After Thoughts

In this episode of After Thoughts, we reflect on the emotional intelligence episode and end up going even deeper. From childhood trauma and religious guilt to songwriting and the resistance that shows up when we try to grow, this is one of our most honest and wide-ranging conversations yet.We talk about why it's so hard to process emotions, the baggage we carry without even realizing it, and how much lighter life feels when we start letting go. We also share behind-the-scenes moments from launching Josiah’s new group coaching program, the fears it brought up, and the surprising freedom that came from facing them.IN THIS EPISODE:🔹 The weight of emotions — Why even ignored emotions still drain us, and how emotional intelligence lightens the load.🔹 Obsessing instead of feeling — How Fives fixate on “solvable” problems to avoid unresolved emotions.🔹 Social survival and trauma — Josiah shares how being a social pariah in eighth grade shaped his life—and still affects him.🔹 Sex, guilt, and the church — Cody opens up about the complex relationship between religious shame and sexuality.🔹 Letting go of the editor — Both hosts share creative breakthroughs in songwriting and writing by learning to stop overthinking.🔹 Creating something that matters — Josiah reflects on launching Beyond the Mind, the resistance he overcame, and what it means for Fives.

In this After Thoughts episode, we reflect on our two-part friendship series—what it stirred up, what it revealed, and how it's been showing up in our lives since. We unpack our evolving definitions of friendship, the tension between connection and solitude, and how FaceTime calls, memes, and unexpected soccer games have become surprising measures of closeness.We also get real about how easy it is for Fives to fall into isolation, the emotional weight of unmet expectations, and the healing power of being present with someone who just gets you.IN THIS EPISODE:🔹 Behind the Friendship Episodes — How we felt listening back, and what we didn’t expect to feel. 🔹 Seasonal Solitude — Why some stretches of life feel more isolated, and how we’ve been navigating that. 🔹 Friendship and Burnout — The quiet role friends play in helping us remember who we are when life gets heavy. 🔹 The FaceTime Test — A weirdly accurate way to gauge who really counts in your inner circle. 🔹 Unspoken Expectations — Why we sometimes pull away without saying why—and how we’re learning to handle that differently. 🔹 From Sitcom Vibes to Soccer Fandom — Reflections on unexpected bonding moments and why they matter more than we think.

Hey everyone, we're back with another After Thoughts episode—this time unpacking our conversation on intuition. This one takes some turns...We get into how our Five wings shape the way we approach intuition, with Josiah leaning more into the mystical side while Cody stays grounded in practicality. That leads us into a discussion on how our worldviews have shifted over time, especially in relation to religion, belief, and questioning what’s "real."Somehow, we also end up talking about remote viewing, telepathic kids, quantum entanglement, and whether intuition is just a hidden ability we’ve ignored. Plus, there's a completely ridiculous moment where we somehow guess each other’s thoughts—twice in a row.If you've ever wondered whether intuition is legit or just pattern-seeking run amok, this episode might give you something new to think about. Or at the very least, you’ll get to hear us blow our own minds in real time.

Hey, we're back with another After Thoughts episode—our unfiltered, unstructured debrief where we process the Anxiety episode in real-time. This one's all about anxiety and, fittingly, it goes all over the place.We talk about how our own anxiety levels have shifted since we recorded the Anxiety episode nearly a year ago, how AI has unexpectedly helped us break free from overthinking, and the weird paradox of how Fives can feel more comfortable on video than in photos. Cody also shares how AI changed his songwriting process, and Josiah explains why he finally tackled a project he’d avoided for years (spoiler: it involves escaping Apple's walled garden).Somehow, we also end up talking about The Bear, the overwhelming nature of content creation, and whether people will ever be able to tell our voices apart in audio.Expect some solid reflections, a few unexpected tangents, and maybe even a laugh or two.

