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Looking for love makes you vulnerable. And vulnerability? That's where shame lives.Kylee Dennis knows this better than most. When her mum got love scammed after 25 years of being single, the thing that hurt more than the money lost was watching her carry the shame of it—too embarrassed to ask for help, too mortified to admit she'd wanted connection badly enough to believe someone who wasn't real.Kylee spent nearly 14 years as a detective doing intelligence ops, undercover work, and crisis negotiations. She knew how predators operated. But what she didn't know until her mum's scam was how powerfully shame protects the criminals.So she went undercover herself—creating fake profiles as a 67-year-old man and a 62-year-old woman to see exactly how scammers weaponize our longing for connection. What she found? Scams aren't about intelligence. They're about manipulation. And the vulnerability that comes with wanting love makes all of us targets.This isn't just about romance scams. It's about shame, vulnerability, and the cost of staying silent.Timestamps & Chapters00:00 - Intro: The Vulnerability of Looking for Love02:45 - When Kylee's Mum Got Scammed07:30 - "I Just Feel Stupid": The Language of Shame12:15 - Going Undercover on Dating Apps18:40 - What Scammers Really Do (and How They Share Tactics)24:20 - Life as a Female Detective in the 1980s32:50 - "Men, Police Dogs, Then Police Women"38:15 - The Pawn Shop Undercover Operation43:00 - Identity Loss: From Detective to Stay-at-Home Mum48:30 - "I Was Just a Plus Guest"52:10 - Finding Purpose Through Two Face Investigations56:20 - The Power of Helping Just One Person58:45 - TikTok Scammer Universities & Dark Rituals63:15 - Human Trafficking & Scam Compounds in Myanmar66:40 - "Where Is the Money Going?"68:30 - How to Stay Safe: Pause, Check, Ask70:15 - Final Wisdom on Shame & the VaultConnect with Kylee:Instagram: @twofaceinvestigationsWebsite: twofaceinvestigations.auDating Safety Tips:PAUSE - Look at the profile carefullyCHECK - Verify photos using reverse image searchASK - Get a trusted friend or family member to review the profileMEET - Always meet in person in a safe, public locationTELL SOMEONE - Keep people in the loop about who you're talking toIf You've Been Scammed:Contact your bank immediatelyReport to Scamwatch (Australia): scamwatch.gov.auTell someone you trust—shame thrives in silenceSupport the ShowIf this episode resonated with you, please:Share it with someone who needs to hear itLeave a rating and reviewSubscribe so you never miss an episodeConnect with Danielle:Website: daniellecolley.com.auInstagram: @iamdaniellecolleyEmail: [email protected]

Your body's keeping secrets from you. Not because it wants to hide things, but because you've been taught to ignore, shove down, and repress experiences, thoughts, and feelings you haven't had the time or resources to handle. That knot in your stomach when you say yes but mean no? Your body remembers. The exhaustion you can't explain? Your body is screaming. The anxiety that shows up for "no reason"? Your body has reasons - you're just not listening.In this Big Stuff summer series episode, host Danielle Colley explores the concept that our bodies don't just keep the score of trauma - they keep the story. Drawing from Bessel van der Kolk's groundbreaking work and somatic psychologist Ailey Jolie's research on women's nervous systems, Danielle weaves together three powerful stories of bodies that refused to be ignored any longer.Carolyn's hair fell out in clumps, forcing her to redefine identity beyond appearance in an industry obsessed with looks. Danielle shares her own crash at 47 - perimenopause stripping away the coping mechanisms that had hidden undiagnosed ADHD for decades. And Preston O'Brien's body held childhood sexual abuse and decades of shame until he learned that healing wasn't about stopping behaviours - it was about learning to feel again.This isn't about fixing your body. It's about finally hearing what it's been trying to tell you.Chapters:[00:00] Introduction - Your Body's Keeping Secrets[03:40] Carolyn Ozkoseoglu - When Your Hair Falls Out in Clumps[08:25] Autoimmune Diseases and the Stress Connection[11:30] The Betrayal of Changing Bodies (Pregnancy, Aging, Illness)[15:20] Danielle's Panic Attack - Body Keeping Score After Mum's Death[18:45] The Crash at 47 - Not Wanting to Get Out of Bed[22:30] Perimenopause Unmasking ADHD After 47 Years[26:15] Preston O'Brien - Pinky the Teddy Bear and Childhood Trauma[30:40] How the Body Stores Trauma (Whiskey, Tobacco, Sensory Memories)[34:20] Women's Bodies Keep the Story, Not Just the Score[37:50] Learning to Listen - What Is Your Body Trying to Tell You?Total Episode Time: 41:15Guests Featured:Carolyn Ozkoseoglu (Alopecia journey)Preston O'Brien (The Triumphant Man -Men's mental health advocate, trauma survivor)Resources Mentioned:"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der KolkAiley Jolie (British somatic psychologist on women's nervous systems)ACE Test (Adverse Childhood Experiences)The Chocolate Bar Life by Danielle ColleyConnect: If your body has been screaming and you've been ignoring it, reach out to a trusted friend, or seek professional advice to get a plan for next steps. Contact Danielle to learn about the work she does and see if it's right for you. [email protected] @iamdaniellecolley

