I’ve been there too

What does it feel like to be 10 years old and struggling with pain so big it feels impossible to carry? In this deeply personal episode, Treavor sits down with his daughter, Cozette, for a tender and age-appropriate conversation about her journey through anxiety, self-harm, and thoughts of not wanting to be here. With honesty, vulnerability, and courage beyond her years, Cozette opens up about what helped her start healing, what she wishes other kids knew, and how parents can better support children walking through emotional pain. This episode is not graphic, but it is real. It's a conversation filled with love, growth, and hope - for kids who feel alone, and for the parents doing their best to show up.  Tune in for a brave story about big feelings, safe spaces, and the healing power of being heard.   Support for Kids and Teens Your Life Your Voice (Boys Town)  Call 1-800-448-3000 or text VOICE to 20121 yourlifeyourvoice.org A hotline specifically for kids, teens, and young adults who are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, sad, or unsafe. The Trevor Project (LGBTQ+ Youth Support) Call 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678678 thetrevorproject.org Crisis support and counseling for LGBTQ+ youth, available 24/7. ⸻ Resources for Parents Child Mind Institute childmind.org Resources and articles on childhood mental health, including how to talk to kids about self-harm, depression, and anxiety. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) nami.org Resources for families navigating mental health challenges. Offers guidance, education, and community support groups. ⸻ For Understanding Self-Harm in Children Self-Injury Outreach & Support sioutreach.org Educational tools for understanding and supporting those who struggle with self-harm, especially among adolescents.

In this episode, Treavor and Cassidy dive deep into the emotional roots of shame, how it shows up in relationships, and how they've worked together to build a marriage where honest, vulnerability, and healing are safe. They discuss their individual experiences with shame - how it impacted their trust, intimacy, and communication - and the daily work it takes to create a relationship where neither partner has to hide.

In this episode, Cassidy and I open up about the raw, unfiltered reality of parenting while navigating our own healing journeys. From dealing with childhood trauma to supporting kids who are struggling emotionally, we share the lessons, the missteps, and the breakthroughs we’ve had as individuals and as a couple. This conversation is about showing up imperfectly—but with love, accountability, and an unshakable commitment to doing better than what we were shown growing up.   If you’re a parent who feels like you’re learning how to raise your kids and yourself at the same time—this one’s for you.

Men have been taught for generations to bury pain, to “man up,” to pretend. But what happens when that silence becomes a death sentence? In this deeply personal and unfiltered episode, I walk through my journey from emotional isolation to healing — and why choosing vulnerability over silence didn’t just change my life, it saved it. If you’re tired of carrying it all alone… if you’re ready to rewrite what strength really looks like… this is your invitation to heal out loud.

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the silent battles so many of us fight behind closed doors, especially as fathers, veterans, and men who've been told to "just thought it out". I talk about the weight of wearing the mask, the pressure to be everything to everyone, and the moment I finally broke the silence and chose healing over hiding.  Whether you're a dad trying to stay strong for your kids, a service member / Veteran navigating life, or someone quietly wrestling with depression or anxiety - this one is for you. I share my journey through darkness, guilt, and growth, and offer a raw reminder that strength isn't in silence - it's in honesty, vulnerability, and the courage to keep showing up. You are not alone in this fight.

In the 10th episode, Cassidy and I sit down for an honest, vulnerable conversation about how hard it can be to care for your body when your mind feels heavy. We dive into what it looks like to start making your physical health a priority when you're battling anxiety, depression, self-doubt, or feeling unworthy of love. Together, we share actual, practical steps from our journey and remind you that your worth isn't tied to how productive you are or how "put together" you seem. You are worthy of love, healing, and strength simply because you exist. This episode is about finding hope, taking small steps, and learning to believe that you deserve to feel good in your body and mind.

In this episode, I sit down with my wife, Cassidy for an honest and powerful conversation about her story. She opens up about losing her mom to cancer at a young age, navigating an unhealthy and abusive first marriage, and the impact those experiences had on her life. We also discuss the tools and practices that helped her heal, grow, and rebuild. This is a real look at resilience, pain, and personal transformation. 

