Dear MK

On this episode of Dear MK: Safe Space Interviews, Mya and Dakota interview Olivia about her experience living with endometriosis and navigating a healthcare system that often dismisses women’s pain. Together, they explore the emotional and physical impact of living with a chronic reproductive condition, including the long journey many people face to receive a diagnosis and proper care. Olivia shares how endometriosis affects her mental health and sense of autonomy, while also reflecting on resilience, self-advocacy, and healing. Through this vulnerable conversation, Mya, Dakota, and Olivia aim to shed light on the systemic minimization of women’s pain and create space for education, validation, and empowerment.Share this with someone who can relate <3Follow us on socials!

In this episode of Dear MK, Mya and Dakota discuss the realities of safely leaving an abusive relationship and why escaping abuse is often far more complicated than people understand. They break down safety planning, preparing a go-bag, documenting abuse, legal advocacy resources, and ways survivors can protect themselves while navigating dangerous situations. This conversation is centered on empowerment, education, and compassion for survivors of domestic violence and intimate partner abuse. If you or someone you know may be experiencing abuse, resources and support options are included in this episode.If at any point while listening you need support, you can contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or using their online chat.Create Your Plan Here: https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/create-your-personal-safety-plan/ 

In this episode of Dear MK, Mya and Dakota unpack the viral article “Men aren’t needed anymore, and they’re struggling to adapt to being wanted” by Olivia Barbulescu. They dive into modern dating, emotional labor, masculinity, and the difference between being needed versus genuinely chosen in relationships. This conversation challenges traditional ideas of usefulness, partnership, and what healthy relationships can look like in the modern world. To Read This Article: https://oliviabarbulescu.substack.com/p/men-arent-needed-anymore-and-theyre 

This episode is part of Mya and K’s Back to Basics series, where they’re having the conversations everyone needs—but not everyone is having. This is one you can come back to, save, and share with the people in your life <3In this episode, they’re talking about what it really looks like to share your story and the complex decision of reporting sexual assault. Mya and K break down the stigmas survivors face, harmful victim-blaming responses, and the very real reasons many people choose not to come forward. This conversation is a reminder that you do not need to report for your experience to be valid—and that your healing is your own. If you’ve ever questioned whether to speak up, this episode is for you.Send this to someone who needs this XOXO

In this episode, Mya and Dakota break down a shocking CNN investigation exposing online communities where men are drugging and assaulting their partners — sharing, normalizing, and even teaching this abuse. They unpack how these “rape academy” spaces operate, the role of technology and porn culture, and why these crimes are so difficult to report and prosecute. Through powerful survivor stories, they explore the psychological impact of betrayal, gaslighting, and trauma. This conversation challenges what people think abuse looks like, and why it’s time to listen, believe, and speak out.Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual assault, domestic violence, and drug-facilitated abuse. If you choose to listen, please take care of yourself during and after listening, remembering you can always pause or stop if it feels like too much <3The CNN InvestigationResourcesSocials

This episode is part of Mya and K’s Back to Basics series, where they’re having the conversations everyone needs—but not everyone is having. This is one you can come back to, save, and share with the people in your life <3In this episode, they’re speaking directly to the person who’s questioning their relationship, because abuse doesn’t always look the way you expect it to. Mya and K break down the subtle signs like gaslighting, love-bombing, and control that are often disguised as care, and how those patterns can escalate over time. Most importantly, they remind you that you are not alone in this. Check Out: MK's Fav ResourcesFollow Us: Socials Send this to a friend or loved one XOXO

This episode is a back-to-basics conversation—one you can come back to, save, and share with the people in your life. We’re talking about how to support a friend who is in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, and the reality of how hard that can feel.We break down how to recognize the signs, what to say (and what not to say), and how to support someone without losing yourself in the process. Whether you’re in this situation now or want to be prepared in the future, this is an episode to keep and pass along—because knowing how to show up for someone you love can make all the difference.Resources:https://linktr.ee/dearmk.podcast https://linktr.ee/myakermelewicz

Why is it so easy to be kind to everyone else, but so hard to be kind to ourselves?In this solo episode, Mya is getting real about self-criticism, the pressure to always be “doing more,” and the quiet moments where we don’t feel like enough. Through reflection, reframing, and a guided self-compassion meditation, this is your space to slow down, soften, and start treating yourself with the same love you give to others. You deserve that, too.

In this episode, Mya and Dakota explore why so many women are socialized to doubt their own reality — from internalized self-doubt to the impact of gaslighting culture, microaggressions, and societal expectations. They break down what social conditioning is and how messages from family, media, and lived experiences shape the way women see themselves, their worth, and their place in relationships and the world.Through real-life examples, they unpack the double standards women face every day, like being labeled “too much” or “not enough,” expected to do it all while still being questioned at every step. Mya and Dakota also explore how these patterns impact mental health, confidence, and decision-making. This episode is about awareness and empowerment! They discuss ways to challenge these narratives, reconnect with your intuition, and begin redefining womanhood on your own terms — not based on what you were taught, but based on what actually feels aligned for you.Resources: https://linktr.ee/dearmk.podcast 

In this episode of Dear MK, MK takes a deep, trauma-informed look at the viral and highly controversial situation involving Taylor Frankie Paul and Dakota Mortensen. As footage from a past domestic violence incident circulates widely online, MK unpacks not only what viewers are seeing, but what they may be missing.MK explores the psychological dynamics that can exist within abusive relationships. She breaks down key concepts, including trauma responses, emotional dysregulation, and the cycle of abuse, offering listeners a deeper understanding of how individuals can become stuck in harmful relational patterns.MK also challenges the overwhelming public response, addressing victim-blaming, the “ideal victim” bias, and the societal expectations placed on survivors—particularly women. She emphasizes that while harmful behavior should never be excused, it must be understood within the broader context of trauma cycles and lived experience.This episode is not about defending actions; it’s about creating space for nuance, education, and empathy in a conversation that is often reduced to headlines and judgment RESOURCESMK’s Resoures: https://linktr.ee/myakermelewicz Pod Socials: https://linktr.ee/dearmk.podcast 