[A.I. Generated] As the curtain falls on another season, I find myself reflecting on the profound journey we've shared, from exposing the raw edges of mental health to celebrating the quirky victories of our beloved podcast. With our final episode, I invite you to join me as we toast to the episodes that captivated us, the surprises in download spikes, and the laughter that filled our studio. It’s a candid look back at the moments that defined our season, including how a deep dive into attachment styles led to a personal epiphany and my own dance with anxiety—a teaser to an entire episode dedicated to this ubiquitous shadow that we plan to unpack next season.Setting the tone for the next chapter, we revel in the polished soundscapes that have become a signature of our podcast, thanks to technical triumphs in music and editing. I share a laugh over my weekend battle with workshop materials, which only cemented my resolution for a staycation, much needed after the personal milestones we've crossed. With a future as bright as the electric guitar riffs now gracing our episodes, we close this season with hearts full, heads high, and a teaser of the hair-rising topics awaiting us when we return. Stay tuned, our adventure is just hitting its stride.

[A.I. Generated] Ever found yourself laughing at the thought of how a simple candlelit dinner could transform your family dynamics? Or pondered deep into the night about balancing convenience with the richness of human connection? Welcome to an episode where we peel back the layers to uncover the strength of bonds formed through vulnerability, the warmth of shared traditions, and the delightful absurdity of life's untimely spoilers.Navigating the world of family, therapy, and personal growth takes center stage as we share stories of overcoming the pull of social media and the critical inner voice to foster deeper connections with our loved ones. We reflect on the serendipity of improving relationships through tech-free activities and the unanticipated therapeutic benefits of dim, flickering candlelight during family dinners. The episode culminates with a candid discussion on the interplay of anxiety and vulnerability, revealing how embracing our discomfort can lead to truer, more profound connections.As we wrap up, join us for some heartfelt ruminations on the friendships that fortify us, the shared experiences that heal, and the anticipatory buzz of what lies ahead. From the tranquility found in a week free from anxiety to the invigorating promise of future guests and seasons, this episode is a tapestry of insights, chuckles, and revelations about the everyday choices that shape our lives and relationships.

[A.I. Generated] Ever faced the challenge of editing your own voice, scrutinizing the rawness of your personal experiences? That's the vulnerability I grappled with in our latest episode, and it was no less daunting than the first time I hit record. Delving into the art of podcast production, we marveled at the journey our show has taken, now enhanced with a melodic flair. Sam, our cherished guest, joined us once again, offering a tantalizing hint at a greater role in future episodes with her profound insights as a female Enneagram Type Five.This episode unfurls the enigmatic tapestry of intuition, especially as it resonates with analytical minds like ours. I confess my reservations about social media, even as our posts about intuition struck a chord with our audience, prompting us to muse over the blend of instinct, experience, and knowledge that intuition embodies. For Type Fives, could this be our superpower? Stay tuned for a dedicated exploration into this captivating subject that promises to intrigue and enlighten.Sharing laughs and life's awkward moments, we touch on the delicate dance of living with Asperger's Syndrome. From the nuanced challenges of communication to the critical importance of self-awareness in emotional processing, I peel back the layers of my personal strategies for social harmony. And in true spirit of spontaneity, we wrap up with an amusing tale about the unexpected honesty behind a run-of-the-mill excuse — a lighthearted reminder that sometimes, life's simplest truths make the most compelling stories. Join us for this intimate blend of introspection, giggles, and genuine connection. Good night, everybody.

[A.I. Generated] Have you ever felt tethered to goals and commitments, only to find yourself unraveling under the weight of them? That's where I found myself, struggling to keep up with my writing and fitness, teetering on the brink of a depressive episode. Join us as we peel back the layers of commitment and engagement, revealing the raw and often humorous tales that have shaped our understanding. We're cracking open the book on last summer's mysterious event I've been teasing, and we'll dissect the whims of audience engagement that surprised us with an unexpected twist.With a blend of laughter and eye-opening realizations, we navigate the maze of job-hopping and burnout, and the unexpected impact it has on family dynamics. My journey through different professions, from the high hopes of songwriting to the reality of financial instability, has been a rollercoaster that many of you can relate to. We candidly discuss the dilemma of staying in unsatisfying roles versus the fear of the unknown, and how these professional gambles intertwine with our personal lives.As we wrap up this episode, we delve into the intricate dance between anxiety, personal growth, and our evolving relationships. Through the stories of our own romantic partnerships, we uncover the profound effects of anxiety medication and self-awareness on our ability to commit. Reflecting on the organic growth of our podcast, we celebrate how sharing these personal narratives has allowed you, our listeners, to grow along with us, creating a tapestry of transformation that is both intimate and universally relatable.

