Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

What happens when you throw a dinosaur birthday party with borrowed decorations, homemade food, muddy slime, and a backyard volcano? Apparently… pure childhood magic.In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my son’s fifth dinosaur-themed birthday party and sharing how we created a fun, memorable celebration without spending a fortune or stressing ourselves out trying to make it Pinterest-perfect.From DIY dinosaur tooth necklaces (that almost looked VERY questionable before a last-minute bead rescue), to an oobleck mud run, a volcano excavation treasure hunt, and homemade cakes decorated with the kids instead of at 2 a.m. the night before… this episode is full of practical ideas, funny moments, and a reminder that kids usually care way more about connection and fun than perfection.If you’ve ever felt pressure around birthdays, holidays, or creating magical moments for your kids, this conversation is your permission slip to simplify.Inside this episode: How we planned a budget-friendly dinosaur party  Why borrowing decorations was one of the best decisions we made  The easiest treasure hunt idea for younger kids  Why messy activities are almost always the biggest hit  The birthday cake tradition we’ve started as a family  A reminder that meaningful memories don’t have to be expensive So whether you’re planning a party, navigating parenthood, or simply craving a little more joy and less pressure, this episode is for you.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

The Most Powerful Investment in Your Child’s Future (It’s Not Money) | Toddler Play, Brain Development & Play Schemas ExplainedYou’ve probably heard people talk about investing in your child’s future… saving for school, planning ahead, setting them up for success.But what if the most powerful investment you’ll ever make has nothing to do with money?In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re exploring how everyday toddler behaviour, like throwing toys, carrying random objects, or spinning in circles, is actually shaping your child’s brain and future learning.These moments might look messy, repetitive, or even frustrating… but they’re far from meaningless.They’re play schemas, powerful, repeated patterns of play that help your child explore, experiment, and understand the world around them.Inside this episode, you’ll learn:Why the early years (birth–5) are critical for brain developmentWhat play schemas are and how they show up in everyday toddler playWhat your child is really learning when they repeat the same actionsHow play supports problem-solving, creativity, and emotional regulationHow understanding your child’s behaviour can make parenting feel easier and more enjoyableIf you’ve ever wondered: “Why does my toddler keep throwing things?” “Why are they constantly moving objects around the house?” “Why do they repeat the same play over and over again?”This episode will help you see those behaviours in a completely new way.Because when you understand the why behind your child’s play, everything starts to click, and parenting can feel a whole lot less frustrating.toddler behaviour, play schemas, child development, play-based learning, early childhood development, why toddlers throw things, toddler brain development, parenting toddlers, schema play, understanding toddler behaviour, positive parenting, learning through playSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

If you’ve ever wondered…Why your toddler throws things constantly…Why toys somehow end up scattered across every room…Or why your child lines up their snacks instead of eating them…You’re not alone.And you’re not doing it wrong.In today’s episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth shares a reminder that many toddler parents need to hear — especially on the days when parenting feels overwhelming, chaotic, or exhausting.Instead of focusing on strategies or quick fixes, this episode zooms out and looks at what’s really happening beneath the behaviours we see every day.You’ll learn:• Why many “challenging” toddler behaviours are actually part of normal development• How play schemas like trajectory, transportation, and positioning show up in everyday play• Why understanding these patterns can shift the way you respond to your child• And the powerful parenting mindset shift that can help you move from frustration to curiosityIf your days currently involve flying rocks, transported toys, and carefully lined-up snacks… this episode is your reminder that your child isn’t trying to make your life harder.They’re trying to make sense of their world.And the fact that you’re here, learning and listening, already says a lot about the kind of parent you are.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Ever tidied up your child’s “mess”… only to trigger a meltdown? 😅What if that mess wasn’t mess at all, but learning in progress?This tiny tool changed everything in our home:✨ Work in Progress cards✨ Fewer meltdowns✨ More creative, connected playIt’s simple. It’s powerful. And it works.Listen now and try it for yourself 💛Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Has your child talked about poo today? 💩😅If you’ve got a toddler or preschooler, chances are… yes.But before you panic or feel embarrassed, this phase is completely normal. And more than that? It’s actually a window into how your child learns.In this episode, we explore:Why kids become obsessed with pooWhat it tells us about play schemasWhy shutting it down can backfireAnd a surprisingly simple way to redirect it (hello, Play-Doh poo 👀)Parenting is hard, and that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.You’re not alone in this 💛🎧 Listen now and start seeing the learning behind the behaviour.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Why does your child love wrapping themselves in blankets, hiding toys in bags, or covering everything in paint? It’s not mess... it’s the Enveloping Play Schema.In this final episode of our 10-part play schemas series on Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe breaks down what enveloping play really is, how to spot it in toddlers and preschoolers, and why it supports early maths, science, body awareness, and emotional regulation.You’ll also learn the key difference between enveloping and enclosure (they’re often confused!), so you can respond with confidence instead of frustration.If you’ve ever wondered, “Is this normal?”... this episode is for you.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Why your child keeps fencing things in (and why it matters)If your toddler is constantly building walls, creating “no entry” zones, drawing borders, or sitting inside boxes and small spaces, you’re not raising a bossy or controlling child.You’re seeing the Enclosure Play Schema in action.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe breaks down enclosure play and explains why children are driven to surround, fence, and define spaces in their play. Learn how enclosure supports spatial awareness, early maths skills, planning, problem-solving, and emotional regulation, especially for sensitive or anxious children.Discover the difference between enclosure and enveloping, what repetition really means for development, and how understanding play schemas can reduce power struggles and transform the way you respond to toddler behaviour.If you want more calm, confidence, and clarity around your child’s play, this episode is for you.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Why is your child always upside down? It might be the Orientation Play Schema.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we explore the orientation play schema, the powerful drive behind children hanging upside down, climbing high, bending through their legs, and constantly changing their perspective.If your toddler loves to roll, invert, tip, and view the world from every possible angle, they’re not being reckless or attention-seeking. They’re learning.Discover what orientation play really is, why movement is the tool (not the goal), and how children develop spatial awareness, balance, and perspective through this instinctive behaviour.This episode is part of a 10-part series on the top 10 play schemas, helping you understand toddler behaviour through a child development lens so you can respond with confidence instead of frustration.If climbing, hanging, and upside-down antics are a daily occurrence in your home, this one will change the way you see it.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

The reason spinning is actually good for your child (Rotation Play Schema)Is your toddler constantly spinning, twisting taps, rolling wheels, or obsessing over anything that turns? It’s not chaos, it’s the Rotation Play Schema.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we unpack why children are drawn to spinning and circular movement, what their brains and bodies are learning, and how rotation play supports maths, science, problem-solving, balance, and body awareness.You’ll also discover how rotation links with trajectory play, why this behaviour is developmentally appropriate, and how to move from frustration to confidence by supporting it safely.If you’ve ever wondered why your child won’t stop spinning, this episode will change how you see toddler behaviour forever!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Positioning Play Schema… Why Toddlers Line Things UpHave you ever noticed your child lining up toys, stacking blocks just so, or arranging snacks before eating them? That’s the Positioning Play Schema in action.In this episode, we explore what positioning play really is, why toddlers and young children are drawn to order, patterns, and alignment, and how this type of play supports early maths skills, logical thinking, spatial awareness, focus, and emotional regulation.You’ll learn:What the positioning play schema looks like in everyday toddler behaviourWhy lining up, sorting, and stacking is powerful brain-building workHow positioning play supports learning, confidence, and a sense of controlWhy this behaviour is not “obsessive”, it’s developmentally essentialIf you’re parenting a toddler and wondering why play looks so repetitive or precise, this episode will help you reframe what you’re seeing and support your child’s learning through play.Perfect for parents of children aged 1–5 who want to better understand play schemas, toddler behaviour, and child development.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Transportation Play Schema Explained... Why Toddlers Carry Everything EverywhereHave you ever wondered why your toddler insists on carrying toys from room to room, filling backpacks with random objects, or pushing a pram loaded with teddies across the house on repeat?In this episode, we’re diving into the Transportation Play Schema, one of the most common (and often misunderstood) play schemas in early childhood.Transportation play is all about moving objects from one place to another. While it can look messy, chaotic, or even frustrating at times, this behaviour is actually deeply purposeful. It’s how young children make sense of journeys, distance, order, and belonging in their world.You’ll learn:What the transportation schema is and how it shows up in toddler and preschool playWhy children feel such a strong urge to carry, push, collect, and relocate objectsHow transportation play supports brain development, including sequencing, categorisation, and spatial awarenessThe emotional side of transportation play, comfort, control, confidence, and independenceHow to reframe “messy” behaviour into meaningful learningSimple ways to support transportation play at home (without fighting it)We also explore how recognising play schemas can dramatically reduce parental frustration. When you understand the why behind your child’s behaviour, it becomes much easier to lean into their play rather than push against it.Whether this is your first introduction to play schemas or part of your ongoing journey with The Play Schemas Collective, this episode will help you see your child’s play, and learning, in a whole new way.If you’re ready to stop battling the mess and start understanding the magic behind it, this episode is for you.Follow along for more toddler behaviour insights, play schema explanations, and practical parenting support.