In Bed with Koaty & Sumner

What if queer travel could be more than parties and pool floats?In this week’s In Bed with Koaty & Sumner, we’re literally in bed with Randle Roper, CEO and co-founder of VACAYA — the world’s first large-scale LGBTQ+ vacation company built on radical inclusivity. 🌈From all-gay cruises to resort takeovers in Puerto Vallarta, Randle shares how VACAYA is creating safe, affirming, and wildly fun spaces for every letter of our community — gay, lesbian, bi, trans, non-binary, plus-size, kink-curious, you name it.We talk:• Why queer travel is about connection, not just celebration 🏳️‍🌈• How VACAYA trains its legendary “V-Team” to balance luxury + community 💫• Randle’s leap from Atlantis to launching his own inclusive empire 🚢• The stereotypes about gay cruises — and what actually happens 👀• The future of LGBTQ+ travel in 2025 and beyond 🌍Plus: rapid-fire chaos, confessions from the Blayne It On Us inbox, and our question of the week — Do you have to be open to have fun on a gay vacation?✨ Listen for laughs, insight, and maybe your next trip idea.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

What happens when your ex keeps sending you money, your boyfriend disappears into afterparties, or your “open” relationship starts feeling more like an Olympic event in emotional regulation? This week, we’re diving into five confessions that live at the messy, magnetic intersection of ego, intimacy, and queer identity.In this episode of Blayne It On Us, Sumner and Koaty unpack stories that hit a little too close to home — from the “Jealous Saint” who calls his anxiety enlightenment, to the guy who’s still texting his ex’s mom, to the Pride-goer who loves the community but hates the crowds. It’s a lineup of stories that remind us how queer relationships are rarely neat, often hilarious, and always human.💸 A partner splitting everything 50/50 but ignoring the income gap.❤️‍🔥 A boyfriend who swears “it’s just dancing and vibes.”💭 A listener trying to come out not just to the world — but to himself.Sumner brings the heart and psychology, Koaty brings the bite and brutal honesty. Together, they say what everyone’s thinking but no one admits: we’re all just trying to find balance between being enlightened, horny, and slightly emotionally unhinged.💌 Got something to confess?Tell us your story anonymously at https://tally.so/r/mZro1o — no judgment, no names, just vibes.Whether you’re the saint, the sinner, or somewhere between, this episode’s for you.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

This week on we have a full episode of Blayne It On Us, where we read your confessions on are and give our take on it. We had lots of submissions this time, and we picked 4.  We’re diving deep into the messy, magnetic, and totally relatable world of jealousy and open love. From silent resentment to throuple drama, we are breaking down listener confessions that prove one thing — even the most healthy relationships have their limits.💚 Stories this episode:“The Jealous Boyfriend Who Says He Isn’t” — when support turns into quiet control.🔥 “Our Third Made Me Feel Second” — how an open door became a revolving one.🧃 “He Wants a Third… But Only If I Pick” — when “being chill” means avoiding accountability.⚖️ “Jealousy Made Me Realize I’m Not As Open As I Thought” — when your fantasy of openness meets your reality of attachment.🎧 Tune in for the laughs, stay for the therapy you didn’t book.💌 Submit Your Confession or Question:Have your own wild, unfiltered, or “oh no, we did that too” story? Submit it anonymously for future episodes of Blayne It On Us!👉 https://tally.so/r/mZro1oor visit KoatyandSumner.com/BlayneItOnUs to share your story.You can submit about:Relationship dramaJealousyThreesomes gone wrong (or right)Open relationship rulesSex, friendship, kink, or “did that really happen?” momentsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

