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College admissions have officially become a full-time job — for parents and teenagers alike. The pressure, the competition, the endless group chats, the essays, the campus tours… it's enough to make even the most grounded mom spiral.Sydney Friedman, founder of Friedman College Consulting, joins us to help you navigate this process without losing your mind — or your relationship with your kid. We talk about the four biggest mistakes parents make (including "photoshopping your kid's resume"), why rejection might actually be good for them, and why the final college decision should belong to your teen — not you.If you're a mom of a high school junior or senior trying to stay sane through this process, this one's for you.🎙️ Subscribe for more real conversations about midlife, parenting, and what comes next → [your channel link]00:26 🗣️ The hosts introduce the topic of the college application process, highlighting its stress for both students and parents, and the guilt associated with making the process work. They mention that today's guest, Sydney Friedman, will help navigate this process while preserving family relationships.01:14 🎓 Sydney Friedman, founder of Friedman College Consulting, is introduced.02:39 🎯 Sydney's philosophy: empowering families while reducing external pressures.04:49 🧘‍♀️ Stop collecting acceptances — start finding the right fit.06:08 🧑‍🎓 Your teen is not a product to be optimized.08:51 🚫 Why rejection is actually good for your kid.11:14 🏫 Why everyone chases the same 10 schools — and why that's a trap.13:19 🗺️ How to cast a wider net without feeling like you're settling.15:04 ❌ The #1 mistake parents make: an unbalanced college list.20:07 📝 4 mistakes parents make — including "photoshopping your kid's resume."28:40 🤝 How to be a project manager — not a helicopter parent.35:01 ⚖️ Eligible vs. admissible — and why it's not about your kid's worth.39:01 💭 Should your kid have a dream school? Here's the honest answer.40:25 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 The final decision: why it needs to be theirs.41:42 ✍️ Essays and activities lists: what most families get wrong.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

Manifestation after 50, why this chapter is the most powerful to manifest the life you want.Most of us spent our 30s and 40s manifesting for everyone else — a good school, a better job for our spouse, a healthy family. But now the house is quieter. The kids are gone. And for the first time in maybe decades — we actually get to ask: what do I want?In this episode, we're getting into manifestation — not the vision board, love-and-light version, but the real kind. The kind that's about aligning your energy with what you want to experience so it can flow naturally into your life without you controlling every outcome. In this episode we cover:Why your quieter house is actually the perfect launching pad for manifestationWhat manifestation really is (hint: it's not magic — it's energy alignment)Why what you focus on expands — and how to redirect that focus toward possibilityGratitude as a daily practice, not just a feeling — and why it changes everythingHow to trust the universe before you can see the outcomeWhy you should stop judging events as good or bad (the Chinese Farmer parable)The "Selfish AF" phase — and why embracing it is long overdueBooks & Resources We Loved:📖 Wishes Fulfilled by Dr. Wayne Dyer• 📖 Thank and Grow Rich by Pam Grout• 🎙️ Gabby Bernstein's 21-Day Manifestation Challenge 00:40 🗣️ Michelle and Lisa introduce themselves and the podcast, announcing episode 16 will focus on manifesting the life you want in midlife through simple mind shifts and practices.01:01 🎯 Lisa explains that midlife is a time to refocus on personal desires after decades of prioritizing family — the shift to what "I really want."02:36 💡 Lisa clarifies that manifestation is NOT wishful thinking or vision boards — it's the "behind the scenes" hard work and intentionality required to achieve goals.04:42 🔄 Michelle highlights the principle: "What you put out into the world is what your world becomes."05:31 📚 Michelle and Lisa share their research — Gabby Bernstein's 21-day challenge, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and Pam Grout.08:04 🙏 Michelle shares her daily gratitude journaling practice — writing 3 things she's grateful for each morning.09:33 🌌 Lisa introduces trusting the universe — letting go of fear before seeing the outcome.11:24 🧠 Michelle explains: "What you focus on determines your reality" — focusing on possibilities expands them; focusing on barriers creates more barriers.13:40 🛑 Lisa discusses stopping micromanagement and letting things flow — her personal struggle with anxiety-driven control.16:15 🧲 Michelle: "The state you're in influences what shows up" — you are a magnet attracting the energy you put out.17:00 🛣️ Lisa reframes obstacles as detours in the right direction, not roadblocks.18:21 ⚖️ Michelle shares the Chinese farmer proverb — stop judging events as good or bad; you don't know the long-term outcome.21:40 🧘‍♀️ Michelle reflects on midlife as a time of feeling stronger, more connected, and unafraid of the future.26:33 🚫 Lisa's final takeaway: "We are not stuck, we are avoiding it" — face the fear underneath the procrastination.27:47 💖 Michelle closes: Manifestation isn't about wanting more — it's about believing you deserve what you want.28:48 😂 Lisa's "ins and overs" — TikTok creator Plumes, and compilations of people falling without getting hurt.30:43 🗣️ Lisa's "overs" — small talk and large groups of bicyclists on busy roads.31:58 📺 Michelle's "ins" — documentaries: "Trust Me, the False Prophet" and "Margot is Having Money Trouble" (Michelle Pfeiffer).33:41 🖨️ Michelle's "over" — printers forcing you to use color ink even when printing in black and white.34:53 📢 Outro — like, follow, subscribe, and check out their Linktree for gift ideas and shopping recommendations.📲 Follow us on Instagram: @before_boca#manifestation #womenover50 #midlifereinvention #emptynestsyndrome #startingover50 #midlifewomen #beforeboca #manifestationpractice #gratitude #midlifepodcastT

