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Dateless in Delray

Think you've heard it all about dating and relationships? Maybe not. Welcome to "Dateless in Delray," the podcast where we dive deep into love, lust, and everything under the sun. Each week, real men and women spill their unfiltered dating stories, from the spark of chemistry to splitting the bill awkwardness, the search for a nurse or a purse, ghosting in those cringe -worthy 3 a .m. texts. We'll explore attachment styles, navigating the dating apps, and the steamy side of sex and intimacy. And when things get rough, we'll bring in the experts to throw us a lifeline. I'm your host, Susan Heller Shoer. After 37 years of marriage, I washed up on the shores of single life here in Delray Beach. I've been a TV news journalist, marketer, video producer, and now, like half of South Florida, I'm a pickleball playing real estate agent. So whether you're dipping your toes into the dating pool, already making a splash, or just curious about how the other half stays afloat, join me each week. On

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    Ep. 65 - Laugh, Love & Level Up: Emotional Intelligence and Dating with Alla Esther Levy

    What does emotional intelligence have to do with dating? Quite a lot.In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer talks with Alla Esther Levy—Certified Emotional Intelligence Strategist, Minister of Spiritual Healing, and founder of the EIEQ Institute—about how self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation can dramatically improve communication and connection in relationships.Alla also shares insights from her book Level of Crazy: A Five-Step Guide to Emotional Intelligence and Transformational Leadership, exploring how understanding our emotional patterns can help us grow, laugh at ourselves, and show up more authentically in love and life. Learn more about Alla’s work at: https://www.eieqinstitute.com

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    Ep. 64 - Rewriting Your Story: Dianne Harris on Reinvention, Resilience & Real Love

    What happens when the love story you believed in turns out to be something else entirely?In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan sits down with Dianne Harris—coach, survivor, and author of Love Bomb: He Sold Her a Dream and Delivered a Nightmare—to unpack the emotional rollercoaster of manipulation, misplaced trust, and ultimately… reclaiming your power.Dianne shares her deeply personal story of being swept into what felt like a dream relationship, only to discover the darker reality beneath it. Together, we explore the red flags of love bombing, why smart, self-aware women still fall for it, and how to rebuild confidence, boundaries, and trust after the fallout.This is a conversation about resilience, self-worth, and learning to trust yourself again—especially in today’s complicated dating landscape.If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, ignored red flags, or found yourself asking “How did I get here?”—this episode is for you.Learn more about Dianne’s coaching at dianneharris.comGet her book here: Love Bomb: He Sold Her a Dream and Delivered a Nightmare https://a.co/d/0hqNrNz7Follow Dateless in Delray on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen—and don’t forget to leave a review or share with someone who needs to hear this.

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    Ep. 63 - Crown Jewels: The Real Gems of Long Marriage, Ambition & Modern Love with Elyse Ryan

    What makes love last?Susan Shoer sits down with Elyse Ryan — founder of Elyse Ryan Jewelry and host of Stacked — to talk about long marriage, ambition, intimacy, and evolving partnership. They explore emotional safety, attraction over time, and why commitment can deepen rather than limit identity.A thoughtful conversation about the craftsmanship of lasting love.

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    Ep. 62 - From Bachelor Producer to Love Producer: Julie LaPlaca on Reality TV, Real Life, and Rewriting the Script

    What happens when the person producing fairy-tale romances for television has to rewrite her own love story?In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer talks with Julie LaPlaca, longtime Bachelor TV show franchise producer and author of the upcoming memoir The Love Producer. After more than two decades creating reality TV’s most dramatic love stories, Julie stepped away to rethink love, career, and the pressure of life timelines.They discuss what really happens behind the scenes of reality TV romance, how those narratives shape our expectations about relationships, and how Julie reinvented her life and work using hypnotherapy and other techniques to help people reconnect with their intuition and create more authentic lives. It’s a candid conversation about fantasy vs. reality, personal reinvention, and becoming the producer of your own life and love story.

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    Ep. 61 - Pleasure Principles: Desire, The Lifestyle & The Courage to Want More with Eve Hall

    Sex therapist and Please Me podcast host Eve Hall joins Susan Shoer for a candid conversation about desire, mismatched libidos, midlife sexuality, and consensual non-monogamy.They unpack myths about compatibility, why communication is the foundation of intimacy, and what people misunderstand about “the lifestyle.” Thoughtful, grown-up, and grounded, this episode invites honest dialogue about pleasure and connection.

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    Ep. 60 - Fast, Flirty & Face-to-Face: Speed Dating, Modern Love & What Really Works with Daniel Gudema

    Is speed dating the antidote to swipe fatigue?Susan Shoer talks with longtime speed dating host Daniel Gudema about the history, evolution, and surprising effectiveness of live dating events. They explore why face-to-face chemistry still matters, common mistakes singles make, and whether meeting in real life beats algorithms.If you’re tired of swiping, this episode may change your strategy.