In this solo episode, Mya explores how to find, cultivate, and enjoy glimmers. Coined by Deb Dana and explained in her book "The Polyvagal Theory," glimmers refer to small moments when our biology is in a place of connection or regulation, which cues our nervous system to feel safe or calm. Mya explains the difference between triggers and glimmers, then walks you through a moment of mindfulness so that you can become aware of and appreciate glimmers in your own life. She hopes to help you lower emotional distress and increase calmness and authenticity! <3If you liked this, send it to a friend and follow Dear MK on socials! Learn more about glimmers here.

Mya and Dakota continue their Survivor’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Sex Life by shifting to a candid conversation about the Orgasm Gap and why it’s still very real for straight women today. While there are many factors behind it, they explain that the biggest reasons still come down to a lack of sex education, media and culture influencing modern sexual expectations, discomfort around talking about sex, and the fact that many women have simply become used to the imbalance and treat it as the expectation.They also point out a few key barriers that keep the pleasure gap in place: the dangers of faking orgasms (which reinforces behaviors that aren’t actually pleasurable), the lack of open conversations about sex with friends and partners, and the expectation that women should figure everything out themselves. Mya and Dakota emphasize that while exploring your own body can build confidence and help communicate what feels good, men also need to educate themselves and take responsibility for understanding female pleasure!The Female Orgasm Guide Our resources and socials :)

In this solo episode, Dakota breaks down last week's episode about sex after trauma even further, explaining that not all sexual trauma comes from assault. She discusses the construction of sex as an idea and how that impacts us, especially when we are young. She shares her own stories of sexual discomfort and how she has (recently) been able to identify the trauma they created. She ends with sharing a full circle moment in which she used the tools from last week’s episode in a major breakthrough! *This episode contains discussions of sexual abuse and may be triggering – please listen gently and take care of yourself!*If you enjoyed this, give us a 5 star review, follow us on socials, and share this with a friend

In this episode, Mya and Dakota explore what it looks like to reclaim your sex life after abuse. Inspired by a training from licensed psychotherapist Vanessa Marin, they unpack the impacts of trauma on intimacy, including dissociation, triggers, hyper vigilance, body image struggles, difficulty saying no, low desire, and sexual concordance. They talk about how trauma can disconnect you from your body,  and how healing is possible through safety, consent, communication, and rebuilding trust with yourself <3*This episode contains discussions of abuse and may be triggering — please listen gently and take care of yourself!*https://linktr.ee/dearmk.podcast 

Valentine’s Day can be romantic, disappointing, chaotic, or completely ordinary … and of course, Mya and Dakota are talking about all of it! In this episode, they share their best and worst Valentine’s memories, most delusional situationship moments, and the times they accepted less than they deserved. Mya and Dakota are also reading your write-ins and unpacking the expectations vs. reality of this holiday. Whether you’re in love, healing, single, or somewhere in between, this day can be whatever you want it to be. If you liked this, send it to a friend to giggle along together and follow us on socials! <3

In this episode, Mya and Dakota unpack DARVO — the manipulation tactic of deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender — and how it shows up in relationships, systems, and the media. They talk about why naming these patterns matters, how DARVO impacts survivors’ mental health, and why it can be so disorienting to experience. In honor of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, this conversation is about education, prevention, and trusting yourself when something doesn’t feel right!*Trigger & Conspiracy Warning:* Mya and Dakota use a highly documented and profiled case, which contains conspiracy theories, as it is still an unsolved case, to show an example of places to look for the use of DARVO. They explore the scary possibilities of what large figures hide from the public and hope to find justice in the narratives for all survivors.Read Further on This Topic:​https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_EaJM9_9x_E&list=PLBpiUxZcKxXQ8Z9uAY6WXItquhnSIIGIK&index=4 ​https://www.jjfreyd.com/​https://www.verywellmind.com/protecting-yourself-from-darvo-abusive-behavior-7562730 ​https://www.justice.gov/epstein Resources: https://linktr.ee/dearmk.podcast 

Healing is a word we hear everywhere — but what does it actually mean?In this episode, Mya starts with an honest, solo reflection on what healing means to her. It’s an ongoing process of awareness, compassion, and choice. Dakota then joins the conversation, and they explore signs that parts of you may still be asking for healing and nurturing, including: feeling disposable or easily replaceable, a deep fear of abandonment, rejection, or being “too much,” struggling with self-worth or feeling like you have to earn love, and “testing” partners or pushing people away to see if they’ll leave.They talk about how unhealed wounds can show up in relationships, how trauma shapes our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and how to recognize when you’re responding from past pain rather than present reality. Together, they answer: If healing is ongoing, what keeps you choosing it anyway? What’s a question you’ve learned to ask yourself when you feel triggered or activated? How do you tell the difference between reacting from the past and responding in the present moment?This episode is for anyone who wants to heal but feels overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure where to start, and for anyone who needs the reminder that healing doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means parts of you learned how to survive before you had the tools to feel safe. We cannot change our past, but we can work to heal the parts of our past that still show up within us today.⁠⁠ If you liked this please give us a 5-star review, follow us on socials, and send this to a friend or loved one! We appreciate all of your support! 

