Dads in Autismland

Send us Fan MailWhen Jeffery May’s son Jackson was diagnosed with autism, he and his wife didn’t just search for answers, they created one. Our Amazing Minds isn’t just a children’s book; it’s a powerful tool for helping kids understand autism in a way that’s honest, inclusive, and visually relatable. In this episode, Jeffery shares what it was like to process the diagnosis as a father, how grief turned into creative action, and why representing the full spectrum of autism matters. He opens up about marriage under pressure, the overlooked emotional journey of dads, and how he and his wife turned frustration into a publishing brand. If you’ve ever struggled to explain autism to your child, or yourself, this conversation will hit home.TOPICSHow Our Amazing Minds helps children understand autism through relatable charactersThe emotional impact of receiving an autism diagnosis as a fatherBalancing attention between a neurodivergent child and a neurotypical siblingThe role of faith in navigating autism and family lifeWhy dads must avoid isolation and become more emotionally availableBuilding a family-led brand to create awareness and resourcesFuture plans for Our Amazing Minds and representation through mediaGUEST LINKSJeffery May / Our Amazing Minds: https://ouramazingminds.orgADVERTISING LINKSThe Pathfinder Collective Men's Group: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES:“Even though they share similarities, every autistic child is different—just like every person is.”“The diagnosis journey isn’t uniform. It’s different for every family, every child.”“Sometimes it takes seeing your story in someone else’s to realize you’re not alone.”“Structure matters—our son knows exactly what day it is and what to expect.”“You mentally start ruling things out for the future…until you hear another dad’s story that changes everything.”ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this special solo episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse launches the Guide to Autismland series—a curated journey through the most impactful moments from the podcast’s first 27 episodes. Sharing his own experiences as a father to a profoundly autistic son, Mark dives into the earliest and often most confusing stage of raising a child on the spectrum: the diagnosis. With stories from other dads like Corey Michael, Dennis Procopio, Steve Levine, and more, this episode paints a realistic, heartfelt picture of what it looks like when families first begin to realize their child is different. Mark emphasizes that while every autism journey is unique, no dad is alone in this. It's an honest, empathetic guide that empowers fathers to recognize signs, take action, and find community through shared experience.TOPICS:- Common early signs of autism shared by dads- Differences in diagnosis timelines and processes- Personal experiences with school systems and therapy- Emotional challenges and stages of acceptance- Importance of flexibility and family partnership- Stories of hope, including older children finding success- The unique bond and support among autism dadsADVERTISING LINKS:Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES:“Even though they share similarities, every autistic child is different—just like every person is.”“The diagnosis journey isn’t uniform. It’s different for every family, every child.”“Sometimes it takes seeing your story in someone else’s to realize you’re not alone.”“Structure matters—our son knows exactly what day it is and what to expect.”“You mentally start ruling things out for the future…until you hear another dad’s story that changes everything.”ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailDrawing from his personal journey as a father to a profoundly autistic son and insights from the first 26 episodes, Mark offers an encouraging and practical starting point for dads new to the autism journey. With empathy and humor, he explores the emotional challenges, lifestyle changes, and community support that autism dads often encounter. This episode sets the tone for a powerful series designed to empower, connect, and guide fathers who may feel alone. Whether you're just beginning your journey or need a refresher on shared experiences, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to join a supportive, no-judgment space built just for dads.TOPICS:- Why the “Navigating Autismland” series was created- Mark’s personal experience raising a profoundly autistic son- The importance of connection and avoiding isolation as an autism dad- Addressing common challenges: diagnosis, family dynamics, stress- Upcoming topics in the series: early signs, coping, advocacy, and more- The need for individualized parenting strategies- How humor and real talk build a stronger autism dad communityADVERTISING LINKS:Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES:- "You’re not alone. As tough as your situation is, you don’t have to do it by yourself."- "This is not about giving you exact steps—it’s about showing you options."- "Every autism journey is unique, but the struggle of fatherhood unites us."- "I believe my son is one of the happiest people I know. That makes me feel like a success."- "You’ll get some humor—because otherwise, we’d just cry all the time, and that’s not an option."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with David Lee—professor, podcaster, and father to 9-year-old Eddie, who is on the autism spectrum. David shares his deeply personal journey, from early moments of uncertainty and shame to finding joy in the smallest victories. Together, they reflect on the unique trials and triumphs of raising an autistic child, discuss the value of faith and community, and explore how big life changes—including a cross-country move—can lead to better care and support. If you're a dad navigating autism, this episode offers raw honesty, encouragement, and solidarity.TOPICS:- The emotional complexity of publicly sharing your child's autism journey- Dealing with delayed milestones and reframing success as an autism parent- Managing self-injurious behaviors and the importance of proper medical care- Why David’s family relocated from West Virginia to Missouri for better autism resources- The spiritual and emotional resilience built through fatherhood- Finding small wins: from water bottles to grilled cheese- The importance of community, grief, and realistic expectationsGUEST LINKS:David Lee – Popcorn Theology: https://linktr.ee/popcorntheologyADVERTISING LINKS:Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES:- "We thought it was just ear infections… but then came the self-injury. That changed everything."