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    Ep. 59 - Skip the Swipes: Dating by Doing with Plus 1 Founder Jeff Wulkan

    Are dating apps making connection harder instead of easier?In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer talks with Jeff Wulkan, founder of Plus 1, a platform designed to help people meet through shared experiences rather than endless swiping. Instead of matching profiles, Plus 1 encourages users to post plans—dinner, a concert, a workout, or an event—and choose someone to join them.Jeff shares what inspired him to rethink the dating app model, the biggest frustrations singles face today, and why real-world interaction may be making a comeback. They also discuss dating burnout, ghosting culture, and how shifting the focus from profiles to experiences might create more meaningful connections.If you’re tired of swiping and ready to rethink how people meet, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on the future of dating.

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    Ep. 58 - From Team Esteem to Team Love: Dating, Parenting & Emotional Intelligence with Jamie Levine

    What do parenting skills and dating skills have in common? More than you think.Susan Shoer sits down with Jamie Levine — founder of Team Esteem and host of the Mom Esteem podcast — to explore how emotional intelligence shapes both parenting and partnership. From dating burnout to blended family life, Jamie shares why behavior is communication and how building self-esteem is essential before building a relationship.Insightful, practical, and refreshingly honest, this episode connects emotional awareness with modern love.

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    Ep. 57 - Where Are They Now? One Year Later with Stephanie Xintas & Bill Kavanov

    What happens after the podcast microphones turn off and real dating life continues? In this Dateless in Delray follow-up episode, Susan Shoer reunites with Stephanie Xintas and Bill Kavanov, two South Florida singles who were among the show’s very first guests, to find out what’s changed—and what hasn’t—over the past year. From dating apps and singles events to shifting priorities, evolving expectations, and a few laugh-out-loud dating stories, Stephanie and Bill share how another year of dating has reshaped their perspectives. The conversation explores growth, burnout, optimism, self-awareness, and the realities of staying open to love in today’s dating landscape. An honest, funny, and relatable episode for anyone wondering whether dating really gets easier—or just more interesting—with time.

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    Ep. 56 - Cosmic Connections: Astrology, Relationships & Life Paths with Susan Reynolds

    In this episode of Dateless in Delray, I sit down with seasoned astrologer Susan Reynolds, who brings over 40 years of experience to the table. We explore how the stars influence our dating patterns, relationship timing, and personal growth. Susan demystifies astrology’s role in understanding relationship patterns, navigating heartbreak, and aligning with our true selves. Whether you’re skeptical or star-obsessed, this episode is a fascinating dive into how cosmic insight can offer a fresh lens on love and self-discovery.

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    Ep. 55 - Palm Beach Unfiltered: Old Money, New Rules & Modern Matchmaking

    In Palm Beach Unfiltered: Old Money, New Rules & Modern Matchmaking, we dive even deeper with Palm Beach matchmaker Rose Lambert. Building on our previous conversation, this episode reveals the hidden dynamics of love in one of America’s most exclusive enclaves. Rose shares candid insights on the evolving social rules, the interplay of old money and modern dating, and how genuine connection is forged amidst glamour and expectation. If you’re curious about what it really takes to find love in high society—or anywhere—this episode uncovers the heart beneath the glitz.

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    Ep. 54 - From Heartbreak to Hope: Dating, Generations & Emotional Intelligence with Dr. Corey Seemiller

    What happens when a relationship expert experiences the kind of heartbreak she never saw coming? In this deeply honest episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with Dr. Corey Seemiller—award-winning leadership professor, global generational expert, and TEDx speaker—to talk about love, loss, and rebuilding after everything falls apart. Despite widespread professional success, Corey’s long-term relationship ended abruptly, forcing her to confront heartbreak in a very personal way. Drawing on her research into emotionally intelligent relationships, attachment styles, boundaries, and generational dynamics, Corey shares how she transformed pain into clarity—and applied the same tools she taught in the workplace to dating, healing, and finding love again. The conversation explores why so many smart, accomplished people struggle in relationships, how emotional intelligence shapes romantic success, and what it really takes to move forward with hope instead of fear. Corey also discusses her book, The Soulmate Strategy: My Imperfect Plan to Conquer Heartbreak and Find True Love, launching February 10, 2026, a candid, research-backed roadmap for healing and opening yourself up to love again. A powerful episode for anyone navigating heartbreak, dating after loss, or learning how to build healthier, more intentional relationships—at any stage of life. Find it on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Soulmate-Strategy-Imperfect-Conquer-Heartbreak/dp/B0FD8S2S4L or wherever you buy your books.

