Jollof and Kompa

What do you actually tell your friends about your marriage? In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we get real about friendships, boundaries, and what should (and shouldn’t) be shared outside your relationship. From cultural differences to personal comfort levels, we unpack how we each view privacy, respect, and oversharing—especially when it comes to sensitive topics.

In this episode, we unpack how one small moment revealed a bigger difference in how we think and show up for each other. If you’ve ever felt like your effort wasn’t seen—or like someone’s intentions didn’t match their actions—this one will hit home. 00:00 Is Food Really That Deep? 04:40 We Bought Bikes (Life Update) 10:00 Trying New Things in Our 30s 14:20 The Argument: What Happened 18:30 Expectations vs Reality in Relationships 22:30 It’s Not About Food (Acts of Service)25:00 Good Intentions vs Follow-Through

Sending money back home is an expectation in Nigerian culture — but not everyone sees it that way. Augustus and Alexis get into one of the most sensitive financial conversations in their marriage. Where do you draw the line between family obligation and protecting your own household? Drop your experience in the comments.

I took my American wife to Nigeria for the first time… and I was nervous the whole time. From the moment we landed, I didn’t know what to expect. Seeing Nigeria through her eyes was eye-opening — some moments were exciting, some overwhelming, and some I definitely wasn’t ready for. This is our real experience.

Most people say that when you get married, you “become one.” But what does that actually mean… and does it mean losing yourself? In this episode, we talk about individuality in marriage—how to stay true to who you are while building a life with someone else. We get into: Why personal space still matters in marriage How to balance “your space, my space, and our space” Navigating boundaries without losing connection And what we’re learning about compromise in real time Marriage isn’t about losing yourself. But it also isn’t about doing whatever you want either. So where’s the balance? 💬 Let us know in the comments: Do you believe in “becoming one,” or do you think individuality matters more?

Is "Never go to bed angry" actually the secret to a happy marriage, or is it just a recipe for resentment? 🛌💢 In this episode of the Jollof and Kompa Podcast, we’re tearing down one of the biggest marriage myths ever told. After a solo trip to Spain led to some unexpected "nightclub interrogation" vibes at home, we found ourselves diving deep into how we actually handle conflict. Why do we feel pressured to "fake a peace" just because the sun is going down? From the "silent treatment" tactics we learned from our Nigerian parents to the pressure of "church advice," we’re getting real about why forcing an apology can sometimes do more harm than good.Join the Conversation: Do you have to settle an argument before bed, or is it better to sleep on it?Let us know in the comments! Support the Podcast: ✅ Subscribe for more honest conversations. 👍 Like this video if you can relate. 🎧 Find us on Spotify & Apple Music! #JollofAndKompa #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageConflict #AfricanPodcast #ConflictResolution

Marriage & Money is a big topic. We talked about our finances in this episode and how we split money in our marriage. The things we have successfully figured out, and the things we still struggle with. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: Instagram: @jollofandkompa Facebook: Jollof and Kompa - By Alexis & Augustus

Can your spouse really be your everything? Your best friend, your therapist, your lover, your hype person? In this episode, we had an honest conversation about dependency in marriage, why putting that kind of pressure on your partner can quietly damage your relationship, and what it actually looks like to build a healthier dynamic together. Spoiler: he had thoughts. A lot of them. Pull up a chair — Jollof & Kompa is in session

We had a huge fight over a fun activity that Alexis was trying to plan. In this episode we talked about our most recent fight and how we usually find our way back to baseline after arguments. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: Instagram: @jollofandkompa Facebook: Jollof and Kompa - By Alexis & Augustus

In this episode, we talked about surviving as a couple in extreme situations. Working out as a way to stay attractive to your spouse and where Augustus allegience lies in stressful times.

We talked about emotional affairs vs physical affairs, hosting our first house party, and how Alexis failed her first driving test.

Is this a typical behavior for Nigerian men, or is my husband just different? We've been together for 6 years, and he still doesn't celebrate Valentine's Day.

You deserve to treat yourself to nice things every day, not just on special days or occasions. In this episode, we talked about our experience treating ourselves to a spa day and how worried we are about raising kids in this internet era.

We've been married for over four (4) years, but we've known each other for way longer. This episode is about our love story. How we met, dating, proposing, and getting married.

What is the barest minimum in relationships? In this episode, we talked about expectations for men/women when dating. We also discussed our most recent experience of hosting the family, and Alexis did not hold back from expressing her frustration with nail salons.

From Alexis thanking God that she did not test positive for STD, to talking about the fear of starting a family and becoming a parent, this episode is a little bit chaotic, as we wrap up the episode with why friendship with the opposite gender never works.

Is checking your partner’s phone a red flag… or just due diligence? When we first started dating, Augustus checked Alexis’s phone and didn’t see it as a privacy violation — to him, it was a necessary background check. Alexis strongly disagreed. In this episode, we unpack phone privacy, trust, cultural expectations, and where boundaries should exist in relationships. This isn’t about right vs wrong, it’s about perspective.Do you believe couples should have phone privacy, or full transparency?

Should spouses rely on each other for simple, basic things, or should they be able to handle themself? A conversation about independence, expectations in relationships.

In our debut episode, we kick things off by sharing why we decided to start this podcast in the first place and the meaning behind its name. From there, we dive straight into a conversation that has been bothering us for a while: adults kissing babies on the lips. Is it harmless? Is it cultural? And at what age does it become uncomfortable? We unpack all of it with honesty, humor, and a little bit of chaos.We also get into the realities of navigating interactions with in-laws, including the subtle tensions, unspoken expectations, and funny misunderstandings that come with merging families. Finally, we explore the culture of respect in Nigerian households — what it looks like, how we were raised, and how those expectations show up in adulthood and marriage.It’s candid, it’s opinionated, and it’s the perfect introduction to who we are and what this podcast will feel like moving forward.

This is a trailer for our very first episode of the show! Don't forget to turn on the notification for the upcoming season