- "Grief, when processed right, can bring clarity—not just sadness."- "Putting on shoes after a year of refusal? That was our Super Bowl."- "You’re not alone. There are other dads who will nod and say, ‘Same here, man.’"- "Moving states felt impossible—until it became absolutely necessary."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes Eric Chessen, founder of Autism Fitness, to explore the long-term importance of physical health for autistic individuals. Eric shares his journey from personal trainer to autism fitness pioneer, offering insights into motivation, movement planning, and individualized training for children and adults on the spectrum. With practical advice, personal stories, and thoughtful strategies, this episode empowers dads to prioritize their child's physical health—regardless of age or verbal ability. From behavior-specific praise to handling meltdowns in the gym, Eric delivers tools and encouragement for every autism dad.TOPICS:Why fitness is a lifelong priority for children and adults with autismHow behavior science and fitness training intersect in Autism FitnessStrategies for motivation, including choice and behavior-specific praiseAdapting exercise programs to individual needs and communication stylesThe importance of consistency, reinforcement, and celebrating small winsManaging meltdowns and behavior issues in fitness sessionsHow fitness translates into confidence and independence over timeGUEST LINKS: Eric Chessen – Autism Fitness: https://www.autismfitness.com/ADVERTISING LINKS: Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES:"There’s no such thing as an autism-specific exercise—it’s all about the implementation.""Choice and behavior-specific praise are my biggest coaching go-tos.""Fitness is an investment—compound interest over time builds capability and confidence.""I’ve seen athletes go from unable to squat to dominating ninja courses.""Even if they can’t communicate it, they often appreciate the structure and movement."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes fellow autism dad Mark Kendall for a heartfelt conversation about navigating public life with children on the autism spectrum. Drawing from personal experiences with his 22-year-old nonverbal daughter, Mark Kendall opens up about the emotional and logistical challenges dads face—from handling staring strangers to managing safety in unpredictable situations. Together, they share practical tips, honest stories, and a strong message of encouragement: you can go out, you can be confident, and you are your child’s best advocate. Whether you’re wrestling with your first family outing or planning a vacation with accommodations, this episode offers relatable support and empowering advice for autism dads everywhere.TOPICSThe role of autism dads as public advocates and "ambassadors"Tips for preparing outings with autistic children, including safety bags and routinesHow public expectations change as autistic kids become adultsStrategies for handling unwanted attention and educating othersNavigating travel, vacations, and community inclusion with autistic childrenSafety protocols, water risks, and long-term planningEmotional insights on adapting to autism parenting over timeADVERTISING LINKSDads in Autismland Membership - The Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES“You didn’t sign up to be an ambassador for autism—but you are one.”“Dads need to feel confident bringing their kids into public spaces.”“Everybody has their time limits—neurotypical or not.”“Sometimes pulling the ripcord is the best decision for everyone.”“If you're not prepared, you’re not protecting—so have a plan.”ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Allan Young, founder of Autism Acres, a purpose-built sanctuary for children with autism and other special needs. Allan shares his powerful journey from military service to creating a five-acre haven in Rochester, Washington for families like his own—including his three sons on the spectrum and a foster daughter with Down syndrome. Listeners will learn about the hands-on life skills training Allan offers at home, the carefully designed features of Autism Acres (from elopement-safe fencing to sensory swings), and how he and his wife are fostering a safe, welcoming community grounded in compassion and faith. It’s an inspiring story of resilience, resourcefulness, and redefining support for families navigating autism.TOPICSThe origins and mission of Autism Acres in WashingtonParenting multiple children on the autism spectrum and one with Down syndromeDesigning a safe, sensory-friendly environment for children with special needsTransitioning from military life to full-time caregiving and homeschoolingBuilding community through faith-based service without preachingPersonal wellness and stress management strategies for autism dadsThe importance of structured flexibility in daily routinesGUEST LINKSAllan Young – Autism Acres: https://autismacres.orgADVERTISING LINKSDads In Autismland Membership – The Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES“My son now has friends—it’s awesome. We needed this just as much as the families we’re trying to help.”“We designed everything at Autism Acres with safety in mind—because eloping isn’t just a possibility, it’s a reality for a lot of us.”“Caretaking is hard. Being alone in the house is hard. Coming home from work is hard. That’s why me and my wife make sure each other gets a break.”“We didn’t want a structure so rigid it became a problem—we wanted routines that help our kids feel secure without trapping them in them.”“We’re not a Christian organization—we’re an organization run by Christians. We’re not here to preach, we’re here to serve.”ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes guest Matt Anderton, father of three-year-old Beckett, who was diagnosed with autism at just 13 months old. Matt shares the emotional and practical aspects of their early diagnosis journey, the critical role nutrition and therapy have played, and his life-altering decision to leave a demanding job to become a full-time caregiver. From the challenges of sleep deprivation to the triumph of Beckett saying his ABCs again, Matt's story is a testament to dedication, adaptability, and the power of community. This candid conversation offers insight, empathy, and encouragement for every father navigating life on the autism spectrum.TOPICS:The impact of early autism diagnosis and the rapid shift in developmental behaviorHow functional nutrition and supplements supported Beckett’s therapy progressThe life-changing decision to leave a full-time job for full-time caregivingThe daily realities of meltdowns, dietary sensitivities, and sleep disruptionTools and tips for sensory integration and public acclimationBuilding a supportive care network and finding the right professionalsThe emotional and relational toll — and strength — found in autism parentingGUEST LINKS:Spencer Dupre, Functional Medicine Practitioner: https://www.empowerchirotx.com/teamADVERTISING LINKS:Dads In Autismland Membership - The Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/QUOTES"We got two choices: put him on a prescription for life, or figure this out.""It was like he wasn’t there—he went from talking to total silence. We thought he went deaf.""I left my 70-hour-a-week job to be a full-time caregiver. We changed our whole life for our son.""Sometimes you feel alone, and then someone sponsors your son for a speech camp, and you just break down."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes Graeme Wright—a father, entrepreneur, and recovery coach—who shares an inspiring, faith-driven journey through adoption, autism, addiction, and personal transformation. Graeme opens up about adopting two children from China, one of whom was later diagnosed with autism, and how this experience unearthed hidden wounds from his past. From relapsing into addiction to rebuilding his capacity to love and lead, Graeme shares how faith, community, and vulnerability reshaped his understanding of fatherhood. With raw honesty, he explores the spiritual and emotional depths of raising a child on the spectrum while advocating for other fathers to break isolation and seek healing. Whether you’re a dad in crisis or one seeking connection, this episode offers insight, encouragement, and hope.TOPICS:Adopting two children from China and discovering an unexpected autism diagnosisHow faith and scripture helped reshape Graeme’s response to adversityWhy secure attachment is critical for children, especially those with traumaThe importance of community and male vulnerability in healingLessons from operating a business that employed autistic adultsPractical insights for dads learning to lead through love, not controlGUEST LINKS:Graeme Wright – 837 Recovery and Coaching: https://837recovery.comADVERTISING LINKS:The Pathfinder Collective Autism Dad Group: https://dadsinautismland.com/pathfinderQUOTES"Adoption didn’t just change my family—it revealed how selfish I really was. God used my son to break that in me.""When life is all about you, you can’t see God’s plan. But when it becomes about His story, everything starts to make sense.""You're not alone. Get out of the dark room, step into the light, and let other men surround you with love and truth.""My son’s autism didn’t ruin my life—it refined it. I wouldn’t change anything, because through him, God brought me closer to who I’m supposed to be."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with entrepreneur and father of six Jason Vance, whose 21-year-old son is on the autism spectrum. Jason shares the deeply personal and practical journey of raising a child initially diagnosed as moderately to severely autistic—who now lives independently with his grandparents and contributes daily to their small farm. They discuss parenting philosophies, managing family dynamics with five daughters, the importance of prioritizing marriage amidst challenges, and the power of maintaining long-term dreams even when life detours. Jason’s core belief in “raising healthy adults” shapes his family’s values and resilience. From teaching life skills to coping with public meltdowns, this episode offers insight, relatability, and inspiration for autism dads everywhere.TOPICS- Transitioning from diagnosis to independence in autism parenting- The philosophy of “raising healthy adults” despite special needs- Balancing the demands of a large family with a child on the spectrum- Coping with public meltdowns, social judgment, and shifting expectations- Prioritizing marriage and long-term dreams as the foundation for family resilience- The emotional journey of mourning “normal” and embracing a new reality- Jason’s practical tips for building independence in autistic childrenADVERTISING LINKSThe Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/SUBSCRIBE NOWhttps://dadsinautismland.com/subscribe/QUOTES"Our underlying philosophy sort of goal for the kids is raising healthy adults.""We just always believed for more, right? That he could have a normal life.""You have to mourn normal.""We literally cooked a separate meal for him every day for his entire life.""It was really hard letting him go. It's like, yes, you're 21, but you're probably 11 or 12 as far as like, you know, your ability and your mind."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn the season finale of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse reflects on the journey so far—what inspired the podcast, the powerful stories shared, and what lies ahead in Season Two. With honesty and heart, Mark opens up about his personal experiences raising a son with severe autism, the emotional toll many fathers face, and the need for authentic male support. He calls on fellow autism dads to embrace connection, vulnerability, and growth. From the importance of self-care to the sobering realities of fatherhood in the autism world, this episode is both a heartfelt goodbye to Season One and a bold invitation to join the next chapter. Tune in to hear what’s next for the Dads in Autismland community—including the launch of the Pathfinder Collective membership group and bi-monthly workshops.TOPICS- The origin story of Dads in Autismland and its mission- Why autism fathers often feel alone—and how this podcast aims to change that- Personal insights from raising a son with severe autism- The dangerous stigma around men seeking support and self-care- The launch of the Pathfinder Collective: a private, judgment-free space for autism dads- How exposure and community can change society’s understanding of autism- A call to action for advocacy, communication, and fatherhood transformationSUBSCRIBE NOW at https://dadsinautismland.com/subscribe/QUOTES"Being tough doesn’t mean staying silent. It means stepping up, speaking out, and building something better—for us and our kids.""If your battery’s drained, everything suffers. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential fatherhood.""Autism fatherhood isn’t just about what we give—it’s about what we learn. My son taught me empathy, patience, and what real strength looks like.""There’s no standard for how people should live. The more we share our reality, the safer and more supported our kids will be.""This podcast started because I wondered if there were other dads like me out there—and now I know we’re not alone."ADVERTISING LINKSThe Pathfinder Collective Dads In Autismland Membership Group: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/Mountains We Climb T-Shirt: https://dadsinautismland.com/mountains-we-climb-trailblazer-series-first-edition/Support the show

Send us Fan MailOn this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with autism dad and founder of The Spectrum Hope Fund, Tim Huck. The two dive deep into the emotional and financial realities of raising a child on the spectrum—from the early days of diagnosis, ABA therapy, and mounting expenses, to losing friendships and navigating the complexities of fatherhood. Tim shares how his own challenges inspired him to start a nonprofit that helps other families pay for life-changing ABA therapy. With candid storytelling and raw honesty, this episode shines a light on the often-overlooked emotional and financial toll autism parenting can take—and how dads are stepping up to support each other.If you’ve ever wondered what it really takes to raise a child with autism and still show up as a dad, partner, and provider, this episode delivers insight, solidarity, and most of all—hope.TOPICSThe emotional toll and isolation of autism parenting—and why dad support mattersTim Huck’s personal journey through early autism diagnosis and ABA therapyThe financial struggle of affording intensive autism care and how families copeFounding The Spectrum Hope Fund to support other autism familiesWhy ABA therapy early intervention can be transformativeParenting multiple children while navigating the needs of a child on the spectrumCreating inclusive spaces for autistic kids and building supportive community networksQUOTES"There’s no office you go to when you get the diagnosis. No roadmap. You just start Googling and hope you land somewhere helpful.""We paid $35,000 over three years for ABA therapy because we knew our son needed it. We trusted the process—and scraped by to make it happen.""There are resources for autistic kids—but what about the parents? What about us dads?""When my son was diagnosed, I felt like I was trying to learn a whole new world—but no one was handing me a manual.""Being a dad to a kid on the spectrum? It’s lonely sometimes. But if we don’t talk about it, who will?"DISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartwarming episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes Roger Kuhrt, a devoted father who shares his inspiring and humorous journey of adopting his son Gordy from South Korea during the chaos of the COVID-19 pandemic. Roger opens up about the parallel challenges of adoption and autism—initially mistaking Gordy’s behaviors as effects of adoption, only to later receive a life-changing autism diagnosis. The episode explores early intervention, ABA therapy, and the emotional highs and lows of discovering your child’s unique path. With a dash of humor and a Lord of the Rings twist, Roger offers a relatable and deeply human perspective on parenting a neurodiverse child. If you've ever felt like you're on an epic journey of your own in fatherhood, this one’s for you.TOPICS- Navigating international adoption during the pandemic- Overlapping traits of adopted and autistic children- Early signs of autism and how diagnosis unfolded- Impact of ABA therapy and special education on Gordy's development- Fatherhood as a "Lord of the Rings" adventure—unexpected and epic- Unique obsessions: Gordy’s love for vacuums and washers- Real advice for autism dads on trust, sleep, and staying proactiveQUOTES"At first, I thought it was just adoption-related behavior. I didn’t realize it could be autism.""We were the fourth set of caregivers he'd had before age two. Trust had to be built from scratch.""Where are we going? Oh—we’re going to Mount Autism.""Getting the diagnosis wasn’t heartbreaking—it was a relief. We finally knew what we were dealing with.""He used to headbang and scream. Now, thanks to ABA, we don’t even track it—it’s gone."DISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Neal Tricarico, a devoted father and founder of Endurant Movement. Neal shares his deeply personal journey of raising his autistic son, Anthony, whose silent struggles with mental health ultimately led to tragedy.Through heartbreak, Neal and his family have transformed their grief into a mission—raising awareness about the critical gap between autism and suicide prevention. He opens up about the signs he missed, the emotional complexities of parenting a child on the spectrum, and how society’s perception of autism needs to change.This conversation isn’t just about loss—it’s about hope, healing, and advocacy. Neal’s nonprofit, Endurant Movement, is leading the charge to bridge the gap between neurodiversity and mental health support. If you're a father raising an autistic child, this episode is a must-listen.TOPICSRecognizing early signs of autism and anxiety in childrenThe hidden struggles of autistic individuals who "mask" their conditionThe high risk of depression and suicide among autistic teensHow COVID-19 intensified mental health challenges for autistic youthThe importance of changing the autism narrative—removing the stigma of "disorder"Neal’s journey from grief to advocacy with the launch of Endurant MovementPractical advice for parents navigating autism & mental healthQUOTES“To know one kid with autism is to know one kid with autism.”