In Alignment with T

It ends with us is a story about love, loss, friendship, parenting choices and what it looks like to navigate the trappings of an ab*sive relationship. I will be looking at all the decisions Lilly makes throughout her relationship with Ryle up until the moment it finally dawns on her to make the critical decision to leave him for good. This is a case study on the life and experience of the "people pleaser/push over", why you do what you do, why it's not your fault but your responsibility if you want things to change and what you can do to put an end to the cycle. I hope you find it insightful.

Intro: 00:01:37 Defining Pretty Privilege: 00:03:11 How People Respond to Beauty (Stories): 00:05:12 Love Is Blind - Pretty Privilege In Pop Culture: 00:39:12 Storytime - Bullying, Competing for Boys, Hostile Colleagues, Weird "Friends" & Insecure Love Interests: 00:46:42 Malena: 00:59:09 The Need for Kindness: 01:01:11 Men Being "Looks" Focused: 01:07:11 Thanks for watching!

Episode 8 is a bit of a shorter episode. I wanted to expand on a few pointers from Episode 7 (the polygamy episode), mainly; The difference between loving someone for who they are, while prioritizing their wellbeing and loving them for their functions and what they do for you. I hope I was very clear in what I was trying to communicate. I would really appreciate your feedback. Thanks for stopping by.

On this episode Thurayya brings you the long awaited episode on polygamy. These are the chapters and timestamps: Intro: 00:00:57:26 Acknowledgements: 00:06:24:01 The Origins of Marriage: 00:07:20:07 Is there room for polygamy in modern marriages? 00:10:10:15 Modern polygamy is dare I say… Selfish: 00:12:04:02 The role of lust & the juvenile act of competing with friends - with stories: 00:17:56:17 The mental and emotional implications of polygamy - with stories: 00:33:30:18 The role of arrogance in the choice to just get another one: 00:44:21:16 When he has attempted to leave and finds himself stuck: 00:53:48:04 The Other Woman… Is She Really The Villain?: 00:56:14:27 What does Islam say about polygamy? How did the Prophet (SAW) practice it? 01:01:02:20 Sources: The Voices of Muslim Women In Polygamous Marriages - https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=GibY9jlYSwI Do Men have authority over Women according to the Quran? - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLNRGsLThk0 ASSIM Al-HAKEEM DOES NOT MESS AROUND! (Timestamp: 00:35:30) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4vDmaH_ZSg A Woman's Stipulation Against Polygamy - https://youtu.be/B5qub02VTLg?si=nXclugIDjCYBF0YB The Consequences of Not Being Fair - https://youtu.be/CEpQJTbjymk?si=XN42KmH-wbQoPSS5 Can She Threaten Her Husband With Divorce If He Takes a Second Wife? - https://youtu.be/8nGRaqslmZg?si=giHPEf2oln6R5o7f Articles: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/374789853_Pornography_Use_and_Sexual_Objectification_of_Others https://www.researchgate.net/publication/371510657_Pornography_Use_and_Violence_A_Systematic_Review_of_the_last_20_years https://www.researchgate.net/publication/314277073_Structured_Abstract_Instagram_Influencers_and_the_Illusion_of_a_Perfect_Body-An_Analysis_Based_on_Bourdieu's_Theoretical_Contribution https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-022-09943-z https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6751001/#:~:text=Indeed%2C%20in%20a%20study%20of,%2C%20%26%20Fisher%2C%202015). https://www.pbs.org/muhammad/ma_women.shtml#:~:text=At%20the%20time%20of,alive%20during%20times%20of%20scarcity. https://islamqa.info/en/answers/47072/wives-of-prophet-muhammad https://www.dar-alifta.org/en/article/details/17/closer-look-at-prophet-muhammad%E2%80%99s-marriages https://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask-the-counselor/polygamy/i-dont-want-to-live-in-polygyny-is-it-a-sin/ https://islamqa.info/en/answers/143120/if-she-stipulated-that-he-should-not-take-another-wife-does-he-have-to-adhere-to-that https://www.quora.com/How-does-Polygamy-even-work-in-Islam-The-whole-intimacy-part-of-it-Women-are-very-jealous-and-sensitive-How-does-a-Muslim-man-copulate-with-another-woman-in-the-presence-of-his-other-woman-and-expect-her-to-just-be https://islamqa.info/en/answers/143120/if-she-stipulated-that-he-should-not-take-another-wife-does-he-have-to-adhere-to-that https://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask-the-counselor/polygamy/i-dont-want-to-live-in-polygyny-is-it-a-sin/ https://youtu.be/vJq_JpzHAp0?si=d0AW6lZuBkZm7kn4