Midlife friendships hit different and we're finally talking about why.In this episode of Before Boca, we dive into what female friendships after 50 really look like — inspired by The Life Council by Laura Tremaine. As life shifts, kids growing up, careers changing, priorities realigning, so do our relationships. And not all friendships are meant to come with us into this next chapter.We get honest about the hard questions women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond are quietly asking:If your friendships are shifting, shrinking, or needing a reset, you're not alone. And you're definitely not doing it wrong.🎧 Follow Before Boca for real conversations about midlife reinvention, empty nest life, and finding yourself again.0:00 – Hook: The "bury a body" friendship test0:37 – Welcome to Before Boca0:57 – Why your female tribe matters more than ever in midlife1:20 – How do you decide who makes the cut at 50?1:34 – How friendships form differently across life stages3:55 – The case for friends for different seasons & reasons5:39 – How to keep friends close when life is busy6:22 – Texting vs. calling: navigating digital friendship8:27 – Giving grace when friends go quiet9:00 – Macro friends vs. micro friends — what's the difference?9:55 – When is it time to let a friendship go?14:38 – Book spotlight: The Life Council by Laura Tremaine15:04 – Friendship is emotional labor — key insights from the book16:11 – Giving good friends the benefit of the doubt17:03 – Why you should never keep score in a friendship17:56 – "Just go" — why showing up is everything18:38 – Your partner doesn't have to be your BFF21:12 – The 11 friendship categories of your Life Council21:19 – The Daily Duty (your micro friends who know everything)21:56 – The Old Friend (they hold your history)24:11 – The Work Friend25:10 – The Fellow Obsessive (bonded by a shared passion)27:03 – The Battle Buddy (forged through hard times)28:15 – The Yes Friend (your fun, spontaneous one)28:47 – The Mentor / Advice Giver29:56 – The Password Protector (aka the "bury a body" friend)30:52 – The Empty Chair (friendships that have ended — and why they still matter)32:03 – The New Friend (why midlife is actually a great time to start fresh)35:01 – The Soul Sister (the ones with a permanent seat at your table)36:07 – How to use your friendship council as a journaling exercise37:05 – Into & Over: what we're loving (and leaving) this week44:55 – See you next episode!#MidlifeFriendships #WomenOver50 The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. Thehosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

Connecting with my deceased dad and hearing a message he was desperate for me to know. Watch the full episode today.