“When that black-and-white mind decides they’re done, they’re done. It’s not for attention—it’s final.”“We started to explore this idea and came to know that the only ones looking at it are in the United Kingdom. There’s a significant gap between autism, neurodiversity, and mental health.”“When we had to make that difficult decision to take him off life support, we were doing it with him, and it created this energy of love and community.”“We’re being called to something greater, and we have to keep our eyes open for it.”DISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Mark Olson, founder of LTO Ventures, to tackle one of the biggest concerns for autism dads: What happens when we’re gone? Mark shares his journey as a father to two daughters with developmental disabilities, his struggles navigating long-term care options, and how he turned a personal challenge into a mission—building sustainable, inclusive communities for individuals with autism and other disabilities. From financial planning to policy advocacy, Mark offers crucial insights into securing a future for our children beyond our lifetimes. Whether you're a parent in the trenches or looking for actionable advice, this episode is packed with wisdom, resources, and inspiration.TOPICS COVEREDThe critical question: What happens to our children when we’re gone?Mark Olson’s journey as an autism dad and founder of LTO VenturesThe financial realities of long-term care and why planning must start earlyThe challenges of finding housing and support for autistic adultsHow parents can take action and build autism-friendly communitiesAdvocacy efforts for disability rights and policy changesGUEST LINKSMark Olson – LTO Ventures: ltoventures.orgQUOTES"There are 50,000 kids turning into autistic adults every year. Where are they going to go?" - Mark Olson"Every autism parent asks the same question: What happens after I’m gone? I decided to stop asking and start solving." - Mark Olson"You need to start planning for your child’s future when they’re five—not when they’re 50. The financial reality is, you can’t afford to wait." - Mark Olson"I woke up at 3 AM in a cold sweat and thought—what kind of place would my daughter actually want to live? That’s how LTO Ventures started." - Mark Olson"Too many parents feel alone in this. The truth is, there’s a whole community ready to help—you just have to reach out." - Mark OlsonDISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Jacob "Cheech" Cook, a dedicated father raising two sons—one autistic and one neurotypical. Together, they dive into the unpredictable transitions that come with autism, from evolving communication challenges to sensory preferences and food aversions. Jacob shares his personal journey of recognizing the signs, navigating diagnosis, and learning how to adapt as his son, Beau, grows.With humor, honesty, and real-life experiences, Mark and Jacob discuss everything from the importance of early diagnosis to the role of ABA therapy, as well as the unique sibling dynamic between Beau and his older brother. They also touch on self-care for dads, the power of patience, and the surprising ways autistic children perceive the world. If you’re in the trenches of autism parenting, this episode offers both reassurance and practical insights.TOPICS COVERED:Recognizing early autism signs & the journey to diagnosisHow autism behaviors evolve over time (sensory habits, communication, food preferences)The unique sibling relationship between a neurotypical and autistic childStrategies for handling self-harm, meltdowns, and communication frustrationThe importance of self-care for autism dads and finding outlets like music, exercise, and hobbiesHow exposure to autism helps build empathy and understanding in siblings and the broader communityQUOTES:"If there was a toy with a tag on it, he wouldn't play with the actual toy. He would flap the tag back and forth, back and forth." – Jacob Cook"He knows where we're at in town—if we pull up to the rec center, he knows right away. He’s all stoked, hands flapping, making a bunch of noise." – Jacob Cook"He’s the only kid I have that will drive for four hours and not even make a peep." – Jacob Cook"He used to eat everything—ramen, spaghetti, rice, cheeseburgers—and now I’m like, ‘Oh no, what happened?’" – Jacob Cook"If you're mad, they’re gonna probably be mad too. They feed off your energy." – Jacob CookDISCLAIMER:Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailFatherhood is a journey—but raising a child on the autism spectrum adds layers of complexity, resilience, and growth that few understand. In this episode of Dads in Autismland, Mark de Grasse sits down with Patrick Hurley, a dedicated father balancing life with both a neurotypical and autistic son.Patrick shares his raw and unfiltered experience—from the early signs of autism and the diagnosis process to navigating therapy, school transitions, and the emotional toll of meltdowns. He reflects on how shifting his mindset—from "fixing" his child to adapting his own approach—made all the difference.This episode is for fathers who seek practical strategies, honest conversations, and a sense of solidarity in the autism parenting journey. Whether you're managing therapy decisions, advocating in the school system, or balancing your marriage and career with special needs parenting, this conversation offers insight, support, and real-world wisdom.TOPICS COVEREDThe emotional journey of an autism dad: From diagnosis to acceptanceHow therapy, structure, & school choices shape progressBalancing attention between neurotypical & autistic childrenThe reality of meltdowns and how to manage them effectivelyWhy self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity for autism dadsQUOTES "I spent many years thinking there was something I could do to fix him. It took a long time for me to accept that he doesn’t need to be fixed—I needed to fix my approach toward him.""At the end of the day, they just didn’t have the resources. And they admitted that. They said, ‘We can’t provide him the level of support he needs.’ That was a hard pill to swallow as a father.""My son knows he has autism, but I don’t think he sees himself as different. He just sees himself as Patrick. And I think there’s something really powerful in that."DISCLAIMER Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Scott Bisbee, a father of four, navigating the unique challenges of raising two children on the autism spectrum. Scott opens up about his son Alex’s pathological demand avoidance (PDA), food struggles, and the unexpected journey of discovering his diagnosis during the pandemic. He also shares insights into supporting his younger son, who is also showing signs of autism, while balancing the needs of his neurotypical children.Mark and Scott discuss coping strategies, sensory-friendly home adjustments, and the emotional toll on parents, including the impact on mental health and marriage. From building a sensory room to understanding the ever-changing food preferences of autistic kids, Scott shares the raw realities of parenting with honesty, humor, and wisdom. Tune in for an authentic, unfiltered look at what it truly means to be a dad in Autismland.TOPICSDiscovering Autism at Home – How Scott first recognized Alex’s signs during the pandemicPathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) – What it is and how it impacts daily lifeSensory Rooms & Special Diets – Practical adaptations for a smoother routineMental Health for Autism Dads – Why self-care is a must, not a luxuryBalancing Neurodiverse & Neurotypical Kids – Avoiding the appearance of favoritismThe Struggles of Feeding an Autistic Child – Managing avoidant restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID)Finding Support & Respite – Why community matters for fathers of autistic kidsQUOTES"I used to push myself nonstop—work, kids, everything—until I finally admitted: My mental health is more important than constantly grinding.""We fought the healthcare system for support, but they act like autism is just kids who don’t talk. They don’t get that it’s so much more than that.""My advice? Just do your best. Your other kids know you’re trying, even when it feels like you’re not doing enough."DISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailOn this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse dives deep into the critical role of self-development for fathers raising children on the autism spectrum. As the lifelong caregiver of his 12-year-old son Damien—who is nonverbal and requires full-time care—Mark shares his journey of acceptance, physical transformation, and mental resilience.He explores how fitness, faith, and self-care are not just personal luxuries but essential tools for sustaining a lifetime of caregiving. From unconventional training methods to breathwork, meditation, and therapy, Mark reveals the strategies that have helped him prepare for the long road ahead. Whether you’re struggling with burnout, feeling isolated, or simply looking for practical ways to stay strong for your family, this episode is packed with insights and encouragement to help you thrive—not just survive—as an autism dad.TOPICS COVERED- Accepting the reality of lifelong caregiving for a child with severe autism- Why self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential for long-term resilience- Functional fitness: unconventional training for real-life strength- Diet and inflammation: how nutrition impacts energy and well-being- The power of faith, therapy, and meditation in navigating fatherhood- Finding support through community, church, and self-improvement- How to start small: one self-development habit at a timeQUOTES"Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s a requirement if you’re going to take care of your family for the long haul.""I don’t train to look good—I train to be strong enough to care for my son, no matter how big he gets.""It doesn’t matter which self-improvement habit you start with—just pick one and begin."DISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailEver felt like you were handed a puzzle with no picture on the box?In this unfiltered episode of Dads in Autismland, Corey Michael opens up about the rollercoaster of raising a neurodiverse family. With a five-year-old daughter on the spectrum, a wife with ADHD, and his own journey with Tourette’s, Corey knows firsthand what it’s like to piece together a life that doesn’t fit the traditional mold.From recognizing Evie’s early autism signs to navigating the overwhelming world of therapies, school systems, and public perceptions, Corey shares what it's really like to parent with intention—while also processing his own childhood experiences. We tackle the emotional weight of diagnosis, the trial-and-error of finding what works, and the faith that keeps him grounded through it all.This isn’t about fixing our kids—it’s about understanding them. It’s about embracing neurodiversity as a different brain style, not a disorder. And it’s about having the conversations most dads never get to have.Listen now to hear how one father is turning uncertainty into empowerment, one day at a time.TOPICS COVERED:- Recognizing early autism signs in Evie and the journey to diagnosis- How a neurodiverse family adapts and supports one another- The role of faith in accepting and embracing neurodiversity- Navigating ABA therapy, school accommodations, and daily challenges- Managing emotions as a father and supporting a highly empathetic child- How routines and structured transitions make a difference in parentingGUEST LINKS:Corey Michael - https://www.linkedin.com/in/thecoreymichael/Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this solo episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse takes on a frustrating but all-too-common topic—how to handle trolls, critics, and public judgment as an autism dad. Whether online or in person, autism parents frequently face uninformed, judgmental, or outright cruel comments about their parenting choices. He breaks down the three types of trolls, explores why people react negatively to autism behaviors, and offers practical strategies for managing these encounters with calm, confidence, and perspective. Most importantly, he encourages autism dads to stand strong, support each other, and never let public opinion dictate their child’s experiences.TOPICSUnderstanding Trolls: The