In this solo episode, Mya names the collective weight so many of us are carrying right now socially, politically, emotionally, and holds space for what it means to live and grow in a world that feels increasingly overwhelming. Through a mental health and trauma-informed lens, she reflects on generational pressure, nervous system responses to constant exposure, and the battle between staying informed and protecting our well-being. This episode isn’t about fixing everything, it’s about naming what’s real for many people (there are generalizations here, we acknowledge not everything is an absolute), offering grounding and regulation, and reminding you that you’re not alone! Together, we explore how to care for ourselves without totally disconnecting from the world, and how resilience can look like rest, boundaries, and simply surviving on hard days.Please check out our resources below both for your mental health and ways to take action <3Follow us on instagram @dearmk.podcast and @mk.preventionservices Mya’s Mental Health Toolbox - Anxiety Coping MethodsInstagram Accounts With Further Resources and Action [email protected]@impact@environment@feminist

Season 3 of Dear MK is here. In this first episode back, Mya and Dakota check in, reintroduce the heart of the podcast, and share where they’re really at as they step into a new year and new seasons of life. Dakota opens up about using her real name after previously being known as “K,” and together they talk honestly about mental health, healing, boundaries, and how growth can change the way relationships, dating, and work feel. This episode is about giving yourself grace, letting go of pressure, and understanding that healing can make your world feel smaller and quieter, and that doesn’t mean something is wrong, but rather that you're choosing yourself. Dear MK ResourcesPlease rate this podcast, comment, and share with your friends if you liked this! Mya and K love their audience and are so happy to be back! XOXO

In this episode, Mya and K get real about the internal struggle so many of us feel: Should we be “savoring” our single era or locking in our forever person? Should we want the Carrie Bradshaw fantasy or the Pinterest-perfect engagement? Is everyone else doing it “right” as we’re falling behind?!They unpack the pressure to hit certain relationship milestones (moving in, getting engaged, and married) while also navigating the message to live it up in your 20’s and 30’s. From societal expectations to internalized fears, this conversation is all about the in-between — the questioning, the comparison, and the self-doubt that creeps in even when you're in a good and healthy place.They reflect on last week's "Romanticizing Potential" episode and open up about how even they second-guess themselves because the truth is, no one has it all figured out. Which is exactly why these conversations matter!Whether you're single, in a relationship, healing, or unsure, this episode reminds you that your timeline is valid, your journey is your own, and it’s okay to both wonder what if and feel grateful for what is!P.S. Send this to a friend who can relate <3Looking to follow us on socials? Check out this link.

In this episode, Mya and K unpack the all-too-relatable experience of falling for someone’s potential instead of who they truly are or what they show you. They dive deep into why so many of us stay in relationships, hoping for change, clinging to memories, promises, or the fantasy version of a partner, even when the reality might be full of red flags!They break down the difference between loving someone and loving the idea of who they could be, and explore how this pattern is often rooted in trauma, people-pleasing, and societal messages that reward “fixing” others instead of choosing ourselves.From the emotional toll of waiting on someone to change, to the signs that you might be romanticizing someone, Mya and K encourage you to never settle in a relationship that isn’t 100% for you. Plus, they offer listener check-in questions and advice for anyone who’s in the romanticizing pattern. You deserve love, not a never-ending project.If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I in love with this person or the potential I see in them?” — this one’s for you.

In this deeply personal and validating episode, Mya and K open up about what mental health can really look like during and after abuse, toxic relationships, or emotional trauma, and why NONE of it is something to be ashamed of. From depression and PTSD to OCD tendencies that feel confusing or isolating, they normalize the messy aftermath of surviving and how it can shape your brain, your behavior, and ultimately your sense of self.They dive into the science of trauma, including the real neurological changes that happen in your brain, and share their own stories with vulnerability and humor to show listeners they’re not alone. This conversation breaks down stigma, sheds light on patterns survivors often struggle with in silence, and reminds us all that healing isn’t linear, but support systems, understanding, being gentle with yourself, and psychoeducation can make all the difference.Whether you’re in the thick of it, still healing, or just starting to realize what you've survived, this one is for you!OUR SOCIALS

In this episode, Mya and K get real about sexual ruts, initiating intimacy, and why great sex often starts before you even hit the bedroom (or your fav sexytime spot). They dive into the difference between being a "spontaneous" versus "responsive" partner, and how understanding your style can totally shift your relationship dynamic.They explore how emotional connection, mental foreplay, and clear communication are just as essential as physical touch — and why intimacy isn’t just about sex.Mya and K also unpack the shame and stigma many of us carry around sex — especially if you grew up being told it was inappropriate to talk about. They're here to challenge that narrative and empower you to have honest, open conversations with your partner.Plus, they weigh in on the latest duality of feminism debate: Can hot girls be feminists? Spoiler alert — yes, and here’s why…Time stamps: (0:00) Belly Welly scoop marketing (5:00) Ruts in relationships (10:00) What does healthy sex look like to you (14:00) Sexual touch without expectations (21:00) Responsive VS Spontaneous (25:00) Scheduling sex (32:00) “I feel like something’s off” let’s talk about it (38:00) Can hot girls be feminists?If you liked this give us a 5-star review and subscribe/follow us on all our social media!Resources: https://linktr.ee/myakermelewicz Inspired by Sex Therapist, Vanessa Marin! <3  

