that explores how Messiah College built one of the most dominant college soccer programs from 2000 to 2010. But this isn’t just about winning. It’s about the why behind the success: building an intentional environment where athletes grow, thrive, and represent something greater than themselves.Key Themes:Environment > Scoreboard – What makes your program worth being part of if you take away the scoreboard? For Messiah, it was all about culture, intentionality, and relationships.Culture Is Built, Not Hoped For – Every program has a culture. The question is whether you’re shaping it on purpose. Great programs are intentional about how they do what they do.Systems of Care – Tied into the "3 C’s" framework from Rob and Dustin’s work, this episode emphasizes that great environments are supported by systems—particularly systems of care that reinforce team values.Relationships Drive Motivation – Their own data shows that teammates and family are the top motivators for student-athletes, not just coaches. Coaches have to build environments where these relationships can flourish.The Recruiting Test – If a recruit's parent observed your team for a week, what would they say you value most? That’s your real identity.Quote of the Episode: "Take away the scoreboard—what still makes your program worth being part of?"Coach Reflection Questions:What do your daily habits say about your team culture?Are you building something that will last beyond one season?Do your players live out your values—or just hear about them?Beyond Coaching is a podcast developed by the Impactful Coaching Project in partnership with Friends University. We help coaches develop the whole person and lead the 21st century athlete with clarity and purpose.For more resources, articles, and training: Website: impactfulcoachingproject.com Substack: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this episode, we dive into Congruency Coaching for Gen Z Athletes as Rob speaks with Luke Jones, Partnership Liaison for Reclaim Today—a division of Our Daily Bread Ministries focused on engaging millennials and Gen Z. Luke shares valuable insights into the challenges Gen Z faces, including information overload, skepticism towards authority, and their deep craving for authenticity. Together, they explore how coaches and leaders can engage Gen Z athletes more meaningfully through techniques like reverse coaching, competence, and the power of honest apology. Discover how 'the ministry of presence' can help connect young people with God in ordinary moments, potentially key for both spiritual and identity formation. Key topics include the importance of authenticity, navigating information overload, building trust, and the challenges of mobilizing Gen Z from awareness to action. Listen in to learn how to foster genuine relationships while coaching the whole person in a holistic approach.Key Topics Covered:Why authenticity and congruency matter deeply to Gen ZNavigating the information overload: competence vs. lazinessReverse coaching: mutual learning between athletes and coachesWhy Gen Z may be skeptical of authority—but still deeply hungry for mentorshipCoaching moments that build (or break) trust and characterIdentity and sport: why coaches must help athletes discompartmentalizeThe challenge of mobilizing Gen Z from awareness to actionHow presence, silence, and vulnerability build relationshipsNotable Quotes:“Authenticity is huge. To miss that is to miss the heart of the student and the heart of the athlete.”“We’ve been trained in the arts of filtering. So we recognize filters easily.”“The life of a disciple is a planned, intentional life. And coaching can mirror that.”“Don’t get mad at Gen Z. Get busy with them.” —Tim Elmore (via Luke)Resources Mentioned:Reclaim Today: reclaimtoday.orgBooks: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Renovation of the Heart, The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, Celebration of DisciplineConnect with Luke: [email protected] out via reclaimtoday.orgThe Impactful Coaching Project (ICP) seeks to develop coaches that coach the whole person. ICP is the thought leader in coaching the 21st century athlete and produces training, information, and research to help coaches develop. For more information, check out https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com/ or contact us at [email protected].

In this short episode, Rob and Dustin revisit the foundational framework that launched the Impactful Coaching Project: The Three C’s—Competence, Care, and Constant. Originally introduced in an early Substack post, these three traits remain core to how they think about leadership, coaching, and building trust.Whether you're a new coach trying to build credibility or a seasoned one navigating the emotional rollercoaster of the season, this episode digs into the real meaning of each "C" and what it looks like to live it out—not just talk about it.Topics CoveredWhy competence today is as much about filtering noise as it is about knowledgeHow care becomes transformational only when it's planned, consistent, and intentionalThe role of constant in high-emotion moments and how it builds lasting trustWhy the best coaches do hard things the right way even when it hurtsSimple, practical systems you can implement now to care for your playersKey Quotes“Competence gets you the job. Systems of care and constant keep you there.” “You can’t fake care. And you can’t react well in chaos unless you’ve trained yourself to.” “Being great at one of the C’s is not enough. The challenge is integrating all three.”Mentioned in the EpisodeTim Elmore’s thoughts on authenticity and competencePost-game systems of care (90-second rule, locker room walks, gratitude in weight room)The power of handwritten notes, one-on-ones, and consistent body languageSubscribe & Learn More ▶ Get full access to all articles, podcasts, and resources at impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this "Best of" episode, we revisit the most compelling insights from June's conversations on coach development, support systems, and navigating the changing landscape of youth and high school sports.Highlights from the Episode:1. Why Coach Retention Matters Dr. Pete Van Mullem shares why coach turnover is more than a staffing issue—it’s tied to the overall health of sport participation and athlete experience. He unpacks how assessing coach readiness, providing structured support, and rethinking evaluation practices can keep great coaches in the game longer.2. Building Real Support Systems What does it look like for coaches to build intentional communities—not just for athletes, but for themselves? We explore how everyday habits, peer networks, and programs like Snow Valley Basketball School create lasting mentorship and mutual support across the coaching profession.3. Standards vs. Situations In a conversation between hosts Dustin and Rob, we dig into the gray areas coaches face when enforcing standards. What happens when team rules meet real-life nuance? Through personal stories, they explore fairness, consistency, and the emotional toll of tough decisions.4. Leading with Care We close the episode with a reflection on leadership, empathy, and what it means to discipline within a culture of care. How we respond to a breach of standards can reveal whether we've built true community or just compliance.For more coaching resources and episodes, visit: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

