Confessions of a Lover Girl

Some comforting words for hearts that are feeling a bit bruised by love. You are not difficult to love, and love is always rooting for you!

Sometimes love feels like a choice, a process, an inevitability. It is elusive and undefinable, but its very clear when it is present. In this episode I explore a few things I find challenging and invigorating about trying to define love itself.

Introducing the podcast formerly known as "Stories and Philosophies." Sharing where I've been since the last time we talked and why I'm pivoting into talking about love.

To round out Women’s history month I talk about the details of what it feels like to dive into full time entrepreneurship again & I take a moment to celebrate the other self resourced women entrepreneurs. Here are a few things I’ve learned 2 years in!

In this episode Salem explores what happens when you've created an almost perfect bubble of care for yourself and still life happens. 

HI friends, Salem is back with your favorite story telling podcast. Lets talk about letting ourselves off the hook a bit this year. Because whew Chile, its year 3 of a pandemic. Happy 2/22/22!

Season 3 is all about our relationship to change. In this episode I dive into a few experiences I’ve had to uncouple with friends and lovers. How I’ve learnt to manage my own energy around shifting relationships and bounce back from the fragility that can come from ending relationships. Enjoy!

In this first episode of season 3 I talk about Nigeria as one of my home bases. The philosophy of the episode is centered around the wisdom to be found in exploring versions of ourselves we have consistently identified with for long periods of time and making space for them.

Here I share the journey to feeling confident. Doing the work for me in the space between my 25th and 26th year looked like being intention about building my own confidence compass.

Coming to you live from an ACTUAL West African Beach!! I was feeling so magical as I brought in my birthday and had to pull out my phone to capture the vibes 💞

So I’ve been hibernating in West Africa, here’s the real reason why.

In the previous episode I talked about sadness as a state of being. In this one I’m sharing some key things that have helped me move through my sadness. And into a state of more expansive joy. This is for anyone moving through difficult and heavy emotions. I see you!

In this episode I talk about how to hold grief and creating new baselines for our emotional selves when life shifts happen

Here I share a mashup of my top favorite travel sensations from the 7 African Nations I’ve been to.

In this episode I sit with my friend, travel writer extraordinaire, podcaster, and the only other person I know in the West who grew up in my hometown about storytelling. We have a kitchen table conversation about our motivations for writing, archiving, storytelling.

I have my mom on the studio today. We talk about mother/daughter tings, parenting fails, and what we enjoy about each other. Enjoy loves

This is a seasonal October episode that serves as a year in review of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt in a particular year. 24 began with a reminder to not just intellectualize and conceptualize my ideas around pleasure, but to work them out in real life in an embodied way. I have also been challenged to build deeper community where I feel seen and supported.. and to pay attention to my inner child. Here are my stories and philosophies.

In this episode I dive deeper into the realization of being a displaced person, explain the insidious nature of displacement and mental and emotional turmoil of feeling unsettled in where one calls home.

Exploring the theme of season 2 and why investing in our interior world is important.

Hi humans. Thank you so much to everyone who listened in for season 1. This is a little preview of what I have waiting for you in season 2 of the stories and Philosophies podcast. Season 2 coming to you in July!!

This special valentines week episode brings ponderings on what romantic love is. Why I stopped reading romance. Why I started re-reading it! What is confusing about romantic love and the advice that “when you know you know.”

Happy 2019 loves!! On this very first episode of the year I decided to share space with my friend Tiffany who also identifies as a philosopher. Obvi we had to talk about the intersections of being young, black, women and OUT HERE philosophizing. Tiff and I met on our trip to the Motherland and after sharing an immersive couple of weeks in the warm west African sun, we bonded on a lot of things and I can’t wait for you to witness her stories and philosophies. And this AMAZING conversation we shared together!

Reflecting on another end of the year & how ending 2018 feels like how 2007 ended. Here’s to entering into 2019 with hope against all reason to hope.

Sharing raw emotions around how messy an ending can be & giving context for why we can’t just tell people to “move on to the next thing” without supporting them with space to grieve the thing they are leaving behind. Don’t listen if you are scared of a woman being emotionally & tearing up in a podcast.

Here I share a play by play of what happens when we are triggered, how that’s different from getting hooked. And what it has looked like for me to take me time to unravel all those knots that Scorpio season has brought to me.

A story about how the idea of my own worthiness affected the ways I choose to show up on birthdays past and what changed this year.

As I prepare to turn 24 in November i'll be reflecting on some of my strongest affirmations for year 23. This one is about learning to be at home in a round, curvy body with a tummy that isn’t flat & thighs that definitely touch. Let’s explore what it feels like to not only be just accept a body but to adore it!

As I prepare to turn 24 in November i'll be reflecting on some of my strongest affirmations for year 23. This one is about learning to be easeful and gentle with myself through transition

Three relationship/situationships with men that have been very influential to the way I currently look at intimate friendships with men.

The story is about a pretty dehumanizing and somewhat embarrassing money experience that happened to me recently and how I chose to view the experience as an opportunity for growth rather than letting it lead me to a loop of self doubt

A story about matriachs: how they shape us, the potential of the relationship. How a bit of intentionality can go a long way. The philosophy is around communication through language barriers.

What can the process of having a first period teach a girl about life?