[A.I. Generated] Ever had one of those days where even spellcheck can't save you from the embarrassment of a typo in a chapter title? Yeah, we've been there too. This episode is all about embracing our imperfections with a chuckle, as we revisit a theme that's both comical and cringe-worthy: incompetence. Tag along for a heart-to-heart as we delve into the nuances of friendship, teasing, and the absolute necessity of clear communication. It's a candid confessional of past blunders and the learnings that have toughened the fibers of our long-standing kinship.Have you ever found yourself side-eyeing a friend's seemingly perfect life and feeling like you're lagging behind? We get it, and we're unpacking those emotions of insecurity and inferiority with no holds barred. This heart-to-heart dissects the twisted tapestry of professional and personal growth, ponders the distorted reflections of success, and commiserates over the inevitable task of picking up the slack left by others at work. Remember, we're all works in progress, and this chat is our virtual group hug, a reminder that everyone's journey is unique and equally worth celebrating.Now, for a stroll down memory lane that's as comforting as your favorite childhood blanket. We share how past passions, like setting up systems in a wine shop or geeking out over Pokémon, have left an indelible mark on our sense of competence and shaped who we are today. We also give you a peek behind the curtain of our creative process, from juggling the demands of an alcohol distribution gig to hitting the right notes for our podcast's music. It's a blend of nostalgia, creativity, and a toast to the continuous growth that keeps us all on our toes. Join us for this intimate journey, and let's raise a glass to the evolution of our interests and the personal milestones we've conquered along the way.

[A.I. Generated] As we shed the shackles of a camera's gaze, our latest podcast session unfolds with a raw authenticity that's both refreshing and revealing. With a nostalgic nod to our initial awkwardness after a break, we uncover the unexpectedly rich tapestry of our conversation. From chuckling over quirky hair tales to exposing the delicate threads of childhood wounds, our dialogue dances between laughter and introspection, offering a rare glimpse into the genuine ebb and flow of our thoughts.During this heart-to-heart, I found myself confronting an emotional milestone: the recognition of my place on the autism spectrum. This discovery cast a retrospective light on the contours of my younger years, bringing forth a poignant discussion about how my family's well-meaning responses to my unique challenges inadvertently shaped my approach to emotional expression. This segment of our conversation serves as a testament to the profound influence of childhood encounters and the importance of nurturing empathy and understanding in our relationships.Navigating the tightrope of parenthood and partnership, we candidly share the strains and triumphs of family life. We acknowledge the imperfections that come with raising children and stress the crucial act of making amends swiftly when we falter. Through stories of anxiety, bereavement, and the exhilaration of fathering three spirited boys, we underscore the essentiality of forging open channels of communication. As we offer these personal revelations, we hope that these recorded moments might someday provide our offspring with a deeper comprehension of who we are, leaving a lasting legacy of love and honesty.

[A.I. Generated 🤖] Embark with us on an intimate odyssey through the transformative landscape of therapy, where my own revelations in internal family systems and EMDR unearth the capacity for profound emotional shifts. As my co-host and I peel back the layers of our healing journeys, we pave the way for a dialogue about the milestones of mental wellness and the power of therapy to unlock new possibilities within us. From gut-wrenching triggers to chest-level manageability, our personal tales of therapy are not just confessions but testaments to the resilience and adaptability of the human spirit.Imagine your living room hosting not just conversations but also your fitness aspirations, all while your guitar waits patiently to channel your day's tensions into melodies. In this exchange, we explore the seamless integration of creativity and well-being, from chic dumbbell sets to the cathartic strum of a guitar string. Join us as we navigate the barriers to creativity, the fatigue of the daily grind, and the euphoria of artistic release. Each song, each note, is more than sound—it's the echo of our journey through self-expression and the puzzle of songwriting that challenges and satisfies us in equal measure.Dive into the raw authenticity of the independent music landscape with us, as we share the glitz-free trials of self-promotion and the persistence it requires to keep the dream alive. We're lifting the veil on the music industry, discussing the evolving role of record labels, and examining the tenacity needed for live streaming success. With each release, each stream, we measure the impact of listener engagement on our show and beyond, celebrating the collective embrace of music as both a passion and a profession. So tune in, feel the rhythm of our stories, and perhaps discover a beat that resonates with your own life's soundtrack.