Dr. Pete Van Mullen joins Rob to explore the intersection of coaching, teaching, and long-term retention. A former college basketball coach turned professor, Pete shares insights from his research on coach support systems, readiness assessments, and why teaching skills are essential for coaching success. The conversation offers practical takeaways for administrators and coaches looking to build sustainable, growth-centered programs.Topics include:Building coach support systemsAssessing coach readiness and developmentThe role of teaching in effective coachingRethinking “winning” in youth and high school sportsBooks from the Impactful Coaching Project:Coaching and Leading the 21st Century AthleteAthletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches → Available on Amazon: Visit Rob Ramseyer's Author PageListen & Subscribe:impactfulcoachingproject.substack.combeyondcoaching.alitu.com (Spotify & Apple links)Learn more about Pete’s work at Sport Coach America.

Beyond Coaching Podcast - Best of May EpisodeIn this special "Best of May" episode of Beyond Coaching, Dr. Rob Ramseyer revisits some of the most insightful and impactful moments from recent episodes. With guest experts Mitch Hull, David Shapiro, and Dr. Wendy Moehler Seib, Kelli Wegerer, and also parts of a recent podcast interview Rob did talking about team unity and culture with Matt Barker on "Playing With a Purpose" podcast.  We dive deep into the psychology of coaching, the science of stress, and the importance of trust and belonging in building cohesive teams. These discussions highlight the core principles of the Impactful Coaching Project and offer valuable takeaways for coaches, athletic directors, and leaders in sports.Resources:Impactful Coaching Project Substack (impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com) Subscribe to the Impactful Coaching Project Substack for weekly insights, strategies, and research that helps coaches coach the whole person. Stay updated with new content to support your journey in impactful coaching. Subscribe HereICP Books Books  Leading and Coaching the 21st Century Athlete and Athletic Department Leadership in Developing Coaches offer actionable strategies for coaches, athletic directors, and leaders. These books provide a comprehensive framework for coaching in a holistic, effective way.  Get the books on Amazon.Thank you for listening to this episode of Beyond Coaching. Beyond Coaching is a podcast developed and produced by the Impactful Coaching Project, with the support of Friends University. The Impactful Coaching Project seeks to develop coaches who prioritize the whole person, and it is a thought leader in coaching the 21st-century athlete. Visit our Substack for more information and resources.Listen to More Episodes: Catch up on past episodes on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts!

In this short episode, Rob and Dustin take on one of the dilemmas coaches face: Would you bench a key player to uphold team standards—even if it means sacrificing a win?They reflect on real stories, personal missteps, and the evolution of their coaching philosophies—highlighting the difference between rules and standards, gray areas in leadership, and what fairness really looks like.Key themes include:Standards vs. winning: when consistency collides with competitive pressureWhy some rules get broken and others can’tHow coaches can apply care, honesty, and conviction during hard decisionsWhen bending once may cost you the seasonThe power of a team that cares—and holds each other accountableThis is a conversation about about leading with wisdom, maturity, and long-term perspective. Whether you're a veteran coach or just starting, this episode will challenge how you think about leadership decisions under pressure. “Do hard things”—but do them the right way.Mentioned:The Impactful Coaching Project → impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comICP Books on Coaching → Books on AmazonJoin the conversation Drop your questions or thoughts in the Substack comments—or email Rob or Dustin directly.Subscribe to the Impactful Coaching Project newsletter for weekly content on leadership, team culture, and coaching in the real world.

