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This week we’re going to be talking about dealing with tough times. Not just dealing with tough times, but beating them. You’ve been there, all of a sudden the world seems to have you in its sights. You look outside and it’s a bright sunny day but when you go out, you look up and BOOM! There’s a dark cloud spitting lightening right over the top of you. What to do? That’s what we’re going to deal with this week. Today we’re going to discuss getting yourself in control, as hard as that sounds. If your tough times are like mine, you’re not going to be able to control most of what’s going on around you and the only thing you’ve got any shot at controlling is how you react. And how you act. Believe it or not – and it’s hard to believe when the lightening is striking all around you – how you react and act makes all the difference in the world. It can actually turn a disaster into a good thing. Really. Bottom line is you really don’t have to react immediately so take a deep breath and back away from the attack. Don’t react, think it through and act.

We all want to be liked.  It feels good to be liked.  The problem is, most of us don’t know what to do to be liked.  Here’s the secret!  You have to be likeable. That wasn’t hard, was it? In this week’s podcasts I’m covering exactly what you need to do to be likeable … and then guess what?  People are going to like you.  They’re going to fall all over themselves to like you. So far we’ve discussed being polite, saying thank you, offering praise, empathy, sharing, and helping. Today, we’re looking at being confident, remembering names, and expressing faith.

We all want to be liked.  It feels good to be liked.  The problem is, most of us don’t know what to do to be liked.  Here’s the secret!  You have to be likeable. That wasn’t hard, was it? In this week’s podcasts I’m covering exactly what you need to do to be likeable … and then guess what?  People are going to like you.  They’re going to fall all over themselves to like you. Yesterday we discussed being polite, acknowledging people when they do something for you, and offering praise. Today, we’re looking at empathy, sharing, and helping.

We all want to be liked.  It feels good to be liked.  The problem is, most of us don’t know what to do to be liked.  Here’s the secret!  You have to be likeable. That wasn’t hard, was it? Over the next five podcasts I’m going to cover exactly what you need to do to be likeable … and then guess what?  People are going to like you.  They’re going to fall all over themselves to like you. Today, we’re going to talk about being polite, acknowledging people when they do something for you, and offering praise.

This week we’ve looked at what it takes to really Set Yourself Apart from the crowd and advance your career.  We know that being good, or even the best, at your current job won’t make it.  That just gets you considered.  Maybe. We’re on our final chapter, and if you’ve missed the previous episodes you can catch up at our website – wementoryou.org – or iTunes.  So far we’ve looked at communication, critical thinking, making our leaders’ goals our goals, and how to be someone special. Today we’re talking about the importance of telling a good story.

This week we’re looking at what it takes to really Set Yourself Apart from the crowd and advance your career.  Hint:  being good, or even the best, at your current job won’t make it.  That just gets you considered.  Maybe. We’re over the hump, and if you’ve missed the previous episodes you can catch up at our website – wementoryou.org – or iTunes.  So far we’ve looked at communication, critical thinking, and making our leaders’ goals our goals. Today, it’s time to be someone special.

This week we’re looking at what it takes to really Set Yourself Apart from the crowd and advance your career.  Hint:  being good, or even the best, at your current job won’t make it.  That just gets you considered.  Maybe. So far we’ve looked at communication and critical thinking.  If you missed either of those you can catch up at our website – wementoryou.org – or iTunes. Today, we’re going to make our leaders’ goals our goals.

This week we’re looking at what it takes to really Set Yourself Apart from the crowd and advance your career.  Hint:  being good, or even the best, at your current job won’t make it.  That just gets you considered.  Maybe. Yesterday we looked at communication and why being a master is critical to moving out of your current chair.  Today, it’s the importance of critical thinking.

This week we’re going to look at what it takes to really Set Yourself Apart from the crowd and advance your career.  Hint:  being good, or even the best, at your current job won’t make it.  That just gets you considered.  Maybe. Today we’re going to look at communication and why being a master is critical to moving out of your current chair.

Today is not forever.  You will get through this.  Successfully. What to do when the world drops in on you? So far in our series we've talked about the need to "get away." Separate yourself from the problem even if only for a few minutes. Take enough time to clear your head and get your emotions out of the mix. Next, refocus on your goal, get your eyes off the problem long enough to remember why you started the journey in the first place. Next, we began fixing the problem by focusing on the solution not the problem and then we let our positive attitude become contagious and defeat the problem. Today, our final day, we're going to remember that today is not the end.  You will get through this successfully.  You've done it before, you'll do it today, and you'll do it again when it happens again.  Because it will.  But that's OK.

Make sure you've got a positive attitude and demeanor and spread it. What to do when the world drops in on you? So far in our series we've talked about the need to "get away." Separate yourself from the problem even if only for a few minutes. Take enough time to clear your head and get your emotions out of the mix. Next, refocus on your goal, get your eyes off the problem long enough to remember why you started the journey in the first place. Yesterday we began fixing the problem by focusing on the solution not the problem. Today, we let our positive attitude become contagious and defeat the problem.

Focus on Solutions Not Problems What to do when the world drops in on you?  So far in our series we've talked about the need to "get away."  Separate yourself from the problem even if only for a few minutes.  Take enough time to clear your head and get your emotions out of the mix.  Next, refocus on your goal, get your eyes off the problem long enough to remember why you started the journey in the first place. Today, we're going to start fixing the problem. Focus on the solution not the problem.  Focusing on the problem is important, eventually.  You need to understand why things got off track, but your first priority needs to be getting back on track and you do that by focusing on solutions.