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    EP. 53 - Connection with Intention: From Networking to AI with George Dubec & Joann Coffey

    What if better dating isn’t about swiping more—but connecting smarter?In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer explores modern love at the intersection of human connection and technology with George Dubec and Joann Coffey. George, a master networker with over 40 years in the singles world and a 46-year marriage, explains why networking principles and real-world introductions often outperform dating apps. Joann brings a forward-looking lens on AI and technology in dating, along with deep life perspective shaped by raising 12 children. Together, they unpack compatibility vs. chemistry, standards vs. fear, and what it really means to date with intention in a tech-driven world.If you’re navigating modern dating and want clarity without losing the human element, this episode is for you.

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    Ep. 52 - Two Singles, Two Playbooks: Desire, Faith & Dating in South Florida

    What happens when two singles are dating from very different playbooks—but hoping for something real?In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with Carrie Brudner and Ryan Edwards for two candid, contrasting conversations about love, attraction, and intention in midlife.Carrie, in her 50s, knows exactly what she wants: a younger, great-looking man who has it all—confidence, chemistry, and lifestyle alignment. Ryan, in his mid-40s, is searching for something very different: a kind, grounded partner who shares his Christian values and vision for a meaningful relationship.On the surface, their dating goals couldn’t look more different. But as the conversations unfold, surprising common threads emerge—desire for connection, clarity, authenticity, and a relationship that actually works in real life.This episode explores:How age, attraction, and values shape dating choicesWhat men and women say they want vs. what they’re really seekingWhere modern dating creates tension—and where it reveals shared hopesWhy being clear about your non-negotiables matters more than everIf you’ve ever wondered whether love is about chemistry, compatibility, faith, timing—or all of the above—this episode will resonate.

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    Ep. 51 - Fewer Dates That Suck: Dating, Mindset & Laughing Through the Chaos with Deborah Mallow

    Dating can be exhausting—the apps, the expectations, the overthinking, and the moments that make you wonder why you even left the house. In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with happiness and mindset expert Deborah Mallow, author of 6 Steps to Fewer Days That Suck, to talk about how small, practical mindset shifts can make modern dating feel lighter, healthier, and far less draining.Together, they explore why dating hits our mental health so hard, how overthinking sabotages promising connections, and why self-kindness and humor are underrated relationship tools. Deborah shares science-backed strategies to stop spiraling after a bad date, let go of perfection, and recover faster from rejection—without fake positivity or pretending dating doesn’t sting sometimes.If you’re tired of dating burnout and ready for fewer days (and dates) that suck, this episode delivers clarity, compassion, and a much-needed laugh.

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    Ep. 50 - Old School Matchmaking Meets Modern Love: Rose Lambert on Dating and the Future of Connection

    Dating has always reflected the times we live in—from blind dates and advice columns to apps, algorithms, and artificial intelligence. In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with renowned Palm Beach matchmaker Rose Lambert to explore how matchmaking has evolved, what technology gets right (and wrong), and why human intuition still matters more than ever.With decades of experience helping accomplished men and women find lasting love long before dating apps existed, Rose shares how timeless matchmaking principles translate into today’s fast, swipe-driven culture. She also discusses her expanding mission to help younger daters navigate choice overload, dating fatigue, and emotional readiness in a digital-first world.This conversation bridges past and future, blending wisdom, strategy, and modern insight to answer a timely question: how do we create meaningful connection in an age of endless options?A must-listen for anyone curious about where dating has been—and where love is headed next.

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    Ep. 49 - When Trust Breaks: Healing Betrayal Trauma & Redefining Relationship Worth with Mr. Jay

    Betrayal doesn’t just break trust in a relationship—it can shake your sense of safety, identity, and self-worth. In this powerful episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with Mr. Jay, relationship coach and betrayal trauma practitioner, to explore why betrayal cuts so deeply and what real healing actually looks like. Together, they unpack betrayal blindness, the hidden ways trust erodes, and how unresolved trauma can follow us into future relationships if left unexamined. Mr. Jay shares insight into rebuilding self-worth, setting healthy boundaries, and transforming pain into clarity and growth.This episode is for anyone navigating heartbreak, betrayal, or the fear of trusting again—and for those ready to move forward with strength, awareness, and intention. Learn more about Mr. Jay’s work at mrjayrelationshipcoach.com.

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    Ep. 48 - Speak Your Heart: Communication, Connection & Conscious Dating with Laurie Schloff

    What if the secret to better dating—and deeper relationships—has nothing to do with chemistry, and everything to do with communication? In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Shoer talks with Laurie Schloff, Founder of Partners in Communication, Inc., and author of Smart Speaking and He & She Talk. Laurie is one of the nation’s top communication coaches, known for helping people express themselves clearly, listen with empathy, and communicate with confidence in every aspect of life—including love. Together, Susan and Laurie explore how our words, tone, and body language shape everything from first impressions to lasting connection. They share tools for speaking with intention, listening to truly understand, and navigating dating’s trickiest moments with courage and clarity. They discuss how to communicate authentically on dates and avoid misfires; the art of listening to connect—not just to respond; and how to express your needs without fear or apology. If you’ve ever wondered why good communication feels harder in love than in life, this episode will help you find your voice, speak your truth, and build real connection—one conversation at a time.