What happens when midlife reinvention meets the unknown?In this episode of Before Boca, we step a little outside our comfort zone—and maybe even outside our everyday understanding of life. Because let’s be honest: this phase of life for midlife women is filled with curiosity, questions, and that underlying feeling of what’s next?So we leaned in.We sat down with a psychic medium.As we navigate midlife purpose and the search for meaning in this in-between chapter, we couldn’t help but wonder: what if staying open to intuition, to energy, to possibility is actually part of the reinvention process?This conversation explores the things we don’t always talk about intuition, connection, and the idea that there may be more guiding us than we can explain. Whether you’re a skeptic, a believer, or just curious, this episode invites you to think differently about how we move through midlife.Because maybe midlife reinvention isn’t just about what we do next…Maybe it’s also about what we’re willing to feel, explore, and believe.✨ If you’re a midlife woman asking bigger questions about purpose, identity, and what comes next, this one’s for you.#EnergyReading #WomenOver50 #MidlifeReinvention #HealingJourney #SpiritualAwakening00:00 Intro – Why we did a live energy reading01:45 What an “energy read” actually is04:20 Meeting the psychic medium (what we expected vs didn’t)07:10 Setting the tone – open vs skeptical10:05 Lisa’s reading begins14:30 The details that felt… a little too accurate18:40 Michelle’s reading begins23:15 The moments that stopped us in our tracks27:50 Can this actually be real? (our honest reactions)31:40 The emotional hits we didn’t expect36:10 What this says about intuition in midlife40:20 Where we landed – believers, skeptics, or somewhere in between44:10 Would we do it again?46:30 Final thoughts – staying open in this phase of lifeThe information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

Women over 50, this one's for you. This week we sit down with our friend Jen Kraft, therapeutic yoga teacher , to unpack a powerful (and honestly relieving) idea: your midlife body isn’t broken and you’re not “just getting old.” You might simply be moving through the world with patterns your body learned years (or decades) ago and those patterns may be why your body feels off.From how you stand in line, to how you sit in your car, to the way you carry stress in your shoulders, we explore how posture, alignment, and everyday movement habits impact how you feel in midlife—and what small, realistic shifts can actually change everything. We tackle how we can rethink how we stand, sit, and carry ourselves, even how we talk about our bodies and how all of that is impacting our nervous system.We talk about:Why you’re not “old”—you might just have old movement habitsThe connection between posture, pain, and stressSimple ways to stand, sit, and move with less tensionHow to reduce everyday aches without a full lifestyle overhaulThe midlife body shift—and how to work with it, not against itHow to stop addressing our pain as "bad knees"If you’ve been feeling tight, achy, or just “off,” this conversation will make you rethink everything you thought about aging and your body.You’re not broken. You’re not old. You might just need some tweaks.#midlifereinvention #womenover50 #therapeuticyoga #midlifepurpose00:00 Intro – Why this topic hit us right now01:35 The moment we realized something had shifted04:10 What no one tells you about this phase of life07:00 The identity piece – who are you now?10:25 The habits/thought patterns we had to break14:40 The part that surprised us most18:20 Real-life examples (where this actually shows up)22:10 The emotional side no one talks about26:30 What we’re trying differently now30:45 The mindset shift that changes everything35:20 Where people get stuck (and why)39:10 What this looks like in relationships42:50 What we’d tell our younger selves46:15 Final thoughts – what this phase is really aboutThe information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

For women over 50 navigating what comes next, relationships are part of the midlife purpose journey. Somewhere between carpools, careers, and raising kids, a lot ofcouples quietly drift from partners… to co-managers of life.In this episode, we’re talking about how to find your way back.We dive into the research behind why so many marriages lose their spark in this stage and more importantly, what actually helps couples reconnect. From shifting your mindset back to couplehood (not just family management), to the small but powerful habits that rebuild closeness, we unpack what really matters.We explore the role of friendship, intimacy, humor, communication, and shared rituals and why doing new, novel things together can be a game changer. We alsotalk about creating fresh goals, new bucket lists, and a future that feels exciting together, not just functional.Because this chapter isn’t the end of the story… it might actually be where things get really good.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. Thehosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances. 

For women over 50 finding happiness does not just fall into your lap, we must cultivate it by creating small shifts in our day. In our journey for midlife purpose we have to be intentional about how we construct our day to help find the "glimmers" that make each day a little more magical. This week we dive into the science behind what we can do to "microdose" some happiness into each day. Not the big, life-changing kind, but the little bursts of joy that can turn an ordinary Tuesday into something brighter.From blasting your favorite playlist in the car, to laughing with your best friend, catching a sunset, or finally tackling that junk drawer you’ve been ignoring for months, we explore the surprisingly powerful moments that lift our mood.We also dig into the research on why certain experiences spark more happiness than others, and how small, intentional choices throughout the day can tip the balance from more rain… to a lot more sunshine.Because maybe happiness isn’t something you find someday, maybe it’s something you sprinkle into the middle of a perfectly ordinary day.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions takenbased on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individualcircumstances.