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Trajectory Play Schema by Age: What Movement Play Looks Like from Birth to 5+Ever wondered why your baby keeps dropping things, your toddler throws everything in sight, or your preschooler builds elaborate ramps and obstacle courses?In this episode, we explore age-specific trajectory play behaviours from birth through to five years and beyond, giving you a clear roadmap for how movement play naturally evolves as your child grows.The Trajectory Play Schema is all about a child’s deep, instinctive urge to explore how objects, and their own bodies, move through space. This isn’t random behaviour or “naughty” play. It’s your child building early foundations for physics, problem-solving, emotional regulation, and confidence through movement.We’ll walk through four key developmental stages, covering:What trajectory play typically looks like at each ageWhy behaviours like throwing, splashing, climbing, and jumping are so importantHow you can confidently support trajectory play at home (without shutting it down)What’s developmentally normal, so you can reframe frustration into understandingFrom babies tracking movement and dropping spoons, to toddlers testing gravity, to preschoolers designing ramps, chain reactions, and movement-based games, this episode helps you see the learning beneath the behaviour.If you’re parenting a child aged 0–5 years (or beyond), this episode will help you:Understand your child’s movement urgesSupport big body play safelyReduce power struggles around throwing and climbingFeel more confident responding to messy, energetic playSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Why is my toddler so messy? If your child loves mixing, squishing, pouring, smearing, and turning everyday materials into something new, you’re likely seeing the Transformation Play Schema in action.In this episode, we explore the Transformation Play Schema, one of the most powerful and misunderstood play schemas in early childhood. Play schemas are deep, instinctive urges that drive children’s play and support brain development, learning, and emotional regulation.The Transformation Schema is all about change: how materials change in texture, colour, shape, size, and consistency.From mud kitchens and potion-making to paint-covered arms and melting ice, this kind of messy play isn’t misbehaviour, it’s high-value learning.In this episode, you’ll learn:What the Transformation Play Schema isWhy messy play is essential for toddler and preschooler developmentHow children learn cause and effect through transformation playWhat transformation looks like in everyday playWhy repetition matters for brain developmentHow understanding play schemas can reduce power struggles and big emotionsYou’ll also hear why transformation play starts early, why it can feel repetitive, and how supporting this schema, instead of fighting it, can make parenting calmer and more connected.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

What is the Disconnection Play Schema? A 101 OverviewHave you ever watched your toddler peel every sticker off a book, pull tissues out one by one, or dismantle a block tower you just built… and wondered why they do it?In this episode, we’re diving into the Disconnection Play Schema, one of the most misunderstood (and often messy!) forms of toddler play.Disconnection play is all about a child’s deep, instinctive urge to understand how things come apart. It’s the opening, pulling, removing, unzipping, unscrewing, tearing, and undoing that helps children explore how the world works. And while it can look destructive on the surface, it’s actually powerful learning in action.In this 101 overview, you’ll learn:What the Disconnection Play Schema really isWhy toddlers are driven to pull things apart (again and again)How disconnection play supports problem-solving, fine motor skills, persistence, and early STEM thinkingWhy this behaviour is healthy, necessary, and developmentally appropriateSimple ways to support disconnection play safely at home (without losing your sanity)If you’re in the thick of toddler life and feeling overwhelmed by the constant dismantling, this episode is for you. Understanding the why behind the behaviour can completely change how it feels, and how you respond.Because your child isn’t undoing your work to frustrate you.They’re doing their work,  building the foundations for learning, curiosity, and critical thinking.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

What is the connection play schema… and why does your child seem driven to tie, tape, build, and join everything together?In this episode, we’re starting with a foundational question: what exactly is the connection schema, and why does it matter so much in early childhood development?Schemas are deep, instinctive urges that drive children’s play. They aren’t random behaviors—they’re the brain’s way of building foundations for lifelong learning. And the connection schema is all about how things join together… and sometimes how they come apart.From tying objects together and building endless towers, to taping toys into long lines or wanting to sit close and hold hands, connection play is your child’s natural way of exploring structure, stability, and the forces that hold things in place.In this episode, you’ll learn:What the connection schema really is (and what it isn’t)Why connection play is normal, healthy, and developmentally necessaryHow children use connecting and disconnecting to explore physics, engineering, and problem-solvingThe powerful link between connection play and fine motor developmentHow this schema supports early STEM thinking, confidence, and persistenceReal-life examples of what connection play looks like at home (yes, including all the tape and string!)If you’re feeling overwhelmed by repetitive play, messy setups, or emotional meltdowns when creations fall apart, this episode offers reassurance and clarity. Repetition isn’t a problem, it’s how the brain wires itself. And when you understand schema-driven behavior, it becomes so much easier to support your child with empathy and intention.If your child is constantly connecting, tying, taping, building, or taking things apart, they’re learning exactly what they need to learn, and your support makes a remarkable difference.Let’s dive deeper into the connection schema together.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join the free 2026 Family Preset: https://playschemas.com/presetFeeling tired already, and the year’s only just begun?If “new year, new me” feels more exhausting than motivating, this episode offers a different way forward.In this episode, Ruth introduces the 2026 Family Preset, a free, gentle, 5-day guided experience designed especially for parents of young children. No pressure. No hustle. Just clarity, connection, and small shifts that make family life feel lighter.Instead of fixing everything, this is about deciding what really matters, and setting your family up for a calmer, more connected year.What You’ll LearnWhy clarity (not discipline) is often what’s missing when parenting feels hardHow small, intentional shifts can change the tone of your whole familyWhy rest, connection, and repair matter more than perfectionHow understanding your child’s play can reduce frustration and conflictWhat it really means to “preset” your family for the year aheadThe 5 Days of the Family PresetDay 1: Starting with you, rest that actually restoresDay 2: Parenting as a team (or with your support system)Day 3: Understanding your child through their play and schemasDay 4: Building connection into everyday routinesDay 5: Protecting connection on the hard days through repairIncludes short daily videos, one small task a day, two weeks to complete it, and the chance to win over $500 in prizes.ResourcesJoin the free 2026 Family Preset: https://playschemas.com/presetInstagram DM option: https://instagram.com/playschemasIf this episode supported you, please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a review, it helps more parents find calm and clarity through play 💛#DemystifyingChildsPlay #FamilyPreset #GentleParenting #PlayIsLearning #ConnectionOverConflict #ParentingSupportSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join the 2026 Family Preset waitlist! Preset week is 12th-16th January 2026.The new year can feel full of pressure, new routines, new goals, and the quiet expectation that everything should suddenly feel more “together.” But if you’re parenting a toddler or preschooler and your day still involves toast on the floor and snack requests five minutes after breakfast, you’re not doing it wrong.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re welcoming 2026 with a gentler, more grounded perspective on parenting, one that replaces overwhelm with understanding and helps you reconnect with what really matters: your child’s play.You’ll be introduced (or reintroduced) to play schemas, the repetitive patterns of play that are hardwired into how young children learn and develop. We’ll explore why behaviours like throwing, lining up, spinning, enclosing, and pulling things apart aren’t “phases to fix,” but meaningful learning in action. When you understand what’s driving your child’s play, parenting starts to feel more intentional, less frustrating, and surprisingly more joyful.Through real-life examples and relatable moments from family life, this episode breaks down how play schemas support cognitive development, emotional regulation, physical coordination, and confidence, all without worksheets or structured activities. You’ll also hear practical ways to spot schemas in your own child’s play, how to support them using simple, everyday materials, and why protecting time for child-led play is one of the most powerful investments you can make this year.We’ll also touch on something parents don’t hear often enough: play isn’t just good for children, it’s good for us too. Joining your child in play, even briefly, builds connection, supports emotional wellbeing, and reminds us that joy and learning don’t need to be separate.If you’re stepping into the new year wanting less pressure, more confidence, and a deeper connection with your child, this episode is for you.Subscribe to the podcast, share this episode with another parent who needs this reminder, and come continue the conversation with me over on Instagram @play_schemas. For free resources and further support, visit playschemas.com.Because you don’t need to add more this year, you just need to understand what’s already there. And today is a great day to play.