BUT, Mind You...

This week on BUT, Mind You…, we tap into vulnerability, healing, and emotional growth through the lens of Trying Not to Think About It by JoJo. As part of Mental Health Awareness Month, we unpack the hidden stages of healing, the weight of anxiety...Especially for Black queer men and what it really means to grow emotionally. This episode also introduces a recurring segment where we revisit albums that helped shape us, connecting music to real-life healing and transformation.

🎙️ BUT, Mind You… We’re Not As Close As You Think.In Episode 2 of the BUT, Mind You… Podcast, Rian-Louis and Donnie Love get real about the friendships that aren’t as tight as they seem. You know the ones — where the history is there, the love might be there… but the closeness? Questionable.This episode dives into the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs of emotional distance, one-sided effort, and the uncomfortable realization that everyone you call a friend doesn’t actually have the same level of access to you. From fake check-ins and surface-level conversations to navigating boundaries and outgrowing people, nothing is off limits.The duo shares personal experiences, hard truths, and a few messy moments while unpacking what it really means to be “close” to someone — and when it’s time to redefine that.Because sometimes it’s not beef… it’s just clarity.Tap in, reflect, and ask yourself: are we really close… or just familiar? 💬📲#ButMindYouPodcast #BlackGayVoices #FriendshipDynamics #RealTalkPodcast #GroupChatEnergy

Most friendships aren’t this honest — or this hilarious. Meet Rian-Louis, the reserved Scorpio, and Donnie Love, the unfiltered Cancer — two unapologetic Black gay men in their thirties spilling the tea on love, life, and everything in between.In the first episode of the BUT, Mind You Podcast, “BUT, Mind You… We’re New!”, they dive into the messy realities of dating, friendships, and self-growth — from ghosted exes and love bombing to boundaries, loyalty, and social media drama. It’s real, it’s funny, and it’s deeply relatable.With Rian-Louis bringing his creative, podcasting perspective and Donnie Love offering raw insight on healing and identity, this episode blends humor, vulnerability, and unfiltered truth.If you’re craving honest conversations about Black gay life, modern relationships, and figuring it all out in your 30s — welcome to the group chat.

It started as conversations that were never supposed to leave the chat…now we’re saying it out loud.Unfiltered. Unapologetic. A little messy.Where the tea is hot, the honesty is hotter… and growth is always in the room.👀 You might feel seen… or a little called out.BUT, Mind You… it’s always real.Coming 4/21/2026📲