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Dr. Jett Stone on loneliness, vulnerability, and getting helpOverviewDr. Jett Stone is a clinical psychologist who specializes in treating men. He’s the author of Quiet Your Mind: A Men’s Guide, a Psychology Today columnist, and co-founder of Men’s Therapy Hub—a directory connecting male clients with male therapists launching in the US in 2026.In this conversation, we explore why men struggle to seek help, what they actually say when they finally walk through a therapist’s door, and how the mental health system can better serve them.Chapters00:00 The Journey to Clinical Psychology04:54 Working with Men in Therapy10:43 Understanding Male Vulnerability12:18 The Male Loneliness Crisis17:00 The Concept of Man-Keeping21:54 The Existential Load on Men22:29 Understanding the Emotional Burden in Relationships29:04 The Role of Male Identity in Financial Provision34:32 The Decline of Family Formation and Its Implications37:44 Barriers to Mental Health Treatment for Men44:38 Finding the Right Fit in TherapyKey TopicsThe difference between loneliness and alienation—and why alienation may better capture what many men experience“Mankeeping” and the debate over emotional labor in relationshipsThe “existential load” men carry: a chronic vigilance about providing that fuses identity with earningWhy emotional vulnerability feels dangerous to many menMaking therapy work for men: walk-and-talk formats, front-loading clarity, building trust before depthThe decline of male therapists (now just 25% of the field) and why representation mattersFamily formation trends and their connection to male wellbeingQuotes- On what men discover in therapy: “There is this private sense of being fundamentally alone and inadequate, with the fear that if I really were to talk about the things I’m now talking about, I would lose respect—I wouldn’t be lovable.”- On vulnerability: “Emotional vulnerability is dangerous. That’s one of the core beliefs that a lot of men come in with.”- On the existential load: “It’s not just money stress. It’s a radar constantly scanning for threats to family survival. It contaminates presence.”ResourcesMen’s Therapy HubDr. Stone’s websitePodcast: No Man’s an Island (co-hosted with Chris Hemmings)Book: Quiet Your Mind: A Men’s GuideSubscribe to All Boy on Substack for essays and podcasts covering fatherhood, boys’ development, and men’s issues.

Chance Seales sits down with Ben Smith, Head of Research at the American Institute for Boys and Men (AIBM), to explore whether single-sex schools benefit American boys. They dig into the data from AIBM’s 2025 report and discuss what’s working in single-sex public schools, what information is missing, and what it actually means for your sons. Underlying research conducted by Nina Hankins.All Boy on Substack - subscribe for freeChapters00:00 Current Trends in All-Boys Education02:26 The Impact of All-Boys Schools on Educational Outcomes05:28 Personal Experiences in All-Male Environments08:31 The Role of Self-Selection in Education11:21 Evaluating Evidence and Outcomes of All-Boys Schools13:37 The Impact of Single-Sex Education on Academic Outcomes19:23 Building Relationships and Character Development in Boys' Education24:48 The Importance of Social-Emotional Learning29:27 International Insights on Single-Sex Education34:39 Generalizability of Research Findings38:21 The Role of Male Teachers in Education40:51 Individual Perspectives on All-Boys SchoolsThe Promise of All-Boys SchoolsSchools with all-boys models have shown lower delinquency, higher engagement, and higher teacher expectations internationallyProponents say teachers develop deeper relationships with students and tailor instruction to developmental needsMost accessible in urban charter systems serving majority-minority and low-income communitiesThe Legal & Policy LandscapeSingle-sex public schools became possible after 2001’s No Child Left Behind Act and 2006 Title IX adjustmentsAs of 2022, only 45 public all-boys schools exist in America (down from 58 in 2016)Must be voluntary with co-ed alternatives availableThe Research GapsSurprisingly little U.S.-based research exists on these schools’ long-term impactsAcademic benefits documented are modest, and generalizability to suburban/rural contexts remains unclearMissing data on soft skills development and sustained outcomes — key factors in adulthood flourishingMale Teachers MatterPresence of male teachers, especially black male teachers, improves outcomes for black boysEvidence shows potential to close reading gaps and improve graduation ratesMale teachers often become mentors and role models through coaching relationships, holding boys to higher expectationsBen Smith bioHead of Research at the American Institute for Boys and MenNaval Academy grad and former submarine officerBrings both research expertise and personal experience with all-male environmentsBen’s recommendation: There’s no strong policy case for a wholesale shift to single-sex schools, but individual families should feel empowered to explore all-boys options if available—particularly for middle and high school. One thing is clear: more research would be helpful.Would you enroll your son in an all-boys school? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Guest: Kelly Nolin, Ph.D., Director of Admissions at the University of MontanaChapters00:00 Introduction to Gender Dynamics in Higher Education03:14 Understanding Parental Perspectives on College Enrollment06:14 Marketing Strategies to Attract Male Students09:15 The Importance of Equity in Education12:05 Initiatives for Male Student Engagement15:18 The Impact of Student Loan Debt on College Decisions17:59 The Future of Non-Traditional Students20:55 Programs That Attract Male Students24:01 Self-Reliance and Independence in Montana's Culture27:06 Conversations Among Institutions on Male Engagement30:02 Belonging and Community in Higher Education33:12 Navigating Political Ideologies on Campus36:10 Retention and Graduation Rates for Male Students39:06 The Hopeful Future of Higher EducationKey Stats + ResourcesYoung men comprise only 42% of four-year college students (Pew Research, 2023)Women earn 59% of college degrees vs. 41% for men—a complete reversal from decades ago (Ed Dept)University of Montana has increased male enrollment from 42% to 43%By 2032, experts predict a 5 million person gap between jobs requiring college degrees and people with that educationVolt article by Erica Levi ZelingerHigher Education Male Achievement Collaborative (HEMAC)Why It Matters: The gender gap affects earnings, dating, family formation, and America’s workforce. People with lower educational attainment often earn less over a lifetime and face reduced likelihood of marriage and fatherhood.Recruitment Strategies:“Rugged masculinity” marketing featuring forestry, lumberjack sports, hunting, and outdoor activitiesFocus on practical programs: business, forestry, trades (welding, diesel mechanics, construction)Embedded community colleges offering immediate career pathwaysEmphasizing themes that resonate: entrepreneurship, self-reliance, career readiness, purposeBarriers to Male Enrollment:Concerns about political bias on campusesStudent debt anxietyPerception that college isn’t necessary for successFeeling academically unpreparedLack of sense of belongingCreating Belonging:Hosting diverse political speakers (Charlie Kirk, Bernie Sanders, AOC)Welcoming all political and religious viewpoints77.2% retention rate at Univ. of Montana —highest everActive academic advising with student trackingEmphasis on respectful dialogue across differencesThe Future: Kelly Nolin views higher education’s mission as instilling hope—helping students envision different paths and possibilities that create ripple effects for families and future generations.