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!If you'd love a ready-to-go cheat sheet with all the schema explanations and ideas from today’s episode, you can download the free Christmas Play Schema Guide at playschemas.com/free.Ever wondered why your child suddenly throws baubles across the room, moves everyone’s presents to the opposite corner, or mixes their entire Christmas lunch into one giant “experiment”?In this episode, we take the stress, confusion, and guilt out of those big festive behaviours, and replace them with clarity, confidence, and a whole lot more calm.Christmas is magical, but it’s also a time when emotions run high, routines shift, and little people are surrounded by stimulating new sights, sounds, and expectations. For many parents, this means asking (more than once!), “Why are you doing that?” From throwing wrapping paper into the air, to hiding objects, spinning ornaments, lining up cookies, or disappearing under the tree to see the lights from below, it can feel chaotic and sometimes embarrassing, especially in front of relatives.But I'm here to reassure you that your child isn’t just being naughty... they’re learning.Their Christmas behaviour is usually a direct expression of one of the 10 common play schemas: the repeated patterns of behaviour children use to understand how the world works. And once you know what to look for, everything starts to make sense.In this special Christmas episode, I break down how each schema might show up on Christmas Day, from the trajectory schema making baubles fly, to the transporting schema moving gifts across the room, to the enveloping, connecting, disconnecting and transforming schemas that turn ordinary moments into adorable (and sometimes messy!) explorations of curiosity.You’ll discover: Why your child’s festive “chaos” is actually developmental gold How to explain their behaviour to relatives without awkwardness or judgement Simple redirections that meet their needs without shutting down their play Ways to prevent meltdowns before big Christmas moments even begin Practical scripts you can use with grandparents, visiting cousins, or even your partner How to set up Christmas Day so your child feels supported, understood, and connectedYou’ll finish this episode with a clear, gentle toolkit to help you navigate Christmas with more ease, and a brand new appreciation for the playful, curious child in front of you.Let’s make this Christmas season calmer, more connected, and full of moments that truly matter.Merry Christmas, and remember: today is a great day to play!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!If your living room has ever looked like a toy shop exploded on Christmas morning, you’re not alone. The wrapping paper, the noise, the overstimulated kids… and that quiet thought in the back of your mind: “How did we end up here again?”In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, host Ruth Vercoe brings a fresh, reassuring perspective to the festive season, one that’s grounded in child development, play-based learning, and realistic expectations for busy parents. Less stuff. More play. More connection.“Less Stuff, More Play: Creating a Connected Christmas” explores what really supports young children during the holidays, and why understanding their play schemas can turn Christmas from overstimulating chaos into joyful, meaningful moments.You’ll hear relatable stories, gentle insights, and down-to-earth guidance that helps you cut through the noise (and the unsolicited gift suggestions!) so you can focus on what matters most: your child, their curiosity, and the simple joy of playing together.• Why “more” can quickly become too much Discover the science behind overstimulation, why young children often ignore new toys at Christmas, and how aligning gifts with your child’s play schema can bring calm back into the holiday season.• How simple play invitations can transform Christmas morning Get practical, budget-friendly ideas based on the 10 play schemas — from wrapping-and-unwrapping (enveloping) to moving baskets of baubles (transporting) to watching the tree lights from underneath (orientation). No fancy setups. No Pinterest pressure. Just real play that meets your child where they are.• The magic of slowing down and building connection Find out why quiet in-between moments matter more than perfectly curated traditions — and how following your child’s natural play urges leads to deeper bonding, calmer days, and a Christmas they’ll actually remember.As parents, we often carry the invisible weight of “making Christmas magical.” But the truth is: your child doesn’t need more things, they need more play, and more of you.All key takeaways, scripts, and schema-based ideas mentioned in the episode are available in the show notes at playschemas.com/blog — plus you can download Ruth’s free Christmas Play Schema Guide at playschemas.com/free.You’ve got this — and remember: today is a great day to play.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Have you ever watched your toddler throw toys, empty your handbag for the tenth time, or spin in circles until they fall over, and wondered, why on earth are they doing that? This episode will help you finally make sense of it, and trust your child’s play in a whole new way.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re diving into one of the most powerful, and often misunderstood, parts of early childhood development: play schemas. These are the repeated patterns of behaviour that toddlers come back to again and again… throwing, wrapping, stacking, filling, dumping, climbing, hiding, spinning.And while these moments can feel messy, chaotic, or even a bit annoying (especially when you’re tired, heading into the Christmas season, or just trying to make dinner), they’re actually signs that your child is learning exactly what they need to learn right now.You’ll hear why your child keeps: • tossing toys across the room • wrapping dolls in blanket after blanket • transferring objects from one bag to another • building towers just to knock them down • spinning until they’re giggling on the floorEach of these actions links to a different schema, a way the brain organises information and builds important pathways for maths, science, problem solving, gross motor skills and confidence. When we understand this, everything changes. We stop seeing “naughty”, “messy”, or “chaotic”, and start seeing curiosity, exploration and connection.If you’re a parent who feels guilty about not playing enough… or if you’ve ever wondered whether your toddler’s behaviour is “normal”… this episode will give you reassurance, clarity and a simple new lens that makes family life feel so much easier.Think of this as a gentle invitation to become a play detective. Once you start noticing schemas, you’ll never unsee them, and you’ll feel so much more connected to what your child is trying to learn and communicate.Whether you’re listening on a walk, folding washing, or hiding in the pantry for two minutes of quiet, this episode will help you see your child’s play with fresh eyes. Parenting is hard, and that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong, especially when you understand what’s going on beneath the surface.If this episode helps you see your child’s play differently, I’d love you to subscribe, leave a quick review, or share it with a friend who needs a little encouragement today.And remember, today is a great day to play.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Why is your toddler obsessed with pouring, tipping, splashing, and carrying cups of water around the house?In this episode, Shelly from HapiTap and I dive into the world of water play through the lens of play schemas, so you can finally understand what your child is learning every time they head straight for the tap, bath, or puddle.If you’ve ever wondered “Is this normal?” or “Why does water play keep them so focused?”, this episode breaks it all down in a way that feels reassuring, practical, and totally doable for busy parents. You’ll learn what water play looks like from 1–5 years, why it holds such power for early learning, and how simple setups at home can support your child’s confidence, curiosity, and brain development.We’ll explore: • How the top 10 play schemas are visible in water play • Why messy play supports problem-solving, early science concepts, and sensory regulation • Easy, low-prep ways to offer water play (yes, even indoors!) • Helpful phrases you can use to guide, validate, and extend your child’s play • How understanding schemas can reduce behaviour battles and boost cooperationWhether you love water play or quietly dread the mess, this episode will help you see it with fresh eyes and feel confident saying “yes” more often.If this episode supports you, hit follow, share it with another parent, or send me your child’s favourite water play setup. I love hearing from you!Want to find out more about the HapiTap? Head to @HapiTap_OfficalSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Is your toddler more interested in the box than the toy this Christmas? You’re not alone, and there’s a reason behind it!In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re kicking off our festive three-part miniseries, A Playful Christmas, exploring how understanding play schemas can bring more calm, confidence, and connection into your holiday season. If you’ve ever wondered why your child throws, spins, hides, or moves things around, this episode explains exactly what’s happening in their brain and why it matters for their learning and development.Ruth Vercoe shares practical tips for matching toys to your child’s natural play style, simple ideas for using everyday items creatively, and strategies to manage toy overload so your home stays playful, not chaotic. You’ll discover how to choose gifts that truly support your child’s growth, boost their independence, and make play more meaningful for both of you.Tune in to transform the way you approach Christmas playtime, reduce stress, and celebrate the joy of play. Don’t forget to subscribe, share with fellow parents, and check out show notes and free guides at playschemas.com/blog and playschemas.com/free.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!How can mums nourish themselves through conception, pregnancy, and beyond? NZ dietitian Hannah Ericksen from oh Goodness Nutrition joins Ruth Vercoe to unpack nutrition for mums , the real, practical kind. From the “first thousand days” to postpartum recovery, discover how small changes can make a lifelong impact for you and your baby.You’ll learn:Why the first thousand days are so important for baby’s lifelong healthThe 3 food groups every mum needs more of (and how to make it easy)How to eat well postpartum without the guiltThe truth about “bouncing back” and what your body really needsSimple ways to show compassion for yourself as a mumPlus, Hannah shares practical, doable strategies for fuelling your body, like stocking up on frozen veggies, leaning on your support network, and remembering that you deserve the same nourishment you give your whānau.Learn more & connect:Read the full blog: playschemas.com/blogFollow on Instagram: @play_schemasFind Hannah: ohgoodnessnutrition.co.nzSubscribe for weekly parenting & play insights!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!What Your Child Really Wants for Christmas (It’s Not What’s Under the Tree)This week on Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe is joined by Linda from The Thriving Home and The Connection Couple to explore what truly makes Christmas magical... connection. If you’ve ever felt torn between creating a picture-perfect holiday and actually being present with your kids, this episode will help you slow down, simplify, and reconnect.Linda shares her and her husband Matt’s Connection First Parenting approach, a practical, research-backed framework built around four key pillars: connection, repair, responsibility, and developmental awareness. Together, they unpack how these ideas can transform the way families experience the festive season.