In this episode, Thurayya delves into the complex process of moving on from a relationship that isn't working, despite putting in significant effort. The episode begins by acknowledging the emotional toll of investing time and energy into a relationship, only to realize that it's not sustainable. Thurayya explores the importance of self-reflection and acceptance in the process of moving on. Recognizing when a relationship isn't serving your needs is an act of self-compassion rather than failure. This episode looks at: Honoring Your Feelings: It's essential to allow yourself to feel the full spectrum of emotions that come with letting go of something that once mattered to you. So let the sadness, anger or even the unexpected relief flow without judgement. Trying: Did you try to communicate your needs? Did you try to understand them? Did you try to be patient in hopes they would do the work necessary on their end to make it work? If you've done your best to no avail, it might be time to let be and let God, before you lose yourself. What It Means To Be Treated Well: A cultural reference to the "soft life". If you are miserable or in danger, but stay because you feel like you should be grateful you are provided for. I need you to know that the only true measure that makes any relationship worthwhile is kindness. Your experience of the person should be softer than the things. Self-Esteem: How high or low your self-esteem is can determine what you tolerate in your relationships. This episode encourages you to work on your self-esteem so the line between "loyalty" and being a doormat is not blurred for you. People Only Change for Themselves: No one will change FOR YOU because... You're simply not that important. If you look at your personal history, the only times you have made impactful, consistent change in your life was when you took that step by YOURSELF for, YOURSELF. Reflect on this. Don't be a tyrant. Divine Intervention: Hear me out! What if God is redirecting you towards what is better suited for you? What if the constant roadblocks are a sign to choose a different path. Things that are meant for you are never that difficult. Use this transition period to reconnect with yourself, rediscover your passions, and set new goals for the future. By prioritizing self-care, seeking support, and embracing the journey of self-discovery, listeners can navigate this transition with grace and resilience.

In this enlightening episode of In Alignment with T, listeners are invited to explore the transformative journey of self-acceptance and the liberation found in releasing the need for external validation. Through introspective reflections, Thurayya delves into the profound significance of embracing one's true essence and rejecting the shackles of societal approval, while also sharing her own experiences of navigating the labyrinth of self-doubt and the liberty of embracing her authentic self. Listeners are guided through the process of dismantling the barriers of self-criticism and comparison, discovering the inherent worth and beauty that resides within each individual. Vulnerability, resilience, and the power of self-love resonate deeply in the practical tips and heartfelt encouragement to listeners embarking on their own journey of self-acceptance. Tune in to In Alignment with T and embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and the profound liberation found in accepting yourself exactly as you are. Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3bCPyF81VpZidV3jvrquOO?si=gBSe0vqXTLWiSc9sub_8xw Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ng/podcast/in-alignment-with-t/id1727770112 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@InAlignmentwithT Instagram: instagram.com/in_alignment_with_t_podcast Facebook: web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556331555531 X (Twitter): twitter.com/AlignmentWith_T Tiktok: tiktok.com/@inalignmentwith_t

In this deeply heartfelt episode, we delve into the profound and often tumultuous journey of grieving the loss of a parent. This poignant conversation hopes to offer solace to those grappling with the overwhelming emotions that accompany such a significant loss. Drawing upon personal experiences, Josh, Hadiyat and myself explore the myriad of ways in which the loss of a parent can reverberate through one's life. From the initial shock and disbelief to the complex emotions of anger, guilt, and sadness, we provide a compassionate space for listeners to confront and validate the truth of their own experiences, that even to themselves, they may have never voiced out loud. Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ng/podcast/in-alignment-with-t/id1727770112 Facebook: web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556331555531 Instagram: instagram.com/in_alignment_with_t_podcast twitter.com/AlignmentWith_T Tiktok: tiktok.com/@inalignmentwith_t

In this episode of In Alignment with T, you are invited to embark on a profound journey through the highs and lows of one man's quest for fulfillment and the discovery of the love of his life. My friend Tarik, a man whose life is a tapestry woven with threads of ambition, resilience, and longing, gives us an insight on his unwavering determination to attain professional success, the depths of his personal introspection and FINALLY meeting the one true love of his life. Tarik shares candidly about his triumphs and tribulations on his path to fulfillment. Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@InAlignmentwithT Instagram: instagram.com/in_alignment_with_t_podcast Facebook: web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556331555531 X (Twitter): twitter.com/AlignmentWith_T Tiktok: tiktok.com/@inalignmentwith_t

In this captivating episode of In Alignment with T, we explore the profound journey of finding love against a backdrop of adversity and uncertainty. Through a candid conversation speckled with heartfelt anecdotes, listeners are invited to reflect on their own experiences of love and resilience. Tune in and embark on a journey of hope, courage, and the enduring quest for love against all odds. YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXnqzOEybpKv5E3aW47-9sw⁠ Twitter: ⁠twitter.com/AlignmentWith_T⁠ TikTok: ⁠tiktok.com/@inalignmentwith_t⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556331555531⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/in_alignment_with_t_podcast/?fbclid=IwAR03PeHE5SHEk9QrYIiL_T4MQNpFUIuKtnRJqzqM5QCrEQafyrbILjQVivc⁠

In this captivating episode of In Alignment with T, we explore the profound journey of finding love against a backdrop of adversity and uncertainty. Through a candid conversation speckled with heartfelt anecdotes, listeners are invited to reflect on their own experiences of love and resilience. Tune in and embark on a journey of hope, courage, and the enduring quest for love against all odds. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXnqzOEybpKv5E3aW47-9sw Twitter: twitter.com/AlignmentWith_T TikTok: tiktok.com/@inalignmentwith_t Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556331555531 https://www.instagram.com/in_alignment_with_t_podcast/?fbclid=IwAR03PeHE5SHEk9QrYIiL_T4MQNpFUIuKtnRJqzqM5QCrEQafyrbILjQVivc

Staying true to yourself takes a lot of courage. Join me on this episode in a discussion about the detrimental long term effects of avoidance; of our emotions, the truth and our reality. This might be the little nudge you need.