btchfest

On our final episode of Season 2 of btchfest, we're unpacking the quiet ways internalized competition, jealousy, and conditional support can sneak into our relationships with other women—even when we think we’re cheering them on.   Being a girl’s girl isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being honest, checking your biases, and showing up for other women loudly and consistently, even when no one’s watching.   This week we’re asking the hard questions: Do you clap for her only when it’s convenient? Do you cheer in public but compete in private? Do you call it “just being honest” when you’re actually judging her confidence, ambition, or outfit?   Being a girl’s girl means more than vibes and hashtags. It’s about showing up with integrity, letting go of scarcity, and making room at the table without conditions. Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

What if the taboo world of BDSM held the key to better communication, deeper self-understanding, and stronger boundaries—especially for women? In this episode, Sami and Ami dive into the misunderstood realm of kink to explore how the structure of BDSM—negotiation, safewords, aftercare, and consent—can radically shift how we advocate for ourselves in relationships, work, and even family dynamics.   Plus, they’re joined by a guest who lives this work daily—international BDSM model and educator Ariel Anderssen—who shares how submission is anything but weak, and how embracing kink helped her take control of her body, her voice, and her power. Find Ariel on her Substack: https://arielanderssen.substack.com/ This episode is for anyone who's ever struggled to say what they want, questioned if they were “too much,” or felt shame for exploring their desires. Tune in, take notes, and maybe even start your own sexual revolution.

Why is it that women are constantly labeled—bossy, emotional, crazy ex, diva—while men in the same roles are called leaders, assertive, or passionate? In this episode, Sami and Ami talk roots of gendered labels, from patriarchal traditions to modern media portrayals, and how these reductive terms shape the way women are perceived at work, in relationships, and even in their own minds.   From the “Madonna/Whore” dichotomy to the rise of terms like “girlboss,” we explore how language can box women into impossible binaries and create competition instead of community. We also discuss how social media and cancel culture amplify these issues—and how comedians and creators are pushing back by reclaiming the words once used against them. Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

Why is diet culture still such a thing? And more importantly—how do we break away from it?   In this week's episode Sami and Ami sit down with Hailey Grandchamp, founder of WOAT – Women of All Terrain – to unpack the toxic roots of diet culture and the insidious ways it still shows up in our lives today. From early Hollywood ideals to the ‘90s supermodel era and today’s #WhatIEatInADay culture, we explore how unrealistic beauty standards have shaped our relationships with food, fitness, and our bodies for generations. Hailey shares her personal story of recovering from years of restriction and body shame—starting from her time as a young gymnast to becoming a powerhouse coach helping over 700 women rediscover strength, confidence, and joy through movement and reconnection, not restriction. We talk about: The real origins of diet culture (spoiler: it’s not about health) The billion-dollar industry that profits off your shame Social media’s role in reinforcing toxic messages—and how to resist What it means to actually heal your relationship with your body 🎉 Special offer for listeners! Hailey is offering 10% off her coaching program for our audience. Book a call at go.becomingallterrain.com/welcome and mention btchfest!

Leaving a toxic relationship isn’t always a moment of clarity—it’s often a slow, painful process clouded by shame, fear, and second-guessing. In this episode, we get very vulnerable and talk about our own experiences, as well as with our guest Nicole, a woman who bravely shares her story of being stuck in a relationship that was quietly damaging her.  Together, we unpack what it’s like to start telling the truth out loud, only to realize that staying feels more embarrassing than leaving. Nicole reflects on the turning point when shame became fuel for accountability, and the powerful steps she took to finally break free. If you’ve ever been in it, are in it, or love someone who is—this conversation is for you. Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

What does it mean to be a tomboy in 2025? For decades, the word described girls who shunned pink dresses in favor of scraped knees, tree climbing, sports, and “boyish” interests. But does the label still hold meaning today—or has it become another outdated box to break out of? In this episode, we dive into the history and cultural legacy of the tomboy: where the term came from, how it shaped generations, and what it says about gender expectations. We unpack media influences, personal childhood memories, and shifting societal norms—with help from a very special guest: Julie, Ami’s mom(!), who shares her own reflections on girlhood, identity, and raising kids in a more inclusive world. From gendered clothing to playground politics, this conversation explores whether “tomboy” empowered authenticity or reinforced a narrow view of what girls were “allowed” to be. We ask: what’s the modern alternative to this label, and how do we raise the next generation with more freedom to be exactly who they are?

From being told to carry pepper spray to changing their entire routines to avoid danger, women have long been expected to shoulder the responsibility for their own safety — but why?    In this week's episode, Sami and Ami are joined by Leah, a thoughtful and passionate advocate, to unpack why the burden of safety so often falls on women instead of addressing the root causes of harm. Together, they dive into cultural conditioning, victim-blaming, male accountability, institutional failures, and the role the media plays in reinforcing these harmful narratives. They also explore how the stakes are even higher for marginalized women and how “solutions” like workplace self-defense classes or “share your ride” apps don’t solve the real problem. Plus, personal stories, reflections on motherhood, and a much-needed conversation about how men, institutions, and communities can step up.   It’s time to shift the narrative—and the responsibility—away from women, for good.

