Just Try'n To Stay Married Today

Join Neil and Phyllis, a real-life couple who's been in the trenches of marriage for over 20 years. Get ready for a hilarious and honest look at what it REALLY means to say no in a marriage. This week, on Just Try'n To Stay Married Today, Neillis talk about the power (and potential bullshit) of saying "no" in your relationship. You'll hear why they believe the person who says "no" always wins. If they don’t then you may have a problem in your relationship. Saying “no" is not something your partner should lose their shit over. Unless you’re a controlling, manipulative fill in the blank. Face it, marriage isn't always rainbows and sunshine. But getting mad at the little things just makes for a messy marriage. #marriage #relationships #comedy #marriagecomedy #longtermlove #podcast

When you just try’n stay married, somethings gotta give or somebody’s gotta go. At least that’s what Neil and Phyllis say. You share a bed, a house, a child, do we really have to share hobbies? If you just try’n stay married today, one of y’all go find something to do without the other one calling to check up on you. Even if your wedding vows include the words, “two become one,” they did not mean for you to take that literally. Now go find you some business.

What is it about staying in your lane that you don’t understand? Neil and Phyllis are trying to figure that out. Phyllis doesn’t know what her lane is and Neil says, “I’m just gone shut up.” Staying in your lane while married is not easy and none of that happy wife, happy life shit either. The best way to stay in your lane, as a married couple, is to trust that your spouse knows best, FOR THEM. If you’re gonna get bossy about it, you’re asking for trouble in your relationship. And Neil says, “I’m just gone shut up,” cause he's just try’n to stay married today.

Neil is the adventurous foodie in the family and Phyllis is the creature of habit. When two such people have to decided on a meal, nobody eats on time. So they're just try'n to stay married before dinner. Neil does the grocery shopping, cooking, and the dishes and Phyllis can’t decide what to eat. I bet if he stops cooking she’ll figure it out quick, fast, and in a hurry. But would they make it to anniversary number 21. When married folx have a food fight you better not throw anything. 

Money and marriage is one thing. Business and marriage takes it up a notch. Neil and Phyllis owned and operated Bigmista’s together for over ten years. It was the most stressful time of their marriage and yet they still find the ability to shack off the dumb shit. They can laugh about it now but you can be sure there were thoughts of divorce dancing through their heads like sugarplums at Christmas. Give a listen and get a laugh in return.

What is it about family when you’re just try’n to stay married today? Sometimes family and marriage just don’t mix. Neil and Phyllis made some hard decisions about extended family when they got married. If parents and step parents are still very much in the picture who gets to live with you? If you run away from home, can your spouse find you? You can pick your nose but you can’t pick your family outside of marriage. Marry the right one so you can run away together and leave them all in an old folx home. We’re just try’n to stay married today. What about you?

There is no rule that says you have to vacation together to stay married. At least that’s how Neillis (Neil & Phyllis) feel about it. Pack your bags and join our host, Neil & Phyllis Strawder, as they air some of their dirty laundry about vacationing. While Neil wants to run around chase’n flavors, Phyllis wants to sit and watch the world go by. Listen as they weather the memories of vacations. Neil wants to travel the world and he might have to make Phyllis go kicking and screaming. However if it happens, trust they will be laughing… most of the time.

This episode starts with Neil and Phyllis discussing gender roles in their marriage. This has nothing to do with the gender you identify with so take that shit somewhere else. This is about laundry, dishes, and other household hatery. And if that weren't enough Phyllis shows off how badly she needs to go back to geography class. It's amazing she doesn't get lost from the bedroom to the kitchen. Nevertheless, she is all for Neil taking a first class vacation alone. ------ Just Try'n To Stay Married Today is sponsored by Neil's book, Spice: The Variety of Life. Order your copy today.

What happens when one persons will call anyone a friend and the other doesn't want any? You just stay married. Neil and Phyllis talk about friendship or the lack thereof. Neil is all about hanging out with any and everybody as long as there's not a whole lotta talk'n. Phyllis avoids folx because she can't stand small talk. Just try'n to stay married today you may be on your own when it comes to friendship.