Struggling to communicate with your partner, friends, or anyone in your life? In this episode, Mya and K break down the most common toxic and unhealthy communication tactics — from gaslighting and guilt-tripping to passive aggression, love bombing, blame-shifting, and more.They share real-life examples from their own relationships and stories they've heard from others to help you recognize when manipulation is happening — because it often comes in subtle ways. Plus, they dive into what healthy communication actually looks like: how to express your needs, navigate conflict with care, use timing/tone/turf, and determine what your partner needs to feel safe during disagreements. To wrap it all up, they answer some of your powerful write-in questions. This is your go-to episode for leveling up your communication game in any relationship! Topics Include: (1:00) Gaslighting (7:00) Guilt-tripping, Intimidation Tactics/Throwing Items (20:00) Passive Agression (24:00) Two Truths Can Coexist, Stooping To Your Partner's Level (30:00) Summer House Example (35:00) Isolation Tactics/Family/Friends (40:00) Love Bombing & Stonewalling (44:00) Answering Audience Questions! <3If you liked this give us a 5-star review and subscribe/follow us on all our social media!Resources: https://linktr.ee/myakermelewicz

In this week’s episode, the girls are pressing pause on the heavy stuff and diving into all the things they’re loving right now — from Love is Blind and Love on the Spectrum to 365 Days and the spicy King of Sins book series! They’re catching up on all things girl talk: syncing cycles, birth control, and Mya’s biohacking that help her feel empowered during your period.K and Mya dish on the relationships in the shows — including drama with Dave’s sister — and unpack the hypocrisy of indulging in toxic love stories. They reflect on how the media romanticizes dysfunction and why that can be harmful for folks still learning what healthy love really looks like.To wrap it up, Mya shares Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theory and how it can shift the way we approach relationships — especially when we feel the urge to fix, chase, or control. It’s a mix of laughs, hot takes, and real talk — because sometimes healing also looks like reality TV and hormone chats.Topics include: (1:00-10:00) period talk, (10:00-17:00) King of Wrath, 356 Days, 50 Shades (18:00-23:00) Bachelor in Paradise, Love on The Spectrum, (23:00-40:00) Love is Blind (40:00) Mel Robbins “Let Them” Theory

It might not be sexual assault — but that doesn’t mean it didn’t feel wrong.In this episode, Mya and K dive into the murky, often unspoken space of sexual discomfort. You know the feeling — when something you technically agreed to ends up leaving you feeling used, uneasy, or just… icky. Maybe it didn’t cross a legal line, maybe no one meant harm, but it still didn’t feel good — and that matters.These kinds of experiences are more common than we think, and yet we rarely talk about them. Sometimes they stir up past trauma. Sometimes they create a lingering sense of shame or set the stage for future discomfort. Either way, they’re valid. And we deserve to unpack them.In honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Mya and K explore the spectrum — from clear-cut sexual assault to the gray areas of discomfort. They break down enthusiastic consent, share personal stories, and ask the big question: Are my feelings valid even if no one “did anything wrong”? The answer is YES!They also touch on the broader culture we’re navigating — including the harmful rise of the “Andrew Tate effect,” how misogynistic rhetoric is showing up in classrooms, and the terrifying reality of deepfake pornography targeting teenage girls. Mya ends by sharing a powerful metaphor explaining why women feel so invalidated by the phrase, “It’s not ALL men.”This episode is for anyone who’s ever walked away from an experience feeling off, confused, or alone. We see you — and we believe these conversations matter.TIMESTAMPS:(4:oo) Feels good to have a word that describes what happened to you; “sexual discomfort” (7:30) Personal boundaries/you don't need to provide an excuse (10:00) It was my first time being triggered (15:00) Made me hesitant for all of my sexual encounters (20:00) Consent should always be enthusiastic (21:00) Safe words (25:00) The Andrew Tate Effect (28:00) Deepfake porn & digital abuse (32:00) Analogy “its enough men to make women afraid” (47:00) they get mad when you say no (crazy story)RESOURCESSAAM/DENIM DAY DONATION LINK

In this week's Safe Space Interview, Mya and K sit down with Jake Whan—a channeler, breath work facilitator, and spiritual guide—who bravely shares his journey of healing after three toxic relationships. Jake opens up about the impact of neglect, unhealthy communication, financial coercion, and constantly giving to partners who never gave back. It wasn’t until he finally left that he recognized the toxicity and found his own path to healing through therapy, coaching, plant medicine, and transformative retreats. Now, empowered and full of self-love, Jake helps others on their healing journeys. He even guides us through a breath work exercise to calm the nervous system and ground ourselves in the present. In this powerful conversation, Jake offers insight for men who have faced similar experiences, helping to break the stigma—because domestic violence and sexual assault can happen to anyone <3Topics Include: (8:00) “I didn’t know how to stick up for myself yet - I didn’t know how to communicate” (14:00) “I was repeating patterns from my childhood - I was giving so much and not receiving” (25:00) “Notions in your head - I’m a man, I need to provide. If I’m not able to provide, I’m a failure” (37:00) “I’m meant to go through these things in order to see the other end of the spectrum” (44:00) Therapy & Spirituality “I didn’t have a lot of self-love, so we did a lot of deep work on that” (50:00) Stigmas & Advice “Join online communities, find people you resonate with” (52:00) Trauma In The Body “Emotions are energy in motion” (57:00) BREATH WORK EXERCISE (1:02) The Best Advice Ever “Recognize that you are deserving of love within yourself and relationships….”Resources:  https://linktr.ee/myakermelewicz Our Socials: https://linktr.ee/dearmk.podcast As always, please give us a 5-star review and follow us to get notified each time an episode airs! <3 