In this episode, Rob is joined by David Shapiro—longtime nonprofit leader and national voice in youth development and mentoring. The conversation covers the complexity of mentoring, how trust is built through consistency, and why coaches must balance results with relationships. David shares stories from his time leading MENTOR and now the YMCA of Greater Boston, offering practical advice for both mentors and mentees.Whether you’re building a team, leading an organization, or mentoring the next generation, this episode challenges you to lead with clarity and presence in a distracted, transactional world.Topics Covered:The difference between developmental and instrumental mentoringWhy effective mentoring starts with clearly defined expectationsHow to coach for heart change, not just behavior changeBuilding trust in the quiet momentsAdvice for young leaders seeking mentorshipPresence as a leadership superpowerRapid Fire Segment:Favorite book: The Leadership MomentFavorite failure: Misreading how someone needed to be coachedDefinition of success: Sustainability and consistencyFavorite podcast: The Daily StoicLife-changing belief: Being fully present and learning to read fictionResources + Links:Listen to more episodes: https://beyondcoaching.alitu.comCoaching tools, articles, and training: https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comBooks:• Coaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete• Athletic Department Leadership and Developing CoachesAvailable now on Amazon

In this special episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob is joined by Dr. Wendy Moeller-Sieb, Assistant Professor of Theology at Friends University, and recent graduate Kelli Seiwert to explore the groundbreaking research they've conducted on the intersection of faith, identity, and college athletics.Together, they dive into how student-athletes at a Christian university understand the body, spirituality, and performance—and what that means for coaches, parents, and sports leaders who want to do it right.Topics Covered:Why many athletes struggle to see their body as holyHow a coach’s actions shape team culture and spiritual developmentThe unseen emotional toll of injury and pressure to performWhen team belonging amplifies or undermines faithPractical tips for coaches to engage injured players and avoid transactional leadershipDr. Wendy Moeller – Assistant Professor of Theology, Friends University. Former college golfer with a deep passion for youth ministry and faith formation.Kelli Seibert – Recent graduate in Christian Formation and Ministry and Psychology. Former college basketball player with lived experience in balancing faith and athletics.Books from the Impactful Coaching Project:Coaching and Leading the 21st Century AthleteAthletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches → Available on Amazon: Visit Rob Ramseyer's Author PageListen & Subscribe:impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com beyondcoaching.alitu.com (Spotify & Apple links)

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob sits down once again with Mitch Hull to explore a surprising idea: stress isn't the enemy—how we view it is. Drawing on Kelly McGonigal’s TED Talk and Carol Dweck’s mindset research, Mitch shares practical strategies for reframing stress in high-performance settings, whether you're a coach, athlete, or parent.Episode Highlights[00:47] Kelly McGonigal’s TED Talk: Why stress isn’t inherently harmful[01:21] Connecting stress perception with mindset and elite youth athletes[03:20] Research linking stress beliefs to mortality risk[04:32] “It’s not the stress, it’s the perception”[06:08] Rory McIlroy’s mental approach to pressure[07:31] Why “don’t be nervous” doesn’t work—and what to say instead[10:06] The body’s physical response to stress and how to leverage it[12:34] Rethinking the stress equation: caring × uncertainty[15:29] The goal isn’t to eliminate stress—it’s to equip athletes to handle it[16:54] Kevin Bullis’ one-time championship speech[17:57] Giannis Antetokounmpo’s process-first mindset[19:29] Modeling emotional regulation as a coach[21:39] “Failure is not an option. It’s mandatory.” Why failing forward builds resilience[22:47] What parents should ask kids at the dinner table[23:38] Teaser for the next episode: youth sports and parentsFeaturingMitch Hull – Former Olympic wrestling coach and performance consultantQuotes from the Episode“It’s not the stress—it’s how we react to it. If you see it as preparation, your body helps you perform.” — Mitch Hull“If you’re not nervous before a championship, there’s only one explanation: you don’t care. And that’s a bigger issue.” — Mitch HullBuy Our BooksCoaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete and Athletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches are available now on Amazon. These books dive deeper into the principles discussed on the podcast and are must-reads for coaches, athletic directors, and leaders who want to grow themselves and their teams. Buy now on Amazon.Produced ByBeyond Coaching is a podcast developed and produced by the Impactful Coaching Project with support from Friends University. The Impactful Coaching Project is a thought leader in coaching the 21st century athlete and develops coaches who coach the whole person.Subscribe and Learn More: For more resources on coaching the whole person, visit impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this “Best of” episode, we revisit the most impactful conversations from April on the Beyond Coaching podcast. Whether you're mentoring young coaches, navigating the transfer portal era, managing stress, or trying to create practices that actually teach—this episode brings you the best lessons, stories, and strategies from four incredible guests.If you're looking for one episode to share with your staff or keep in your coaching library—this is it.🔍 Segment Breakdown & Timestamps0:00 – 9:30 | Rob Miller – Lead Your Team, Manage Your Program Rob shares what he's seeing across the country: the rise of young coaches, the loss of middle-career leaders, and why managing a program is just as important as leading a team.“Lead your team. Manage your program. If you miss one, you’ll fail at both.”9:30 – 13:30 | Rob & Dustin – Building a Sticky Program in the Transfer Portal Era How do you build a program that athletes want to stay in? It starts with clarity, care, and culture. Dustin and Rob break down the mindset and messaging needed to retain great people in a high-turnover era.“If your players can’t tell your story, you don’t have a culture.”13:30 – 22:00 | Mitch Hull – Stress, Significance, and Identity in Coaching Mitch offers a new lens on coaching stress, athlete identity, and the power of a growth mindset. Drawing from TED Talks, psychology research, and his work with Olympic teams, this segment helps coaches rethink pressure.“It’s not stress that kills us. It’s believing stress is bad that does.”22:00 – 37:00 | John Kessel – Why Drills Don’t Teach and Feedback Fails John gives a masterclass on motor learning, explaining why kids don’t learn by watching, why training must mimic game reality, and how failing is essential to skill acquisition.“You didn’t learn to ride a bike by doing drills. You learned by riding and falling.”Key TakeawaysYoung coaches need more than energy—they need guidance in managing budgets, culture, and compliance.Retention starts with culture. If care, challenge, and consistency aren’t clear, the transfer portal will empty your roster.Stress isn't the enemy—your perception of it is. Shift to a growth mindset and help athletes do the same.Practice needs to look like play. Teach in reality, not theory. Avoid blocked drills and over-coaching.Subscribe & ShareIf this episode helped you lead or teach better—share it with someone else who coaches people, not just players. Subscribe to Beyond Coaching on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube, and explore more tools at impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com.🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts 🎧 Listen on Spotify 📺 Watch on YouTube