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    Ep. 47 - Becoming the Woman Who Receives Love: Faith, Healing & Divine Alignment with Kim S. Anderson

    In this inspiring episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer sits down with powerhouse mentor, bestselling author, and faith-driven entrepreneur Kim S. Anderson. From her early career in NBA communications to leading Savvy Media, homeschooling four children, and empowering women around the world, Kim’s journey is one of reinvention, resilience, and purpose.Together, Susan and Kim explore the deeper work required to attract healthy love—breaking old patterns, rebuilding self-worth after heartbreak, and shifting from “waiting for love” to becoming truly ready to receive it. Kim shares insights from her signature program, The Pathway To Your Divine Perfect Mate, an 8-step system designed to help women heal, grow, and align with the relationship they deserve.This episode is a powerful blend of faith, strategy, and truth-telling for anyone navigating midlife transformation, singleness, dating, or rediscovering their worth.A must-listen for women ready to step confidently into their purpose—and into the love story meant for them

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    Ep. 46 - Love on the Brain: Chemistry, Consciousness & Modern Dating with Dr. Janné Lomasky

    In this special crossover episode, Dateless in Delray teams up with Your Mental Highness as Susan Shoer sits down with psychologist Dr. Janné Lomasky to explore what really happens in the brain and body when we fall for someone. From the intoxicating rush of dopamine and “chemistry” to the emotional crash of heartbreak, Susan and Janné break down the neuroscience behind attraction, the nervous system’s role in love, and why modern dating can feel like an addictive rollercoaster. They also dive into Janne’s own dating experiences, the signals our bodies send before our minds catch up, and how to stay grounded, clear, and conscious while navigating connection in a swipe-first world. With humor, honesty, and a dose of science, this episode unpacks the highs, lows, and lessons of love in the modern age. A must-listen for anyone looking to elevate their awareness — and their love life.

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    Ep. 45 - Facing the Taboo: Porn, Betrayal Trauma & Real Connection with Joshua Shea

    In this eye-opening episode, Susan Shoer sits down with Joshua Shea, pornography addiction and betrayal trauma coach, to explore how hidden compulsive behavior can quietly unravel trust and intimacy in relationships. Joshua shares his own journey through addiction and recovery, the neuroscience behind compulsive porn use, and why betrayal trauma can feel as painful as infidelity.They dive into how partners can rebuild safety, how individuals can recognize the signs of addiction, and what healing looks like on both sides. Honest, compassionate, and deeply human, this episode brings clarity to one of the least talked about issues affecting modern dating and relationships.Learn more at ThatPornCoach.com.

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    Ep. 44 - Reclaiming Masculinity, Vitality & Connection with Dr. Orest Komarnyckyj”

    This week on Dateless in Delray, Susan Shoer welcomes Dr. Orest Komarnyckyj, host of Old Guy Talks To Me and founder of Hold the Door Coaching (drorestk.com), for a bold and refreshingly honest conversation about men, aging, and intimacy.After a 33-year career as a periodontal surgeon, Orest Komarnyckyj, reinvented himself as a mentor for men—helping them optimize health, rediscover confidence, and build what he calls “kick-ass lives for themselves and those they love.” This week on Dateless in Delray, Susan and Orest unpack the truth about testosterone, communication, and connection, while challenging outdated ideas of masculinity and aging. Discover:• How men can reclaim passion, purpose, and presence at any age• The real link between hormonal health and emotional connection• Why communication—not performance—is the foundation of intimacy• What women need to know about men’s vulnerability and confidenceIt’s candid, funny, and deeply insightful—a conversation for anyone ready to rewrite the rules of love and life after 50.Visit drorestk.com to learn more about Dr. Orest’s Hold the Door Coaching and his mission to help men live, love, and age boldly.

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    Encore Episode: Curiosity, Courage & Connection: Louise Walker on Redefining the Dating Mindset

    This week on Dateless in Delray, we’re revisiting one of our most inspiring and listener-favorite conversations — Curiosity, Courage & Connection with Louise Walker, Human Potential Coach and founder of Circle of Courage.Louise joined Susan from Australia to talk about the deeper side of dating: how curiosity opens doors, courage builds intimacy, and self-awareness transforms every relationship — starting with the one you have with yourself.And now, Louise is traveling to Florida to lead a live, in-person experience sponsored by Dateless in Delray:💛 Love By Design: A Courageous Dating & Real Connection ExperienceSaturday, November 15th | 1–5 PM | Space of Mind, Delray BeachThis four-hour immersive Enneagram Experience is for singles, couples, the happily solo, and anyone interested in self-discovery and authentic connection. Come learn your type, uncover your patterns, and design love by intention — not accident. A post-event happy hour at Dada keeps the connection flowing. Hope to see you there!🎟️ Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/love-by-design-courageous-dating-real-connection-tickets-1814632818609Then listen in as Susan and Louise explore what it really means to date — and live — by design.

