aParently! A Podcast for Parents

When Anger and Revenge Become a Child's Way to Feel Safe In this first episode of Raising Kids Through Hurt, I share a personal experience from my own home and a lesson I'm still learning as a foster and adoptive dad. After one of my sons said things that were difficult to hear, I found myself wrestling with questions many parents ask: Was this disrespect? Did he mean it? Should there be consequences? Am I understanding what's underneath the behavior, or am I letting him get away with it? As I reflected on the experience, I began to wonder if the anger I was seeing was protecting something deeper. Fear. Hurt. Powerlessness. A need for control after living through situations where there was none. This is not a how-to episode. It's a conversation about parenting, trauma, character, accountability, and the tension between understanding our kids and holding them responsible for their actions. If you're raising children through foster care, adoption, trauma, abandonment, or simply navigating big emotions in your home, I hope this episode helps you feel a little less alone. Because sometimes understanding what is underneath the anger changes the way we respond to it. And sometimes the most important lessons we learn as parents come from the moments that hurt the most. You're doing better than you think you are. shawnhop.com to schedule a session with Shawn Hopkins, CTACC aParently.community for resources, articles, videos, classes, and other parents talking about what's working and what they are working through.