Boysober

Hope has been stuck in a very familiar pattern — go boysober, boylapse, repeat. In Boysober's final episode, she’s desperate to break the cycle. So desperate that she travels to a monastery to seek guidance from women who might be considered the original boysober evangelists: nuns.This may not be a perfect ending. But it might be a real beginning.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Peggy Orenstein is an author and journalist who has interviewed countless young women about their sex lives, including Hope. In the midst of writing the follow-up to her popular book Girls & Sex, Peggy stops by the podcast to share her newest findings. As it turns out, you can’t have a conversation about young women and their intimate lives today without talking about celibacy.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What happens when you try to give up men… and keep failing? After years of starting (and restarting) her celibacy journey, Hope talks to two Gen Z women who are actually doing it and thriving. From breaking patterns around male validation to redefining intimacy, Jasmine Gonzalez and Ameya Okamoto share their own personal experiences with what happened when they stopped centering men.    Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You learn so much about people when you work in a service job: How they interact, what ticks them off, and how they lay on the charm for tips. It's also fun to interact with customers, do some innocent flirting, and maybe... some not so innocent flirting. Today, we have a bartenders to lovers story that will make you believe in love again.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many people have had a certain someone they just can’t quit. Hope is in the thick of it right now and calls on relationship expert Jillian Turecki to talk it through. Their conversation about limerence and romantic obsession goes deep, takes some unexpectedly personal turns, and will leave you with a deeper understanding of how to pursue healthier relationships. Jillian’s best-selling book,  It Begins With You, is available now. You can pre-order her companion workbook, It Begins With You Now, which comes out May 5. And you can always hear more from Jillian on her podcast, Jillian On Love.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Class is in session: Dr. Nicole McNichols, best known online as the "Sex Professor," is here to fix your sex life — or at least unlearn everything that’s been ruining it. From Gen Z's performative, porn-influenced hookups to the myth that good sex should just “happen,” we get into why so many people are having less (and worse) sex, and what actually makes it better. Nicole's new book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, is out now.    Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized, and Secure. Those are the four major Attachment Styles that you might be familiar with even if you're not in therapy. Clinical psychologist Dr. Morgan Anderson helps identify what each style looks like in dating, the biggest misconceptions that are shaping our behaviors, and what it really takes to move toward secure, healthy relationships.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“Are You Mad at Me?” It’s the question that lives rent-free in every people pleaser’s head — and it’s also the title of psychotherapist Meg Josephson’s book. In this episode, Meg joins Hope to unpack why people-pleasing is actually a trauma response, how it can turn into subtle dishonesty, and what it takes to stop losing yourself while trying to keep everyone else happy.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a woman decides she doesn't want kids, everyone has an opinion about it. For women in that position, it can be disorienting to distinguish between what you want and what society wants for you. This week, audio producer and storyteller Helena de Groot tells us her story about giving up everything to stay true to what she knew she did and didn’t want. To hear more of Helena's story, listen and subscribe to Creation Myth wherever you get podcasts.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Comedian Chanel Ali tells us the story about how, throughout her life, she had to rely on herself to figure out the answers to life's big mysteries. Through her complicated search to find her biological family, she confronts the weight of generational patterns and chooses to build a legacy that’s fully her own. For updates on her next shows, check out her website chanelali.com, or follow her on Instagram and TikTok.    Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Patterns are hard to break. Cue: Therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab, who joins the show to help Hope tackle her own tendencies of becoming enmeshed in codependent relationships and learn how to change her behavior in both romantic and platonic relationships. Nedra's new book, The Balancing Act: Creating Healthy Dependency and Connection Without Losing Yourself, is out now.    Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope is no stranger to real-life romance, but when it comes to the genre of romance—books and TV shows like Heated Rivalry or Bridgerton—she’s a complete virgin. Today, she gets her education with a trip to a romance bookstore, a conversation about monster romance with romance novel expert Sanjana Basker, and a serious look at how wounds from past relationships could be keeping her from embracing stories about love.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cheating is often treated like the ultimate dealbreaker — but it’s way more complicated than that. Therapist (and author of "Beyond Infidelity") Lauren LaRusso talks with Hope about why cheating happens, why staying or leaving a relationship is rarely black and white, and what actually helps people heal after betrayal.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Comedian Britt Migs tells us the story of the man she married, the bot that tore everything apart, and where dating after divorce led her. Britt is adapting this story into a special called "Dolphin Mode." For updates on when that's coming out, be sure to check out her website brittmigs.com, or follow her on Instagram and TikTok.