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    Ep. 43 - Healing Hearts, Opening Bodies: Love, Somatic Healing & Ayahuasca with Olivia Sage

    What if the secret to finding love isn’t about looking out there—but coming home to yourself?In this transformative episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan sits down with Olivia Sage, a somatic therapist, healer, and host of Becoming Your Own Soulmate, for a deep dive into how the body, trauma, and nervous system shape the way we love.From ayahuasca journeys to embodiment practices, Olivia shares how true healing begins when we reconnect to our physical and emotional selves. Together, she and Susan explore how unhealed wounds drive our relationship patterns, why somatic work changes how we date, and how becoming your own soulmate is the first step to attracting the right partner.Whether you’re curious about plant medicine, tired of repeating the same dating cycles, or simply ready to feel more grounded and open in love—this conversation will meet you where you are and gently guide you inward.

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    Ep. 42 - From First Dates to Great Debates: Brian Howie on Love, Dating & What’s Next

    In this special full-circle episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan sits down with Brian Howie—host of The Great Love Debate podcast, owner of PodPopuli, and her very first guest 42 episodes ago. Together, they riff on the realities of modern dating: from the highs and lows of dating apps to the revival of matchmaking, the dream of meeting “organically,” and what the future of love might look like. With his signature candor and sharp insights, Brian unpacks why singles are more connected—and more confused—than ever, while Susan shares how his coaching and support helped her grow as a podcast host. This lively conversation is equal parts funny, frank, and forward-looking, reminding listeners that love is always evolving, and so should we. If you’ve ever wondered whether you should swipe, hire a matchmaker, or just hang out by the avocados at Publix—this episode is for you.

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    Ep. 41 - Love, Lies & Libidos: Author Stephanie Todd on Desire, Betrayal, and Reclaiming the Self

    In this  episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Shoer sits down with debut author Stephanie Todd, whose novel Love. Lies. and Libidos blurs the line between fiction and lived experience. Todd takes us deep into the raw terrain of passion, betrayal, forgiveness, and the messy journey of reclaiming the self after heartbreak.Together, they explore the creation of her novel, the courage it took to reveal intimate details of her own life, and how her children reacted to seeing parts of their family story on the page. Stephanie opens up about why she calls her past “the wreckage,” how deficiencies like a hunger for affection can blind us, and the haunting question of whether true passion can ever be felt again after betrayal.Listeners will hear her insights on intuition versus anxiety, why we stay in relationships long after we know we should leave, and what advice she offers for those navigating the complexities of dating and love today.If you’ve ever wrestled with trust, yearned for a love that consumed you, or wondered how to rebuild after everything has fallen apart, this conversation will remind you that you are not alone.

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    Ep. 40 - Swipe Less, Spark More: Video Dating That Connectswith Zach Schleien

    Endless swiping leaving you burned out? Video dating might be the spark you’ve been missing. In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Zach Schleien shares how Spark is changing the dating game—bringing back authenticity, laughter, and face-to-face chemistry without the awkward small talk.We’ll dive into why video-first dating helps people connect more meaningfully, how technology is shifting the way we meet, and what the future of online dating really looks like. If you’ve ever wished dating felt less like work and more like magic, this episode is for you.

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    Ep. 39 - Passport to Possibilities: Singles Travel Adventures with Shelby Frenette & Jeff Shoer

    What happens when you mix wanderlust with the world of dating? You get adventure, laughter, and stories you definitely won’t find on a resort brochure.In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer is joined by solo travel expert Shelby Frenette, founder of TravelFun.Biz, and singles traveler and foodie Jeff Shoer to explore the magic of traveling single. From luxury escapes to unforgettable mishaps, Shelby and Jeff share how travel can expand your horizons—not just geographically, but emotionally too. Special Offer: Mention Dateless in Delray for a free travel consultation with Shelby Frenette!Contact Shelby: TravelFun.Biz | Call/Text 833-TRVL-FUN (833-878-5386)Connect with Jeff: https://linktr.ee/food.in.travelWhether you’re ready to book your next trip or just looking for inspiration, this episode is your passport to new possibilities.

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    Ep. 38 - From First Dates to Soulmates: Matchmaking with Fass Pass to Love

    Is love really a three-course meal? Matchmakers Jessica Fass and Brian Bachow of Fass Pass to Love join Susan to share how patience, coaching, and confidence can transform dating from swipe culture into lasting partnerships. They reveal why investing in yourself first is key, what it means to be truly “match-ready,” and the surprising success stories (and hilarious misfires) that keep them inspired. Special Offer: Mention Dateless in Delray to receive an exclusive discount on a Matchmaking Strategy Session. Email [email protected] to claim your offer.