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why connection is at the heart of all positive parenting, especially at Christmas.How to plan for connection (not perfection) with simple, stress-free ideas.The neuroscience behind why your child remembers moments, not gifts.How the Thriving Advent Calendar turns December into 24 days of meaningful family connection.Simple ways to slow down and make space for presence over pressure.Whether you’re baking cookies, decorating the tree, or wrapping presents, this episode reminds you that your child’s most cherished memories come from how it felt to be with you.Listen in, breathe out, and rediscover the joy of a slower, more connected Christmas.🔗 Show notes & links: Find all the resources mentioned at playschemas.com/blog If this episode resonates, please subscribe, share, or leave a review, it helps more parents find calm and connection this Christmas.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Ever wondered how to truly connect with your neurodiverse child, especially when life feels like one long guessing game? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, host Ruth Vercoe welcomes Sarah from We Are Equal — a mum of four, early childhood teacher, and passionate advocate for neurodiversity, to share the five powerful lessons she wishes she’d known going into parenting her autistic son.  From navigating “safe foods” and understanding sensory overload to handling social pressures, stimming, and affection in ways that honour your child’s needs, Sarah’s real-life stories offer empathy, relief, and practical wisdom. You’ll learn why connection before correction can transform those challenging moments into opportunities for growth, for both you and your child.  Whether you’re parenting a neurodiverse or neurotypical child, this episode is a gentle reminder that it’s okay to slow down, give yourself grace, and focus on what truly matters: connection, understanding, and love.  Tune in, learn alongside us, and share this episode with a friend who could use some reassurance that they’re doing an amazing job.Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode that helps you parent with confidence and heart!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Discover the Magic of Dino-vember, and the Hidden Learning in Your Child’s Play!What if your child’s love of dinosaurs could actually help you understand why they play the way they do?In this fun and insightful episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe dives into Dino-vember, that magical month where toy dinosaurs mysteriously come alive overnight, and reveals how it’s so much more than a playful tradition. It’s a unique opportunity to connect with your child, understand their behaviour, and nurture their development through play schemas.If you’ve ever found yourself stepping over toy dinosaurs, cleaning up endless messes, or wondering why your toddler seems obsessed with throwing, lining up, or transporting everything they can get their hands on, this episode is for you.Ruth explains what play schemas are, the natural, repeated patterns of behaviour children use to explore and make sense of the world — and how noticing them can completely transform how you see your child’s play.During this episode, you’ll discover: What play schemas are and how they show up in your child’s everyday play.How to use Dinovember to observe and support your child’s unique play urges, while having loads of fun!Simple, creative ideas for setting up schema-aligned dinosaur play, no fancy setups required.Practical parenting tips to reframe challenging behaviour and build stronger connections through play.Ruth walks you through the 10 common play schemas, like trajectory, transportation, rotation, positioning, enclosure, transformation, connection, disconnection, and more, and gives real-life examples of how you might see them during Dino-vember. From dinosaurs zip-lining across the lounge to delivering little treasures between rooms, each setup becomes a playful window into your child’s mind.She also shares stories from her teaching and parenting experiences, including how understanding play schemas helped one mum go from feeling overwhelmed by her child’s constant throwing to feeling confident and connected. Once she realised it was the trajectory schema in action, she set up safe, intentional ways for her child to explore movement, turning chaos into calm.Through the laughter, imagination, and joy of Dino-vember, Ruth reminds us that play is not “just play”, it’s powerful learning in action. Every time your child builds, hides, lines up, or transforms something, their brain is growing. And every time you notice and join in, your relationship grows too.Whether you’re a parent, grandparent, or educator, this episode will leave you feeling inspired, informed, and ready to see your child’s play in a new light. You’ll walk away with practical ideas to try at home, a deeper understanding of your child’s development, and a few smiles along the way.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!What if prioritising your own health could be the most important thing you ever do for your children? In this powerful and deeply honest conversation on Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe talks with Tamara Milne, a radiographer and mum who was just 33 and weeks away from welcoming her second baby when she received a life-changing diagnosis: breast cancer.Tamara shares how knowing her normal and performing regular self-checks quite literally saved her life, and how every parent can do the same. This episode might be a little off-topic from play, but it’s a vital one for every mum, dad, and caregiver to hear.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why no one is immune from breast cancer, regardless of age, gender, or lifestyle.The signs and symptoms of breast cancer you need to know (it’s not just lumps).How to model healthy body awareness and wellbeing for your children.Why looking after yourself isn’t selfish, it’s essential.How regular breast self-checks can become part of your everyday routine.Key takeaway:“If I’m not looking after myself and my wellbeing suffers, I quite literally might not be here for my children.” – Tamara MilneTamara’s story is a powerful reminder that as parents, we can’t pour from an empty cup. Looking after your health is looking after your family.Read the full show notes and transcript: https://playschemas.com/blog Learn more about Tamara’s movement: https://checkyourbits.co.nz Follow Check Your Bits on Instagram: https://instagram.com/checkyourbits Follow The Play Schemas Collective on Instagram: https://instagram.com/play_schemasSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Did you know your toddler’s everyday play is secretly building the foundations for language and communication?If you’ve ever worried about whether your child is talking “enough,” or wondered how you can best support their speech and confidence, this episode will give you the reassurance and practical strategies you’ve been searching for.As parents, we often look for ways to help our children learn—but the truth is, the most powerful tool is already happening right in your lounge, at the park, or even in the Tupperware drawer: play.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, I talk with Paige from Talk First Words and we explore the fascinating connection between play and language development, and why the games and activities your child chooses aren’t random at all. They’re essential building blocks for how your child will talk, think, and connect with others.You’ll discover:Why play is the foundation of language and how it shapes your child’s brain for communication.How everyday games like peekaboo, hiding under blankets, or pretending to feed Teddy link directly to early speech and vocabulary growth.The different stages of play; from simple social games to imaginative storytelling, and how each stage supports communication in a unique way.The role of play schemas (like enveloping, trajectory, and positioning) in giving your child the words and concepts they need to describe their world.Play is so much more than entertainment. It’s your child’s first language. By understanding the link between play and speech, you’ll feel empowered to support your child without pressure or overwhelm.When you join in your child’s play, even for a few minutes a day, you’re not just building their vocabulary. You’re building connection, confidence, and the emotional security that helps them thrive.And perhaps most importantly, you’ll gain reassurance: if your child isn’t yet talking as much as you expect, the play they’re doing now is laying all the groundwork they need for future communication.Because every giggle, every game of peekaboo, and every block tower isn’t “just play”—it’s your child’s brain and language growing in action.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!How does play shape your child’s speech and language?If you’ve ever wondered whether those endless games of peek-a-boo, block towers, or toy tea parties actually do anything for your child’s speech development, you’re not alone. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, we’re unpacking the fascinating connection between play and speech, and how understanding this link can help you feel more confident in supporting your child’s growth with Paige O'Dwyer from Talk First WordsAs parents, it’s easy to get caught up in worries: “Should my toddler be talking more by now?” “Am I doing enough to support their speech?” or “Does play really matter when it comes to language?” This episode brings reassurance and clarity by showing you how the everyday play your child already loves is laying the groundwork for communication, expression, and confidence.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why play is the foundation of speech: Discover how the simple act of playing opens the door to language learning.The role of play schemas: Find out how different patterns of play, like throwing, spinning, or hiding, give your child the chance to practise sounds, gestures, and storytelling in their own way.How play supports confidence and expression: Learn how imaginative play, role play, and even the messier moments of play help your child experiment with communication.Practical tips you can try today: Easy, everyday ways to nurture both play and speech without adding more to your already busy schedule.Why this matters for youYour child’s play is more than just fun, it’s their way of making sense of the world and building the tools they need for speech and language. By tuning into their play, you’ll not only feel more connected, but also gain insight into the small steps that support big milestones.No need for flashcards or rigid drills. Instead, you’ll leave this episode with a fresh perspective: the games, giggles, and even the chaos are helping your child learn to talk.For more resources on play schemas and child development, visit www.playschemas.com or connect on Instagram @play_schemas.