What does it mean to come out, build a community, and launch a porn career at 21 in 2025? In this episode, we sit down with James Ash, one of the newest young voices in queer adult entertainment, to talk about growing up in London, moving to Australia, and what Gen Z is doing differently in porn.We compare our own coming out journeys to his, swap stories about queer culture shocks, and dive into how being digital-native shapes fan relationships, kink exploration, and brand building. And because it wouldn’t be our show without some chaos, we wrap things up with rapid-fire questions and future fantasies that only James Ash could answer.💡 Expect laughs, vulnerability, and a generational mash-up of queer perspectives you won’t want to miss.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this raw and hopeful episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne dive into the reality of friendships shifting in your 30s. From recognizing when friends no longer fit the life you’re building, to spotting signs it’s time to move on, they explore grief, growth, and gaining clarity. With a mix of humor and honesty, they share personal stories, couple banter, and practical advice for letting go gracefully — and making room for relationships that celebrate who you are now. Perfect for anyone navigating friendship breakups, personal growth, or redefining connection in adulthood.We also do Blayne It On Us segment, where we answer your anonymous confessions live. Submit yours here for a chance to have us discuss it in the next episode here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1oBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

It’s football season, and in this episode of In Bed with Koaty & Sumner we talk about what the game means for our relationship. 🏈Koaty grew up surrounded by football—at home, at Penn State, and while living in Philadelphia—while Sumner wasn’t really exposed to it much at all. Over time, he’s become a fan through Koaty’s love for the sport. We share how trying the things your partner loves can actually bring you closer together.We also dive into our annual tradition of celebrating the Super Bowl at The Big Gay Super Bowl Party in LA, and play a hilarious game where Koaty quizzes Sumner on real vs. fake football terms.Finally, we close with our newest segment, Blayne It On Us!, where listeners send us anonymous confessions for advice.This week:    •    A guy discovers his dad is secretly gay.    •    A husband is using Grindr without his partner knowing.Grab a drink, crawl into bed with us, and let’s talk love, football, and confessions. 💋👉 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more weekly episodes!📲Follow us everywhere: https://direct.me/koatysumSubmit your confessions here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1oBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

Koaty and Sumner Blayne are taking In Bed With Koaty and Sumner overseas—podcasting from a bed in Japan while Koaty’s on a work trip. After a quick life update, we debut our brand-new segment, Blayne It On Us, where listeners send anonymous confessions and questions about relationships, sex, friendship, money, and other gay topics. We respond with unfiltered humor, raw honesty, and our trademark mix of comedy and vulnerability. The unqualified advice you asked for!Submit your anonymous question for a future episode here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1oBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

This week, we’re diving deep—literally and emotionally. Koaty and Sumner open up about how adult toys transformed our sex life and brought us closer as a couple. From our first unrealistic dildo to designing our very own double penetration mold with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, this episode is all about pleasure, trust, and play. We’re talking:Why toys aren’t a last resort—they’re the gateway to emotional safetyHow we use them to explore power dynamics and deepen communicationWhat it was really like getting our dicks molded in buckets of siliconeOur honest reviews of toys we’ve tried (yes, even the punching dildo machine)Plus: tips for couples navigating their first toy experienceWe also share why we partnered with Mr. Hankey’s Toys—a brand that gets it. They don’t just make fantasy toys, they make real tools for connection. Our custom DP dildo is now live on their site, and it’s built with platinum-cured, medical-grade silicone—aka, the good stuff. Whether you're curious, kinky, or just ready to laugh at us oversharing (again), this episode has something for every couple looking to keep things hot, honest, and hella fun.👉 Check out our collab toy at https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/Search the KoatySum Dildo(P.S. Use water-based lube. Your toys will thank you.)Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this special “first-in-bed” episode, Koaty & Sumner welcome their first actual in-bed guest: psychiatrist, entrepreneur, and emotional edge-walker Dr. Hector.Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers with insight, humor, and zero shame.⚡ Topics we cover:• Why high-functioning doesn’t mean emotionally fulfilled• Shame, identity, and sex: the invisible triangle• Rebuilding trust with yourself (before anyone else)• What gay men really want from connection—and how to get thereThis isn’t therapy, but it might feel like it.🦋 Guest: Dr. HectorPsychiatrist. Creative. Sacred outcast. Founder of The White [email protected] | doctorhector.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