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    Ep. 37 - Mindfulness Matters: Intimacy & Intention with Wendi Dumbroff

    What if the key to deeper intimacy isn’t a new partner, a bigger spark, or even better communication—but mindfulness?In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer sits down with therapist and mindfulness teacher Wendi Dumbroff, MA, LPC to explore how presence, awareness, and intentional connection can transform dating, sex, and long-term relationships. From breaking destructive cycles to easing performance anxiety to setting intentions in love, Wendi brings decades of experience in couples and sex therapy to the conversation.Whether you’re navigating a new romance, rekindling passion, or simply curious about how mindfulness shapes intimacy, this episode blends humor, wisdom, and practical takeaways you can use today.Learn more about Wendi at wendidumbrofftherapy.com and follow her on Instagram at @wendidumbroff.

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    Ep. 36 - ADHD and Dating: Late, Loud, and Looking for Love with Leah Carroll

    Dating is complicated enough—but what happens when ADHD enters the mix? In this eye-opening and refreshingly honest episode, Susan Heller Shoer sits down with ADHD Life & Mindset Coach Leah Carroll to unpack how neurodivergence shapes love, attraction, and connection.From love-bombing to ghosting, forgetting to text back to over-functioning in relationships, ADHD shows up in ways most people don’t expect—but can absolutely relate to. Leah and Susan explore rejection sensitivity, emotional intensity, and why dating with ADHD can feel like a rollercoaster one minute and a breakthrough the next.Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself, dating someone who is, or just curious about how our wiring impacts intimacy, this episode offers humor, insight, and strategies for building healthier, more authentic connections—without abandoning yourself in the process. Tune in for a conversation that’s equal parts validating, funny, and transformative.

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    Ep. 35 - What Women Want – Inside the World of a Male Escort with George Goulburn

    What happens when a corporate professional leaves behind the boardroom and reinvents himself as a male escort? In this unfiltered conversation, Susan Heller Shoer sits down with George Goulburn—Australia-based escort, writer, and media personality—to explore what women truly seek when they hire him, and what his journey reveals about intimacy, confidence, and connection.From younger women craving companionship without commitment to an 80-year-old with more energy than men half her age, George shares real, often surprising stories from his career. Together, we unpack the history and stigma around sex work in Australia, why women turn to professional escorts, and the lessons everyday men can learn from his approach to listening, presence, and emotional connection.With humor, honesty, and a dose of humanity, this episode sheds light on what dating and relationships can look like when we strip away the labels—and focus on what people actually want.

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    Ep. 34 - Dateless, Not Speechless: 34 Episodes, 1 Microphone, and No Guest in Sight

    After 33 conversations with daters, coaches, therapists, and experts, I’m flying solo for Episode 34—and pulling back the curtain on what it’s really like to host a dating podcast while living the dating life myself. In this candid, funny, and occasionally too-honest episode, I share what I’ve learned about love, self-worth, and swiping after 50, the most surprising lessons from my guests, and what listeners have taught me along the way.Plus, a peek at what’s next for Dateless in Delray—including matchmaking and maybe even my very own “Dating Game” reboot.

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    Ep. 33 - Beyond the Swipe: Dating Skills, Deeper Bonds & the Road to Real Love with Ken Blackman

    What if your best relationship is still ahead of you? In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer sits down with Ken Blackman—former Silicon Valley engineer turned sought-after relationship coach—to unpack how we evolve from casual dating to true connection. Ken shares his journey from feeling insecure and disconnected to helping couples deepen intimacy and grow lasting love. They discuss the difference between dating skills and relationship skills, navigating mismatched commitment levels, and why friendship might just be the foundation of forever. If you’ve ever dated someone who checked almost all the boxes—this episode is for you.

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    Ep. 32 - Weighty Issues: Fasting, Fitness & First Dates

    What does intermittent fasting have to do with flirting? More than you think. In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Steve Feingold returns to share his personal transformation—physically and romantically—after committing to a fasting lifestyle. Joining the conversation is communication coach Laurie Schloff, who reveals how the language we use about our bodies can shape our confidence and our connections. Together, we explore how getting in shape isn't just about weight—it's about mindset, self-worth, and dating with intention. If you're ready to glow up from the inside out, this episode serves real talk—and real results.

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    Ep. 31 - Open House, Open Heart: Ken O'Brien on Looking for Love After 50

    Ken O’Brien knows how to close a deal—and he’s still searching for the one that truly moves him. In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer chats with Ken, a former Las Vegas bartender turned Florida real estate agent, mentor, and investor, who’s also a fitness enthusiast with a couple of bodybuilding wins under his belt. They talk about navigating dating over 50, starting over with strength, and why your heart—like your home—might just need the right buyer to see its potential. Funny, real, and full of wisdom, this one’s got curb appeal.