Adulting and marriage leads to household bills. Who's gonna make sure they get paid is anybodies guess. It's not that hard when you have a joint account. Everybody knows finances are a hot button subject in any relationship. You need a whole lotta trust when it comes to keeping the lights on and the water running. Folks will trust you with their life before they trust you with there money. And if you think money and marriage don't mix then move on.

Most marriage vows contain the phrase of two becoming one. Why do people think that means you have to share everything? Just because you're married, it doesn't mean you lose your independence. Neil and Phyllis talk about how time apart is just as important as time together. When you're just try'n to stay married some time away from each other is a good thing.

Neil and Phyllis, or Neillis as they've been called, don't do the Valentine's thing. Their marriage has survived 20 years without cards, flowers, and candy. In their book, staying married does not hinge on some made-up holiday for consumerism. In this episode, Neil and Phyllis talk about staying married despite the year-round challenges of matrimony and they do it all with a laugh. They don't celebrate Valentine's but they have no problem celebrating each other. It's a married thing most folks don't understand.

Ever feel like marriage is more of a NASCAR race than a romantic stroll in the park? Well buckle up, buttercup, because Neil and Phyllis are tackling the tricky topic of competition in the marital lane. From budgeting battles to parenting pitstops, this episode is a hilarious and honest look at how couples can navigate the urge to one-up each other. Financial Face-Off: Trust is the ultimate when managing money. Learn how Neil and Phyllis handle the bills, budgets, and maybe even that questionable grocery addiction Parenting Podium: Is there a trophy for "World's Best Parent"? The answer is no, but that doesn't stop Neil and Phyllis from playfully debating their techniques. Get ready for a laugh-a-minute as they share their un-unified approach. Whose Wheels Turn Faster?: The driving seat can be a battleground (metaphorically, of course!). Join the friendly smackdown as Neil and Phyllis reveal their contrasting driving styles, proving that different roads can lead to the same destination (as long as everyone arrives safely!). Remember, competition can be fun and flirty, but not when you throw in a monkey wrench. This episode is your pit stop for fun, laughter, and reminder that teamwork isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Dust off your vows, honeybees, because Neil and Phyllis are spilling the tea on the secret ingredient to a long-lasting marriage: letting go. Buckle up for a laugh-a-minute ride as they dissect past baggage (like Neil's choice in women) and confess their most ahem endearing quirks. No jealousy tantrums (okay, maybe just a few), no silent treatments (Phyllis talks enough for both of them!), just raw, hilarious honesty about the ups and downs of "happily ever after." This ain't your grandma's marriage advice. This is real talk, real laughs, and real proof that letting go can keep the spark alive, even after the honeymoon phase is long gone. So grab your partner, a bottle of bourbon (and maybe some earplugs), and get ready for a hilarious, heartwarming journey into the messy, wonderful world of Neil & Phyllis! Don't miss this episode! It's the marriage detox you didn't know you needed.

Twenty years, bottles of whiskey, and a shared bank account. Neil and Phyllis are living proof that marriage is less rom-com and more buddy-cop sitcom. Tune in for their wildly unfiltered take on surviving in the trenches of married life, with bonus lessons on co-running a business without accidentally setting the shop on fire (metaphorically speaking, hopefully). In this episode, prepare for: Commitment is a Four-Letter Word (But Worth It): Brace yourself for brutally honest truths about sacrificing Netflix binges and solo vacations for the long game of "happily ever after." Past Mistakes, Present Laughs: Get into the Strawders' pre-nuptial misadventures (think bad perm food and questionable partners) and how they turned those stumbles into marital superpowers. Keeping It Real (Sometimes Too Real): From Phyllis' lawnmower-esque snoring to Neil's shopaholic tendencies, the Strawder's prove that being truthful is sexy, even when it's slightly terrifying. So, grab your partner, a bottle of something, and get ready for the Strawders' hilarious, heartwarming, and slightly chaotic guide to making marriage work. It's the therapy you didn't know you needed, served with a side of laughter and questionable life advice. Disclaimer: Don't take marital advice from them because it takes a special kinda crazy to laugh this hard after 20+ years.