This week, we’re in bed with the one and only Dr. Chris Donaghue—sex therapist, author, and queer truth-teller behind the book Rebel Love. We dive deep into the messy beauty of queer intimacy, ethical sex, and rewriting every outdated rule we’ve been told about love and relationships.From emotional differentiation to kinky exploration, Dr. Chris helps us unpack how shame-free pleasure and radical honesty can actually heal our relationships. We also get personal about sex work, queer partnership, and what it means to reclaim love outside the heteronormative script. Oh—and we may have gotten a little too honest. But hey, that’s the point, right?💬 Let us know what part cracked you open the most.📚 Grab Rebel Love here: https://www.amazon.com/Rebel-Love-Break-Free-Relationships/dp/0593443025Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

We’re joined by therapist and author Tom Bruett, whose book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men has genuinely impacted our relationship. In this honest and vulnerable conversation, we dive deep into the two stages that rocked us the most: Differentiation and Exploration.We talk about what it really means to stay emotionally connected while becoming your own person, how to ask for what you want in bed (without shame), and why open relationships often bring up the deepest communication work. Tom shares what it was like writing his most personal chapter, and we open up about how the book has helped us become better partners.💬 Learning to set boundaries without shutting down🧠 The power of sex-positive, vulnerable conversations❤️ Why differentiation can feel scary—but lead to deeper loveAnd of course, we close it out with a classic Koaty and Sumner game: Red Flag or Growth Lag? We throw out spicy relationship scenarios, and Tom tells us whether it’s a dealbreaker—or just a couple stuck in one of the book’s core stages.This episode is heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply helpful for anyone in a queer relationship (or hoping to be in one).Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this vulnerable and validating episode, Koaty shares the emotional journey behind cutting off his father—and the years of narcissistic behavior, gaslighting, and betrayal that led up to it. We explore how hard it can be to draw boundaries with a parent, especially when manipulation is masked as love. From financial deception to emotional abuse, we break down the signs of a narcissistic parent, why it’s okay to walk away, and how chosen family can sometimes be the safest family. And of course, it wouldn’t be us without a little fun—Sumner closes the episode with a spicy quiz to find out once and for all: does Koaty have daddy issues? This episode is part healing, part chaos, and 100% real.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

From church pews to OnlyFans views. In this episode, Sumner opens up about growing up Mormon—from blessing sacrament trays as a teenager to being interrogated by bishops about masturbation (yep, really). Koaty plays Mormon Mythbusters and finds out just how weird—and wildly repressive—Sumner’s childhood really was.We get into sex shame, secret Mormon wife culture, sacred underwear, and how leaving the Church helped Sumner finally reclaim his sexuality.If you’ve ever grown up in purity culture, questioned religion, or just love messy spiritual trauma with a gay twist… this one’s for you.👼 Trauma dump meets temple tea. Tap in.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

"Hey!!! We just got back from Puerto Vallarta, where we were nominated for three awards at the very first International Content Creator Awards (aka the ICCAs)… and we took home Best Podcast! 🏆 In this episode, we’re sharing all the highlights: from the content house vibes to the red carpet feels, and what it meant to be surrounded by so many creators in one space.We also open up about the mental side of it all — the pressure to compare, the way looks can mess with your self-worth, and how we’re learning to keep it real with ourselves even in the middle of all the glam. Spoiler: we still had an amazing time and looked damn good doing it. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

Skinny jeans are out. Baggy cargos are in. Harnesses? Always timeless. In this episode, Sumner & Koaty Blayne dive headfirst into the messy, sexy, and sometimes downright busted world of gay men’s fashion. From growing up in skin-tight clubwear to navigating the oversized streetwear takeover, they spill all the tea.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their full journey through circuit party culture—from wild weekends, outfit changes, and hookup chaos to burnout, boundaries, and slowing the hell down.We reflect on how the circuit brought us together, tested our relationship, boosted our OnlyFans, and eventually wore us out. We’re not anti-party—we’re just pro-evolution.Plus: a chaotic game of “Did We Do That?” featuring afterparty confessions, filming mishaps, and one very suspicious cuddle puddle.If you’ve ever felt sexy, sweaty, overstimulated, and a little sad on the same dance floor—this one’s for you.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their evolving relationship with kink, not as experts or full-time fetish freaks, but as a couple learning to be more curious, more communicative, and way less judgmental.We explore how getting older has made us more open to trying things we once avoided, and how shame can sneak into the bedroom even in the most loving relationships. From sploshing and age play to sounding and voyeurism, we talk about what used to freak us out—and what we’re now learning to approach with curiosity instead of fear.Plus: our favorite game “Guess That Kink!”, and by the end, we put Koaty through the ultimate test… just how open-minded is he really?It’s not about being kinky. It’s about being open.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this spicy and thought-provoking episode of In Bed with Koaty and Sumner, we’re diving into the wild world of AI, sexbots, and the future of intimacy. As technology advances, virtual partners and hyper-realistic sex dolls are shaking up relationships—so where do we draw the line?We explore whether AI companions are enhancing or replacing real human connection, debate if having a virtual AI partner counts as cheating, and ask the ultimate question: if your partner had a sexbot that looked exactly like you, would you be flattered or freaked out?Get ready for a futuristic, hilarious, and maybe even slightly unsettling conversation about AI-driven pleasure, emotional bonds with chatbots, and whether AI can really be a personal sex coach. Tune in, because this one is too good to miss!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