Episode Overview:As the landscape of American careers shifts dramatically, a back-to-basics career path is emerging — one that offers job security, competitive wages, and genuine satisfaction. In this episode of All Boy, Kate Cinnamo, Executive Director of Explore the Trades, talks with Chance Seales about why the skilled trades are experiencing a surge of interest from young people and their parents.Check out Explore the TradesAll Boy on Substack00:00 Introduction to the Trades and Market Demand03:33 Engaging Young People in the Trades06:15 Financial Opportunities in the Trades09:11 Changing Perceptions of Trade Careers12:13 The Importance of Skilled Trades in Communities15:23 Innovative Messaging for the Trades18:24 STEM Connections in Trade Education21:18 Encouraging Women in the Trades22:47 Breaking Stereotypes in Trades25:54 The Future of Trades and Technology28:15 Exploring Education Models for Trades30:14 Public-Private Partnerships in Trade Education33:09 Debt-Free Pathways into Trades33:51 Respecting the Trades36:42 Back to Basics: The Value of Handicrafts40:58 Encouraging the Next Generation in TradesKey Statistics (Thumbtack, 2024): - 57% of Gen Z men are now considering careers in skilled trades - 89% of tradespeople express high job satisfaction - that's 30 points higher than lawyers and 17 points higher than doctors - Over 160,000 new jobs projected in plumbing, heating, cooling, and electrical trades over the next decade - 80% of parents and 93% of Gen Z college graduates believe skilled trades offer better economic security than college - 95% of skilled tradesmen feel optimistic about their professional futuresThe Changing Face of Skilled Work:Kate Cinnamo brings a unique perspective to this conversation. With nearly 10 years leading Explore the Trades, she's witnessed firsthand the transformation in how society views skilled work. "Twenty-five years ago, if you talked about the trades at school, you got that very apathetic response," she explains. Today's reality is starkly different. The trades now of high interest, representing: - STEM careers requiring deep understanding of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics - Environmental stewardship through smart home technology and energy-efficient systems - Community service providing essential infrastructure and emergency repairs - Entrepreneurial opportunities with clear paths to business ownershipEntry-Level Earnings: - New electricians, plumbers, and HVAC technicians: $50,000-$70,000 annually - Master-level tradespeople: $115,000-$120,000+ - Specialized roles (comfort advisors, service managers): Additional premium payThere's no single "right way" to enter the trades: - Union Route: Structured programs with job placement but limited flexibility - Trade School: Classroom learning followed by apprenticeship - Direct Company Training: In-house apprenticeship programs with immediate employment - High School CTE Programs: Career and Technical Education starting in secondary schoolJob Security in an Uncertain World - Unlike many white-collar positions vulnerable to automation or economic downturns, skilled trades offer remarkable stability - Essential services that can't be outsourced - Local demand that isn't affected by global markets - Diverse opportunities from emergency service to new constructionA Return to Fundamentals:The skilled trades revolution represents more than just a career trend - it's a return to valuing tangible contributions to society. In an era of digital overwhelm and economic uncertainty, working with one's hands to create, repair, and maintain the infrastructure that supports modern life can offer both personal satisfaction and economic security.