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, we sit down with John Kessel, the retired Director of Sport Development at USA Volleyball. With over five decades of coaching experience and contributions spanning nearly 100 countries, John shares his enduring coaching philosophy grounded in curiosity, critical thinking, and adaptation. His unique take on "motor learning," failure, and feedback provides transformative lessons for coaches in all sports.Segment Breakdown & Timestamps00:00 – 01:20 | Introduction to John KesselRob introduces John, noting his incredible career and alignment with the podcast’s "three C's" approach to coaching.01:20 – 04:26 | Kessel's Coaching JourneyJohn outlines his unconventional path from collegiate coaching to global sport development and advocacy for coach education.04:26 – 08:46 | Learning Over AthleticsA powerful shift in mindset: why coaching is about cultivating learning, not just athleticism.08:46 – 15:00 | Motor Learning ExplainedFrom bike riding to backwards bicycles—John explains how we acquire physical skills through failure and repetition.15:00 – 23:00 | Training in RealityThe importance of realistic practice environments and the dangers of over-drilling and under-playing.23:00 – 32:28 | Effective Coaching TechniquesJohn breaks down methods to provide better feedback, foster engagement, and create "12 little assistant coaches."32:28 – 42:00 | Guided Discovery and StorytellingHow storytelling enhances retention and why asking the right questions fosters independent thinking.42:00 – 47:31 | Regression to the Mean & Coaching BiasesWhat Daniel Kahneman taught him about interpreting player performance and avoiding misleading feedback loops.47:31 – 51:32 | Rapid Fire & ClosingJohn shares favorite books, impactful failures, and his definition of success—plus a teaser for “belligerent optimism.”Key Moments & Quotes“This is a learning competition, not an athletic competition.”John’s analogy of motor learning using driving and bike riding is a standout.The story about the Israeli fighter pilot instructor and Daniel Kahneman is a must-listen moment (42:00).“Catch them doing it right” – a core tenet of Kessel’s feedback philosophy.Guided discovery and the practice of saying “and” instead of “but” to reinforce positive communication.Resources & ReferencesBison Peak Lodge – Veteran & First Responder Healing RetreatJohn Kessel’s USA Volleyball Blog - “Growing the Game Together”Changing the Game Project – John O’SullivanThinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel KahnemanThe Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy GallweyBackwards Bicycle – Destin SandlinGuest Bio: John KesselJohn Kessel served as the Director of Sport Development for USA Volleyball and is one of the most respected figures in coach education. With a legacy rooted in motor learning and international impact, John continues to teach coaches around the world how to build athletes through evidence-based practices. He also runs Bison Peak Lodge, a retreat center supporting veterans and first responders.📧 Contact: [email protected] TakeawaysReal learning comes from doing, failing, and reflecting—not from repetitive drills.Coaches should shift from correction to curiosity, using guided discovery.Feedback should be specific, forward-focused, and affirming of effort and intent.Consistency and critical thinking are cornerstones of great coaching.Read Our BooksTake your coaching to the next level with our published resources, built to strengthen leadership, culture, and effectiveness in athletic programs:Impactful Coaching Project: Leading and Coaching the 21st Century Athlete A foundational guide for coaches seeking to lead with purpose, build relationships, and make lasting impact.Athletic Department Leadership: Athletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches Ideal for administrators and program leaders, this book focuses on how to cultivate a strong coaching staff and program culture.About the Impactful Coaching ProjectThis episode is brought to you by the Impactful Coaching Project, the leading platform for developing coaches who lead with purpose, integrity, and a holistic approach.The project exists to help coaches:Coach the whole personBuild transformational team culturesLearn and apply the latest in research-based coaching strategiesAccess professional development, resources, and a growing coaching communitySubscribe & Learn More: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comFollow us for updates, articles, and new episode releases.