Season 2 of In Bed with Koaty & Sum kicks off with a bang! We’re diving into one of the wildest, most productive weeks Koaty has ever had! For seven days leading up to the GAYVN Awards in Las Vegas, he stayed in a content house with some of the biggest OnlyFans creators—all set up by his agent. His goal? To film 11 collabs. But, of course, things didn’t always go as planned.Sumner, who does do studio porn, is full of questions as he gets all the details about what it was really like—how Koaty scheduled everything, the unexpected challenges, and even the days when he managed to film three scenes in a row. From the chaos of coordinating collabs to the reality of living in a house full of adult creators, we’re breaking it all down.If you’ve ever wondered what goes on behind the scenes of a packed week like this, you won’t want to miss this one. And trust us—there’s plenty more coming soon!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, we dive into the topic of physical intimacy and how it plays a crucial role in our relationship. We open up about how often we need it, the highs and lows of our sex drives, and how we’ve learned to balance and meet each other’s needs. We also get real about the challenges—what happens when one of us feels like it’s not enough or when the dynamic starts to feel one-sided. Join us for an honest and vulnerable conversation about keeping the connection strong and the passion alive.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

On this episode, the couple dives deep into the art of maximizing your experience as a bottom. From preparation tips and mindset shifts to their favorite techniques for enhancing pleasure, they share honest, uncensored advice based on their own experiences. They also discuss how communication, trust, and self-awareness can elevate your confidence in the bedroom, ensuring every moment feels empowering and satisfying. Whether you’re a seasoned pro or exploring for the first time, Koaty and Sumner provide practical, relatable insights to help you take your bottoming game to the next level.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner dive into the complexities of life as a gay couple in the spotlight. They discuss navigating the highs and lows of being a social media duo, their experiences filming threesomes and exploring studio adult content with SeanCody, and the challenges of balancing personal and professional dynamics. Reflecting on their hardest year together, they open up about mental health struggles and the steps they’ve taken to strengthen their relationship, offering an intimate look at love, resilience, and growth.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

Hey everyone, it’s Koaty and Sumner, and on this episode, we’re getting real (and a little cheeky) about something that affects way more people than you’d think: erectile dysfunction! We’re diving into ED myths, true-or-false games, and some fun facts that you probably haven’t heard before. Whether you’re curious, concerned, or just here for the laughs, we’ve got you covered with a mix of humor and honesty as we tackle the reality of ED at any age.We discuss everything from the surprising causes of ED (spoiler alert: it’s not just about age!) to ways to keep the spark alive even when things don’t go as planned. You’ll hear our take on physical vs. mental causes of ED, the stigma that still surrounds it, and why a little humor can go a long way in handling those awkward moments. Plus, we’ve got a true-or-false quiz that’ll surprise you with some strange but true ED facts—like whether or not tight underwear or bad sleep habits really make a difference.So grab your partner (or your earbuds!) and join us as we unpack erectile dysfunction in a way that’s open, fun, and totally judgment-free. From how lifestyle changes impact sexual health to the importance of communication and confidence, we’re covering it all right here, in bed, with Koaty and Sumner. Whether you’re just curious or looking for ways to support someone, this episode will have you laughing, learning, and seeing ED in a whole new light. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if you enjoyed it!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