Why do so many women feel like there’s a deadline for figuring life out? Whether it’s marriage, kids, career, or success by 30, there’s a deep-rooted pressure to hit certain milestones “on time.” In this episode, we unpack the origin of that pressure—and ask if it still holds so much power in 2025. Hosts Sami and Ami sit down with Danielle Mashuda, founder of Keystone Artist Connect and a total powerhouse in the music and events world, to explore the forces that have shaped women’s timelines—from historical gender roles and the myth of the “biological clock” to cultural narratives, family expectations, and shame around aging. Danielle shares her own path, the freedom she’s found in rejecting traditional expectations, and the clarity that comes when you stop doing what you should do and start doing what you want to do. This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt behind, stuck, or like they missed some invisible deadline. (Spoiler alert: you didn’t.)

It’s a lingering Double standard. Men aren’t labeled as “working dads” because it’s assumed that their career remains uninterrupted by parenthood. So…why is this label still applied to mothers? What happens when a woman stops chasing productivity and starts prioritizing presence? In this week's episode, we dive into the outdated but persistent choice fallacy—the idea that women must choose between career and motherhood—and the emotional labor and mental load that often accompany both. From media narratives like Mr. Mom and I Don’t Know How She Does It, to workplace policies that claim to support working parents (but often penalize mothers), we explore how societal structures are—or aren’t—set up for modern motherhood. This one’s for anyone who’s ever felt the pressure to be everything, do everything, and smile through it. Let’s unpack the unspoken expectations—and imagine something better.

The pop culture we experience during our formative years — especially in childhood and adolescence — has such a lasting impact on us as adults because those years are a time of intense emotional and psychological development. There are lots of reasons why it resonates so deeply with us as adults, which is why we're diving into today's question. We also have an incredible guest joining us! She is a powerhouse in the world of immersive storytelling and themed entertainment—Andy Crocker. Andy is an experience designer, writer, and creative director with a knack for crafting interactive narratives that break the fourth wall and invite audiences into unforgettable adventures. She’s worked with Walt Disney Imagineering, as the Immersive Performance Director for the original cast of Star Wars: Galactic Starcruiser, The Second City, Knotty’s Berry Farm and currently serves as the Creator in Residence for The Los Angeles Public Library. If you’re in LA, you should check out her amazing creation, The Bureau of Nooks and Crannies. Alongside her husband Jeff Crocker, Andy creates live experiences designed to delight audiences and turn strangers into pals through their partnership Mister & Mischief. They have created award-winning interactive productions that have captivated audiences at Universal Studios, IndieCade, and beyond. Their projects, like Escape from Godot, 40 Watts from Nowhere, and The Apple Avenue Detective Agency, have been hailed by The Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, and Broadway World, and they’ve even earned a spot among Blooloop’s Top 50 Immersive Influencers. Andy’s work is truly rooted in sparking curiosity, play, and connection and we’re thrilled to have her here today to talk about her journey, the magic of immersive experiences, and what’s next for Mister & Mischief.  

What defines a "girl's girl"? In this episode, we explore the traits that set her apart: she’s the friend who shows up for you, celebrates your wins, and stands by your side on tough days. A girl’s girl embodies support, kindness, and respect in her relationships with other women. But does this role always mean pure empowerment, or are there hidden expectations and pressures that come along with it?   Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

While plenty of men love a witty woman, there's a curious pattern: some men seem to feel uneasy or even resentful when a woman outshines them in humor. Why is that? Does it boil down to insecurity, gender expectations, or something deeper? Join us as we explore the social and psychological reasons why some men prefer being the funniest person in the room—and why, for some, a funny woman can feel like a challenge. This week, we’re thrilled to welcome comedian and cultural critic Dana Kaye, who brings her insight into comedy, gender norms, and relationships. Dana shares her thoughts on why some men feel uncomfortable or intimidated by funny women and whether this stems from insecurity or even subconscious bias. We’ll dig into the difference in criticisms that male and female comics face and explore Dana’s experience as a queer comic in a world where humor is prized for its creative, problem-solving edge. Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected]. For more information on Dana and her comedy schedule, please visit DanaKaye.com.