three types—uninformed, judgmental, and cruelPublic Judgment vs. Private Strength: Why autism parents face criticismStrategies for Handling Negativity: Ignoring, educating, or engaging?Personal Stories: Dealing with restaurant stares, airplane complaints, and online attacksWhy Taking Your Child Out in Public Matters: Visibility, acceptance, and normalizing autismQUOTE"If you're dealing with trolls, sorry about that. But thank you for keeping your cool. It's the best for your family, and it's the best for your mental health, too." - Mark de GrasseDISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailWhether you're navigating the autism journey yourself or simply seeking insight into fatherhood's deeper moments, House's blend of vulnerability and quiet strength offers wisdom that resonates. His candid reflections and hard-earned perspective make this episode one worth your time.Between exploring stem cell therapy and running a tight ship at home, House opens up about the daily plays and audibles of autism parenting. The former defensive back brings his A-game to breaking down sibling dynamics, celebrating progress, and turning setbacks into comebacks.Whether you're walking a similar path or just curious to hear an unfiltered story of fatherhood, House's reflections on persistence, growth, and unexpected joys make this conversation uniquely compelling. He shares his reality without polish or pretense—just honest words from one dad to another.TOPICSSibling Struggles & Breakthroughs – The complex relationship between his twin boys and the unexpected moments of connection.Fatherhood & Resilience – How Davon balances raising twins with autism while recovering from surgery.Exploring Stem Cell Therapy for Autism – Davon’s research, decision, and experience traveling to Mexico for treatment.The Role of Routine & Structure – How disruption impacts autistic children and the strategies that help stabilize them.The Emotional Toll & Rewards of Autism Parenting – Learning to embrace the journey and celebrate the small victories.GUEST LINKSDavon House – https://www.instagram.com/davonhouse31/?hl=enSupport the show

Send us Fan MailIn this powerful episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse takes on a difficult but necessary topic—the use of the R-word and why it will never be acceptable. Mark dives into the word’s history, its dehumanizing impact on the autism community, and how language shapes public perceptions of disability. Drawing from personal experience and historical context, he explores the dangers of normalizing offensive language and how it has been used to justify discrimination.This episode isn’t just about calling out harmful language—it’s about education, advocacy, and protecting the dignity of autistic individuals and their families. Mark also shares practical ways to address the use of the R-word in everyday conversations, encouraging dads to stand up for their children with confidence and compassion. If you've ever wondered how to respond when someone uses the term, this episode is a must-listen.TOPICSThe historical origins of the R-word and why it became offensiveThe real-world impact of dehumanizing language on the autism communityHow harmful language has historically led to discrimination and worseThe importance of speaking up when you hear the R-word usedPractical ways to educate others and advocate for respectful languageThe role of inclusion in shaping a better future for autistic individualsQUOTE “It doesn’t just dehumanize and devalue the autistic community—it also devalues everybody who supports the autistic community.” - Mark de GrasseDISCLAIMEREvery child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this emotional and eye-opening episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Alfred Samson, a dedicated father navigating the complexities of raising his autistic daughter, Sophie. Alfred shares the raw and deeply personal journey of discovering her condition—marked by seizures, an epilepsy diagnosis, and a potential Harvard medical study that could provide crucial insights into her condition.Through candid storytelling, Alfred discusses the emotional struggles, the toll on marriage, and the resilience required to accept and embrace an unexpected parenting journey. From early signs of autism to learning to grieve the life he once imagined, he offers powerful advice on coping mechanisms, therapy, and the importance of support systems. Whether you’re a dad feeling overwhelmed or someone seeking inspiration, this episode is a must-listen.TOPICS COVERED✔️ Early Signs & Diagnosis – The unexpected medical episodes that led to Sophie’s autism & epilepsy diagnosis✔️ The Emotional Rollercoaster – How Alfred struggled with resentment, exhaustion, and eventually found peace✔️ Seeking Help – The power of therapy, faith, and support systems in navigating the challenges of special needs parenting✔️ The Impact on Marriage – How Alfred and his wife strengthened their bond despite the hardships✔️ Choosing to Have Another Child – The thought process and fears behind expanding their family✔️ Words of Wisdom for Dads – The importance of grieving, adapting, and embracing the unique journey of raising a neurodivergent childGUEST LINKSUnmodern Podcast – https://unmodernpodcast.com/episodesQUOTE “You have to grieve the life you thought you’d have and learn to love the life you’ve been given.” – Alfred SamsonDISCLAIMER:Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailSUMMARYIn this heartfelt episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse takes listeners on a personal journey exploring the unexpected blessings and silver linings that come with raising a child on the autism spectrum. Drawing from his experience as a father to Damien (12, severe nonverbal autism) and Declan (11, neurotypical), Mark offers a refreshingly honest perspective on the different paths of fatherhood.Through candid reflection and genuine vulnerability, he challenges the narrative that autism parenting is solely about challenges, revealing the profound ways his son has transformed his life for the better.TOPICSThe Freedom from Social Expectations: How autism parenting can liberate both parent and child from societal pressuresCelebrating Different Victories: Finding joy in unconventional milestones, from