This week on Dear MK, Mya and K are fired up, asking the age-old question: Why are women still putting up with bad dates and even worse sex? They break down the latest misogynistic social media chatter—from Sabrina Carpenter’s viral “Eiffel Tower” dance to Paige DeSorbo’s breakup and career glow-up, plus Monica Lewinsky’s powerful Call Her Daddy interview. K introduces her signature “Steps of Sex,” and the girls unpack why following them is crucial for women to feel their best, own their orgasm, and protect themselves. Tune in for a candid, unfiltered conversation you won’t want to miss!Topics Include: Life Updates - Medications/Birth Control - Celebrity Gossip - Steps of Sex - Canon Girl Events (Not knowing it was SA, Losing Your Entire Friend Group) - Saying DONE with it all! As always, please give us a 5-star review and follow us to get notified each time an episode airs! <3

In this powerful Safe Space Interview, a brave survivor of dating violence shares her journey—from believing she had found forever love to realizing she was trapped in a relationship she no longer recognized. During the isolation of the COVID-19 lockdown, her abuser’s excessive drinking fueled a transformation from jealous, controlling behaviors to fights and physical abuse.Her story challenges harmful myths: that men don’t hit women, that successful and intelligent women couldn’t possibly find themselves in abusive relationships, that collegiate athletes should battle their mental struggles alone, and that bystander intervention is a one-size-fits-all solution.She closes with a heartfelt piece of writing, offering a message of hope, resilience, and healing after trauma.TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussions of emotional and physical abuse. Please take care of yourself, and explore the resources and self-care tools below for support.Notable Moments: (12:00) “It's hard to know what's healthy and unhealthy in your first relationship” (17:00) “He would grab my wrists, he would blame me for his drinking” (26:00) “I blocked it out of my mind completely” Fight. Flight. Fawn (37:00) “I would do anything for my best friend to not have seen what happened to me” (52:00) “We were just 17 year old girls, I didn’t know what to say to my mother” (1:13) “You don’t need to be afraid to ask for help” RESOURCES https://www.canva.com/design/DAFXMRSRgAE/oz2CiRUhT8fImrryGtXLGg/view?utm_content=DAFXMRSRgAE&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink SELF CARE TOOL KIThttps://www.canva.com/design/DAGF5Ox5AMY/2mn-Dy62lktW9a6Zspvu5A/view?utm_content=DAGF5Ox5AMY&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=hdf74f53b7d 

Mya and K are back this week with a quick episode, recapping the last safe space interview, updating you on the latest Title IX policies, and answering audience questions! Mya talks about the ban of DEI language in federally funded schools and what that has looked like when working with them as she is doing everything she can to uphold her own moral and ethical duties, and K helps explain why the current Title IX policies can be harmful to survivors. They address how DV and SA can happen to ANYONE regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, and that everyone deserves justice in their healing process. Mya and K end with answering their amazing Dear MK listeners questions!Topics include: (5:00-16:00) Title IX, “Protecting Women” Media Narrative, DEI Language (17:00-19:00) Male Survivors, (19:00-End) Q&A: “What are healthy habits in relationships and tips for reflecting inward? How do you stay positive in light of everything happening right now in the world?” Love Languages, Check-ins, Intentional Quality TimeREAD ABOUT THE CURRENT TITLE IX LAWShttps://www.advocatesforyouth.org/campaigns/know-your-ix/ https://nwlc.org/press-release/nwlc-moves-to-defend-title-ix-protections-for-student-survivors/ https://nwlc.org/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Title-IX-Vacatur.pdf https://19thnews.org/2025/02/trump-education-department-title-ix/ As always please give us a 5-star review and follow us to get notified each time an episode airs! <3

In Part 2 of this courageous survivor’s story, Mya and K continue to unpack the layers of her journey—exploring the emotions and challenges she faced while seeking justice and finding healing. She opens up about overcoming resentment, from friends to classmates who sided with her perpetrator, to the societal biases and victim-blaming that added to her pain. They discuss the weight of navigating blame, including the haunting words, “You’re going to ruin his life,” and how she fought to reclaim her voice in the face of doubt and stigma. Her reflections touch on universal themes of anger, blame, and the fight for meaning and connection after trauma. This episode is a testament to the resilience of survivors and the power of speaking out. Join us for the next chapter in this unforgettable journey! Topics Include: How every survivors journey to recovery is unique "Society makes you feel like you can't put blame on them like you're not allowed to blame them for what they've done" A lack of trauma informed practices; Immediate responses MATTER The officer that said "What a knucklehead. Why don't you skip class and go get your nails done tomorrow?" after filling out a report Victim blaming, misconstrued stories, & societal messages How to respond to and help survivors cope (friends, loved ones) As always please continue practice self-care and check out Mya's favorite resources here if you need coping/mindfulness tips or sites to read more on SA/DV :) If you liked this episode please give us a 5-star review and share with your friends! <3

In this powerful part 1 of 2 interview, you will hear from a brave survivor sharing her story of sexual assault during her first weekend going out in college. She takes you through her year-long fight for justice—a journey marked by resilience, strength, and a system that delivered only the bare minimum. This episode provides a real-life glimpse into the devastating reality and impact of sexual assault and the complexities survivors face in their pursuit of justice. Whether you're new to understanding these experiences or a survivor or ally seeking connection, her story offers an opportunity to learn, resonate, and reflect. Mya and K are incredibly grateful for her courage in sharing her journey and remind listeners to approach this episode with the respect and sensitivity it deserves! !TRIGGER WARNINGS ARE BUILT INTO THE EP.! Topics Include: A survivors story of SA The fight for justice in a college setting "What if he wants to be president one day?" Bystanders, girl code, and fight-or-flight The most insulting letter where he confused autonomy with anatomy... PSA: PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF after this episode if it emotionally impacts you in any way and feel free to use this resource from Mya <3 It contains mindfulness practices and many resources! XOXO If you liked this episode, please give us a 5-star review and share with your friends!