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do the straight men in your life have friends? Do they have a close emotional relationship with someone other than their romantic partner? If not, and you are in a relationship with one of these men, you might be “mankeeping,” a term coined by psychologist Angelica Ferrara to describe the emotional labor many women take on for their male partners. Today, we have Angelica on the pod to guide us through why it’s so hard for straight men to find connection and what the answer might be to this patriarchal mess.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope is boysober but she’s also sober sober… like from alcohol. For Dry January, she’s chatting with her friend Chris Murch (aka Nigel Roxbury, content creator and host of the online series "Dumb Hot") who has been sober for almost two years. Many might think dating while sober is hard, but without alcohol, it can be easier to understand who you are and what you want.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether you’re looking for love or completely boysober in 2026, you’ll likely be inundated with dating trends and terms that might affect how you think about relationships these days. Hope, with producers Emily and Cristina, get in the studio to discuss these terms and talk about what they’re really looking for in the new year.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A look back on our favorite answers to Boysober's signature question: "What have you unlearned about love?"    Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s the holidays, which is the perfect time to force your family to overshare on mic. That’s what Hope is doing this week with her mom Sharon, who opens up about her own path through love, heartbreak, and the patterns the women in their family keep repeating.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It feels like everything is expensive these days. So what does that mean for dating? Comedian Esmond Fountain shares his own experience of struggling to find love when his bank account was basically zero.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your boyfriend might not be embarrassing, but the way you talk and post about him probably is. For too long, women have been taught to flaunt their relationships to prove their worth. In this live episode of Boysober, Hope talks to creator Kate Glavan about rewriting that script, and how she had to unlearn the rules of dating to figure out what she actually wanted. To hear more from Kate, don't forget to check out the return of her hit podcast Seamossgirlies when it returns in January!   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is living alone so glamorized? Especially when there's a more affordable and less lonely option to live in an intentional community. That’s the message Gillian Morris is preaching. Gillian has lived communally for 10 years in various environments, and is even working to raise her child in one as a single mother. What does that mean exactly and why could it be the answer to so many of society’s shortcomings? To learn more about communal living, check out Gillian's Substack Supernuclear.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being in a committed relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop being curious. That’s what Michelle MiJung Kim realized once she married her husband. As a queer woman, Michelle felt it was important to continue exploring her sexuality even while in a stable relationship. So when she asked to open the marriage, Michelle started her journey to find out what she needed to be happy. To hear more about the story that inspired this episode, check out Michelle's podcast I Feel That Way Too.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Consider this your fertility Q&A, minus the misinformation you might see on social media. Hope sits down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon to talk egg freezing: When is the right time to do it? What's a man's responsibility in all this? And most importantly, how can we plan for the future without freaking out about it? To learn more, be sure to pre-order Dr. Lucky's book The Lucky Egg (out Jan. 13, 2026).   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can men and women really just be friends? That’s the question at the heart of this week's Boysober Rom-Com Roundtable. Comedians Nikki Martin and Andy Spector help break down the iconic When Harry Met Sally—and all the messy, funny, and heartfelt truths about love and friendship it brings up.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boysober has always been about healing the parts of ourselves we’d rather ignore. This week, Hope explores an unconventional way to heal… with clown class. What seems silly at first becomes a powerful lesson in vulnerability and forgiveness.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are no rules when it comes to dating. Tiff Baira, TikTok's cupid and author of the new Modern Dating for Dummies, joins the pod to break down the difference between situationships and flings, healing after heartbreak, and the kinds of dating advice we should ignore online.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love bombers, mama’s boys… and oh god, another musician?! We’ve all got our list of dating red flags—but that doesn’t mean we always listen to it. This week, we’re diving into your wildest dealbreaker dating stories, the warning signs you ignored, and the hilarious (and painful) lessons that followed.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Hope's friend Storrey brings us a tale about a recent tumultuous relationship involving a finance bro, Miami, and some power play.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to the start of Boysober October! To kick off the anniversary of Hope's flirtation with celibacy and decentering men, comedian Annabel Meschke joins the pod and reveals why she stopped being Hope's "sponsor." Plus, we hear from the listeners and their own boysober journeys!   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Writer-comedian Keara Sullivan is a woman who stands on business. She knows who she is, goes after what she wants, and doesn’t easily crash out over a man. She self-describes as perpetually yet happily single, but lately a little manifestation might be changing that.