Episode Summary: Joe Gidjunis, creator of the PBS documentary series "Grown Up Dad," joins Chance Seales to explore what it means to be a father in the modern era. Their conversation reveals why this might be the best time in history to be a dad, while acknowledging the unique challenges and opportunities that come with contemporary fatherhood.Meet Joe Joe Gidjunis is a filmmaker and father who created the documentary series "Grown Up Dad" for PBS. The series explores the complexities of modern fatherhood through five episodes covering topics like maintaining friendships, affording childcare, gender roles, and managing screen time. Joe lives in Philadelphia with his wife, nine-year-old son Gabe, and their dog.Grown Up Dad is a nonprofit endeavor. You can help them explore more facets of fatherhood through donations. Subscribe to All Boy on SubstackKey Topics Discussed:Personal Journeys and Family Dynamics:Joe and Chance reflect on their relationships with their own fathers and how those experiences shaped their approach to parenting. Joe discusses his father's "drive-by parenting" style, working out of town and being present only 2-3 days per month during Joe's childhood. This absence motivated Joe to pursue a more engaged approach with his own son.The Search for Role Models:The conversation takes an unexpected turn when Joe reveals his primary parenting inspiration: Bandit Heeler from the Australian animated series "Bluey." Joe argues that Bandit represents the best-written TV dad in history.Age and Perspective in Parenting:Joe became a father at 33, his wife at 35. They explore how older parenthood can bring advantages like greater emotional maturity, financial stability, and life perspective, while acknowledging the energy advantages of younger parents.Equity in Household Responsibilities:Joe reframes the concept of household equity, arguing it's not about maintaining perfect 50-50 splits but rather about partners working together to reach 100% as a team. He emphasizes that some days both parents might only have 20% energy to give, requiring creative collaboration to meet family needs.Social Connections and Male Friendship: A significant portion of the conversation addresses the challenge of maintaining friendships as fathers. Key insights include: - Men often rely on their wives for social connections - Making friends as an adult requires intentional effort and skills not taught in traditional settings - Joe's prescription: "couples night every Friday and guys night every other weekend" - The former Surgeon General Vivek Murthy's research on loneliness particularly affects men - Men typically prefer activity-based bonding over conversation-focused socializingPractical Takeaways for Fathers: - Give yourself permission to maintain and create new friendships as an adult - Engage in activity-based bonding opportunities - Be intentional about scheduling social time - Consider joining leagues, clubs, or organized activities - Use children's activities as networking opportunitiesHousehold Management: - Think of equity as reaching 100% as a team, not perfect 50-50 splits - Communicate openly about energy levels and capacity - Share both fun activities and challenging responsibilities - Model collaboration for childrenQuality Time with Children - Focus on being present for short, meaningful periods rather than perfect all-day parenting - Find activities that naturally encourage conversation - Express both love and genuine enjoyment of your children's company - Address competitive behavior and perfectionism earlyPersonal Development: - Evaluate what worked and didn't work in your own upbringing - Be intentional about defining your fathering approach - Seek inspiration from unexpected sources - Make time for personal interests and friendships

🚨 KEY STATS • 23% of 17-year-old boys in America now have an ADHD diagnosis • Stimulant prescriptions jumped 58% in just one decade (2012-2022) • Boys are 2-3x more likely to be diagnosed than girls • Adults in their 30s saw prescriptions TRIPLE from 5M to 18M • US rates are 3-4x higher than the global average of 5-7% 🎯 WHAT YOU'LL DISCOVER In this eye-opening conversation, Stephen P. Hinshaw, UC-Berkeley Distinguished Professor of Psychology, joins Chance Seales to explain the complex forces behind America's ADHD explosion. As one of the world's leading ADHD researchers and author of The ADHD Explosion, Hinshaw reveals why we're seeing unprecedented diagnosis rates, why boys are more often diagnosed than girls, how stimulant treatments work, behavioral interventions and the holistic programs shown to be most effective. Chapter List:- 00:00 Understanding ADHD: Definition and Spectrum- 05:45 The Overdiagnosis of ADHD in Boys- 11:10 Diagnosis: Impairment vs. Average- 12:47 The Ethics of Medication for ADHD- 17:04 The Complexity of ADHD: Genetic and Environmental Factors- 20:47 The Role of Parenting and Environment in ADHD- 22:46 Cultural and Racial Disparities in ADHD Diagnosis- 24:37 Understanding Gender Differences in Neurodevelopmental Disorders- 26:47 Exploring ADHD: Symptoms and Treatment Options- 29:40 The Role of Medication in ADHD Management- 31:40 The Impact of Social Media on ADHD Awareness- 33:56 The Rise of Adult ADHD Diagnoses- 35:28 Long-Term Efficacy of ADHD Medications- 38:27 The Importance of Authoritative Parenting- 40:26 Screen Time and Mental Health- 43:01 Dietary Influences on ADHD Symptoms- 45:50 The Role of Play in Child Development💡 KEY INSIGHTS The Perfect Storm: How compulsory education, performance pressure, and 15-minute diagnoses heightened the risk of overdiagnosis Nature vs. Nurture: Why ADHD is 80% heritable (more genetic than depression) but environment still matters enormously The Gender Gap: Why girls were historically underdiagnosed while boys face overdiagnosis Treatment Facts: Why medication can be effective, but alone isn't enough—and the holistic methods with the best outcomes The Adult Epidemic: How experts chronically overlooked legitimate adult case, plus the TikTok and online self-diagnosis driving adult ADHD rates through the roof 🔍 CRITICAL QUESTIONS ANSWERED Is your child actually ADHD or just being a normal, wild kid? Why does the US have 10x more ADHD diagnoses than other countries? How does Adderall work? Are stimulants effective across the lifespan? What non-medication treatments actually work? ⚡ UNIQUE INSIGHTS Dr. Hinshaw explains how authoritative parenting can transform outcomes for ADHD kids, why most teens stop taking medication by high school, and how simple dietary changes can potentially reduce symptoms. He also tackles the controversial question: Are we medicating normal childhood behavior? 🎯 FOR PARENTS Learn the signs of proper vs. rushed diagnosis, discover holistic treatment approaches, and understand when medication is truly necessary. 📚 ABOUT DR. HINSHAW: Professor Stephen P. Hinshaw is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at UC Berkeley, former department chair, and runs the renowned Hinshaw Lab. His research has shaped our understanding of ADHD for decades. Resources: - Hinshaw Lab- CDC ADHD Data- ADHD: Controversy, Developmental Mechanisms, and Multiple Levels of Analysis (Hinshaw)- The ADHD Explosion - Have We Been Thinking About ADHD All Wrong? (Paul Tough, NYT)