[A.I. Generated] Pulling back the curtain isn't always pretty, but it sure is enlightening. Imagine slogging through a three-week editing marathon, the tick of the clock your only companion—this is the reality of our podcast life. We're peeling layers in our latest episode, sharing the triumphs and trials of content creation, from the technical snafus to those 'aha!' moments that make it all worthwhile. Join us as we grapple with the paradox of scaling authentically, infusing AI into our research without losing the human touch, and evolve our THC comfort levels, mirroring the personal transformations that have shaped our podcast journey.Have you ever wondered what the blend of late-night editing, sleep deprivation, and post-vaping haze adds up to? Let's just say, it's a concoction that can test the limits of even the most persistent creators. We're recounting tales from the trenches and considering the fate of our "Afterthoughts" segment. As we traverse the landscape of audience engagement and the value of contextualizing past episodes, we also welcome the simple joy of two friends catching up, technical glitches be damned. It's an episode that's as rich in podcasting insights as it is in the casual charm of genuine conversation.This heart-to-heart isn't complete without a candid exploration of substance use and personal wellness. We're recounting tales from THC-infused beverages to the serenity of shroom experiences, all while dissecting the fine line between self-medication and achieving mental well-being. We dive into the social lubrication of alcohol, the benefits of abstinence, and the nuances of incorporating THC into our lives—a conversation that's as much about balance as it is about personal discovery. Sit with us as we navigate the complex terrain of substance use with honesty and humor, and maybe, just maybe, you'll find a nugget of wisdom to pocket for your own journey.

[A.I. Generated] Have you ever wondered what secrets lurk beneath the surface of our everyday interactions? Our latest episode takes you on a journey through the hidden compartments of our lives, with storytelling from a former CIA operative turned confidant. We open up about the powerful moments of vulnerability and how they shape the deepest connections in our lives, walking you through personal narratives that may resonate with your own hidden chapters.Stripping back the layers of content creation, we confront the authenticity of our digital personas. We look at why our audience tunes in – is it for us, or is it for the polished content we put out? Through candid conversations, we share the trials and triumphs of podcasting, music-making, and the surprisingly profound ways these creative outlets have strengthened our bonds and opened new avenues for self-discovery.As parents and creators, we hold a magnifying glass to the bittersweet passage of time, reflecting on the ephemeral nature of childhood and the inherent gifts of parenting. From comforting kids after nightmares to the joyful chaos of a household with pets, we muse on the importance of being present and how our creative endeavors not only bring healing to ourselves but also to our family life. Join us for an episode filled with laughter, vulnerability, and a pinch of parental wisdom, all wrapped up in the warm embrace of shared experience.

[A.I. Generated] Ever feel like a lone island in a sea of interconnectedness? This episode promises to shed light on that peculiar human experience of separateness, diving into the nuances of health levels and the profound realizations about our personal responses to life's events. Join me as I unfold an epiphany: our sense of isolation isn't a given, it's a choice, and overcoming it could be key to a higher understanding. We grapple with the discomfort of losing our individuality, questioning the allure of unity versus the persistent skepticism about completely dissolving into a collective consciousness. And we don't stop there; the conversation takes a turn towards the enigmatic concept of reincarnation, the struggle for spiritual connection, and the enticing idea of our personal experiences as intentional disassociations within a fractal universe.Navigating through the podcast seas, we chart a course for the future of our episodes, aiming to refine our production and captivate our community even further. Hear about the changes we're considering, from 10-episode seasons to leveraging your feedback in crafting our journey together. We explore the art of maintaining a natural conversation flow, mirroring therapeutic dialogues, and share tales of our editing adventures. The lighter side of our musings comes to life as we humorously brainstorm financial fixes and share personal ventures, from the possibility of navigating OnlyFans to the unique income streams that keep us afloat. Stick with us for stories, laughs, and a candid look at the creative ways we're steering this ship into uncharted waters.

[A.I. Generated] In this episode of After Thoughts, our speakers, Cody and Josiah, delve into interesting discussions focusing on the fascination with conspiracy theories, society's trust in mainstream media, and the de-centralization of truth in the modern landscape. They reflect on personal experiences that shape their perspectives and question the popular narratives around major global events like 9/11. Join the conversation, challenge your perspective and question the norms. Tune in!