Are you living aligned to your values, or are you just living by default? Most of us don't wake up one day and consciously decide to compromise on everything that matters. It happens slowly - like a frog in boiling water - one small "yes" when we mean "no," one compromise that becomes a pattern, until you look up and realize you're not living a life you actually chose.In this Big Stuff summer series episode, host Danielle Colley weaves together three powerful stories about women who got brutally clear about their non-negotiables. Lisa Schweighoffer (co-founder of Boost Lab) would walk away from her multimillion-dollar beauty empire in a heartbeat if it conflicts with family. Dr. Phoebe Rogers was having panic attacks two months before her wedding, visualising running from the altar, but almost went through with it anyway. And "Surfer Girl" - a listener who thought she was confused about her life choices, when really she was just negotiating for permission she didn't need.This episode explores the mic-drop truth that "you're choosing what you don't change," why your body tells you when you're out of alignment (spoiler: it feels like sand in your undies), and why the #1 regret of the dying is never "I wish I'd worked more" - it's "I wish I'd had the courage to live true to myself."Values-led living doesn't make your life easier. It makes your decisions clearer.Chapters:[00:00] Introduction - Living Aligned vs Living By Default[03:20] Lisa Schway - Family First, Always[06:45] "You're Choosing What You Don't Change"[09:30] Danielle's First Marriage - Compromises by Degrees[14:15] Dr. Phoebe Rogers - Panic Attacks Before the Wedding[17:40] When Your Body Tells You You're Out of Alignment[20:25] Surfer Girl - The Permission Trap[23:35] The Treadmill Metaphor - You Can't Force Your Values[25:50] Bonnie Ware's #1 Regret of the Dying[27:20] Stop Negotiating, Start LivingGuests Featured:⁠Lisa Schweighoffer⁠ (Co-founder of⁠ Boost Lab⁠)Dr. Phoebe Rogers - ⁠The Relationship Space ⁠(Relationship expert, author)Resources Mentioned:The Five Regrets of the Dying by Bonnie WareThe Chocolate Bar Life by Danielle ColleyConnect: If you know someone negotiating for permission instead of just living their life, share this eposide with someone who needs to hear it. Tell us: what's your non-negotiable that you're finally ready to honour?Connect with Danielle at @iamdaniellecolley or @bigstuffpodcast

What happens when the thing that defines you disappears? When the career ends, the title changes, or the identity you've built crumbles? This episode explores the dangerous lie many of us believe: that we're only as good as what we achieve.Host Danielle Colley weaves together powerful stories from pro surfer Cooper Chapman, who lost everything at his peak; Boost Lab co-founder Lisa Schweighoffer, who transformed her self-worth by removing one tiny word; and Dr Diane McGrath, who trained for eight years to go to Mars. Through their journeys and reflections on her mother, Carolyn's, profound impact without traditional achievement, Danielle challenges us to separate who we are from what we do.If you've ever tied your self-worth to performance reviews, viral posts, client wins, or external validation, this episode will help you see yourself differently. Because you are so much more than what you achieve—and you always have been.You can listen to the entire episode of these guests to learn more about each of them. Links below.When Success Feels Empty - Cooper ChapmanOwning Your Story With Beauty Industry Disruptor - Lisa SchweighofferThe Woman Who Got A One Way Ticket To Mars - Dianne McGrathChapters:[00:00] Introduction - Who Are You When It All Falls Apart?[02:30] Cooper Chapman's Story - From Sponsored Athlete to Identity Crisis[10:45] The Olympics Camp That Changed Everything[15:20] Danielle's Magazine Job Loss and Identity Collapse[22:15] Living for External Validation[26:40] Lisa Schway and The Power of Removing "Just"[29:50] Carolyn's Legacy - Impact Without Achievement[33:25] Diane McGrath's Mars Mission and "Why Not?" Philosophy[36:10] Final Reflection - You Are Not What You DoResources Mentioned:⁠The Good Human Factory⁠ (Cooper Chapman's organization) ⁠Boost Lab ⁠skin productsMars One MissionConnect: If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear they're more than their achievements. Leave a review and tell us what you're capable of when you stop apologising for who you are.Follow the guests at - ⁠@Lisa Schway⁠⁠@cooperchapman⁠⁠@dr_damcgrath⁠You can contact host, Danielle, or follow her work at - ⁠daniellecolley.com.au⁠⁠@iamdaniellecolley⁠