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob and Dustin respond to a question from a college coach about recruiting and retaining athletes in the era of the transfer portal. Drawing from the Impactful Coaching Project’s core philosophy of building a “sticky” program culture, they explore how the same environment that attracts transfers is also what helps retain freshmen—and why clarity, consistency, and care still matter most.What We Cover:Why transfers and freshmen should experience the same program valuesHow to build a “sticky” program culture that athletes want to join—and stay inThe role of visual leadership and real-life stories in attracting the right fitsWhy “culture clarity” beats transactional recruitingHow to empower your current athletes as your best recruitersWays coaches can demonstrate authentic care that resonates with familiesKey Quote: "This is who we are. Take it or leave it. But if you’re here, there’s a standard—and you’re going to be cared for."Buy Our Books: Coaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete and Athletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches are available now on Amazon. These books dive deeper into the principles discussed on the podcast and are must-reads for coaches, athletic directors, and leaders who want to grow themselves and their teams. Buy now on Amazon: LinkSubscribe and Learn More: For more resources on coaching the whole person, visit impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, host Rob Ramseyer welcomes back Rob Miller, a respected national speaker, seasoned coach, and recent inductee into the NAIA Hall of Fame. Drawing from his extensive experience working with high school and college athletic programs across the country with Proactive Coaching, Miller offers deep insights into the evolving challenges of coaching in today’s sports environment.Together, they explore critical themes including the rise of young and underprepared coaches, the implications of a rapidly changing youth sports culture, and the essential—but often overlooked—distinction between leading a team and managing a program. This episode provides a blend of strategic thinking, practical advice, and enduring principles for coaches at all levels.Episode Breakdown & Timestamps00:15 – Introduction & Recognition01:11 – Emerging Coaching Trends03:30 – Declining Coaching Pools & Gender Gaps05:54 – Three Key Challenges Facing New Coaches08:33 – Leveraging Veteran Leadership11:04 – Imitation vs. Wisdom in Coaching Development13:13 – Youth Sports Culture: A Shift in Priorities16:28 – Reframing Practice for Engagement and Learning18:59 – Teaching from the Ground Up21:57 – System Fit and Sustainable Success25:37 – Final Reflections: Always Keep CoachingKey Insights“Lead your team. Manage your program.”Coaching is no longer seasonal; it’s a year-round, full-spectrum role that blends leadership, teaching, and operations.Fundamental skills are increasingly scarce in the current youth sports system.Sustainable success stems from aligning athlete recruitment with institutional values and cultural fit.Read Our BooksTake your coaching to the next level with our published resources, built to strengthen leadership, culture, and effectiveness in athletic programs:Impactful Coaching Project: Leading and Coaching the 21st Century Athlete A foundational guide for coaches seeking to lead with purpose, build relationships, and make lasting impact.Athletic Department Leadership: Athletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches Ideal for administrators and program leaders, this book focuses on how to cultivate a strong coaching staff and program culture.About the Impactful Coaching ProjectThis episode is brought to you by the Impactful Coaching Project, the leading platform for developing coaches who lead with purpose, integrity, and a holistic approach.The project exists to help coaches:Coach the whole personBuild transformational team culturesLearn and apply the latest in research-based coaching strategiesAccess professional development, resources, and a growing coaching communitySubscribe & Learn More: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob welcomes back Mitch Hull from the 3D Institute for a follow-up discussion to the popular episode, Does Winning Matter? This conversation dives deep into the tension between winning, success, and significance in coaching, athletics, and life. Mitch shares insights from his own Olympic journey, stories from elite athletes, and practical advice for coaches on building meaningful relationships and fostering long-term impact.Key Topics Discussed:✅ The difference between winning and significance – why winning matters but isn’t everything ✅ Mitch’s personal journey, including Olympic trials, setbacks, and lessons learned ✅ The post-Olympic depression phenomenon and why athletes struggle with identity ✅ The role of faith and personal purpose in navigating competition ✅ How goal-driven individuals can balance ambition with fulfillment ✅ The success vs. significance framework for coaching and leadership ✅ Why building relationships is the foundation of impactful coaching ✅ Practical tips for coaches looking to lead with purposeNotable Quotes:🗣️ “Most of us end our careers on a loss. But that doesn’t make us failures.” – Mitch Hull 🗣️ “Winning is important, but it can never be ultimate.” – Mitch Hull 🗣️ “Success is about goals. Significance is about purpose.” – Mitch Hull 🗣️ “It’s hard to be significant and not be successful. But you can be successful and never be significant.” – Mitch HullResources & Links:🔗 Follow the Impactful Coaching Project on Substack: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com 🔗 Learn more about the 3D Institute and transformational coaching: 3dinstitute.com 🔗 Connect with Rob on Twitter (X): @ICP_Project 🔗 Listen to more episodes of Beyond Coaching: beyondcoaching.alitu.com