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY SURVIVORS & ALLIES! <3 Today, Mya and K unpacked love bombing—how seemingly romantic gestures can actually be a form of manipulation. They discussed the difference between genuine affection and tactics designed to overwhelm and control, including red flags like pushing for intimacy too quickly, guilt-tripping, and isolating partners. As Mya and K shared their personal stories of love bombing, Mya explained why it can be difficult to recognize after an abusive relationship. Listeners will walk away with tips for identifying healthy relationship dynamics and trusting their gut when something feels off. BONUS: This week they invited listeners to write love letters to themselves, a friend, or someone who supported them during their survivor journey so the episode could end with messages of love for anyone listening who may need it today <3 Topics Included: Definitions and examples of love bombing "I’ve never felt this way before. You’re the only person who truly gets me." Mya saying “I love you” after one week…. K’s experience with George Bush telling her how he’ll treat her so much better than anyone else could Respecting boundaries, comfortable paces, and consistency  True love respects and uplifts you; it doesn’t pressure or suffocate you!!! Survivor love letters XOXO If you liked this episode, please give us a 5-star review and share it with your friends!! <3 Follow us on socials!  Click here for resources! 

Welcome back, loyal listeners—and hello to all the new faces joining our empowering community! In this exciting Season 2 kickoff, Mya and K celebrate their rebrand and share some big news: Dear MK is now available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube! In this episode, they reintroduce themselves, spill the tea on their exes (yes, there are code names), and break down everything you can expect this season. Topics include: 🎙 How Mya and K met and launched this journey 👀 Sneak peeks into the relationships that shaped their perspectives (meet Mr. Nice Guy, The Boy Next Door, George Bush & more) 🔥 What’s coming up: survivor stories (including LGBTQ voices), dating violence and sexual assault insights, mental health advocacy, Title IX, healing and therapy, friendship dynamics, debunking myths, reality TV relationship analysis, and much more Join us for a fresh season filled with honest conversations, hard truths, and plenty of laughs. Let's grow and heal together! Resources/Socials: ⁠https://linktr.ee/myakermelewicz⁠ 

Safe Space Interviews: A safe space for vulnerable conversations, collective strength & healed stories. In this segment MK and K conduct interviews that focus on deconstructing trauma, rebuilding the self, and healing together. Overview: Today Mya and K hosted a safe space interview with a special, anonymous, guest who walks the audience through three significant relationships that all taught her something. #1 Having independence in a relationship is a must #2 Always listen to your gut feelings #3 Don’t ignore red flags! She shared jaw-dropping moments that showed the intricacies of what she described to be a small dating pool for the LGBTQ+ community and ended with a hopeful message of healing and recovery from her toxic relationships. Today our guest is enjoying her life, having fun with friends, learning about healthy relationships, setting boundaries, and deconstructing people-pleasing tendencies and the core belief that you need to be in a relationship to be happy. Topics Include: Relationship cross-overs - “Your current partner was cheating on you with your ex?!” Isolation, manipulation, and people-pleasing Attachment and dependency in relationships “She moved to CA and took the dog” Healing friendships and learning from other relationships Example of how anyone can fall into toxic relationships! If you liked this episode, give it a 5-star review and follow us on socials! <3

Today Mya and K dish their holiday horror stories from Christmas "icks" to New Year’s Eve cheaters. The holidays can be stressful, overwhelming, and sometimes filled with grief. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, 64% of individuals living with a mental illness felt that their conditions worsened around the holidays, so if you’re feeling symptoms rising, you’re not alone. Mya and K are sending you love, hoping their miserable holiday stories make you feel less alone, and that you’re laughing along with them! Topics include: How abusive relationships and mental health can worsen during the holidays What abusive and unhealthy behaviors may look like during the holidays Embarrassment, isolation, criticism, triggers Holiday pressures and expectations with family and friends Advice including boundaries and breakups (this is your sign?) Remember to prioritize self-care <3 If you liked this episode, give it a 5-star review and follow us on socials! <3

Today, Mya and K tackle an intricate conversation around cob webbing, a dating trend that involves removing connections with past romantic partners, or old flames, to move on and start fresh. The idea is that unresolved feelings from past relationships can be like cobwebs that hold you back from dating. Mya and K have different thoughts at first as they navigate what cobwebbing looks and feels like, but in the end, they realize they have more in common than they thought. Listen to their stories of past lovers and ways to declutter your mental, physical, and virtual spaces from old cob webs (or exes)! Topics include: Why do you think people struggle to let go of old flames, even when they know it’s over? Is there ever a healthy way to stay connected with an ex, or is a clean break always better? How can social media complicate or help with the process of cobwebbing? How can someone begin their cobwebbing journey? If you liked this episode please give us a 5 star review and follow us on ⁠socials⁠! <3

This episode is for anyone who has struggled with body positivity at any point in their life. Mya and K want you to know that you will never be alone in these feelings and that they’ve gone through it too (and sometimes still do!). Beauty standards are a construct and mass media controls the narrative we far too often fall for - but how can you not when it’s everywhere?! They talk about it all today from relationships with food to acne and weight gain to stars on ozempic.  We’re all beautiful and worthy of self-love! <3 Topics include: K’s story time at work - coming full circle! Purina’s Purple Leash Project Are we hypocrites for spreading body positivity yet feeling down about ourselves sometimes?? Mya & K personal storytimes with acne, food, and more Finding routines that make you feel confident Tips for when you’re struggling with body positivity Thank you so much for listening to this episode! If you liked it, give us a 5-star review and follow us on socials! <3

I don’t know about you but Mya and K MISSED episodes like this…! They went back to their OG format of episodes by sharing personal stories and weaving in educational content for all the listeners who come here for advice. Today they discuss fighting from their abusive relationships, to the start of healthy relationships, to post-traumatic growth arguments and resolutions. It’s a journey to understand your own needs and feel confident in advocating for yourself so Mya and K give advice and share moments from their own journey to help you feel less alone in this process. This episode is for everyone (survivor or not)!  Topics Include: Stories from their past and present fights & arguments Fearing rejection/retaliation when expressing your feelings Specific considerations for survivors (self-regulation, safety, advocating) Looking for areas of agreement and compromise Affirmations, reconnecting, hope for the future Thank you so much for listening to Dear MK! We are so appreciative of all of our followers! Be sure to follow us on socials and check out our blog!