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So far, we've mostly been talking about the "boy" part of boysober. The sex, the romance, the relationships. But there's another aspect to knowing yourself... and it's understanding that friendships are just as important as romantic relationships. This week, Hope talks with "Bad Friend" author Michelle Elman about the heartbreak of her own friend breakups.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when you’re longing for touch? Glynnis MacNicol followed her intuition to get what she needed — by booking a flight to Paris. Now, she shares how her desires have shifted.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What is “good sex,” and how do we have it? You don’t have to figure it out all on your own. This week, we have someone who can help: Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, author of “Good Sex: Stories, Science and Strategies for Sexual Liberation.”   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’re familiar with Jensen McRae’s music, you know it’s filled with details of past loves: navy bedsheets, pilgrim ashtrays, trips out east. Her songs hit you to your core — but who were the loves that inspired them? The singer-songwriter talks about some of her past relationships that inspired hit songs like "Massachusetts," why we should have realistic expectations in romantic relationships, and what it’s like now dating as a public figure.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days may arguably be one of the best romantic comedies to exist. Matthew McConaughey shirtless. Kate Hudson's perfect mix of crazy and cute. The sexual tension between the two! But how has the classic rom-com shaped our idea of love? Comedians Brandon Follick and Ai Vy Lu'u join Boysober's first-ever Rom-Com Roundtable to break it down.   To hear more of Brandon and Ai Vy, check out their new podcast Everybody Wants To Be My Friend.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s said that you don’t get to choose your family. But what if you can? Actor-singer and “Gaydar” host Anania shares her personal journey with discovering her own identity, coming out, expressing herself through drag, and finding a supportive chosen family.     Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boysober has never been about giving up sex entirely. It’s about taking a break to understand yourself better. What do you really want? What do you like? And who do you want to do it with? In this episode, Kink Consultant Amanda Dames helps us understand how to explore our own desires and how to improve pleasure in and out of the bedroom.     Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Growing up in the '90s and early 2000s, we were told a lot of lies about what women want, what women should be, and what men fantasized about. What unrealistic standards are we still unlearning, what does it have to do with porn and 9/11, and are things any better now? Sophie Gilbert, the author of Girl on Girl, takes us through it.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you find yourself when you’ve been raised under a strict moral code? That’s what musician and comedian L.J. Granered had to figure out when they started exploring their sexuality after an upbringing in the Evangelical Church.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How can we untangle the emotional and physical in our relationships? Can we ever find a happy medium between hook-up culture and celibacy? And what counts as “sex” anyway? This week, we’re tackling these questions - and more! - with sex therapist and Feel It All author Casey Tanner.      Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If there was a class on how to go Boysober, Melissa Febos’ book The Dry Season would be at the top of the syllabus. Melissa’s new memoir recounts a time when she did what Hope could not — give up dating, romance, and sex for an entire year. Hope talks to Melissa to better understand how she achieved this and how it rewired her brain to not be guided by the patterns of old relationships.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your relationship with your family has a lot to do with all the other relationships in your life, platonic or romantic. If you're having issues in those relationships, you might have to go all the way back to the beginning to figure out what's wrong. That's just what today's guest, Charlene Kaye, did with her mother.     Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What kind of summer are you having this year? In today’s episode we’re hearing listeners’ love stories from summers past, from flirty flings and sexy hookups to short and sweet relationships and unexpected endings.     Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is rereading old texts a sign of love addiction or just enthusiasm? Content creator Tefi Pessoa gets real about her experiences in intense relationships, the complex work of breaking toxic dating patterns, and how to prioritize self-love.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hope dives into the question of why she's still single, with some brutally honest insights from family and a deep conversation with Meghan Keane, author of “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Life Partner.”   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it mean to be boysober, and why did Hope do it in the first place? Hear all about her journey and the unexpected setbacks she faced while taking a break from men, sex, and dating. And find out what her new plan for Boysober 2.0 entails.  Special thanks to the beautiful people in New York who spoke to us, and to @fenigab, @marilynnoltee, @the.chloebird, @alicesbalance, and @user2765489013 on TikTok. And, of course, Mimi.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Send us a voice note at [email protected], or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love is messy. Join Hope Woodard as she dives into the chaos of relationships, identity, and connection with humor and heart.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.