Part of searching for midlife purpose is understanding what is holding you back. Stepping outside your comfort zone sounds great in theory… until you actually have to do it.In this episode, we dive into why pushing ourselves beyond what feels safe and familiar is so important for growth and why it can feel so uncomfortable in the moment. We talk about the times in our lives when we took the leap, the times we wish we had, and how those decisions shaped who we are today.And because we believe you can’t just talk about it… we decided to actually do it. We challenged ourselves to try something that pushed us way outside our current comfort zones and spoiler: it ended up being way more fun than we expected.Sometimes the things that scare us the most are the exact things that shake up our routines, bring new energy into our lives, and remind us we’re still capable of trying something new.If you’ve been feeling a little stuck, a little bored, or like you’re ready to shake things up… this episode is your nudge.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances

Midlife women are looking for some peace...bring on...knitting. Mahjong. Bird watching. Baking.Yes , we said it. The “granny hobbies” are having a full-blown renaissance with women over 50… and we are completely here for it.In this episode, we dive into why the hobbies we once rolled our eyes at are suddenly the exact medicine we didn’t know we needed. From the rhythm of knitting needles to the strategy of mahjong, from early morning bird walks to losing yourself in a perfect loaf of sourdough, these rituals are grounding, regulating, and surprisingly powerful.We explore:• Why slow, tactile hobbies calm the nervous system• How they support cognitive health and creativity• The mental health benefits of focus, flow, and community• Why this phase of life practically begs for intentional, analog joyIn a world that feels loud, fast, and constantly online, these hobbies pull us out of chaos and into calm. They remind us that pleasure doesn’t have to be productive and that sometimes the most rebellious thing we can do is slow down.If you’ve been craving something soothing, social, or just beautifully simple… this episode is your permission slip.Turns out “granny” was onto something.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

In this episode, we dive into what it really takes to restart your career, launch a brand new one or completely pivot and become the entrepreneur who’s been living rent-free in your head. We interview one of our besties who just reinvented herself professionally and she gets honest about it all. The anxieties and the motivators. The voice that says, “Who do you think you are?” — and the louder one that says,“Why not me?” Because sometimes the scariest move… is also the most defining.  If you’re feeling restless, bored, or quietly dreaming about what you want to be when you grow up , this one’s for you.The information shared on BeforeBoca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances. 

What happens when you sit down with women who are further down the road—the ones who have already livedthrough the chapters we’re just entering? In this episode, we ask them to get honest about their biggest regrets, the risks they wish they’d taken, and the things that mattered so much more than they expected—and the ones that matteredless than they thought. They share hard-earned lessons about love, marriage, friendship, ambition, motherhood, aging, reinvention, and what they wish they could tell their younger selves back when they were still stuck in the schoolpickup line. This conversation is honest, surprising, sometimes heartbreaking, and deeply hopeful. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I doing this right?”—this episode is your reminder that hindsight is a gift we can share. Because BeforeBoca isn’t about fading out. It’s about writing the next chapter with intention.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. Thehosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

Botox, peptides, red light, supplements, serums, lasers… it’s a lot. In this episode of Before Boca, we wade into the overwhelming (and often contradictory) world of anti-aging and wellness for women—and try to separate real information from very expensive noise.And yes—we get personal. We share what we’ve done, what we haven’t, and what we might be willing to try next (no secrets, no shame).Consider this your permission slip to stop chasing every fountain and start trusting your own version of the truth.✨ Not anti-aging. Pro-clarity. Pro-choice. Pro-you.We talk about how to build your own relationship with what works, what doesn’t, and what you’re simply not interested in—without judgment or pressure to keep up. We spill what an  industry insider says actually delivers results, what’s overhyped, and what’s mostly great marketing. The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. Thehosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