When it feels like your life is crumbling around you it's easy to forget why you were doing what you were doing.  Yesterday we talked about getting away from the battle for at least a moment so you can separate your emotions and act rationally.   Today, we're going to make sure we use that time wisely by focusing on the reason we're under fire.  Focus on the goal.  Remember why you started the journey in the first place.

One of the most important things you can do when you're faced with a crisis is get away from the point of the attack.   Unless it's a life threatening situation, you don't need to react immediately.  What you need to do is separate yourself emotionally so you can address what's happening logically.  That will save you from an emotional - and almost always - very bad decision.

In this, the last episode of Building Your Confidence, it's time to begin to really define who the "new you" is.  This will take some time, but it will be the best time you've spent because it will set the path for the rest of your life. You can do it.  You CAN be the extraordinary "new you."  If you're struggling, drop us an email at [email protected] or use the contact form on the website, wementoryou.org. We're in this with you, and we know you can do it.

So far we've discussed how to build a strong foundation for your confidence.  Yesterday we looked at making a Confidence Contract with ourselves, setting an achievable goal, and following up on it. Today, we're going to build on the foundation some more by taking a hard look at the people we spend time with and by selecting a role model.

We're half way through today.  You should have your foundation for your new confident you being built, now it's time to take some action. A confidence contract will give you a target to shoot for and it's important to follow up on your progress.  That way you can begin to celebrate your successes.

We're putting down a foundation upon which you're going to build a new confident you.  Yesterday we looked at drinking water and being grateful.  Today, it's deep breathing and starting the day off with a win by doing something as simple as making your bed.

Really, tap water and gratitude will help you build the foundation of a whole new level of confidence that will change your life. This series looks at simple steps that will take about 10 minutes every day and will build a new, confident, you.  Please just give them a try.  If you don't think it works, there's a full misery back guarantee.

Family time should be prime time not spare time.  It's family time that you'll remember when you can't remember anything else and it's family time that you'll one day wish you could have had more of. Guess what?  You can.  Make sure you make it happen.

There's not much in life that is more important to you than reading.  It fights stress, helps you sleep, and makes you a well rounded person.  And all in just a few minutes a day.  Plus, it's enjoyable. Try it!  You'll like it.

There's more to life than work.  There's more to life than you.  Today we're talking about finding that "more."  You can begin to find it through devotion - spending some time each day focusing on great thoughts - and you'll also find you're recharged.  And then there's service.  To others.  Giving from your heart.  It's also called living a life of gratefulness.

In part two of our series on wise use of your spare time we're looking at making learning a lifetime process.  It keeps your mind active, and will make you significantly more productive at everything you do.

It's not just OK to have spare time, it's essential.  Today we're looking at exercise and having a hobby.  They'll clear the fog bank out of your head and help you to refocus.   Make the most of every minute of time, use it wisely.

When you have to face adversity, a smile will calm the waters and give you the opportunity to build relationships.  Being able to build stronger relationships in hard times is the sign of real leadership and will set you apart from the crowd.

Since most people shy away from confrontation, you can show real leadership by not only being willing to confront problems but do it in a way that builds relationships.   That is real leadership.

If you're going to successfully face adversity and make your confrontation a win-win, you'd better have a plan.  Even a bad plan is better than no plan, but here are the basic elements of a great plan.

Today we look at two more points that will show your leadership in handling confrontation.  Empathy and finding a neutral venue.  The goal of confrontation is not win at any cost, it's do the right thing and build relationships.

Today starts a five part series on dealing with confrontation.  If you want to set yourself apart, if you want to be a leader, you have to learn how to deal with confrontation effectively. Today we're looking at why you need to deal with confrontation sooner rather than later and why it is important to separate your emotions from the confrontation.

It's our final day and we learn that irresistible people smile, they look great, and they love and celebrate life.  They not only celebrate their life, they encourage others to do the same.   Incredible people change lives.

If you're going to be irresistible you've got to be authentic and your integrity can never be questioned.  No one should ever have to guess about who you are, your priorities, or your word.

To be irresistible you need to focus on those around you and not yourself.  You also need to be able to separate fact from opinion and be able to agree to disagree with a smile on your face.

Using small talk as a stepping stone to really connecting with those around you will help them open up and you'll be building solid relationships in no time.

You know someone who is irresistible.  People are drawn to them like a magnet and everybody wants to be with them.  Nobody is sure why.  Guess what?  You can be irresistible too.  You already know how and not much effort is involved.

Ever feel like you’re just one of the crowd? There couldn’t possibly be anything special about you. You’re never going to get anywhere beyond where you are right now. Thank God you’ve only got 30 more years until you retire. It doesn't have to be that way!

People who set goals and achieve them rise to the top. Those who set goals and ignore them find themselves looking up at their counterparts. Are you going to be looking up or down at this time next year?

Sad but true, many people don’t know how to communicate. They sure know how to talk or write but as for “communicating,” not so much. If you follow these simple rules when you communicate, you'll be the guy or gal in the cape.

Life isn’t fair. There are losers. Which also means there are winners. And if you’re not prepared to win, you will lose.

Do you choose your path in life or do you let others choose it for you?  Just who has to do the walking?