pointing to keeping a jacket onLiving Authentically: Learning from children who experience life without masks or pretensePersonal Growth Through Parenting: How having an autistic child motivated positive life changesThe Power of Present Moment: Embracing a different perspective on time and achievementQUOTE:"My son loves me. That's the biggest thing I could ever want or wish for in life. And I have that every day, so I'm doing good." -Mark de GrasseNote: Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Dennis Procopio, a father navigating the complexities of raising his 14-year-old son, Bennett, who lives with moderate-to-severe autism and achondroplasia dwarfism. Dennis shares raw, unfiltered insights into his parenting journey, from grappling with initial feelings of frustration and loss to embracing the unique bond he has with his son.The conversation dives into the challenges of raising a child with additional needs, including navigating aggressive behaviors, advocating for school support, and fostering resilience through humor and understanding. Dennis also discusses how his personal growth, martial arts training, and empathy have helped him become the dad Bennett needs. Filled with wisdom, humor, and practical advice, this episode is a must-listen for any parent learning to thrive in the unexpected.TOPICSParenting Through a Triple Diagnosis: Autism, dwarfism, and unique challengesEmotional Vulnerability: Overcoming societal expectations of fatherhoodAdvocacy in Schools: Fighting for special needs rights and educationMartial Arts & Parenting: How Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu helps manage behavior safelyThe Father’s Role: Providing strength, humor, and love in difficult momentsGUEST LINKSDennis Procopio: https://www.manuplifecoaching.com/Support the show

Send us Fan MailWhen doctors suggested institutionalizing his 6-month-old son, Steve Levine faced a defining moment in fatherhood. Now, 35 years later, he shares how rejecting that advice led to an extraordinary journey of discovery, determination, and joy. His son Nathan - once considered "too disabled" for regular school - has become an award-winning employee at a major Austin hotel, challenging everything society assumes about severe autism.But this isn't just a story about autism success. It's about a father who refused to treat his autistic son differently from his other children, who discovered that being "just a dad" was exactly what all his kids needed. Through hilarious stories of dumpster diving for precious toys, heartwarming moments at live music venues, and the daily symphony of door alarms and safety measures, Steve reveals how fatherhood transcends diagnosis.In this episode, you'll discover:How to identify and build on your child's natural interests and strengthsCreative approaches to workplace success beyond traditional "disability jobs"Practical home adaptations that actually workWhy being "just a dad" is exactly what our kids need📱 Connect With Us: https://www.facebook.com/DadsinAutismland https://www.instagram.com/dadsinautismland/ https://www.youtube.com/@DadsinAutismland🎥 New Episodes Every Week! Subscribe for more real talks about autism parenting: https://dadsinautismland.com/💡 Share Your Story: Comment below with your experience finding meaningful work opportunities for your autistic child. Your story matters!ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans.#AutismDad #AutismEmployment #AutismSuccess #DadsinAutismland #AutismAwareness #WorkplaceInclusionSupport the show

Send us Fan MailAre you wondering if your child might be on the autism spectrum? One dad's powerful journey of discovery could help you find answers sooner. Mark de Grasse describes the early years of his autism journey with his son Damien.In this episode, you'll discover:- Critical early signs of autism that are often overlooked- How to navigate the diagnosis process with confidence- Game-changing routines that actually work- Expert-approved therapy options that make a differenceDon't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to join our supportive community of autism dads! 🔔🔍 Resources Mentioned:Central Texas Autism CenterFortis Therapy (Dripping Springs)River Kids Therapy📱 Connect With Us:https://www.facebook.com/DadsinAutismlandhttps://www.instagram.com/dadsinautismland/https://www.youtube.com/@DadsinAutismland🎥 New Episodes Every Week!Subscribe for more real talks about autism parenting: https://dadsinautismland.com/💡 Share Your Story:Comment below with your experience or questions about early autism signs. Your story matters!ℹ️ Note: Every child's autism journey is unique. This video shares one family's personal experience and is meant for informational purposes only. Always consult with healthcare professionals for medical advice.Support the show

Send us Fan MailIn this heartfelt debut episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse introduces listeners to the mission behind the podcast: creating a supportive space for fathers raising children on the autism spectrum. Sharing personal stories about his son Damien, who is severely autistic and nonverbal, Mark candidly reflects on the challenges and triumphs of navigating fatherhood in Autismland.From traveling with a child who craves sensory input to the importance of community understanding, Mark provides relatable anecdotes and practical advice. He discusses the transformative journey of parenting a child with autism, touching on themes of resilience, empathy, and personal growth. Mark’s openness about his own emotional evolution and his goal to empower other dads creates a warm, inclusive environment.Tune in for honest conversations, shared experiences, and insights to help fathers embrace their unique journey in Autismland.TOPICSMark’s journey as a father to a nonverbal, severely autistic son.Challenges and strategies for traveling with a child with sensory needs.Building patience, empathy, and personal growth through fatherhood.The societal pressures and misconceptions fathers of autistic children face.The importance of fostering connection and community among autism dads.Setting realistic expectations and embracing the highs and lows of autism parenting.A preview of future episodes featuring other autism dads and their stories.Support the show