In this podcast short, we discuss one of the most common mistakes coaches make—talking too much after games. Post-game talks often happen in highly emotional moments, and saying the wrong thing can damage trust, hurt team culture, and ultimately be ineffective.We cover:Why post-game talks should be under three minutesThe risks of emotional reactions and credibility lossThe importance of having a consistent routineWhy teams need clear expectations after every gameHow to rehearse and hold yourself accountable for better communicationWe also share real coaching stories, including mistakes we’ve made, and practical tips to improve post-game talks immediately.Quote from the Episode: "Less is more. If you're too emotional, wait. If it's important, address it at practice."Follow & Subscribe:Substack: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comPodcast Page: beyondcoaching.alitu.comTwitter (X): @ICP_ProjectInstagram: impactful_coaching_projectLinkedIn: impactful-coaching-projectFacebook: Impactful Coaching ProjectListen & Subscribe: Don’t miss out—hit follow on your favorite podcast platform.Get Our Books on Coaching and LeadershipFor deeper insights into coaching, leadership, and building strong team cultures, check out our books:Coaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete – Available on AmazonAthletic Department Leadership and Developing Coaches – Available on AmazonThese books provide practical strategies to help coaches lead effectively in today’s sports environment.

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, we sit down with Colonel James Cheatham, a 30-year educator, football coach, and Oklahoma Air National Guard officer. Colonel Cheatham shares his unique journey through coaching and leadership, discussing his time as a head football coach, a junior college defensive coordinator, and his transition into full-time military service.The conversation dives deep into:The state of high school coaching today and the challenges facing coaches.How coaches can be more intentional about teaching leadership through sports.The importance of developing mental and emotional resilience in athletes—why he believes we can’t have "marshmallows" on the field.How his experiences in the military have shaped his coaching philosophy.Strategies for onboarding young coaches and helping them embrace a growth mindset.The impact of overplaying in youth sports and how excessive competition may be dulling athletes' natural competitiveness.The importance of self-reflection and adapting coaching methods to reach Generation Z athletes.Colonel Cheatham also shares his thoughts on the role of data in coaching, the need for purposeful leadership training, and how coaches can create environments that foster resilience and accountability.Key Quotes:“Talk less, rep more. You don’t talk a player into being better—you train them into it.”"Coaches must be purposeful in leadership training—it can’t be left to chance.”"We need fewer marshmallows. Mental and emotional resilience are just as important as physical toughness.”Resources & Mentions:Impactful Coaching Project – impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comCraig Groeschel Leadership Podcast (Referenced by James Cheatham)Book Mentions:Point Man by Steve FarrarThe Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick LencioniGrit by Angela DuckworthConnect with Us:📢 Follow Beyond Coaching for more episodes on coaching leadership and athlete development. 📌 Twitter (X): @ICP_Project 📌 Instagram: impactful_coaching_project 📌 LinkedIn: Impactful Coaching Project 📌 Facebook: Impactful Coaching Project🎧 Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and more! Please share and rate!

We're diving into a thought-provoking question from one of our first paid Substack subscribers: Does winning really matter? It’s a loaded question, and we tackle it head-on—exploring the balance between success, growth, and the process of improvement. Can two teams have equally meaningful experiences, even if one wins more? Is winning the ultimate goal, or is the pursuit of excellence what truly counts?From personal coaching experiences to reflections on legendary figures like Gino Auriemma, we break down what winning means at different levels of competition. Plus, we share insights from our ongoing research on motivation—surprisingly, winning isn’t always the primary driver for athletes. Tune in for a candid discussion on the value of winning, how to define success beyond the scoreboard, and why the process might matter more than the outcome.Episode Highlights:[1:15] - The key question: Does winning matter?[3:40] - How winning influences team culture and buy-in[7:25] - The challenge of defining success beyond wins and losses[12:10] - Personal coaching lessons: finding small wins within the game[17:00] - What research says about motivation—why winning isn’t the top priority for athletes[21:45] - The Gino Auriemma story: shifting the focus from championships to daily improvement[27:30] - Balancing recognition and staying process-orientedLinks & Resources:Follow us on Substack and leave your thoughts in the comments at impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comEnjoyed the episode?If you liked this conversation, be sure to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Share it with a friend who loves sports and leadership discussions. We appreciate your support!