Have you ever told a little white lie to your doctor about your weight, your symptoms, or how you're truly feeling? If so, you're not alone—and this episode is for you. Join hosts Ami and Sami as they dive deep into the reasons why many women find themselves withholding information or stretching the truth during medical appointments. Drawing from personal experiences, they share moments when they've been less than honest with their doctors and explore what motivated those choices. Was it fear of judgment, past experiences of not being believed, or simply the pressure to "have it all together"? We'll also be joined by our special guest, Myrra Windau, a seasoned Physician Assistant, who provides great insight from the other side of the exam room. She sheds light on how healthcare providers perceive patient honesty, the importance of open communication, and the challenges they face when patients aren't fully transparent.  Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

Ever since we were kids, we’ve been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” But what happens if we can’t see anyone who looks or feels like us doing the thing we dream of? In this episode, we dive into the profound impact of representation in the workforce and the barriers it creates or breaks down. We discuss the mental and social hurdles—from Imposter Syndrome and gender stereotypes to the challenges of creating your own dream job when the path isn’t already paved. Our conversation explores everything from the influence of childhood toys on career expectations to the societal judgments women face about work, family, and self-worth. We’ll unpack why so many people feel compelled to “choose” between career and family, the effect of the wage gap on gender equity, and the power of transparency about salaries. Plus, we touch on the cultural and economic shifts pushing us to define and redefine our roles. We'll also be joined by our special guest Sally Garrison, who shares their own journey of breaking stereotypes, overcoming biases, and carving out a unique career path. Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

Have you ever found yourself conceding the armrest in a crowded theater or airplane, not out of generosity but out of habit, driven by a set of unspoken “rules” you’ve created in your mind? In this episode, we dive into these invisible boundaries—those subconscious assumptions and self-imposed constraints that govern our everyday actions. We’ll explore why we keep quiet, why we avoid conflict, and how these silent rules can prevent us from stepping into our full potential. Join us for a conversation about recognizing and redefining these assumptions, so you can stop losing battles you never wanted to fight and start moving forward with clarity and confidence.   Joining us this week is our first male guest, Bradley Weaver (https://bradleyweaver.net). He's spent a lifetime keeping quiet and just recently began finding his voice to speak up on things that are important to him. We can't wait for you to hear our conversation.    Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

In this week's episode, we dive into the reasons why so many women feel the pressure to put on a brave face, even when facing difficult challenges. From the fear of being judged to the internalized expectation of handling everything perfectly, we explore the emotional toll of staying silent about big issues. Join us for an honest conversation about vulnerability, strength, and the courage it takes to let others in. We'll also be joined by Annie Abrahamson, mom of two, and one half of the petal-pushing team over at Bloom Bar. We adore her open, honest nature, and think you will, too! Such great discussion on this week's topic!   Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

In this week's episode, we explore the roots of our struggle with accountability —why we avoid it, where the guilt stems from, and the deep-seated reasons asking for help feels so difficult when we don't know the answers. We'll unpack the social and emotional factors that make owning our mistakes uncomfortable and offer insights on how to build a healthier relationship with seeking support and guidance. We'll also be joined by Marissa DeCuir, a total boss btch, President and Partner of Books Forward, and possibly the biggest Kesha fan you'll ever come across. She's had a lot of experience when it comes to accountability, and we're thrilled to have her share her thoughts on the matter.  Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

Ever find yourself going above and beyond to please someone that is nowhere near your inner circle? It may be your trauma response at work! Whether from childhood, past relationships or insecurity, Ami and Sami are going to discuss their own experiences and try to break down where all of this comes from. We'll also be joined by Shaleen DeStefano, a fellow recovering "people-pleaser" who shares some very interesting insight on her own experience, as well as her perspective on how social media contributes to this response.   Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode?  Connect with us on Instagram @btchfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].

Join Ami and Sami as they openly discuss issues that strongly affect women so we can heal trauma and inspire change, one question at a time.    In this week's episode, we explore our own histories of bad relationships and why it took us far too long to get out. We'll also look into why we, as women, feel the responsibility to have a certain type of relationship, and where our initial assumptions of that definition came from. After talking to so many friends, it seems that so many of us have had at least one experience where we've felt "stuck" and unable to move forward in our romantic lives.    We'll also be joined by Licensed Professional Counselor Ellen Burn, whose passion is helping others embrace and process their emotions in healthy ways. We thought it would be super handy to have an expert for this topic! You can find more information on Ellen and her work at findclaritywithellen.com.    Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode? Connect with us Instagram @bthfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].    Thanks for listening! 

Join Ami and Sami as they openly discuss issues that strongly affect women so we can heal trauma and inspire change, one question at a time.    In this week's episode, we'll dive into the age-old term "Broken-Home": where it comes from, why is still exists and why we think it's outdated. We'll talk about divorce and separation, expectations of marriage from society and life and dating in the aftermath. This week we're joined by Emily Rathbun, who shares her own experience in her own hilarious, authentic manner. We love a genuine btch.    Would you like to share your feedback on this episode or suggest a question for a future episode? Connect with us Instagram @bthfestpod or email us directly at [email protected].    Thanks for listening!