Donald J. Robertson, cognitive-behavioral psychotherapist and author of "How to Think Like a Roman Emperor" and "How to Think Like Socrates," joins Chance Seales to explore how ancient Stoic principles can help young men navigate modern challenges around work, money, relationships, and finding meaning.All Boy with Chance Seales on SubstackAdversity as GrowthSetbacks and challenges are necessary for character developmentRetrospective vs. prospective views of adversity differ dramaticallyWhat seems catastrophic in anticipation often becomes valuable in hindsightCharacter traits like courage and integrity require struggle to developUnhealthy Worrying:Occurs when anxious (impaired cognitive state)Focused entirely on future scenariosVerbal, repetitive "what if" thinkingLoses awareness of present momentConstructive Planning:Done when calm and rationalMore visual than verbalMaintains present-moment awarenessFocuses on coping strategies and problem-solvingThe View from Above TechniqueImagine viewing your situation from great height or across timeReduces overwhelming feelings without trivializing real issuesHelps distinguish between what matters long-term vs. momentary concernsMoney Matters Money is neither inherently good nor badThe key question: How will you use wealth?Wisdom in usage matters more than accumulationExternal goals vs. intrinsic values create different life orientationsFinding your "why"1. Extrinsic motivation: Working toward external outcomes (salary, promotion, recognition)2. Intrinsic motivation: Acting according to personal values (creativity, integrity, service)Actions vs. FeelingsExternal focus creates "I'll be happy when..." mentalityFundamental principle: Actions don't have to follow feelings"Do not feel your way into new actions, act your way into new feelings"Many people assume emotions must drive behaviorDeveloping the ability to act despite emotional states is crucial for growthDeath and MeaningDeath gives life meaning through creating urgency and perspectiveBrushes with mortality often trigger spiritual "awakening"Forces us to question superficial cultural valuesCreates what Stoics called "epistrophe" (conversion/turning around)Ask Yourself:1. What do you want your life to stand for or represent?2. What do you want to be remembered for after you're dead?Tools for Young MenBreaking Free from Cultural ProgrammingRecognize how consumer culture exploits insecuritiesQuestion whether external achievements truly bring fulfillmentDevelop intrinsic values independent of social validationResources:Stoicism: Philosophy as a way of life by Donald J. Robertson"How to Think Like a Roman Emperor" by Donald J. Robertson"How to Think Like Socrates" by Donald J. Robertson“The Philosophy of Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy” by Donald J. Robertson

Dr. Jessi Gold, Chief Wellness Officer of the University of Tennessee system, joins Chance Seales to tackle one of the most pressing issues facing young men today: the epidemic of loneliness and isolation. They explore the staggering reality that 15% of men now have zero close friends (up from just 3% in 1990), examine how digital culture glamorizes "secular monks" who live successful lives without human connection, and discuss why men are four times more likely to die by suicide than women. This essential conversation offers both sobering insights into the male mental health crisis and practical, actionable solutions for individuals, families, and communities. 🎯 KEY TOPICS: Critical Stats - 15% of men now have ZERO close friends (was only 3% in 1990) - Men are 4x more likely to die by suicide than women - Young men driving the worsening suicide trend since 2010 Campus Mental Health Challenges - Students struggling to make friends despite abundant opportunities - Emotional regulation challenges - The comparison trap fueled by social media Digital Age Isolation - "Secular monk" lifestyle glamorized online - success without people - Solo leisure activities: gaming, porn, gambling - A.I. friends as false solutions to real connection needs The Gender Gap in Help-Seeking - Why men don't say "I'm lonely" - Mental health seen as "what girlfriends do" - Need for male providers and masculine-friendly messaging PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS: If You're Worried About Someone: - Lead with normalizing statements, not observations - "School's been hard lately, what's it been like for you?" - Check in regularly, don't give up after one conversation If You're Struggling: - Start small - pick ONE activity, not multiple - Try group fitness classes, church, hobby groups, community organizations - Script conversations if social anxiety is high - Be open to meeting people in unexpected places About Dr. Jessi Gold: Chief Wellness Officer, University of Tennessee System (62,000+ students). Renowned psychiatrist and author of "How Do You Feel: When Doctors Search for Humanity in Medicine." Dr. Gold’s homepage 💭 Bottom Line: We need one close friend, not 75. Human connection isn't optional - it's essential for mental health and survival. The crisis is real, but so are the solutions. Subscribe to ALL BOY for more conversations about young men's mental health and practical solutions. Resources: - Men's Social Circles are Shrinking (AEI)- Male Suicide Patterns and Trends (AIBM)- The Anti-Social Century (Derek Thompson, The Atlantic): All Boy Substack (subscribe!)Follow: @DrJessiGold (Instagram/social) @ChanceSeales (Instagram/LinkedIn)

