Intuitively Authentic

ABSOLUTELY BITTERSWEET. As we delve into people pleasing and how that shows up in our lives, and others, we discover that we need to say goodbye to being podcasters (at least for now)… join us in a vulnerable conversation on how we are choosing ourselves- in that ever present effort to be, INTUITIVELY AUTHENTIC. 

Why is it that when something should feel so good, we limit ourselves in the experience? We come up with a million reasons why we can’t allow ourselves to truly be as joyful as we could… as annoying as this is, and as much as we want to deny we do this, most of us probably do. Why? How can we stop it? Here’s a pep talk to honestly and vulnerably explore this concept. 

Ready for a PEP TALK?? Have you ever been so immersed in something that you lose all track of time and feel as if you are fully present and your thoughts are just flowing out of you? Let’s explore what gets us to that point and how to do more of it- so we can put into practice being present on that “next level”

OOF this one hits why dichotomies and  rigidity can be so detrimental in our lives, but also the reality of how stinking hard letting go of it all can be. For those of us who tend to lean into the illusion of control, “letting go” can feel scary, and maybe even impossible. But man, after exploring the benefits and nuance of psychological flexibility, we tend to be on board with being open to this more in our lives, and we hope you may too. 

Despite our best efforts to be “above” or “beyond” needing to be liked, for most of us there is still a nagging desire to be liked by those we come into contact with. Whether it’s the waiter at a restaurant, our boss, or our closest family and friends, being received well tends to a goal. There are times when we contort ourselves to be more palatable, to be understood or to feel included. How can we use this to benefit us/others, but not stray away from who we are authentically? Let’s have a vulnerable conversation and see where it leads. 

There are definite times where the weight of life seems to be TOO MUCH. The mental, emotional and physical load and weight of stress, resonates HARD. How do we know we’re experiencing it when it shows up so differently for us all? And more importantly, how we do lean into it and “recover” from it?? 

Oof. It is so hard to be gentle with ourselves, isn’t it? For whatever reason a default is often to judge, shame or pressure ourselves to be more or do more… but what a hard way to live life. We can probably agree that this is exhausting and if there was an alternate we would likely choose that. So HOW do we do that? Insert, grace. This episode delves into why this is so dang hard and possible ways to employ it a little more often. 

If you’re anything like us, life seems safer when you think in absolutes, the black and white. The problem with this is, life happens in the gray. Why do we do this? How can we tune into awareness and acceptance of this uncomfortable fact? Jess, LPC, joins us to walk through all these things… resulting in a super impactful episode.

We often hear the phrase “trust your gut” as advice or inspiration. However, that can be SO tricky when we don’t know what the heck that means, what intuition is, how to recognize it, and most importantly how to act on it. Insert, today’s episode. We too have a desire to do just that, trust ourselves, but do not have all those questions worked out either. Join us for a raw conversation on how we do (and don’t!) trust ourselves and ways that plays out in our lives.

Why is it that we tend to over explain everything we do, say, think & are? Is this taught to us? Is it innate? Is the absolute BULLSHIT? Yes to all. It’s time to stop freaking apologizing (or asking permission) for taking up space and living into who you are MEANT.TO.BE. 

The old school narrative that in order to succeed and get to the “top” we need to push others out of the way is not only tired, but it’s a bunch of BS. We don’t have all the same dream, the same purpose, the same goals- so it’s ridiculous to think that there’s only one “top” and therefore only room for one, or a few, individuals. Instead, let’s advocate that not only is there room for everyone at the table, but, it’s way more fun to be there TOGETHER anyway! Let’s HYPE each other up, cheer, support and love on each other and see how the world changes… let’s freaking goooo! 

25 episodes! We are celebrating WITH you this episode- reflecting on our favorite moments & take aways thus far! 

In so many of our episodes we talk about the importance of taking care of YOU. And yes, this truly needs to be FIRST. But today, we have a guest, Ryan Murrin, who helps us dig into stewardship and also finding meaning in serving others. There is power in finding & developing your professional & personal team. When there is a leader who believes that everyone on the team is invested and deserves to be growth cultivated, the results are bigger than we could have ever imagined! 

Is it possible to just “believe” our way into everything we’ve always wanted? We’re here to call BS. BUT, there is power in the belief and mindset of BIG things are possible and you are absolutely deserving of them. So how do we go from belief to action? And if we don’t yet believe it, are there things we can do to cultivate that mindset? 

Full disclaimer- this topic is not an area of strength for either one of us, and our guess is, if you’re listening to a podcast like this, it may not be for you either. However, by getting uncomfortable and exploring this topic, we stumbled into some surprising findings, and had some real honesty moments of NOT having it all figured out. Let’s figure out what “presence” is, why we desire it, what makes it so dang hard, and try to uncover some maybe sorta ways to try to gain more of it in our lives. 

You have to surround yourself with people who love you, support you, challenge you… if not, you will NEVER be able to get where you want to go. Ok fine, but HOW can we cultivate these relationships? WHERE can we find these people? WHY does it matter? Let’s dig in, this is a juicy one with some hard truths. 

There is no doubt that there are times in our lives when like it or not, difficult conversations are inevitable. Whether it be with a coworker, a partner, your child, friend, parent…conversations that cover tough topics, come with intense emotions, or have high stakes are going to come up, even for the most agreeable people. So HOW do we navigate these conversations in a way that feels less intimidating and what are some tools that can help us feel better equipped to engage in these moments? Because honestly, the majority of conflict is simply a result of miscommunication… so let’s tackle this one, shall we? 