Mya and K come to you today with messages of hope as they promise to never stop fighting. They will never stop using their voices and power to support survivors and advocate for policies that protect their safety and allow them to seek justice. It’s easy to feel hopeless when an abuser now holds so much power, but they will never let that cloud their hope for a better future. Mya and K will be the heartbeat of progress and the beacon of hope for you and they encourage you to join them. After the much-needed message, the girls get silly again and talk about Mya’s psychic reading she got and they debate the mindset of an abuser. Do they know what they’re doing? Is there room for change? We’ll let you decide. Topics Include: 0:00-9:30 Election Recap The psychic told Mya her ancestors ran so she could walk & she was in fact a part of the suffrage movement K shares stories of dating success & making impacts every day Anna Kendrick’s new movie and the “victim perspective” Why abusers are the way they are? Gaslighting, Prisoners, Ex-Boyfriends If you need a mental health resource for this election stress here's headspace's "⁠politics without panic⁠"! Follow us on ⁠socials⁠ and read K's latest ⁠blog⁠ post!

Today MK describes the neurological impact of trauma to take away stigmas around survivors being called or feeling CRAZY. Survivors of trauma often find themselves “stuck” in states of hyperarousal, feeling on edge and high alert even in situations that may seem comfortable to others, dealing with constant stomach or headaches even when they’re doing everything they can to feel healthy, and being triggered by elements in their daily life as they just try to make it by. These experiences are also often minimized, invalidated, and even simply misunderstood by those who have not experienced trauma or been educated on these topics. Without trauma-informed practices, it can be difficult for survivors to seek the help and sometimes justice that they deserve. Even survivors themselves might not understand the impact that trauma can have on their bodies, including their nervous system and brain simply because there is a lack of education around these topics!!! Topics include: Audience Q&A An overview of the limbic system and nervous systems, including their functions during and after trauma (the meaning behind “fight or flight”) Normalizing trauma responses and behaviors instead of labeling them as “crazy” The scientific reasoning behind trauma responses that explain “why you didn’t fight back” or “don’t remember” aspects of your trauma (including when trying to report an assault) If you liked this episode please give us a 5-star review and follow us on our socials! XOXO

Mya and K are sex busters today! They often discuss all the things NOT discussed in Sex Ed, and today is no different as they illuminate some of the most common sexual misconceptions. They might sound a little bit delulu in this episode because it’s 10 PM Thursday, and these busy girls are tired, but they never want to leave you episode-less on a Friday! <3 Sex Myths Busted In This Episode: When women have sex for the first time they “pop their cherry” and bleed. Women need to shave all the hair on their bodies, besides their heads to be seen as attractive and sexy. Girls “lose” their virginity and boys gain respect and become men. Women’s vagina’s become “loose” with too much sex. All women orgasm with penetration. Women need to use products to clean their vagina and keep it smelling nice. Women have their normal period cycle on birth control. Women aren’t as horny as men and don’t like sex as much; or that men are always wanting to have sex. Penetrative sex is the only real sex. Birth control is 100% effective. Porn is an accurate representation of sex. Orgasm is always the goal, or that sex is always only about physical pleasure. It’s easy and normal to always finish at the same time as your partner as shown on tv. Some Articles This Episode References https://www.draliabadi.com/womens-health-blog/myths-of-the-hymen/  https://www.acog.org/womens-health/experts-and-stories/the-latest/to-shave-or-not-to-shave-an-ob-gyns-guide-to-pubic-hair-care  https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/loose-vagina#loose-vs-tight  https://www.jordanrullo.com/blog/cant-orgasm-with-vaginal-penetration-youre-not-broken  https://obgynmiami.com/blog/three-myths-about-vaginal-hygiene/  https://www.teenhealthcare.org/blog/you-asked-it-is-porn-like-real-sex/

This week, Mya talks about one thing she’s never talked about before - getting a pap-smear as a survivor. She shares insights on why women get these exams, how important they are, the process of getting them, and ways to feel empowered and in control before, during and after! It’s common for survivors to feel triggered and alone in this process, largely because it’s not talked about enough and unfortunately not every physician is trauma-informed. So MK is not going to leave you in the dark, but instead she gives tips that will help you feel empowered before your next visit to the OBGYN! <3 Topics Include: Cervical cancer screenings - paps & HPV testing The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommendations What may be triggering about these experiences Survivor stories and experiences Your rights Ways to prepare and comfort yourself before, during and after exams RESOURCES OUR SOCIALS/WEBSITE Articles for more info/where I pulled from... https://www.healthline.com/health/navigating-medical-exams-after-sexual-assault#Tips-to-feel-safe-and-informed-during-your-exam https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/cervical-cancer-screening#:~:text=Women%20who%20are%2021%20to,%2Dtesting)%20every%205%20years. You can find a list of national rape crisis centers, who can act as a resource for referrals if needed (to help find a trauma-informed physician), here... https://www.raliance.org/rape-crisis-centers/