Glen Pounder, Chief Safeguarding Officer of Scouting America, joins Chance Seales to explore how traditional scouting remains vital for boys' development in a modern world marked by isolation. From building resilience and real-world skills to creating lasting friendships and positive male role models, discover why this 115-year-old organization continues to transform young men. Key Topics 🏕️ The Power of Real-World Experience Why boys need controlled risk and outdoor adventure The magic of Jamborees and high-adventure bases Trading TikTok for tent stakes: disconnecting to reconnect 👥 Fighting the Loneliness Epidemic 15% of young men have zero close friends (5x higher than 1990) How scouting builds unbreakable bonds that last decades The importance of male mentorship and positive role models 🎯 Building Essential Life Skills From knot-tying to problem-solving: mastery through practice Learning to fail safely and bounce back stronger Merit badges as pathways to real-world competence 🧠 Mental Health & Resilience Evidence-based research showing better mental health outcomes for scouts How outdoor time and group activities combat isolation Teaching boys it's okay to fail and ask for help 🛡️ Safeguarding & Safety Modern approaches to child protection in youth organizations The "no one-on-one contact" rule and other safety measures Why youth-serving organizations are safer than many alternatives ⚖️ Single-Sex vs. Coed Opportunities The value of boy-only spaces How Scouting America accommodates different family preferences Maintaining brotherhood while welcoming girls Chapters 00:00 Lifelong Benefits of Scouting 06:56 The Modern Value of Traditional Scouting 16:20 Controlled Risk in Scouting 18:16 Mental Health and Scouting's Impact 20:33 Navigating Online Risks for Youth 22:21 Mastery and Self-Discovery in Scouting 25:38 Building Resilience Through Failure 28:38 The Importance of Male Connection and Role Models 31:39 Inclusivity in Scouting: Religious and Outdoor Preferences 32:42 The Role of Male Mentorship in Scouting 34:37 Safeguarding and Child Protection 41:33 Empowering Parents in the Scouting Journey Guest Bio: Glen Pounder serves as Chief Safeguarding Officer for Scouting America, bringing decades of international law enforcement experience to youth protection. Originally from the UK, Glen became an American citizen just one year ago. His journey with scouting began through watching his own son's development in the UK program, leading to his current role protecting over one million youth and 500,000 adult volunteers across America. Resources Mentioned: Find Local Troops: BeAScout.org Philmont Scout Ranch: 140,000-acre high adventure base in New Mexico Youth Protection Training: Available for all parents and volunteers Programs for Different Ages Squirrels: Ages 4-5 (new program for very young children) Cub Scouts: Ages 5-10 (parent involvement required) Boy Scouts: Ages 11-17 (increasing independence) High Adventure: Specialized outdoor experiences for older scouts Notable Quotes: - "Boys need risk... everything in scouting is perceived and controlled risk. The kids have the perception that they're taking risks because in their world they are." - Glen Pounder - "Scout leaders are like mental health professionals in disguise." - Richard Reeves, American Institute for Boys and Men - "We have over a million sheepdogs. We have no sheep for you." - Glen Pounder on preventing predators - "A scout is trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean and reverent." - The Scout Law All Boy homepage

Dr. Grace Blest-Hopley on young men, THC, psychosis, and CBD"This is your brain on drugs" became something of a joke in the DARE generation, as weed came to be seen as harmless.That was wrong. But legalization and normalization (“it’s just a plant”) became a runaway train.Cannabis is now king, raking in nearly $47 billion domestically in 2025, Statista reports.26% of high school seniors report using cannabis in the previous year, which was a slight decline.Boys seem to be at particular risk of early exposure to THC morphing into heavy use and mental illness, like psychosis.The National Institute on Drug Abuse notes that, "regular, heavy cannabis use in adolescence is associated with negative effects on working memory, processing speed, verbal memory, and academic functioning."Young users are also more likely to struggle in educational attainment, earnings and employment. So if most users appear unscathed, what are the real effects and risks of THC on developing brains?Neuroscientist Dr. Grace Blest-Hopley and Chance Seales explore the effects of cannabis, particularly THC, on adolescent male brains, discussing the risks associated with early use, the relationship between cannabis and psychosis, and the differences in effects between genders. It also delves into the potential of CBD and other cannabinoids as alternatives to THC, emphasizing the need for caution in loose public discourse about cannabis legalization and use. ResourcesMonitoring The Future study (Univ. of Michigan) Is the Adolescent Brain at Greater Vulnerability to the Effects of Cannabis? A Narrative Review of the Evidence (Frontiers in Psychiatry, 2020)Cannabis effects data (NIDA)Cannabis use stats (NIDA) Biography Dr. Grace Blest-Hopley is a neuroscientist with over 10 years of experience specializing in the neuropsychopharmacology of cannabinoids and psychedelics. She completed her PhD in Neuroscience at King's College London. Currently, she serves as the Chief Scientific Officer at NWPharma Tech and the Research Director at Heroic Hearts Project, a charity supporting combat veterans with mental health challenges resulting from trauma. Additionally, she is an officer in the British Army Reserve. Grace is also the founder of Hystelica, a company dedicated to researching, advocating for, and educating about the safe and effective use of psychedelics for women. Chapters 00:00 The Impact of THC on Brain Function 10:29 Cannabis Use and Psychosis Risk 19:20 Gender Differences in Cannabis Effects 22:07 The Risks of Cannabis and Alcohol in Adolescence 27:48 Social Influences on Drug Use 30:52 The Need for Serious Conversations about Cannabis 33:09 Exploring Alternatives to THC 36:11 The Promise of CBD and Other Cannabinoids 53:20 All Boy.mp4 Takeaways Adolescents are more vulnerable to the effects of cannabis due to ongoing brain development. Heavy cannabis use in adolescence is linked to negative cognitive outcomes. THC acts as an inhibitor of neuronal activation, affecting memory and learning. There is a significant risk of developing cannabis use disorder, especially in adolescents. High THC levels are correlated with an increased risk of psychosis. CBD may provide neuroprotective effects against the harmful impacts of THC. Public perception often trivializes the potential harms of cannabis use. Gender differences exist in cannabis use patterns and effects, with young men at higher risk. Synthetic cannabinoids pose greater risks due to unknown effects and lack of research. Research into cannabinoids is ongoing, with potential therapeutic applications for CBD. All Boy homepage