We are beyond excited to share that we’ve officially chosen Villa de Amore as the perfect venue for our wedding! In this video, we’re taking you inside our wedding planning process as a gay couple, sharing all the details about why this venue spoke to us and how we’re organizing every step to create our dream LGBTQ+ wedding. If you’re looking for wedding tips or need help managing wedding stress, this is the video for you! From choosing wedding decor and deciding on non-negotiables for our special day to figuring out how to balance wedding traditions with modern wedding ideas, we’re diving into every aspect of making this day unique. We’ll talk about how we’re preparing for potential surprises, dividing up the tasks, and keeping our vision clear amidst the challenges of wedding organization. Planning a wedding can be stressful, but we’re here to show you how we’ve made it a fun and personal experience that reflects our personalities. Whether you’re planning a destination wedding, looking for wedding inspiration as a couple, or just interested in following our wedding journey, this video will give you all the behind-the-scenes action! Get ready to hear our take on everything from wedding day preparation to crafting personalized wedding details, and balancing the excitement with the occasional wedding stress management. If you’re planning a gay wedding or just love watching wedding vlogs, be sure to tune in! Send us your own unique wedding ideas and suggestions in the comments, and let’s celebrate this exciting chapter together!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

We’re Koaty and Sumner Blayne, a gay couple engaged and building our dream life together. In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most frequently asked questions we get—how do we make an ‘open-ish’ relationship work? For us, the answer is simple: we’re emotionally monogamous but sexually open. We’ve figured out how to maintain deep love and trust while embracing freedom and exploration. Being in the adult industry and managing our relationship means navigating a unique dynamic that works perfectly for us.We’ve been through the ups and downs of figuring out boundaries, handling jealousy, and prioritizing emotional connection. This episode gives you an honest look at how we balance our sexual openness while keeping our emotional foundation strong. Whether you’re curious about non-monogamy or just want to know more about how we live our lives, we’re answering all your burning questions and sharing our biggest tips for anyone considering an open relationship.Come join us for this raw and real discussion about love, sex, trust, and everything in between.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, we’re diving into some of the biggest stigmas surrounding the porn industry that we’ve faced personally. There’s a lot of misunderstanding and judgment out there, and we want to set the record straight. From misconceptions about relationships and intimacy to the stereotypes people still cling to, we’re here to share our experiences and shed some light on what it’s really like. It’s an honest conversation about the realities of our work and the stigma that comes with it. If there’s a stigma you’re curious about, drop it in the comments—we’d love to talk about it!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, Koaty and Sumner sit down with Kazumi and her boyfriend Reggie to dive deep into the dynamics of open relationships, comparing the experiences of gay vs straight couples. We explore how navigating an open relationship intersects with working in the adult content industry, sharing our own stories and tips on maintaining trust, boundaries, and communication. Whether you're curious about polyamory, open relationships, or the realities of being in adult entertainment, this candid conversation will give you an inside look into the challenges and rewards.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, we dive into the fun and sometimes complex dynamics of our open relationship, sharing whether we prefer hooking up with a third person or exploring with other couples. While bringing others into our relationship has always been part of the excitement, we reveal our personal preferences and how they shape our experiences together.Unexpectedly, we also open up about moments of jealousy and envy, which is something we've rarely talked about before. For the first time, Koaty hears me share some of my own insecurities, leading to a vulnerable and intimate conversation between the two of us. It’s a raw and honest look into how we handle these emotions while maintaining our bond.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.

In this episode, we open up about our own experiences with performance anxiety in the bedroom, especially during those one-night stands and small flings from our past. We've both felt the pressure to perform, and we think it's time to normalize talking about it. By sharing these moments, we want to show that performance anxiety is more common than people realize and that it's okay to talk about your vulnerabilities.For us, it's not always about performance; sometimes, you're just seeking a genuine connection. We discuss how being present and feeling understood can be more important than focusing on the act itself. We hope that by sharing our stories, we can help break the stigma and remind everyone that it's okay to prioritize emotional connection over any pressure to perform.Like, share, and subscribe!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/in-bed-with-koaty-sumner--6317880/support.