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Ever felt like baking with your toddler is more mess than magic? You’re not alone. But what if I told you that the flour on the floor and the endless stirring are actually signs of learning in action?In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, I share the 10 main play schemas and how they show up while baking gingerbread with your little one. From pouring flour (trajectory) to lining up cookie cutters (positioning) to covering cookies in sprinkles (enveloping), every “chaotic” moment is full of developmental gold.When you learn to spot these schemas, you’ll stress less, connect more, and maybe even enjoy baking together again.Today I talk through:What play schemas are and why they matter for child development.How baking reveals schemas like trajectory, transportation, rotation, and more.Simple ways to support your child’s learning without constant correction.How baking fosters independence, communication, and emotional connection.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Ever thought about baking with your toddler but stopped yourself because of the mess, the chaos, or the fear it’ll all go wrong? You’re not alone. Many parents love the idea of baking with their kids but find the reality overwhelming.Flour on the floor, sticky fingers everywhere, and a kitchen that looks like a tornado hit... sound familiar?Baking with children isn’t just about producing perfect cupcakes. It’s about connection, learning, and making memories that last far longer than the cookies. In this week’s episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, I sit down with fellow Kiwi mum and baking expert Heather Kalisch, founder of Bake With Me NZ, to talk about how baking with kids can be fun, meaningful, and actually manageable.Heather shares her top five tips for baking with children. It's all practical advice that helps you swap the stress for smiles. Together, we explore how to make the kitchen a place of learning, laughter, and family connection, without worrying about Pinterest-perfect results.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why preparation matters – and how a little setup makes baking with toddlers easier and calmer.How to turn food safety into fun – think superhero handwashing and aprons instead of nagging.The magic of progress over perfection – why the lopsided cupcake is more valuable than the picture-perfect one.Cleaning up as part of the process – how to make tidying a team activity (and actually enjoyable).The power of memories – how slowing down in the kitchen creates connection your child will treasure for years.Along the way, we also talk about how baking builds real-life skills like maths, literacy, problem-solving, and science. Every time your child stirs, measures, or pours, they’re learning through play. And the best part? They’re doing it alongside you.If you’ve ever wondered:“How do I bake with my toddler without losing my mind?”“Is it even safe to let my kids help in the kitchen?”“What if the mess just makes it harder?”…this episode is for you. Heather and I want to reassure you that baking with children doesn’t need to be perfect. It just needs to be intentional. With a few simple shifts, it can become one of the most rewarding ways to connect with your child.You can find Heather on Instagram @BakeWithMe.co.nz and online at www.BakeWithMe.co.nzSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Feeling overwhelmed after birth? You’re not alone.In this week’s episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, I’m joined by Jade from Your Mama Journey. A mum, an accredited mental health social worker, and the creator of beautiful guided journals designed to help women reflect on their birth and postpartum journeys.Like many of us, Jade expected her birth to go one way… and then it went another. An emergency C-section changed everything, and while she held her healthy daughter in her arms, she was also left with a swirl of emotions she didn’t know what to do with. Sound familiar?So often, we prepare for birth with hospital bag lists and antenatal classes, but no one really prepares us for how the early days of motherhood feel. That’s why this conversation is so powerful. Jade opens up about the five things she wishes she knew after birth, lessons that can help you feel less alone, more supported, and more confident as you navigate your own journey.We talk about:Why motherhood can feel lonely, even when you’re never aloneHow emotional recovery matters just as much as physical healingWhy you don’t have to feel grateful all the time (and why that’s okay)The truth that birth rarely goes to plan, and that doesn’t mean you’ve failedHow journaling your birth story can be a powerful tool for healingWhether your child is 6 weeks or 6 years old, these insights will resonate. Because, becoming a mum changes us forever, and making sense of that journey takes time.This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and give yourself permission to honour your story. There’s no right way to process it, and there’s no time limit. As Jade reminds us, even mums of ten-year-olds find healing when they finally put words to their birth experience. If you’ve ever felt:“I should feel grateful, but I’m struggling…”“I thought my birth plan would protect me from this…”“No one told me it would feel this lonely…”…then this conversation will remind you that you are not failing. You’re not alone. And you deserve support, reflection, and connection as much as your baby deserves care.And if this episode encourages you, please subscribe, share it with a friend who needs to hear it, or leave a review — it helps other parents find the support they need, too.Remember: today is a great day to play.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Parenting twins is a beautiful gift but, it can also feel overwhelming. From double nappies to double tantrums, everything feels doubled. And when it comes to sharing, many parents wonder: Should twins always share? What if they’re constantly fighting over the same toy? How do I teach fairness without endless meltdowns?In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, I’m joined by Smadar, a New Zealand–based twin specialist and founder of Twinful Life. With more than 15 years of experience supporting families around the world, Smadar knows exactly what parents of twins need to hear: sharing isn’t always caring, and it’s okay for twins to have their own things.Together, we unpack some of the most common challenges twin parents face and offer practical, play-based strategies to bring more peace, confidence, and joy into daily life.What We Cover in This EpisodeThe truth about sharing: Why children under 3–4 aren’t developmentally ready to share in the way we expect.Why forced sharing backfires: How telling kids to hand things over doesn’t build kindness, it builds compliance. The power of ownership: Why giving twins their own belongings helps reduce conflict and build independence. The guilt and entitlement trap: How constant sharing pressures can lead to tricky behaviours and big emotions. Fair vs. equal: Why twins don’t need two of everything, and how normalising differences sets them up for real-life success.Even if you don’t have twins, these lessons apply to all young children. Siblings close in age, playdates with friends, even cousins at family gatherings, the same principles hold true.When you understand what your child is really learning through play and conflict, you can respond with more empathy and less frustration. You’ll discover that:Play is learning. Every conflict is a chance to practise problem-solving, patience, and connection.Small shifts matter. Just a few tweaks in how you approach sharing can completely change the tone in your home.Connection is key. It’s not about getting it “perfect”; it’s about creating an environment where your children feel seen, safe, and supported.To connect with Smadar, Click here to follow her on Instagram or here to head to her websiteAnd remember, today is a great day to play!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Messy play can feel like chaos… but what if it’s actually one of the best things you can do for your child’s learning, confidence, and connection?In this episode, I sit down with Sam, founder of Messy Mates, to talk about the hidden magic of messy play and how parents can make it easier (and less stressful!) to bring into everyday life.What we cover:Why messy play is a developmental goldmineHow it boosts creativity and confidenceThe surprising role messy play has in parent–child connectionSimple ways to contain the mess (so you can actually enjoy it!)Why messy play is for all ages... babies to grownupsAbout today’s guest:Sam is the creative force behind Messy Mates NZ, a play-based business in Christchurch offering families a safe, joyful space to explore messy play, without the clean-up stress! You’ll often find her covered in rice, slime, or paint, championing play as a tool for learning and family connection.Find Sam here:Instagram: @messymatesnzWebsite: www.messymates.co.nzFacebook: Messy Mates NZResources mentioned:Play Schemas: www.playschemas.com/freeBlog + full links: www.playschemas.com/blogSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Bringing a new baby into the world is magical,  but it can also feel overwhelming. Between sleepless nights, adjusting to life as a bigger family, and trying to find time for yourself, it’s easy for mums to feel stretched thin. That’s why this week, I’m joined by Ally from @EntwinedParenting, who shares her 5 top tips for welcoming a newborn into the family, with a big focus on looking after yourself as a mum.This episode is all about making those early days feel a little lighter and more supported. Whether you’re about to welcome your first baby or adding another sibling to the mix, Ally’s advice is both practical and reassuring. She understands the challenges parents face, and she brings a wealth of experience to help you navigate this tender season with more confidence and calm.What you’ll hear in this episode:Why your wellbeing as a mum matters just as much as your newborn’s.Simple ways to care for yourself even in the busiest days.How to manage the transition when older siblings are adjusting to a new baby.Practical tips for creating rhythms and routines that support the whole family.Encouragement to let go of perfection and embrace what works for your unique family.If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I balance it all when I bring a new baby home?” or worried about how your older children will adjust, this conversation will leave you feeling less alone and more empowered. Ally’s approach is filled with empathy, kindness, and realistic strategies that actually work in the real, messy, beautiful world of parenting.Because you deserve support too. As mums, we’re often told to focus on the baby, but your wellbeing shapes your child’s wellbeing. This episode reminds you that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it’s essential.Perfect for you if:You’re expecting a baby and want to feel more prepared.You’re in the thick of newborn life and need gentle encouragement.You’re parenting toddlers or preschoolers alongside a newborn and feeling stretched.You’re craving real, down-to-earth parenting advice you can actually use.So pop your headphones in while feeding the baby, folding the washing, or sneaking a quick walk, and let this episode give you the boost of support and wisdom you need.If you enjoy this episode:Hit subscribe so you never miss new insights on parenting, play, and child development.Leave a review to let other parents know how this podcast is helping you.Share this episode with a mum friend who’s welcoming a new baby, she’ll thank you!For more resources, visit playschemas.com and connect with me on Instagram @play_schemas.#PSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!If you’re a parent of a toddler or preschooler and you’ve got a newborn on the way, you already know it’s about to be a season of big feelings, big changes, and a whole lot less sleep. Between preparing the cot, stocking up on nappies, and navigating your own emotions, it’s easy to wonder: How will my little one cope when the baby arrives?In this practical episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, I’m sharing exactly how I’m preparing my two children (almost 2 and 4) for the arrival of baby number three – using the power of play schemas to help them feel secure, included, and loved during the transition.You’ll discover:What play schemas are – those repetitive, curious, sometimes chaotic behaviours that toddlers just can’t resist (and why they matter).How understanding your child’s schemas can turn frustration into connection, especially during the upheaval of welcoming a newborn.My top three things every child needs to know about a new baby (hint: it’s not a biology lesson, it’s simple, memorable, and works wonders).How schemas like transportation, enveloping, and positioning can be your secret parenting ally during this transition.The beautiful overlap between play schemas and love languages – and how you can use both to make your child feel truly seen and valued.From toddlers pushing the pram back and forth (transportation schema), to building endless enclosures for toys (enclosure schema), to wrapping dolls in blankets (enveloping schema), these aren’t just random acts of play. They’re your child’s way of processing change, rehearsing care, and making sense of their evolving world.By noticing these patterns and offering small, schema-friendly activities, you can help your child:Feel part of caring for the babyUnderstand what’s happening in age-appropriate waysAvoid feeling left out when your attention is dividedStrengthen your bond instead of clashing in moments of overwhelmWhether you’re walking, folding laundry, or catching a rare quiet moment, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to turn this potentially rocky transition into a season of deeper family connection.Because preparing your toddler for a sibling isn’t about perfection, it’s about connection. And with a little play schema insight, you can help your child feel safe, included, and even excited about the changes ahead.Listen now and discover how to make welcoming a new baby smoother for everyone – one play schema at a time.If you enjoy this episode, please share it with another parent, subscribe for more practical and uplifting parenting tips, and come connect with me on Instagram @play_schemas for daily insights and behind-the-scenes of our family life.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Is your home filled with cries of “Muuuum, he took my toy!” or “She wrecked it again!”?If so, you’re definitely not alone and you’re absolutely in the right place.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play Through Play Schemas, we’re diving deep into a topic every parent of more than one young child knows all too well: sibling conflict. But instead of seeing these daily dust-ups as something to avoid or “fix,” we’re reframing them as one of the most powerful learning tools in your child’s development.Here’s what most parenting books don’t tell you:Those toy squabbles, turn-taking tussles, and boundary battles between siblings aren’t signs that you’re failing as a parent... they’re signs of growth in action.And when you understand the hidden force behind many of these clashes... play schemas... everything starts to make a whole lot more sense.In this episode, we’ll unpack:What play schemas are (like trajectory, positioning, transformation)Why sibling conflict often happens when children’s schemas are clashingHow these repeated play urges are actually healthy and developmentally appropriateHow you can recognise the why behind behaviours, not just the whatWhy these everyday moments help build empathy, boundaries, and emotional intelligenceYou’ll also walk away with 7 practical tools you can use today:How to pause and observe without immediately stepping inWhat to say when your kids both want the same toy, without taking sidesHow to narrate neutrally and coach instead of controlWhy naming emotions helps both children feel seen and heardModelling “I” statements for calmer communicationCreating a calm-down space that actually works (and isn’t a punishment)The power of reflecting after conflict for deeper learningWhether your little ones are 1 or 5, this episode is packed with real-life insight and practical strategies to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenting siblings, through a lens of connection, not correction.We know you’re busy, probably listening while folding washing or wrangling nap time, so we’ve made this episode warm, supportive, and straight to the point. You’ll finish feeling empowered, not overwhelmed.You’re not raising “naughty” children. You’re raising learners. Explorers. Humans-in-training. And conflict , especially between siblings, is one of the richest (albeit noisiest!) classrooms they’ll ever have.So next time you hear “Muuum, he hit me!” take a breath, and remember: it’s not just noise. It’s learning in motion. Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an insight, share it with a fellow parent, and come connect with me on Instagram @play_schemas for daily toddler tips and schema stories.Download your FREE cheaSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!If you’re a parent of toddlers or preschoolers, you’ll know that feeling all too well—time seems to slip through your fingers. One moment your baby is crawling, the next they’re racing across the playground with fearless determination. The days feel long, but the years pass quickly, and it can leave us wondering: Am I making the most of this time with my child?In this heartfelt episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, I share a very personal reflection as our family prepares to welcome baby number three. Like so many parents, I’ve been wrestling with the pressure to “make the most of every moment” with my two older children before everything shifts again. And maybe you’ve felt this too—that tug between wanting to soak up every cuddle, giggle, and bedtime story, and the reality of daily life with young kids, messy houses, and endless snack requests.Here’s the truth I keep coming back to: memory-making doesn’t live in the big, staged moments—it happens in the ordinary, everyday ones. The smoothie moustaches, the silly jokes, the bath-time chaos, and even the meltdowns that end in cuddles. That’s where the magic lies.But how do we actually embrace those small moments without adding more pressure to already full days? This is where understanding play schemas becomes such a gift.Play schemas are the repetitive patterns of play you’ll notice in young children—the constant throwing, lining things up, wrapping toys in blankets, or dropping food off the highchair tray. At first glance, they might seem frustrating (and let’s be honest, sometimes they are!). But when you learn what they really mean, they turn from annoying habits into golden opportunities for connection.In this episode, you’ll discover:What play schemas are and why they’re so important in your child’s development.How recognising schemas can help you respond with curiosity instead of frustration.Why everyday play is the perfect foundation for memory-making.Real-life examples (yes, including the time my kids threw dinosaurs in the bath!) that show how simple shifts can turn chaos into connection.Practical ways to join your child’s play—without needing to carve out more hours in your day.By the end of this episode, you’ll feel reassured that you don’t need elaborate plans, perfect homes, or endless free time to make memories with your children. What they’ll remember most is how you noticed them, delighted in them, and connected with them—even in the middle of ordinary days.So, if you’ve been feeling the weight of trying to “make every moment count,” take a breath. You don’t have to stretch time—you just have to fill the time you have with presence, play, and connection.Because today, and every day, is a great day to play.Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!“Why is my toddler always dropping things, spinning, or hiding under the table?”If you’ve ever found yourself asking this (or wondering if it’s normal)... this episode is for you.Hi, I’m Ruth from The Play Schemas Collective, and I help parents make sense of their child’s play, so you can stop second-guessing and start enjoying the magic of toddlerhood (meltdowns and all 😉).In this episode, we’re going back to where it all began: Play Schemas 101.These repeating actions you’re seeing? They’re not random. They’re part of how your child thinks, explores, and learns. They're called play schemas, and understanding them is a game-changer.I’ll walk you through the 10 most common play schemas; what they are, what they look like in everyday life, and how you can support them without adding more to your plate.Here’s a little taster of what we’ll cover:Trajectory Schema – Think throwing, dropping, pushing. Your child’s learning about gravity, motion, and control.Transporting Schema – Carrying toys from room to room? That’s spatial learning and organisation in action.Enveloping Schema – Hiding under blankets or wrapping toys? They’re exploring boundaries and safety.Rotation Schema – Spinning wheels, twirling in circles… great for motor skills and balance.Connecting & Disconnecting – Building and breaking apart teaches cause and effect, problem-solving, and fine motor control.Enclosure & Positioning – Lining up toys, putting things “just so”… they're exploring order, maths concepts, and visual patterns.Orientation & Transformation – Looking at the world upside down? Mixing sand and water? Yep—that’s creativity, sensory exploration, and big-picture thinking at play.Plus, I’ll share simple ways you can support these play urges at home, without buying anything new or spending hours setting up fancy activities.If you’ve ever wondered why your toddler plays the way they do, this episode will help it all click into place.And remember, this knowledge doesn’t just help your child... it helps you feel calmer, more confident, and less like you're flying blind in the chaos of toddlerhood.Grab your FREE Play Schemas Cheat Sheet at www.playschemas.com/free and start recognising the patterns in your child’s play today.I’d love to hear how play is showing up at your place, send me your stories, questions or those “what is happening?!” moments.📲 DM me on Instagram @play_schemas 📧 Email me at [email protected] 🌐 Explore more at www.playschemas.comSubscribe to the show for more toddler behaviour insights aSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Ever wondered why your toddler throws their food, launches toys off the couch, or can’t stop running back and forth? It’s not just chaos - it’s science in action.In this episode, I’m giving you exclusive access to one of the most-loved modules from The Play Schemas Collective - all about trajectory play. You’ll learn to spot the everyday signs that your child is exploring this powerful play schema, and most importantly, what it’s telling you about their development.We’ll unpack:Why your child keeps throwing, dropping, and launching objects (and it’s not to wind you up!)How fascination with movement is actually deep learning in disguiseWhat’s really going on when your child knocks over towers, flings socks, or can’t stop spinningHow to tell the difference between "bad behaviour" and a developmental drive that needs supportPractical ways to channel this energy into safe, satisfying play—without constant battlesWhether you’re folding laundry, pacing the pram, or finally sitting with a cuppa, this episode offers insight that’ll change how you see your child’s play... less mess, more meaning.Want the free printable handout that goes with this episode? Grab it at playschemas.com/freeHit subscribe to follow along with more schema-deep dives and share this episode with a friend who’s tired of picking up thrown spaghetti!