[A.I Generated] Embark on an introspective journey with us in 'After Thoughts,' where we cast a light on the seldom-seen corners of our podcast universe. Here, we reflect on the extraordinary time between our spoken words and their journey to your ears, the evolution of our show, and the complexities that shape your listening experience. From the transformative potential of Bitcoin to the daunting reality of a debt-based economy, we navigate topics that promise to reshape our economic and societal landscape.With a blend of optimism and a keen eye on the global elites, our conversation delves into the intricate dance of politics, power, and manipulation. Michael Saylor's poignant bloodletting analogy sets the stage for a critical analysis of our financial ecosystem. As we dissect the implications of blockchain technology and challenge traditional banking norms, we also contemplate the societal transformations that could arise from improved parenting models and economic reforms. Our dialogue weaves through these themes, spotlighting the fragility of our systems and the media's role in this delicate balance.Looking ahead, we envision a society that leans into honesty, powered by technology that demands verifiable truth. The rise of NFTs and blockchain technology heralds a potential revolution, not just for the music industry, but for how we engage with creativity and commerce. As we close this segment, we share our hopeful gaze towards a future enriched by integrity and transparency, inviting you to ponder the blueprint for a brighter, more honest world alongside us.

[A.I Generated] Have you ever found yourself in a $5,000 predicament after purchasing a new car? Come along with us on a journey that's as unexpected as the color chartreuse, as we discuss our recent experiences and how they've shaped us. From the surprising adventure of buying a car through Carvana, to the wholesome Thanksgiving spent with family, this episode is packed with our personal stories and reflections.We dive into the deep end of our psyche, sharing our personal experiences with mental health and therapy. Sharing our insights about the Internal Family Systems framework and EMDR therapy, we discuss how these methods have aided us in processing trauma, uncovering repressed memories, and understanding our anxious attachment styles. You'll hear about our "inner Peter Pan" and "responsible dad" personas, and how they have helped us make sense of our internal family systems.Join us as we strum the chords of our lives and talk about the transformative power of music on our journey to self-discovery. We share our decision to pick up the Telecaster again, the thrill of finding the right instrument that resonates with our authentic self, and how playing music has positively influenced our lives. As we wrap up, we eagerly look forward to the upcoming season of our podcast and share the joy of receiving our Uber Eats order. Tune in, get engaged, and become a part of our evolving narrative.

[A.I Generated] As we prepare to roll out the red carpet for our upcoming season of After Hours, we are ecstatic to share with you a plethora of mind-boggling topics and personal experiences that had us laughing, crying, and even partaking in some controlled substance use. Lock in January 9th on your calendars, folks! We've put in an immense amount of time and effort to ensure this season surpasses your wildest expectations, with a slew of episodes that revisit some fan favorites, and a collection of fresh, insightful discussions. Our dear friend and guest, Sam, is sharing this journey with us, bringing his unique perspective to the table.We've ventured through a whirlwind of experiences lately, from our professional endeavors to our health journeys, bachelor trips, and future plans. Get a sneak peek into our personal growth and how reflection is instrumental in breaking unhealthy patterns. Among our many stories, you'll hear about my triumphant return to public music performances after a decade, my personal wrestle with faith, religion, and their ties to my music. We're also thrilled to bring back some highly requested topics from our previous seasons - relationships, personal growth, authenticity, to name a few. As we've evolved, so have our perspectives on these subjects, and we're eager to give you our updated takes. We're grateful for your patience, and we're ready to reward it with an unforgettable season of insightful discussions, heartwarming stories, and a healthy dose of laughter. So, strap yourselves in, and prepare for an emotional roller coaster ride with After Hours. We can't wait to reconnect with you all on January 9th!