A.M. Hickman joins Chance Seales on All Boy, urging young men to build meaningful lives by embracing tradition and hardship. Hickman shares his unique perspective on living a traditional, self-sufficient life in a small village. Hickman, scribe of the popular Hickman’s Hinterlands, discusses the beauty he finds in rural living, the importance of hardship, and the value of action in a world filled with modern distractions. He emphasizes the significance of spirituality and myth in personal development and offers unapologetic personal insights into navigating modern dating and preparing for fatherhood. Hickman doesn't mince words in this chat, challenging young men to embrace opportunities in today's world, despite the challenges they face. Bio:Hickman is the author of Hickman's Hinterlands on Substack, chronicling his journeys to America's overlooked gems and the richness of life found in his small Adirondacks village of 250 residents. Hickman's HinterlandsHickman dispatches for the The Free PressOn Manhood: Hickman published a letter called To Find Manhood in a Gutless Age, addressed to a young man looking for direction and adventure at 18 years. It advises, in part: "... if you have ever pined for a frontier, and have mourned the closure of the American West or the end of the mythic eras of men, well, you have mourned vainly. For the process I describe — the process of obtaining the goal that will gild your every hour — this is a frontier all your own. And lest you should get the sense that I am only making witty equivocations here, or are playing some kind of a parlor trick with rhetoric — understand that I mean this all in the most serious way I could mean it. If you find yourself in a rut, my friend, you must take action, and you must do so immediately, and physically. Do not research whatever it is that you choose to do; saunter up to it as men in battle saunter toward their quarry — stalk it as you live and breathe, as hunters do. Banish neuroticism, risk-aversion, and overwrought calculus of every kind. Lift up your musculature and bone (and indeed, your eyes) and move forward; understand that the story into which you are now stepping will appear to you only in vague, random strokes and visions — and that it is, above all, your task to navigate such strange and immeasurable phenomena deftly and with incredible style and grace." Chapters: 00:00 A.M. Hickman Introduction 01:32 Living an 1850's Life in Modern America 02:59 Finding Beauty in Blight 11:27 The Importance of Action and Gumption 16:16 Rethinking the American Dream 20:35 Navigating Modern Masculinity and Success 20:50 The Myth of Success 22:13 Navigating Traditionalism and Modernity 25:19 The Value of Stability and Community 26:24 Lessons from Nature for New Generations 29:29 Balancing Technology and Nature 32:28 Traditional Dating in a Modern America 36:03 Flourishing Wherever You Live All Boy homepageTakeaways: - Living simply can lead to a fulfilling life. - Finding beauty in blight is possible. - Hardship is a natural part of life. - Spirituality plays a crucial role in personal growth. - Action is essential to avoid feelings of worthlessness. - Rural living offers unique obstacles and opportunities. - Modern dating requires discernment and understanding. - Preparing for fatherhood involves teaching timeless values. - Community and connection are vital for well-being.

Youth sports have become a $43 billion-dollar cash cow. The average family spends $1,016 annually on their child's primary sport, according to Project Play.Parents race from work to shuttle kids from practice to practice, city to city. Sleep, money and free time can evaporate.We assume — or at least hope — the family's sacrifices will pay off in self-discipline, good health and college scholarships.When is it worth it? When is too much?Linda Flanagan, author of Take Back the Game, is a mom and longtime coach. She joins me on All Boy with critical perspective on the value of youth sports and when it's time to draw a line. All Boy episode: To Save Youth Sports, Parents Need to ChillEpisode DescriptionLinda Flanagan, author of "Take Back the Game," joins Chance Seales to explore how youth sports have transformed from child-centered fun into an adult-driven, expensive industry. With 15 million American boys in sports leagues but participation declining, we examine whether this shift is helping or hurting our kids.Key Topics Covered🏆 The Transformation of Youth SportsHow sports shifted from child-directed play to adult-structured activitiesThe role of money, college admissions, and parental pressure💰 The Economics Behind Youth SportsAverage families spend $1,000+ annually per childWho's profiting from the $43+ billion youth sports industryThe myth of college scholarships (only 0.3% get full rides)🧠 Mental Health & DevelopmentTeam vs. individual sports outcomesThe importance of unstructured playSelf-esteem, anxiety, and depression impacts👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Parental Pressure & Achievement CultureWhy parents invest so heavily in youth sportsThe inverse relationship between spending and kids' enjoymentFinding balance in competitive environments🚨 When to Let Kids QuitReading the signs of burnout vs. normal challengesAge-appropriate expectations and specializationKey Statistics Mentioned15 million American boys in sports leagues (CDC)Participation declining from 50% to 41% over 10 yearsOnly 6-7% of high school athletes play college sports2% of high school athletes receive any scholarship money0.3% receive full scholarshipsAverage family spends $1,000+ annually per child on sportsResources"Take Back the Game" by Linda FlanaganProject Play participation data (Aspen Institute)Project Play mental health dataPhysical and Social Effects of Sports ParticipationCDC Youth Sports DataTimestamps0:00 - Introduction & Chance's own youth sports experience1:31 - Meet Linda Flanagan and her concerns about youth sports6:01 - Physical health benefits vs. the obesity crisis9:24 - Mental health impacts and self-esteem15:48 - The financial burden on families19:35 - Team vs. individual sports outcomes26:14 - When should parents let kids quit?27:48 - Who's making money from youth sports30:51 - What parents get out of youth sports36:52 - Sports betting concerns38:43 - Achievement culture and its effectsWhat do you think? Have kids' sports become too intense? Share your experiences in the comments below.Subscribe for more conversations about raising boys in today's world.Find us: AllBoyAllGood.com#YouthSports #Parenting #ChildDevelopment #AllBoy