Together Mya and K welcome you into October which is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and discuss all the different feelings that may come up for you during this time. Whether you’re a survivor, ally/loved one to a survivor, or you’re totally new to understanding what DVAM means we hold a safe space for you and reflect on what this month means to us. Mya introduces a few therapies for trauma survivors and describes emotional processing for those who may be interested in incorporating them into their healing journeys. They wrap up the episode answering a couple of listeners write-in questions! <3 Topics include: Mya & K’s experience with DVAM and working with survivors Therapies: Talk Therapy, Pelvic Floor Therapy, EMDR Therapy Emotional processing and it’s meaning Q&A: “Do you need to tell your S/O or person you’re HU with that you have DV/SA in your past? Why don’t people just leave abusive relationships?” RESOURCES FOR YOU If you enjoy these episodes give us a 5-star review and follow us on our other social platforms! We appreciate and love all our listeners! :)

Mya and K are BACK baby! It's been a minute since we've talked to you and we're so happy to catch up. Today we're talking about those weird moments of anger? jealousy? that happen during long distance relationships and sometimes every day life as well as what constitutes the difference between unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationships. It all comes down to doing what's best, most healthy and safe for you! <3 Topics include: Catching up :) Unhealthy, toxic, & abusive verbiage Fake fights because you're bored? The classic "goodnight." text Jealous moments / reverting back to old habits Happy sad squid Follow us on socials and our Dear MK Blog!

Mya and K are OUTRAGED by the research released on tampons and their toxic qualities, but sadly, not surprised! If you haven’t heard yet, the first ever study on tampons to detect metals was completed and 100% of their samples found toxic metals in them including organic and non organic brands. There is little research on the impact of them being absorbed vaginally and Mya and K want to share their experiences with finding out this information as well as the choices they’ve made to protect their own health! To quote High School Musical, “We’re all in this together!” <3 Topics Include research behind toxic tampon data saalt cup making us feel like we can take on the world with all it’s perks (including less cramps and better orgasms!) removing stigmas around periods and products advertisements that make us want to scream like full body deodorants  phases of our cycle loving and be comfortable with our bodies (including vaginas!) types of period products for alternate and safe practices TO DISCOUNT YOUR SAALT PURCHASES https://www.saalt.com/MYA37670  USE CODE MYA37670 TO READ MORE ABOUT THIS STUDY -  Full Study https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160412024004355#s0050  Axois https://www.axios.com/2024/07/09/toxic-metal-tampons-lead-arsenic  Berkeley Public Health  https://publichealth.berkeley.edu/news-media/research-highlights/first-study-to-measure-toxic-metals-in-tampons-shows-arsenic-and-lead  New York Times https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/11/well/tampons-arsenic-lead-heavy-metals-toxic.html  Follow us on socials and give us a 5 star review if you liked this episode! <3

Mya and K have been a part for a month and a half so they bonded over recording together again, and their passions behind this podcast. They returned to their why describing how Dear MK was made to be a vulnerable space to connect with others through shared experiences, and prevent and bring awareness to dating violence and sexual assault. They never want their message to be lost! After their catch up they dove right back in to storytelling including these topics: "you're not done until you're done" cheating vs. verbal abuse and its outcomes using snapchat to impersonate others creepers at the local pool & next door three left turns!!! “he was taking photos & videos of her for years” hidden cameras in airbnbs/hotels cute moments with our bfs this summer Follow us on socials and give us a 5-star review if you liked this episode! <3

Safe Space Interviews: A safe space for vulnerable conversations, collective strength & healed stories. In this segment MK conducts interviews that focus on deconstructing trauma, rebuilding the self, and healing together. Overview: Welcome, Abby, who shares her dating history and trauma from being cheated on and verbally abused to finding the love of her life after an accident where she lost most of her teeth (yes he was still pining for her)!!! She was able to physically and mentally pull herself out of the most toxic relationship she had ever experienced and today she realizes she is worthy of real love. Abby wants all our listeners to feel a sense of self worth, love, and importance.  Topics Include: the 3 loves in your life cheating / sex in high school wake up call red flags “I wanted to hide it from my mother” minimizing experiences out of fear verbal abuse and manipulation  nonstop texting & escalating fights  healthy relationships being positive for work too focusing on yourself to heal never doubt your self worth or importance! If you liked this please give us a 5 star review! <3 Check out our socials! :)

Safe Space Interviews: A safe space for vulnerable conversations, collective strength & healed stories. In this segment MK conducts interviews that focus on deconstructing trauma, rebuilding the self, and healing together.  Overview: This person is a beacon of hope to all the daters searching for the one, going on dating apps and blind dates, being cheated on or played, and feeling like love is impossible to find. She longed to have her own fairy tale ending like the stories she saw in media and found herself “playing the game” as she tried to be the person she thought they wanted. It wasn’t until she stopped searching and pursued her own goals that she was able to truly find herself and eventually, the love she always wanted. This is an incredible story of self-love and discovery! Topics Include: dating apps and game playing friends or FBI agents? values and red flags feeling like you need to be someone you’re not learning to love yourself and be comfortable alone achieving dreams and goals each persons journey is unique Follow us on socials for more content like this! :)

In this episode, Mya and K dive into the extistential crises their facing and talk about their life plans for the next few years, normalizing the feelings that go along with growing up. After recovering from the quick therapy session they move on to talking about "female rage" in the world right now including health care, period pains, and commencement speeches gone wrong.  Topics Include: feeling okay with where you’re at in life “If social media didn’t exist, I wouldn’t feel this way” engagements, marriages, babies studies on women treating women in health care “men could never do periods” women’s period cramps can be just as painful as heart attacks  chiefs player talking about “me too” movement cathardic ptsd moments K’s 50 Shades of Grey Review Follow us on socials and read our blog to always stay in touch xoxo