Personal life. Professional life. Personal growth. Professional growth. Family. Friends. Responsibilities. Rest.  So HOW do we juggle it all, and attempt to stay semi sane in the process?? We get asked this often- because the illusion of our lives in keeping all the balls in the air all the time.  We explore tips and tools to attempt to do just that, but also dig into the reality of the weight and realness when you can’t “figure it all out.  Should the goal really be to do it all?? Or to get more selective about what is included in the “all”

Emotions can be complicated and confusing. BUT, do they have to be?? We’re here to tell you, they DON’T. When we know the PURPOSE of the basic emotions we can then choose to act accordingly. Jess is back, and she breaks this down in a way that lead to MAJOR “ahas” and “oh my gosh, that makes so much sense” moments. If you only listen to one podcast and need it to immediately change your life- this is it! 

We’ve all been in situations where our interpretation of an event, a comment, or even a look has been perceived way out of context and the story we tell ourselves spirals way out of control. We’re here to explore whether it’s possible to recognize, and “catch ourselves” in these moments and CHOOSE how we perceive it in that moment, and beyond. 

It’s the start of a new year and that means one thing- resolutions & “fresh starts.” We start to establish the “new us” and one of two things typically happen- we become overly rigid OR we last only a few days and slip back into old habits. Is it possible to hold ourselves accountable while concurrently giving ourselves grace for being human?? Let’s dig in and find out HOW.

What brings joy into your life? How can you find delight In the moments when life feels overwhelming & dark? Joy is to be recognized, cultivated, pursued & appreciated. This episode is sure to inspire more happiness into your life & the lives of others. 

It is generally true that our comfort zones keep us safe. But even more true is that our comfort zones limit us, make us complacent, and CAN at times create situations that are actually not safe for us. So, HOW do we lean into discomfort and WHY does that seem to be required for our personal growth? This episode ties together concepts from some previous episodes and reminds us of the importance of taking a chance, trusting our guts, and the power of GOING FOR “IT”

No one is exempt from sometimes having distorted thoughts; delusions that drive us to irrational feelings or actions. So HOW do we trust ourselves, when we’re literally saying our minds sometimes have some weird shit going on??   This is where our first guest ever (!) comes into play. Jess, a Licensed Professional Counselor, will help walk us through both red flags for when we’re potentially experiencing some thought errors AND simple tools to challenge those  thoughts and make them more useful in our lives. 

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong or are unworthy to be where you are? All too often individuals find themselves in situations, in jobs, in relationships, where we are scared of being “caught” as unqualified or undeserving… where do these feelings come from? Is there anything to learn from these feelings? HOW do we lean into our worthiness and stop questioning ourselves?? 

What does it mean to lead? A job title  or a specific role do not automatically make someone a leader, so what actually does? Let’s delve into characteristics to be developed and practiced, because literally everyone can lead in different areas of life. 

Diet culture. Good and bad food. Only eat at this time. Don’t eat that.  How stinking confusing and conflicting and yucky feeling are these messages coming at us ALL.THE.TIME.  Our very own Maddie is here as a certified Intuitive Eating Coach to walk us though how to come back to ourselves- how to trust that our bodies want what’s best for us and intuitively KNOW how to best fuel us- physically and mentally. 

We don’t really buy into the commercialized self-care BS. Not all of us have access to all the time spa days and nights spent with wine & candles, right?! How can we possibly justify taking time for ourselves when sometimes even going to the bathroom uninterrupted feels like a luxury?  But, there certainly IS something to the concept of self-care… ideas worth exploring and trying out… give this a listen- we hope you’ll be provided with some ideas of WHY it’s so important, why is takes PRACTICE, and HOW to do in the midst of life’s craziness! 

What kind of BS is “work life balance” anyway? Is it possible to harmoniously integrate our work selves and our home selves? And if we claim it is, or even hope we can, howwww? 

It seems like we’re all too “busy” to find & foster adult friendships, but at the same time, we’re also all lonely and in desperate need of real connection. Why is it that adult friendship is so stinking hard? Does it have to be? In this episode we talk about what makes friendship hard, what makes it necessary, and most importantly, HOW to make them HAPPEN. 

What are personal values? How do we identify what our OWN are and more importantly how do we use them to guide our choices & actions in order to find more meaning, joy & fulfillment from life?! This is a JUICY one- a true foundation to all the other things! 

Living into the dichotomy of contentment and complacency has been a constant area of internal conflict for both of us. How can we experience genuine peace if we’re driven by the need for constant growth? We both admit that we’re scared to “settle” and ever stop moving for fear of being stagnant. But also, how do we slow down and soak in the moments cause we want that deeply too. We’ve found this to be an area of confusion amongst others we’ve encountered too, so we decided to dig in. 

Welcome to PART 2- a continued exploration of who we are as individuals- while delving into careers and the bigger picture idea of Labels and whether those are helpful in understanding ourselves, or not.  *please excuse the quality, we’re still new here… but actively learning this podcast world, through your support! 

Everything you ever wanted to know (and more) about who we are and where we come from and a glimpse into why we are the way that we are…

Living on 'E' and being constantly busy and tired in life is the absolute 'norm' ....but does it have to be?? We are supposed to be human BEINGS, not human DOINGS...but how in the world do we even live into that? Is it possible? Hopefully, maybe? Let's dig in and see if there are any helpful insights to further investigate.

Why is it that we can't help but compare ourselves with those in our lives- the neighbor, the lady at Target, our coworkers... Is comparison a 'bad' thing? Can we use it in a helpful way? Why can't we just NOT CARE??