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    Ep. 30 - First Impressions & Fashion Confessions: Dating Style with Kim Bolufé

    What does your outfit say before you even open your mouth? In this stylishly honest episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer is joined by celebrity stylist, Delray Beach boutique owner, and host of the Do You Have It? podcast Kim Bolufé, to talk all things fashion, dating, and confidence. From first-date faux pas to post-divorce closet reinventions, we explore how clothes can reflect your confidence—or sabotage it. Kim shares real talk, real tips, and a few wild fashion confessions along the way. Whether you’re dating in Delray or just looking to level up your look, this episode is your permission slip to dress—and date—with intention.

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    Ep. 29 - Second Acts & Dating Comebacks: Live from Pod-A-Palooza with Andrea McGinty

    Recorded live at Pod-A-Palooza in Boca Raton, in this abbreviated episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer takes her show on the road, with matchmaking expert Andrea McGinty. She's the founder of It’s Just Lunch and the author of Second Acts.: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50. Andrea shares tips and advice for dating over 50, from picking the best dating apps to shifting your midnset. With 33,000 dates arranged and countless success stories, Andrea proves that love is a strategy, not a swipe. This is your invitation to date smarter—and live bolder.

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    Ep. 28 - Still Got It: Situationships and Sex Toys with Suzanne Noble

    Think your best sex is behind you? Think again. In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer gets cheeky and candid with Suzanne Noble, author, media maven, and host of Sex Advice for Seniors. Together, they dive deep into the modern realities of aging, intimacy, and why “situationships” might be exactly what we need—especially after 60. Suzanne shares her journey from traditional relationships to swinging, ethical non-monogamy, and Sunday-only lovers. They cover sex toys, supplements, mismatched socks, and dating across the pond (British blokes are different). With plenty of stats, sass, and a profile that’ll make you say, “You can’t make this sh*t up,” this episode proves you’re never too old to explore your pleasure potential.

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    Ep. 27 - Dating from Your Worth: Magic, Miracles & the Sexual Awakening with Lauren Elise Rogers

    What if the secret to better dating isn’t in the apps—but in how you feel about yourself? In this empowering episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer is joined by Lauren Elise Rogers—Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach—to explore how healing shame, embracing desire, and dating from your worth can transform your love life at any age. From sexual awakening to sacred partnerships, Lauren shares stories, tools, and insights that will leave you inspired to love boldly. Learn more about her work at sexedforyou.com.

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    Ep. 26 - It’s Complicated: Love, Estrangement & Blending Families with Dr. Jeff Segal

    In this unflinching episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer sits down with Dr. Jeff Segal to explore what really happens when long-term marriages end—especially for the children left to make sense of it all. Whether they’re still at home or grown with families of their own, kids often carry the emotional ripple effects of their parents’ separation. Susan’s son, Alex Shoer, joins the conversation to share his experience from the other side of the split. Together, they unpack the guilt, the grief, and the healing that comes when love changes shape—but family ties remain.

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    Ep. 25 - Uncover to Discover: Emotional Truths, Connection & Dating with Liv Kammerman

    What if your most painful emotions were actually the key to deeper connection and lasting love? In this soul-stirring episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer welcomes speaker, singer, and emotional connection coach Liv Kammerman. Together, they explore how embracing vulnerability, healing old wounds, and “uncovering to discover” can transform your dating life—and your relationship with yourself. Liv shares her personal journey from emotional shutdown to soulful awakening, along with tools to reconnect with your true desires. If you’ve ever felt “too much” or “not enough,” this episode will leave you feeling seen, heard, and ready to love.

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    Ep. 24 - Beyond Vanilla: Conscious Relationship Design and Managing Jealousy with Dr. Joli Hamilton."

    Imagine if you stop swiping for “the one” and start consciously designing the relationship that actually fits you,  In this bold and enlightening episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer chats with Dr. Joli Hamilton—research psychologist, relationship coach, author, and TEDX speaker,—about ethical non-monogamy, jealousy, and what to ask when someone’s profile says “ENM.” Dr. Joli doesn't just talk about it, she's lived it. From swinging to open dating apps and triads to relationship anarchy, we explore how to navigate today’s dating scene with clarity and courage. Whether you're curious about alternative relationships or just over the whole ghosting game, this episode will help you date—and connect—on your own terms.

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    Ep. 23 - The Pleasure Keys: Unlocking Desire, Intimacy & Self-Love with Susan Morgan Taylor

    What if your desire wasn’t broken—but just buried under years of shame, stress, or misinformation? In this pulse-quickening episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer gets to it with somatic sex therapist and Sex Talk Café podcast host Susan Morgan Taylor, to explore how to reignite intimacy, reconnect with your body, and rewrite the script on pleasure at any age. From her signature Pleasure Keys Process to why climax isn’t always the goal, Susan Morgan Taylor shares transformative tools to unlock joy and connection in and out of the bedroom. Learn more about her coaching and retreats at pathwaytopleasure.com. Warning: side effects may include goosebumps and bold new boundaries.