63% of young in the US, UK and Australia regularly consume content created by "men and masculinity influencers," Movember found.Zac Seidler, clinical psychologist and global director of research at Movember, excavates the phenomenon of online masculinity influencers and their impact on young men. The discussion between Seidler and host Chance Seales covers the surprising demographics of those consuming masculinity content, the mixed psychological effects of such content, and the societal implications of traditional versus modern masculinity. Seidler emphasizes the need for male-oriented spaces for young men to explore their identities and the importance of fostering respectful, open conversations about masculinity, without fear of censure.Resources: - Young Men's Health in a Digital World (Movember)- Dr. Zac Seidler bio and research - Movember homepage - All Boy homepageChapters00:00 Movember Masculinity Influencer Study03:10 Understanding the Audience of Masculinity Content03:46 The Impact of Masculinity Influencers09:08 Salient Aspects of Consuming Masculinity Content11:48 The Changing Masculinity Map15:04 Negative Messaging and Consequences of Masculinity Content Consumption18:25 The Uncomfortable Truth of Externalizing Blame19:10 The Battle for Locus of Control in Masculinity21:28 Redefining Masculinity: Beyond Stereotypes23:51 Navigating Traditional and Modern Masculinity26:44 The Impact of Media Consumption on Masculine Identity28:26 Gender Roles and the Backlash Against Equality29:30 Calling Men In: The Need for Constructive Conversations31:46 Rebuilding Male Spaces for Healthy Connections33:54 The Role of Influencers in Shaping Masculinity37:04 Approaching Young Men with Openness and Vulnerability40:05 Hope and Opportunity: A New Narrative for BoysTakeaways -63% of young men regularly engage with masculinity influencers. - The demographics of masculinity content consumers defy stereotypes. Positive aspects of masculinity content include motivation and entertainment. Heavy consumers of masculinity content may experience increased anxiety and risk-taking behavior. There is a need for a nuanced understanding of masculinity today. Traditional masculinity ideals can be beneficial when applied flexibly. Young men often feel disempowered and confused about their roles in society. Online communities can provide support but in some circumstances may also perpetuate harmful ideologies. Creating male-oriented spaces for young men is essential for healthy identity development. Open conversations about masculinity are crucial for understanding and growth.

Augustine Sedgewick and Chance Seales delve into the complexities of fatherhood, exploring personal experiences, historical evolution, and the mounting expectations of fatherhood. They discuss the importance of listening to children, disagree over the role of authority, and the impact of cultural narratives on modern parenting. The conversation also touches on class divides in parenting and the need for more nuanced stories about fatherhood that reflect its complexities and challenges.Resources: - Augustine Sedgewick biography - Fatherhood: A History of Love and Power - Dads Rock: The Evidence (AIBM)Chapters:00:00 Setting the Stage for Fatherhood01:40 Personal Experiences with Fatherhood08:50 The Evolution of Fatherhood Through History12:53 Understanding Fatherhood in Ancient Cultures17:09 Modern Challenges of Fatherhood19:47 The Weight of Fatherhood Expectations21:28 Cultural Impact on Fatherhood22:18 The Storytelling Nature of Fatherhood25:49 Historical Perspectives on Fatherhood30:24 Authority and Parenting Dynamics35:19 Emotional Communication in Fatherhood39:10 Complexities of Fatherhood in Public Perception42:45 Class Divides and Fatherhood Challenges45:31 Fatherhood IdealsTakeaways:Fatherhood is a negotiation and it always has been.The evolution of fatherhood reflects societal changes over time.Listening to children is central to modern parenting.Authority in fatherhood has, for some, shifted from power to partnership.Cultural narratives often oversimplify the complexities of fatherhood.Policy changes could reduce the financial weight of fatherhood.Class divides significantly impact parenting experiences.The ideal father is defined by the needs of the family.Engaged fatherhood leads to better outcomes for boys.All Boy homepage: All Boy All Good

Richard Reeves, founder of the American Institute for Boys and Men, shares the vision of his HEAL Initiative, which is focused on helping boys and men thrive in growing professions where they're typically underrepresented, particularly in healthcare, education, and therapy and counseling. Reeves and Chance Seales discuss the decline of men in HEAL professions, the importance of male teachers, the need for male mentors, and the rewards and challenges faced in fields like social work.The conversation also touches on the impact of AI on jobs and the broader movement for boys and men, emphasizing the need for unity and collaboration between genders.ResourcesRichard Reeves bioAIBM homepageHEAL Economy reportOf Boys and Men newsletter by Chapters00:00 Introduction to the HEAL Initiative01:30 Understanding HEAL: Health, Education, and Literacy05:10 The Gender Gap in HEAL Professions08:03 Healthcare: Increasing Male Health Workers12:55 The Importance of Male Representation in Education16:56 Strategies for Attracting Men to Teaching21:30 Opening Up the Teaching Profession22:00 The Rewards and Challenges of Counseling and Social Work24:38 The Call for Men in Caring Professions26:59 The Need for Male Mentorship29:13 HEAL vs. STEM: The Future of Jobs30:53 Apprenticeships and Public-Private Partnerships33:55 The Impact of AI on Jobs37:48 Institutionalizing the Conversation on Boys and MenTakeawaysThe HEAL Initiative aims to support boys and men in various professions.There has been a significant decline in men entering HEAL professions.Male teachers can positively impact boys' education and engagement.Mentorship is crucial for boys, especially in underrepresented areas.Social work and counseling is a challenging but vital profession that needs more male representation.The future of work may see a shift towards more relational and caring professions.AI may impact jobs differently across genders, with potential risks for women in administrative roles first.The movement for boys and men is gaining traction and needs to be institutionalized.Collaboration between genders is essential for addressing societal issues.Financial incentives and scholarships could help attract more men into HEAL professions.All Boy homepage