[A.I Generated] Ever been surprised by the sound of your own voice? Ever found yourself up at 3 AM wrestling with anxious kids at a beach house vacation? This episode is an intimate tour through the trials and tribulations of juggling a busy life. My sister and I share about our recent beach vacation with our young children and reveal our struggles with sleep and the unexpected fun of staying in a beach house. We also discuss our surprising discovery that we possess 'radio voices' and dive into the nuances of soundproofing a new space. Have you ever built a Lego tower while simultaneously dealing with a kitchen plumbing malfunction? I bet not. In this whirlwind episode, we also tackle the joys and challenges of playtime with kids, and the unexpected plumbing issues that can turn your weekend upside down. We share hilarious anecdotes from our life, like juggling a demanding day job with the added tasks of organizing gigs and a wedding. Plus, we spill the beans on a hot new ramen bar that’s opening downtown.Hit the pause button on your busy life and join us as we trade secrets on podcast editing and brainstorm future episodes. We let you in on our therapy journeys and discuss the potential benefits of the Internal Family Systems framework. We wrap up the episode with a thought-provoking discussion on the Enneagram and ponder the idea of a potential show switch with Liz to delve deeper into these themes. Be prepared for a thrilling ride entwined with candid conversations, enlightening discussions, and personal anecdotes that will leave you wanting more.

[A.I Generated] Life is a rollercoaster, full of unexpected twists and turns, and on our latest episode, we take you on this wild ride with us. From house hunting struggles to a dental mishap, and the emotional upheaval of a friend testing positive for COVID-19, we've had our fair share of high-pressure moments. As if that wasn't enough, we've also discovered the intriguing world of Mr. Robot - a playground for Enneagram five characters. We've just finished it, and we're already itching to hit the replay button.Our adventure doesn't stop there, though. We navigate the tumultuous waters of shifting to live streaming, grappling with the logistics of bike storage in a new home, and the harsh reality of neglecting immune health. Our own Cody learned this the hard way when his entire family fell ill - a painful reminder of the importance of maintaining a robust immune system. But in the midst of the storm, we've found solace in family life's complex tapestry. Together, we explore the quirks of identifying our children's Enneagram types and journey through their evolving phases.Finally, we share tales of our family vacations, from the thrill of planning to the occasional hiccup, like a beach vacation rental falling through. But as you'll hear, we charmingly turned it into an unexpected blessing. From the wild excitement of the wedding planning process to the unexpected joys of a beach condominium, we've made the most out of life's surprises. So join us, and be part of the conversation as we navigate this beautiful mess called life.

[A.I Generated] Have you ever wondered what happens behind the scenes of your favorite podcast? We're throwing the curtains wide open, giving you a sneak peek into our unfiltered, post-recording conversations. We call it 'After Thoughts', a free-flowing exchange of ideas, hopes, and fears, where we dive into the trenches of depression, ruminate on the enneagram five, and celebrate the breakthroughs. Fasten your seatbelts as we dive into the subterranean world of conspiracy theories. Discover what fuels the growing fascination with them, and join us on a nostalgic journey as we unpack our shared experiences of the different highs from cannabis consumption. We'll explore the unpredictable nature of edibles, the Delta 8 THC, and THCA found in CBD products, and even share a laugh or two over the excitement surrounding my new microphone. Finally, let's pack our bags and hit the road as we explore upcoming adventures, from a trip to Miami, my bachelor party in Charleston, to the transformation of living spaces. We share our TV obsessions, comparing the quirky humor of Arrested Development to the raw power of Succession, and reveal how The Good Place impacted our understanding of the afterlife. So, sit back, relax, and get ready for a wild ride through our lives, our thoughts, and our shared experiences.

(This description is AI-generated hahaha) Ever felt a nagging sense of dread going to work? That was me, stuck in a toxic job and feeling like every day was an uphill battle. It took a lot of courage, but I finally decided to give it all up and found myself back in a familiar industry – alcohol distribution. Boy, what a ride it's been! This episode talks about my exciting journey of transitioning, finding balance, and how I learned to do what I love while still putting food on the table.Planning a trip to Miami for a bro-weekend? Or Montreal for work? We've got you covered! We laugh, we cringe, and we share some tips as we talk about our upcoming adventures. We also discuss a hot gig that almost melted me, and how I discovered the TeeMoo app that's been a game-changer. On a more serious note, we delve into our GoFundMe campaign to record an EP and the possibility of finding sponsors for the podcast.Finally, we get a little personal. We open up about the challenges of creativity and songwriting, and how it feels to go through a midlife crisis. It's not all doom and gloom though! We also talk about the importance of taking a break, recharging, and reconnecting with loved ones. We can't wait for you to join us in this intimate and enlightening conversation.