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    Ep. 22 - Curiosity, Courage & Connection: Louise Walker on Redefining the Dating Mindset

    What if dating isn’t about finding “the one,” but becoming more of yourself? In this soulful episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Heller Shoer sits down with Human Potential Coach Louise Walker to explore how mindset, curiosity, and inner freedom shape our dating lives. From blind spots to self-trust, from vulnerability to the Enneagram, Louise shares powerful tools for anyone ready to drop the mask and connect more authentically. Whether you’re starting over or simply stuck, this episode is your invitation to date with courage—and grow through love, not just in it.

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    Ep. 21 - The Science of Cheating: Love, Lust & Spit Tests with Dawn Maslar-Biggie

    What if the key to understanding love, lust, and infidelity lies not in your heart—but in your hormones? In this episode of Dateless in Delray, Susan Heller Shoer sits down with science writer and “Love Biologist” Dawn Maslar-Biggie to explore the biological forces behind why we fall in love, why we stray, and how spit tests might one day predict compatibility. From oxytocin and dopamine to evolutionary instincts and modern romance, this eye-opening conversation blends humor, science, and insight to help you date smarter—and maybe avoid a broken heart. Love may be messy, but biology has a blueprint.

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    Ep. 20 - Swipe Left on the Dead Fish: Media Myths, First Date Fails & Why Your Profile Sucks

    What do bad dating profiles and bad lighting have in common? Everything. In this eye-opening episode, host Susan Heller Shoer shines the spotlight on retired media professor Richard Lenoce (who she met on a date and thought he'd make a great guest) to dissect the disasters of online dating—from dead-fish pics to cringe-worthy bios. With their shared backgrounds in media and marketing, they address ways your dating profile is really a 15-second commercial, they tackle the myths rom-coms sold us, and look at how showing up authentically matters more than ever. Whether you're a seasoned swiper or just dating-curious, this episode is packed with laughs, real talk, and a dash of hope.

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    Ep. 19 - Counseling Couch Confessions: Unfiltered Insights from a Marriage and Family Therapist

    Maybe you should talk to someone. If you've ever heard that advice, this episode of Dateless in Delray is for you! Host Susan Heller Shoer sits down with the "Not-So-Filtered Therapist," an experienced Marriage and Family Therapist and host of the "Naked Truths" podcast. They discuss the importance of self-love in relationships, delve into the complexities of infidelity, and explore how self-esteem influences dating dynamics. The conversation also uncovers secrets to maintaining long-term, fulfilling partnerships. With her candid and compassionate approach, the "Not-So-Filtered Therapist" offers unfiltered insights into the realities of love, trust, and human connection, and shows why all of us could probably use a litte therapy!

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    Ep. 18 - Reigniting Romance: Navigating Dating Over 50 with Confidence and Insight

    In this lively episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer reconnects with fellow Sharon, Massachusetts native, Donna Star—a dynamic Executive Coach who helps corporate professionals "live their life on purpose.". Together, they delve into the nuances of dating after 50, sharing personal anecdotes and practical advice. Discover how to leverage professional skills in the dating world, embrace new life chapters, create boundaries, and build genuine connections in our digitally distant world.. Whether you're re-entering the dating scene or seeking to enhance your current relationships, this episode offers valuable insights with a touch of humor and heartfelt stories.​

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    Ep. 17 - Love Starved: Filling the Hunger for Connection and Fulfillment with Dr. Janné Lomasky

    ​In this episode of Dateless in Delray, host Susan Heller Shoer welcomes Dr. Janné Lomasky, a licensed psychologist, co-author of To Stay or Not To Stay?: A Self-Help Workbook for People Considering Divorce, and host of the podcast, Your Mental Highness.. Together they delve into the "love-starved" phenomenon, discussing how chronic loneliness affects mental and physical health, leading individuals to seek fulfillment through binge-watching, alcohol, or other substances. Dr. J shares insights on recognizing when one's relationship contributes to feelings of isolation and offers strategies to cultivate genuine connections. Tune in to explore the impact of loneliness and discover pathways to meaningful relationships.​

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Think you've heard it all about dating and relationships? Maybe not. Welcome to "Dateless in Delray," the podcast where we dive deep into love, lust, and everything under the sun. Each week, real men and women spill their unfiltered dating stories, from the spark of chemistry to splitting the bill awkwardness, the search for a nurse or a purse, ghosting in those cringe -worthy 3 a .m. texts. We'll explore attachment styles, navigating the dating apps, and the steamy side of sex and intimacy. And when things get rough, we'll bring in the experts to throw us a lifeline. I'm your host, Susan Heller Shoer. After 37 years of marriage, I washed up on the shores of single life here in Delray Beach. I've been a TV news journalist, marketer, video producer, and now, like half of South Florida, I'm a pickleball playing real estate agent. So whether you're dipping your toes into the dating pool, already making a splash, or just curious about how the other half stays afloat, join me each week. On

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