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, we sit down with Joey Reinart, Athletic Director and Assistant Principal at Tonkawa High School in Oklahoma. Joey shares his journey from volunteer coaching little league baseball to leading transformational change as a head football coach and now as an athletic director.Joey dives into how he built a championship culture at Chisholm High School, turning a struggling football program into a thriving, multi-sport powerhouse. He explains how investing in kids beyond the field, building trust with parents, and fostering cross-sport collaboration created an environment where student-athletes could excel.Key Topics Covered:Building a Program from Scratch: How Joey transformed a 3-win football program into a perennial playoff contender.Investing in Athletes: The importance of training athletes to be the best in any sport, not just football.3D Coaching Framework: How the principles of 3D coaching helped unite his coaching staff, engage parents, and motivate kids.Generational Coaching: Insights into how Gen Z athletes differ from past generations—and how to connect with them effectively.Leadership Lessons: How failures shaped his success and why delegation has become a critical habit in his current leadership role.Joey’s passion for coaching the whole person shines through as he shares practical strategies for building relationships, developing leadership, and creating sustainable success in athletics.Rapid-Fire Takeaways:Book Recommendation: The Pack – A leadership guide for building team culture.Defining Success: Seeing students engaged, teachers energized, and a school community thriving.Connect with Us: Subscribe to our Substack: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.comFollow Impactful Coaching Project on social media: Follow Us & Stay Connected! Twitter (X): @ICP_Project Instagram: impactful_coaching_project LinkedIn: Impactful Coaching Project Facebook: Impactful Coaching ProjectFor more episodes, go to beyondcoaching.alitu.com.Enjoy the episode, and don’t forget to share it with fellow coaches, educators, and leaders striving to make an impact!

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob is joined by Troy Black and Dylan Heath, two experienced coaches working with junior high and high school athletes at Wichita (KS) Collegiate School. They discuss the evolving landscape of youth sports, from fostering a fun and engaging environment to managing competitive expectations. The conversation explores building successful programs, balancing parent involvement, and coaching the modern athlete in an era dominated by club sports and social pressures.Key Topics Discussed: ✔️ Building Programs That Last – How strong mentorship and leadership shape youth athletic programs. ✔️ The Fun vs. Competitive Drive Debate – How to keep kids engaged while fostering a winning mindset. ✔️ The Role of Parents in Youth Sports – The pros and cons of early specialization and club sports culture. ✔️ Developing Athletes Beyond the Game – How sports teach resilience, patience, and teamwork. ✔️ Motivating Today’s Athletes – Insights into what truly drives young athletes to compete.Memorable Quotes:📢 "If kids know you care about them as people first, they’ll do almost anything for you." – Troy Black📢 "We want kids to have fun, develop skills, and love the game. The competitive side comes later." – Dylan HeathRapid Fire Round Highlights:📚 Book Recommendation: There’s Only One Way to Win by Vince Lombardi🏆 Defining Success: Seeing former athletes return and staying connected after their playing days.📖 New Habit: Reading more coaching and leadership books to improve as a mentor.About Beyond Coaching:Beyond Coaching is a podcast by the Impactful Coaching Project, in partnership with Friends University. Our mission is to help coaches develop 21st-century athletes by focusing on leadership, personal growth, and impactful coaching strategies.🔗 Subscribe & Listen:🎧 Beyond Coaching on Substack🎧 Beyond Coaching on AlituFollow Us & Stay Connected!📍 Twitter (X): @ICP_Project📍 Instagram: impactful_coaching_project📍 LinkedIn: Impactful Coaching Project📍 Facebook: Impactful Coaching Project

In this episode of Beyond Coaching, Rob sits down with Kirk Kelley, the Athletic Director and Head Baseball Coach at Oklahoma Wesleyan University. With over 35 years of experience in athletics, Kirk shares his coaching journey, the power of building authentic relationships, and how he balances leading both athletes and fellow coaches.Whether you're a seasoned coach or just starting out, Kirk’s wisdom and real-world experiences will leave you with practical takeaways on leadership, mentorship, and coaching with integrity.Key Takeaways: ✅ The Power of Relationships – Why genuine connections with athletes and colleagues shape long-term success. ✅ Core Coaching Values – The principles Kirk has upheld for decades: discipline, accountability, and teamwork. ✅ Balancing Dual Leadership Roles – Insights on managing responsibilities as an Athletic Director and Head Coach without sacrificing effectiveness. ✅ Coaching the Modern Athlete – How social media and external influences impact today’s athletes and the importance of staying authentic. ✅ Learning from Failure – Kirk’s approach to lifelong learning, journaling, and the "one-day contract" mindset inspired by Rick Pitino.Rapid-Fire Round Highlights:📚 Book Recommendation: The Carolina Way by Dean Smith – A must-read for coaches and leaders.🏆 Defining Success: Seeing former players return with gratitude for the lessons they learned.🔄 New Habit: Practicing the "one-day contract" approach to focus on daily excellence.Memorable Quotes from Kirk Kelley:“The biggest compliment you can ever get is when your former teammates call you a great teammate.”“I’ve never had a player come back and say, ‘Coach, I wish I wouldn’t have worked so hard.’”“It’s okay to say you don’t know something—it makes you more effective when you admit it.”About Beyond CoachingBeyond Coaching is a podcast by the Impactful Coaching Project, in partnership with Friends University. Our mission is to help coaches develop 21st-century athletes by focusing on leadership, personal growth, and impactful coaching strategies.🔗 Subscribe & Listen: 🎧 impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com 🎧 beyondcoaching.alitu.comFollow Us & Stay Connected!📍 Twitter (X): @ICP_Project📍 Instagram: impactful_coaching_project📍 LinkedIn: Impactful Coaching Project📍 Facebook: Impactful Coaching ProjectIf you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review, and share it with fellow coaches and leaders!