The kids may be gone but a midlife woman's need to nurture never disappears. In this episode, we stepped away from our usual routines and into something unexpectedly grounding: fostering a dog for the day and spending time at a horse barn. What started as a simple experiment turned into a powerful reminder of how giving back—and being around animals—has a way of recalibrating everything.We talk about why helping others (and four-legged friends) shifts perspective, lowers stress, and pulls us out of our own heads. From the quiet presence of horses to the pure, tail-wagging joy of a foster pup, we explore how animals offer connection without expectation—and why that feels especially meaningful in this in-between phase of life.This episode is about generosity, presence, and the surprising emotional returns of showing up for something outside yourself. No grand gestures required—just open hearts, muddy boots, and a willingness to say yes for the day.If you’ve been craving purpose, peace, or just a really good excuse to pet a dog… this one’s for you. The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

In this episode, we get into the mantras we are trying to live by. Not the polished quotes, the real internal commentary. The thoughts on repeat that shape how we (try) to make decisions, set boundaries, parent, and react. We talk about the phrases guiding us right now, the ones we want to add to our repertoire, and the ones we want to pass on to our kids.Think of these as our North Star. Not perfection, direction. The quiet rules we follow when no one is listening. Some are grounding, some are motivating, and some are the ones we want to say out loud but absolutely should not. Those might be the most fun.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

This week on Before Boca, we gave ourselves a challenge thatsounded simple… and turned out to be wildly humbling: no complaining and no criticizing for an entire week. 😬Spoiler alert: it was harder than we expected — and we were way less successful than we thought we’d be. From catching ourselves mid-eye roll to realizing just how automatic our negativity can be, we break down the moments we failed, the tiny wins we celebrated, and the surprisingly powerfulinsights we uncovered along the way.We talk about:• How often we complain without even realizing it• The sneaky ways criticism shows up in daily life• What it taught us about mindset, relationships, and ourselves• The shifts we actually want to take forwardIf you’ve ever thought, “I’m not negative…” (but maybe kinda are 👀),this episode is for you. Join us for laughs, honesty, and a few uncomfortabletruths — because growth isn’t always pretty, but it’s always worth it.✨Tune in, try the challenge with us, and tell us how it goes.The information shared on BeforeBoca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. Thehosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussedon this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions takenbased on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion.Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individualcircumstances.

You know that feeling when your to-do list is longer than your patience?Yep. That’s overwhelm. And in this episode, we’re diving headfirst into it.We unpack what actually makes us feel overwhelmed (spoiler: it’s not just our calendars), how it shows up in our bodies and moods, and the very predictable ways we usually try to cope (hello, doom-scrolling and busying ourselves into exhaustion).Then…we decided to shake things up.This week we experimented with three very different interventions:✨An infrared sauna✨A breathwork + sound bath workshop✨And yes, actually learning how to meditateWe share what each experience really felt like (the good, theawkward, the “wait…is this working?” moments), what surprised us most, and which practices we might actually stick with moving forward.If you’ve been craving more calm but don’t know where to start, this episode is for you. No pressure to become a zen master—just honest conversations about finding a little more peace in the chaos of midlife.Grab your headphones, take a deep breath, and join us.Because inner peace? We’re working on it. 😉The information shared on Before Boca is for general informational and entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financial professionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be considered professional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast are done at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

Calling all empty nesters (and those about to be). Life is fine—but your calendar has more white space, the noise has quieted, and somehow everything feels a little… flat.In our premiere episode of Before Boca, we dive into that sneaky midlife boredom that shows up without warning—and usually without a plan. We unpack what boredom actually looks like in this season of life, how we sometimes make it worse without realizing it, and why this exact feeling nudged us to start a podcast in the first place.In this episode, we explore:·       How boredom (and our coping behaviors) have changed over the years·       What genuinely helps—and what quietly makes things worse·       What boredom might be trying to tell us (annoying, but true)·       Why boredom could actually be an invitation to write a new chapterIf you’ve ever thought, “Is this it?”—this conversation is for you.The information shared on Before Boca is for general informationaland entertainment purposes only. The hosts are not medical, legal, or financialprofessionals, and nothing discussed on this podcast should be consideredprofessional advice. Any actions taken based on the content of this podcast aredone at the listener’s own discretion. Always consult a qualified professionalregarding your individual circumstances