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Feeling overwhelmed by the idea of getting your kids out the door for a walk or a play at the park? You’re not alone. But what if those muddy puddles, long car rides, and slow wanders were actually building blocks for your child’s development?In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, I am joined by Adiva, founder of @LittleTrailsNZ and mum of four, to talk about the power of outdoor play — and how it supports strong family bonds.Whether your child loves throwing sticks, lining up shells, or digging in the dirt, they’re engaging in deep, meaningful learning. And the best part? You don’t need fancy gear or perfect weather to make it happen.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:Why the journey (yes, even the car ride!) matters as much as the destinationHow following your child’s lead supports confidence and curiositySimple ways to prepare for mess, mud, and magicHow to start small and build up to bigger adventuresThe underestimated power of snacks and toilets (trust us!)This one’s for the parents who want to get outside more but aren’t sure where to start — or how to make it work with toddlers in tow. It’s real, relatable, and packed with practical tips.Listen now and get inspired to create small moments of wonder with your tamariki — no matter the season. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a comment letting us know your favourite outdoor activity!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Is your pelvic floor holding you back from truly enjoying play with your kids?You’re not alone — and this episode is here to help.Whether it’s needing to cross your legs when you sneeze, quietly avoiding playing chase the backyard... not to even mention the fear of hearing 'Mum's turn' when it comes to the trampoline. Pelvic floor issues are incredibly common for mums after pregnancy and birth. But just because it’s common… doesn’t mean it has to be your new normal.In this empowering episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, I sit down with Caren from Empowered Mums Fitness , a mum-safe certified trainer and expert in pelvic floor health, to talk about what no one tells you about your pelvic floor until it’s already affecting your daily life.And yes — we’re talking wee, farts, tampons, and blueberries. You’ll never forget how to engage your pelvic floor after hearing this!What We’re Chatting About:This episode goes beyond the basics of pelvic health and dives into how a strong, responsive pelvic floor can help you get back to doing what you love most — playing, laughing, running, dancing, and living fully with your kids.We cover:What actually is the pelvic floor? (And why it matters more than we realised)How pregnancy and birth affect your body, even if you had a C-sectionWhy so many mums think leaking is “just the way it is” (spoiler: it doesn’t have to be!)Easy tips to fit pelvic floor care into your busy life (hello, connection breath!)The “fart, tampon, wee” trick for full pelvic floor activation (yes, it’s as memorable as it sounds)That it’s never too late to start, whether your child is 1 or 31We know parenting little ones means you’re often folding laundry with one hand and wrangling a toddler with the other. That’s why this episode is packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and expert tips, all delivered in a down-to-earth, supportive tone that feels like chatting with a good mate over a cuppa.You deserve to play, run, dance, and laugh with your children — without fear of leaking, pain, or shame.Because today is a great day to play — and you shouldn’t have to plan it around the toilet. Want to connect with Caren?www.empowermefitness.co.nzFB: @empowermefcInsta: Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Ever feel like you should be playing with your child… but you just can’t bring yourself to do it?Maybe you’re exhausted. Maybe you feel silly or awkward. Maybe you’re not even sure how to play anymore.If this sounds familiar, you are so not alone. In fact, many loving, involved parents feel exactly the same. And in this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why play can feel so hard and what can actually help.Whether you’re a stay-at-home parent, juggling part-time work, or doing it all, you’ll walk away from this episode feeling less guilty, more confident, and much better equipped to enjoy play (even just a little) with your child.Here’s what we’ll unpack in this episode:10 very real reasons why play feels hard for parents: from lack of time and low energy, to different play styles, technology distractions, and emotional burnoutHow your own childhood experiences (or lack of playful ones) might be influencing the way you show up for your child nowThe power of understanding play schemas, those fascinating patterns of repetitive play (like spinning, throwing, lining up, and wrapping things up) that tell you what’s going on in your child’s brainSimple, guilt-free strategies that help you connect through play... without needing to be silly, imaginative, or high-energyHow play supports emotional intelligence, brain development, confidence, and deep parent-child bonds—even when it doesn’t look “educational”Listen in and let this episode remind you:You don’t have to do more or be more to be a good parent. Sometimes, all it takes is understanding why things feel hard—and seeing your child’s play through a new lens.Want more support and ideas?Visit www.playschemas.com for free resources, schema-aligned play ideas, and real-life parenting tips Follow on Instagram: @play_schemas Subscribe to the newsletter for weekly encouragement and fresh inspirationIf you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to follow the podcast, share it with a friend, or leave a review—it helps more parents discover the power of play without pressure.Because when we understand what play really is—we can stop feeling guilty and start feeling connected... and remember... today is a GREAT day to play!Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Worried your toddler isn’t “school ready”?Feel like you should be doing flashcards, worksheets, or alphabet drills — but it just doesn’t sit right?This episode is your deep breath and warm reassurance. We’re busting the myth that early literacy needs to look like formal learning and showing you how play, movement, and everyday conversations are actually doing the heavy lifting.Join host Ruth Vercoe and special guest Alex, from First Five Years — a mum of twins, ECE expert, parenting coach, and holistic sleep consultant — as we unpack what early literacy really looks like for children aged 1 to 5.Spoiler alert: It’s not about teaching your toddler to read before school. It’s about understanding the powerful role that play, language, movement and connection have in laying the foundation for confident, capable readers later on.🎙️ In this practical and uplifting episode, we dive into:Why early literacy is more than just reading & writing and why it develops slowly, layer by layerHow repetitive play (hello, play schemas!) supports deep learning and language developmentThe overlooked link between crawling, monkey bars, and learning to hold a pencilWhy you don’t need to spend money on fancy resources — your everyday routines are full of literacy goldWhat serve and return conversations are, and why they might be the most important thing you do todayHow singing silly songs, drawing squiggles, and reading the pictures (not just the words) all build literacySimple ways to use art, storytelling, and play to help your child become a confident communicatorThe number one tip we both swear by (and no, it’s not more screen time or early readers!)Here’s what you’ll walk away with: ✔️ Clear guidance on what literacy really looks like in the early years ✔️ Confidence in using everyday moments to support your child’s learning ✔️ Encouragement to slow down and embrace the power of play ✔️ A deeper understanding of how movement, art, and sound lay the groundwork for school successYour child is learning every day — not because you’re “teaching” them, but because you’re with them.Ready to reframe literacy and feel more empowered in your parenting? Tune in now and discover how to turn everyday moments into meaningful opportunities for learning and connection.Connect with Alex Instagram: @first.five.years and firstfiveyears.co.nzSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Connecting with Your Child Through Play — Why It Matters More Than You ThinkIs your toddler constantly throwing toys, lining them up, or wrapping things in blankets and you’re not quite sure why? What if these repetitive behaviours are actually your child’s way of connecting with you?In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we dive deep into a powerful parenting truth: connection doesn’t just happen through doing dishes and conversations — it happens through play. As parents of young children, we all want to feel close to our kids. We want to support their development, encourage independence, and nurture emotional intelligence, but sometimes, that connection can feel out of reach, especially when your child seems more interested in throwing blocks than talking to you.That’s where understanding play schemas changes everything.