Conversations with Humanity

In this episode we explore microaggressions: * What makes it irksome?* It is a race thing? Or is there something deeper?* How have we been perpetrators of microaggressions?* And as always, what can we learn or do differently moving forward?If you enjoyed this episode or let us know what you thought about it, email us here at [email protected], we'd love to hear from you!Chapters:* 0:00 - Intro* 0:51 - Tiff - Microaggression Intro* 7:00 - Brandon and microaggresions* 11:16 - Microaggression didn't always bother Tiff* 15:38 - Negative experiences imprinting more deeply* 21:40 - Maybe microaggression are just a difference of perception* 25:50 - What's exactly "wrong" with microaggresions?* 28:57 - Is microaggresion about the behavior itself? Or who it's coming from? Or how it's delivered?* 34:24 - What's happening underneath the pettiness?* 36:19 - When have we done the microaggressing to others?* 40:45 - What if microaggresions are just a clash of different baselines of 'normal'?* 43:51 - Where's the line between genuine curiosity versus an "othering" or cynical intent?* 48:07 - The high level conclusion about why asking, "Where are you from?" can be off-putting* 1:01:01 - How to gauge when you're about to put someone in a box* 1:11:10 - How did we start talking about Brandon's dating life? Retracing and summarizing our steps* 1:14:56 - Tiff's takeaway* 1:16:08 - Brandon was a perpetrator OMG* 1:23:45 - Reflections and learning* 1:25:28 - Closing Thoughts Get full access to Musings, Reflections, and Life Lessons at brandonlee.substack.com/subscribe

Chapters:* 0:00 - Intro* 1:17 - Intro and Context* 6:40 - What do you think? How often do you think about sexual assault?* 9:44 - Tiff's personal experience* 17:23 - Power dynamics* 26:40 - Clarity of communication* 28:45 - Societal aversion to explicit sexual communication* 31:57 - Euphemisms and sexual communication* 34:12 - Cultural competency around sexual communication* 36:02 - Apathy and how it affects directness* 40:58 - How fear of rejection prevents asking to begin with* 41:45 - The stakes are high* 47:45 - Lack of sexual education* 48:14 - MeToo* 58:33 - Slow burn* 1:02:22 - Why are we both solving for him?* 1:06:05 - It's difficult on both sides* 1:09:25 - Reasons vs. Excuses* 1:16:55 - Brandon's personal experience* 1:22:55 - The nature of boundaries* 1:27:15 - Where does this put us? Get full access to Musings, Reflections, and Life Lessons at brandonlee.substack.com/subscribe