In this episode, Rob and Dustin explore the idea of being the coach you wanted as an athlete—but is that really the best approach? They dive into the balance between authenticity and adaptability, how coaching styles must evolve with different personalities and team dynamics, and the importance of systems over attitudes in leadership.Key Topics:✅ Why the coach you wanted may not be the coach your players need✅ The balance between honesty, care, and motivation✅ How personality (introvert vs. extrovert) impacts coaching style✅ Building coaching frameworks that align with who you are✅ The importance of curiosity and continuous growth in leadershipNotable Quotes:💡 "Being a great coach isn’t about mimicking your role models—it’s about being the best version of who you are."💡 "Coaching isn’t an attitude; it’s a system. The best coaches are consistent and intentional in their approach."💡 "Your players don’t need a different you every day—they need a consistent leader they can count on."📖 Want to Take Your Coaching to the Next Level?Check out our book, Coaching and Leading the 21st Century Athlete, available now on Amazon! It’s packed with strategies to help coaches navigate the modern athlete’s mindset and build strong, effective teams. 👉https://a.co/d/dCN9CXuJoin the Conversation!👉 Share your thoughts in the comments on Substack: impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com👉 Follow us on social media:📍 Twitter (X): @ICP_Project📍 Instagram: impactful_coaching_project📍 LinkedIn: Impactful Coaching Project📍 Facebook: Impactful Coaching Project

Discussion with Dr. Steve Dittmore sheds light on the challenges faced by colleges depending on athletic programs for enrollment. Highlighting notable campus closures, he suggests that institutions with 44% or more of their students as athletes could be at financial risk. Furthermore, he emphasizes the importance of parents and student-athletes making realistic decisions on college selection, acknowledging the potential hidden costs and retention issues associated with competitive sports programs.Check out Dr. Dittmore on Substack at https://stevedittmore.substack.com/.Beyond Coaching is a podcast of the Impactful Coaching Project. The Impactful Coaching Project seeks to develop coaches that coach the whole person. ICP is the thought leader in coaching the 21st century athlete and produces training, information, and original research to help coaches develop. It is done in partnership with Friends University in Wichita, KS. For more information, check out https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com/.

Bruce Brown from Proactive Coaching affirms that discipline and selflessness create the foundation for an athletic culture of character. Bruce discusses how monitoring and managing social media use is essential for athletes' mental health, citing the need for external experts to guide athletes through this digital arena. He also stresses the importance for athletes to learn how to self motivate and begin to create their own success. This conversation highlights how relationship dynamics, self-direction, and external influences shape motivation in sports.

Dustin Galyon is the co-founder of "The Impactful Coaching Project" is a celebrated and award winning speaker in coach.  As a collegiate coach, he spent a decade coaching college basketball and is now a college golf coach.  In both sports, he lead his teams to unprecedented heights.  He is also a nationally recognized speaker who speaks on topics of leadership, faith, customer service, and culture. This podcast episode delves into the importance of understanding and embracing generational differences in coaching and leadership. The hosts, with guest Dustin, reflect on their own failures and learning experiences, and how these shaped their approach to coaching Generation Z. They discuss the changes in coaching styles and strategies needed to effectively connect with this generation, emphasizing the significance of empathy, grit, and process-oriented coaching. The conversation highlights the need for coaches to adapt and meet the unique needs and motivations of Generation Z athletes, and to focus on creating a cohesive team environment. Ultimately, the podcast emphasizes the importance of continuous learning and growth as leaders, as well as the transformative power of understanding and valuing the individuals we coach. Beyond Coaching is a podcast of the Impactful Coaching Project.  The Impactful Coaching Project seeks to develop coaches that coach the whole person.  ICP is the thought leader in coaching the 21st century athlete and produces training, information, and original research to help coaches develop. It is done in partnership with Friends University in Wichita, KS.  For more information, check out https://impactfulcoachingproject.substack.com/.

This episode Beyond Coaching is Part 2 of the conversation with Dr. Jesse Godding. The conversation touches on the differences between generations, especially with the advent of Generation Z in the sporting space. Despite changes in technology and social interaction, the core human need for love, acceptance, and direction remains constant. Consequently, successful coaches treat their athletes as people and recognize these enduring needs.The Impactful Coaching Project (ICP) aims to transform coaching by helping coaches adopt a holistic approach to coaching and leadership. ICP serves as a leader in helping coaches lead the 21st Century Athlete. We offer a variety of training programs, resources, and research to help coaches grow in their roles. By highlighting the connections between mental, emotional, and physical health, ICP provides coaches with the tools they need to promote healthy team environments that achieve at a high level. Our commitment to innovative coaching practices empowers coaches to create environments that encourage resilience, teamwork, and personal growth.Our book is now available! "Leading and Coaching the 21st Century Athlete" by Dustin Galyon and Rob Ramseyer is now available on Amazon!