In this episode, I sit down with my great friend Gabe Davis as he opens up about his journey through some incredibly challenging seasons of life. Gabe shares the raw truth about his mental health struggles while navigating a toxic relationship, and how those battles followed him even into deployment. Together, we dive deep into the emotional toll, the coping mechanisms he developed while overseas, and how he's learned to process pain, grow stronger, and keep pushing forward. This conversation is real, honest, and a reminder that healing is possible even in the darkest places. I was truly honored to have Gabe join me for this conversation.

For the last 10 years, I have completely distanced myself from spirituality. After being part of a religion earlier in life, I became reluctant—skeptical even—of anything beyond what I could see and understand. But this past year, I watched my wife, Cassidy, embark on her spiritual journey, and despite her experiences, I wasn’t ready to follow. In this episode, Cassidy joins me to share her perspective on my resistance to spirituality and what it was like for her to witness my hesitation. I also share an experience that completely shifted my perspective—my meeting with a medium named Dani Lama. What I thought would be just another conversation turned into something that fundamentally changed the way I see life, healing, and connection. Spirituality has made a lasting impact on my mental health, bringing me peace in ways I never expected. Whether you’ve struggled with belief, walked away from faith, or are just curious about the role spirituality can play in healing, this episode is an honest look at what happens when you open yourself up to something greater.

In this deeply personal and emotional episode, I share the story of my son, Princeton-his birth, his fight, and the five days he spent battling for his life. Born premature, Princeton showed more strength in his short time here on earth than I ever could have imagined. He was a fighter. But despite his fight, I had to face a reality no parent should ever endure- losing a child. For years, I buried my grief, ignoring the pain of his loss. I suppressed the heartbreak, thinking I had to be strong and continue forward. But grief doesn't disappear-it lingers, shaping who we become. This episode isn't just about loss; it's about love, resilience, and the silent battles we carry. It's about how Princeton's short life changed mine forever. And it's about the power of finally facing the pain we try so hard to ignore. If you've ever experienced loss, if you've ever held in grief, or if you've ever wondered how to keep moving forward when life breaks you- I've been there too.

Divorce is never easy, especially when kids are involved. In this episode, I opened up about the mental and emotional battles I faced while going through my divorce, the struggles with my ex-wife, and how it all impacted my mental health. But here's the truth: leaving that marriage was the best thing I could have done for myself. I'll share the moments that nearly broke me, the fight to stay connected with my kids, and how meeting my wife Cassidy helped me find peace. If you have ever felt trapped in a toxic situation, struggled with co-parenting, or questioned whether leaving was the right choice - this episode is for you. Tune in with me and my wife Cassidy as she helps me recount some of these stories and talk about what it takes to reclaim my sanity.

Shame is a powerful force - it kept me stuck, silent and convinced that I didn't deserve better. After my second suicide attempt, I found myself trapped in a cycle of depression and a marriage filled with emotional and financial struggles. In this episode, I open up about the weight of shame, how it shaped my darkest moments, and the realities of a marriage that drained me instead of building me up. But more importantly, I share how I found the strength to break free and begin again. If shame has ever held you back, I want you to know - you're not alone. I've been there too.

In this episode, I share the harsh reality of life after my first suicide attempt - admitting myself to the hospital, and trying to process the overwhelming shame, confusion, and hopelessness that followed. I talk about the ongoing mental and emotional toll of being trapped in a toxic marriage, a situation that only deepened my despair and pushed me toward a second attempt. This time, survival was anything but certain. I take you through where my mind was, the battles I fought internally, and how I came terrifyingly close to not making it back. Instagram: @ivebeentheretoo_podcast

In this deeply personal episode series, I share the painful journey that led to my first suicide attempt, a journey shaped by the weight of a toxic and unhealthy marriage. I opened up about the emotional turmoil, isolation, and constant strain that slowly pushed me deeper into depression and anxiety. It wasn't just one moment - it was a buildup of silent suffering and unresolved pain that eventually brought me to my breaking point.  Join me as I reflect on these moments and explore how the cracks beneath the surface finally gave way. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your own struggles or want to understand what its like to be in that headspace, this episode is for you. You are not alone - I've been there too. Instagram: @ivebeentheretoo_podcast

Introduction episode - explaining why I am starting this podcast and its motivation. Get to know a little bit about me before we dive deep into my mental health story. Instagram: @ivebeentheretoo_podcast