Clinical psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren and Chance Seales explore the current state of young relationships, focusing on the decline in dating among young men. They discuss the impact of technology and pornography on sexual dysfunction, the importance of interpersonal connections, and the risks associated with being sexless. The conversation also touches on modern dating dynamics, chivalry, and the cultural shifts affecting relationships today. Dr. Warren emphasizes the need for authenticity and vulnerability in dating, while also addressing the psychological implications of these trends on mental health and societal well-being.Cortney Warren, Ph.D. biography and booksResources:Male vs. Female single rates (Pew Research)44% of young men have never had a relationship (AEI)Male teen sexual activity drops by double digits (AIBM)Male body image concerns in online dating (BBC)Chapters00:00 Dr. Cortney Warren Intro02:08 The Importance of Dating in Adolescence05:04 The Impact of Technology on Dating06:11 Sexual Development and Dysfunction in Youth11:11 The Role of Pornography in Sexual Education14:16 Body Image Issues and Sexual Expectations17:19 The Choice of Singleness and Its Implications20:18 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics25:29 Building Resilience in Teenagers28:34 Navigating Rejection and Self-Worth29:44 The Complexity of Attraction31:57 Authenticity in Relationships34:13 Vulnerability and Connection35:14 Chivalry and Modern Dating41:27 Cultural Shifts in Relationships44:13 The Value of Long-Term CommitmentTakeaways63% of young men are single, indicating a shift in dating culture, per Pew.Dating serves as a crucial self-discovery process for teens.- The rise of technology has changed how young people connect.Pornography is linked to sexual dysfunction in young people.Being sexless can carry psychological risks for adolescents.Connection and social belonging are essential for mental health.- Authenticity in dating is more attractive than a curated persona.Chivalry and traditional gender roles are evolving in modern relationships.Cultural shifts are leading to declining marriage and birth rates.Life's challenges are opportunities for growth and resilience.All Boy homepage

Griffin Gooch, Gen Z theologian who authors the popular Substack newsletter Reality Theology, discusses the evolving landscape of faith among young people, particularly young men, and the resurgence of interest in traditional Christianity and Eastern Orthodoxy. Gooch, alongside Chance Seales, explores the importance of rituals, community, and the need for genuine connections in faith. The discussion also touches on the challenges of men's ministries, the appeal of Eastern Orthodoxy, and the cultural shifts influencing young men's engagement with religion and young women's move away. Gooch emphasizes the significance of nurturing young men in faith and the potential for a more authentic expression of Christianity moving forward.⁠Reality Theology⁠ by Griffin GoochResource Links:French Catholic Church Sees Surge of Catechumens (Catholic Review)Orthodox Studies Institute reportRyan Burge's Graphs About Religion SubstackYoung Men Are Leading a Religious Resurgence (Axios)UK's "Quiet Revival" Among Young Men (Bible Society)Chapters00:00 Spiritual Perspectives and Theological Foundations03:53 Trends in Young Men's Spirituality06:50 Rituals and Their Importance in Faith09:57 The Appeal of Traditional Christianity13:02 Eastern Orthodoxy and Its Mystical Allure20:58 Demographic Shifts in Church Attendance22:31 The Role of Theology in Modern Faith25:35 Nurturing Young Men in the Church27:30 The Importance of Male Friendships28:20 Recommended Voices in Spirituality30:13 Cultural Mismatch in Relationships31:53 Navigating Gender Roles in Faith35:31 Cultural Reactions and the Church's Response39:01 The Future of Faith and Authenticity45:03 All Boy.mp4TakeawaysYoung men are increasingly engaging with faith communities.There is a historical shift in the demographics of church attendance.Rituals play a crucial role in providing structure and meaning.Eastern Orthodoxy and Roman Catholicism are gaining appeal among young men.Men's ministries need to focus on genuine connection, not just accountability.The cultural landscape is influencing young men's perceptions of faith.Authenticity in faith is becoming more important than performance.Young men are seeking purpose and responsibility in their spiritual lives.The revival of interest in traditional Christianity is notable.Community and relationships are key to nurturing faith in young men.All Boy homepage

Clinical psychologist Dr. Michael Thompson and Chance Seales delve into the redshirting movement in American schools, exploring the developmental differences between boys and girls, the implications of ADHD and learning disabilities, and the socio-economic factors influencing educational decisions. Thompson, the bestselling author of Raising Cain, explains the importance of emotional intelligence and self-regulation in boys, as well as the role of teachers in fostering a supportive learning environment for rambunctious boys. Dr. Michael Thompson bioBooks by ThompsonAll BoyHomepageYouTube: All Boy All GoodChapters00:00 All Boy Podcast Introduction01:55 Redshirting 10110:06 Creating Boy-Friendly Schools13:03 Understanding Self-Control in Boys14:25 The Role of Learning Differences15:19 ADHD and Its Diagnosis17:33 The Impact of Educational Policies19:24 Redshirting: A Double-Edged Sword21:21 Executive Function and Development23:23 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence25:17 Balancing Discipline and Affection27:25 Creating Warm Learning Environments29:22 Engaging Boys in Learning30:40 Building Relationships with Boys32:34 Understanding Boys' Emotional Lives39:18 All Boy.mp4TakeawaysThe growth curve of boys and girls is different.Boys often struggle with self-regulation and impulse control.Redshirting can benefit boys who are not ready for school.Teachers need to adapt their methods to engage boys effectively.Emotional intelligence is crucial for boys' development.Socioeconomic status influences the decision to redshirt boys.Boys learn better in active, engaging environments.ADHD diagnoses have increased significantly among boys for diverse reasons.Boys need warm, supportive relationships with teachers to thrive.Understanding boys' motivations is key to effective teaching.