🎯 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why play is not a distraction from connection — it is connection.What play schemas are and how they show up in your child’s everyday behaviour.How these natural play urges support cognitive, emotional, and social development.Why recognising your child’s schema can stop you from misreading their behaviour as “naughty” or “out of control”.Simple, effective ways to join your child’s play — even if you’re not a “playful” parent.How schema-informed play builds trust, reduces power struggles, and helps your child thrive.We know life with toddlers can be messy, loud, and full of surprises. It’s easy to feel like you’re just surviving the day, especially when your child insists on playing the same game over and over again. But what if that repetition is actually a window into their world?It’s not about doing more. It’s about noticing more and meeting your child where they are.Whether you’re new to the idea of play schemas or have heard the term before but aren’t quite sure how it applies, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to support your child in a deeper, more connected way.Explore the blog: playschemas.com/blog Follow along on Instagram: @play_schemas Join our newsletter for schema insights & freebies: playschemas.comSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Apply to Join the BETA Test Group – Spaces Are Limited!Applications close 26 June 2025. Only 5 spots available.For more information and to apply now, head to https://playschemas.com/betaOr flick me a DM on Instagram: @Play_SchemasGet FREE access during the BETA roundEnjoy a FREE first month once we officially launchBook a personalised 1:1 coaching session with a play schema specialist (that’s me!)Receive early access to schema-aligned video and printable resourcesJoin our exclusive affiliate programm.And just for applying — get a FREE schema-aligned printable you can use right away!Applications close 26 June 2025. Only 5 spots available.For more information and to apply now, head to  https://playschemas.com/beta Or flick me a DM on Instagram: @Play_SchemasSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Do you ever catch yourself saying, “Be careful!” — even when you’re trying to let your child take healthy risks? You’re not alone, and you’re not doing it wrong.In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we unpack one of the biggest tensions many parents face: wanting to support our children confidence and independence, while still keeping them safe.If you’ve ever felt unsure about how much risk is “too much” when your toddler is climbing high, jumping off furniture, or running full speed down a hill, this episode is for you.We’re diving into the world of risky play — what it is, why it’s developmentally important, and how it links to the play schemas that drive your child’s behaviour. You’ll hear honest reflections from a fellow mum (that’s me!) who still says “be careful” sometimes — and why I’m okay with that.In This Episode, We’ll Explore:What risky play actually means — and why it’s vital for building resilience, body awareness, and confidenceThe difference between dangerous play and developmentally appropriate riskWhy the play schemas behind risky play matter (think trajectory, rotation, orientation…)How to respond with calm, connection, and trust instead of fear or controlSimple scripts you can use to coach your child through risk, like: “Do your hands feel steady?” or “What’s your plan?”Whether your child is 1 or 5, understanding their drive for risky play through the lens of schemas can transform your parenting — helping you say “yes” more often, and feel good about it.You’ll also learn:The 10 most common play schemas and how they show up in risky playWhy letting your child test their limits doesn’t make you reckless — it makes you responsiveHow saying “be careful” with intention can still build connection and emotional literacyWays to support schema-led exploration safely at home, on the playground, and in natureBecause parenting is full of moments where we just want to keep them safe — but when we understand what’s driving their behaviour, we can support growth and confidence without shutting down their curiosity.So pop this episode on while you’re making a cuppa, folding the washing, or out for a walk with the pram — and let’s make sense of the messy, marvellous world of toddler play together.Press play and feel more confident supporting your child's exploration — even when it feels a little bit scary.Listen now and don’t forget to: Subscribe to the podcast Leave a comment or review — it means the world Share this episode with another parent who’s navigating risk & playFor more schema-aligned tips and free printables, visit: https://playschemas.com Follow us on Instagram: @Play_SchemasAnd remembeSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Ever feel like you’re the only one dropping the ball as a parent? Spoiler alert: you’re not, you're not alone in feeling this... and this episode might just be the breath of fresh air you didn’t know you needed. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, we’re joined by Sophie Moskowitz from Imperfect Parents, who brings a powerful message every parent deserves to hear: you don’t have to be perfect to be enough. Together, we unpack the unspoken pressures of parenting in a world that often tells us we should “do it all” – and do it flawlessly.If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re doing a “good enough” job, wrestled with guilt, or felt isolated in your struggles, this honest, hopeful conversation will remind you that you’re not alone. Sophie shares how her own parenting journey – filled with both heart and hardship – led her to create a community that celebrates the real, raw, and often messy experiences of raising kids.In this episode, we cover:The myth of the “perfect parent” and why it’s time to let it goHow unrealistic societal expectations are making parenting harder – especially for mumsThe emotional toll of comparison culture (and what to do instead)Practical mindset shifts to move from guilt to connectionThe magic of play – and how understanding your child’s play schemas can help you reconnect, even on tough daysWhy naming your struggles is the first step to finding freedom in themYou’ll come away with:Reassurance that you’re not failing – you’re simply humanTools to reframe your parenting expectations in a way that actually feels goodReal-life stories that make you nod, laugh, and maybe cry a littleEncouragement to embrace the imperfect, ordinary moments that truly matterA reminder that being “good enough” is not settling – it’s powerfulSophie’s down-to-earth, no-judgement approach will speak straight to your heart – whether you’re parenting a toddler through tantrums, juggling multiple roles, or simply wondering if everyone else is doing it better than you.This episode is a love letter to you, the parent showing up every day and doing your best – even when it doesn’t feel like enough.Tune in now and give yourself the same compassion you so easily offer your kids.Don’t forget to subscribe, share, or leave a review if this episode resonates – it helps us reach more amazing parents just like you.More for you: Read the blog for more parenting insights: playschemas.com/026 Join the email list for weekly play-based parenting tips: playschemas.com Connect with us on Instagram:Send us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!The Two Words That Will Transform Your Parenting — “When” and “Then”Are you tired of endless toddler negotiations, meltdowns during transitions, or repeating yourself a hundred times a day? You’re not alone — and there is a gentle, effective way forward. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe introduces two simple, yet powerful words that can make all the difference: “when” and “then.”Whether you're trying to get your child out the door, clean up after play, or move from one activity to the next — these words offer a calm, respectful way to guide your child through their day without constant power struggles.What’s this episode all about?This isn’t just another parenting hack — it’s a mindset shift grounded in how young children actually understand the world. When used consistently, “when” and “then” give toddlers and preschoolers a sense of structure, predictability, and emotional safety.You’ll hear real-life examples from Ruth’s own parenting journey, as well as practical phrases you can start using today. And here’s where it gets even more powerful: this episode also explores how “when-then” language aligns beautifully with your child’s play schemas — those fascinating, repetitive behaviours that form the foundation of how they learn and grow.You’ll walk away with:A clear understanding of what “when-then” language is and how to use itReal examples for everyday scenarios — from snack time to messy playInsight into how play schemas shape your child’s behaviourTips to identify and support your child’s dominant play schemaConfidence to redirect behaviour gently without saying “no” all the timeA calmer, more cooperative home where play and parenting flow togetherWhy it works“When” and “then” create cause and effect that young children can understand. Instead of vague instructions like “soon” or “later” (which mean nothing to a toddler), you’re offering a safe and predictable roadmap for what’s happening next.And when you match this simple structure with your child’s natural learning patterns — like the trajectory schema (throwing), transportation schema (carrying), or rotation schema (spinning) — you’re not just managing behaviour. You’re nurturing your child’s development in a deeply respectful way.Ruth explains how to spot these patterns and work with them instead of against them. You’ll be amazed how a tiny shift in language can create massive changes in your everyday routines.This episode is perfect for you if:You’ve got children aged 1–5 yearsYou’re curious about play-based learning and positive parentingYou want to feel more confident and less frustratedYou’re after realistic, gentle parenting tools that actually workSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

Join us for the 2026 Family Preset from the 12-16th January. Jump on the waitlist here!Part 2 of 2In this episode, we’re flipping the script on self-care. Instead of waiting for naptime or feeling guilty for needing a break, we’re inviting you to see the magic already happening in your everyday parenting life — through play schemas.Parenting young children can be exhausting, joyful, overwhelming, and deeply meaningful — often all in the same hour. Between messy floors, toddler meltdowns, and managing your own mental load, it’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re running on empty. But here’s the good news: you don’t need to overhaul your routine or carve out hours of alone time to nurture yourself. You just need to notice what’s already happening.In this warm and relatable conversation, host Ruth Vercoe is joined by guest Hannah (a fellow mum and lover of play and self care). Join us as we explore how play schemas — those quirky, repeated play behaviours like throwing toys, hiding under blankets, or lining up blocks — can be used as a practical, joyful framework to support both your child’s development and your emotional wellbeing.Together, we share real-life examples, lightbulb moments, and surprisingly simple ideas that can transform the way you see playtime — not just as a way for your child to learn, but as a tool for you to reset, recharge and reconnect.You’ll hear:What play schemas actually are — and why your child keeps doing that one thing over and over againHow common schemas like trajectory, transportation, enveloping, and connection support your child’s early learningHow to pair each play schema with gentle, achievable self-care moments for yourself (yes, even when you're touched out and running on coffee!)Why “playing alongside” your child is a powerful act of connection, and how it models emotional regulation and resilienceEncouragement to let go of guilt and embrace the beautifully imperfect rhythm of parentingWhether you’re stomping on crunchy leaves, spinning in circles in the kitchen, or wrapping up toys in a blanket fort — these everyday moments can be a form of self-care.This episode is perfect for you if:You’re parenting toddlers or preschoolers and want to understand their behaviour more deeplyYou’re craving ways to care for yourself without needing hours alone or a spa dayYou want to feel more present, connected, and emotionally balanced as a parentYou’re curious about how child development and parent wellbeing can go hand in handRuth and Hannah speak with the understanding of mums who’ve been there — no judgement, just gentle guidance and grounded tips that actually work in the chaos of real life.✨ Loved this episode? Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a dose of play-based insight. 💬 Leave a comment or share with a friend who needs a parenting pep-talk today. 📲 Follow us on InsSend us Fan MailSupport the showIf this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review! I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message.Facebook and Instagram @[email protected] if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!