Arrows and Acres

Daniel and Allison Hartman were doing everything counter-culturally — homeschooling, guarding their kids' hearts, building a family camp from scratch — and then quietly pushing their oldest daughter straight toward a four-year degree. Because that's just what good Christian families do.Then two mentors sat them down at family camp and asked the question that cracked the whole plan open: "Why would you want to put your child in a box?"In this episode, Daniel and Allison get honest about the pivot that changed everything — and what it cost them socially when they made it. They talk about the college lie, the opportunity cost most parents never calculate, throwing smartphones in the garbage, training kids to recognize bad influences, and why "you don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great."They also share the line Allison keeps coming back to: "We did not do it right." Because raising adults isn't about getting it perfect. It's about being humble enough to pivot when the Lord makes your thoughts agreeable to His.If you've ever followed the script everyone else is following and quietly wondered if it's the right one — this one is for you.We are not raising children. We are raising adults.🌅 Join us at Gulf Coast Family Camp — three times a year in Panama City Beach. Details at ArrowsAndAcres.com.🎧 New episodes weekly. Subscribe wherever you listen.#RaiseAdults #IntentionalParenting #HomeschoolCommunity #ChristianFamily #DontPutThemInABox

Daniel and Allison Hartman on why they pulled the plug — and why they'd do it again. A candid conversation about devices, homeschooling, family worship, large families, and raising children who don't blend in. From skipping the nursery to guarding purity in a digital age, this is what it looks like to parent by conviction instead of culture. Not a method. A stance.

Most parents are so busy managing childhood they never stop to ask: what kind of adult am I actually building?In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman make the case that the shift starts with a single decision — to stop parenting for right now and start parenting for twenty years from now. That means handing kids real responsibility before you think they're ready, making family devotions a non-negotiable anchor in the chaos, and keeping your eyes fixed on the only finish line that actually matters: a fully formed disciple.This isn't a conversation about behavior management. It's about what it looks like to build people — on purpose, with conviction, from the ground up.In this episode:Why empowering children through real responsibility changes everythingHow family devotions create the spiritual backbone your kids will carry into adulthoodWhy discipleship — not achievement, not college, not success — is the ultimate goal of Christian parentingIf you've ever felt like you're just reacting to your kids instead of forming them, this episode is your reset.

The conversation covers the planning of Ethan's wedding, the Gulf Coast family camp, the philosophy of raising adults instead of children, and practical tips for training children for independence. The Hartmans also discuss their family business and the importance of training children to be capable adults.TakeawaysRaising AdultsFamily BusinessTraining Children for IndependenceChapters00:00 Ethan's Wedding Planning06:54 Raising Adults, Not Children24:03 Practical Tips for Raising Adults