Let's Hit Pause

Are we too judgmental or is judgment sometimes necessary? This week, we unpack the culture of criticism, why it can hold us back, and what it really takes to shoot your shot and step into the arena anyway.

This week on Let’s Hit Pause, Fike and Alexa explore how love evolves in your late 20s. With greater clarity, stronger standards, and deeper self-awareness, dating looks different than it did in our early twenties. We reflect on the tension between patience and pressure, how faith shapes our approach to relationships, and the impact of family and societal expectations on timing and choice. As we grow, so does our understanding of what we want — and what we’re willing to wait for. This episode is about holding softness and standards at the same time, trusting your pace, and choosing love intentionally rather than urgently.

In this episode of Let’s Hit Pause, we’re unpacking what it really means to build a life that feels true to you, and not the one shaped by family expectations, social media timelines, or society’s definition of success. From career paths and relationships to money, faith, and identity, we talk about how easy it is to end up chasing a life you never consciously chose. We share personal stories, the pressure to “do life right,” and the uncomfortable (but freeing) process of unlearning what you were told to want. If you’ve ever asked yourself: Is this actually what I want, or just what I was taught to want? How do I pivot without feeling like I’ve failed? What does success look like on my own terms? Then, this episode is for you.

We’re back! After a year-long hiatus, Let’s Hit Pause returns for Season 2 with a heartfelt, reflective episode on what it truly means to pause. In this season opener, we unpack everything that’s happened over the past year — the unexpected detours, the quiet growth, the lessons we didn’t know we needed, and the ways life stretched us in new directions. We talk honestly about burnout, becoming, grief, hope, and what it looks like to give yourself permission to slow down in a world that constantly demands more. This episode is an invitation: to reflect, to reset, and to step into the year ahead with intention rather than pressure. We also share our aspirations for this new season of life and for Season 2 of the podcast — what we’re dreaming of, unlearning, and leaning into. Whether you’re in a season of waiting, healing, building, or becoming, this conversation is for you. Here’s to the power of the pause — and to starting again, gently. 💛

In this final episode of season 1, we talk about how hard it can be to make friends in adulthood, but also how we may be making it harder than it really is. We talk about moving to new cities and starting afresh - making friends at church, at work and even at a bus stop on a rainy day. Maybe the secret to friendship in your 20s isn't about how hard it is to grasp or experience, but thinking about what we have to give. We talk about the importance of intentionality and accountability when being in community and how these are easy to demand of others but difficult to embody ourselves.

In this episode, we discuss being in the between places or liminal space - not where you once were but not exactly where you want to be. We talk about the changing seasons as an opportunity to create change in our own lives, and to not wait for life to be what we want it to be and instead create the experience we desire. We talk about daily rituals to combat the Sunday scaries, changing our wardrobes and how somehow we are all going through it. We would love for you to share your own stories of navigating's life's in between moments on our social media channels!

This episode we talk about the women we want to become from the inside out. Everything from careers, our physical health and wellbeing to mental health and our souls. We share our 2024 in’s and out’s (this episode was recorded in the summer), but still apt today and invite you to think about what yours are and who you want to become! As a new year approaches, it's time to turn your struggle into strategy and bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

In this episode, we dive into what it means to honor our feelings, have emotional awareness, and self-acceptance. * Breaking down the stigma of emotions as weakness * Practical ways to acknowledge and validate your emotions * The high achiever's struggle with "never feeling enough" * Finding balance between ambition and self-compassion * Navigating body changes and insecurities * Vulnerability in sharing our body image journey Recommendations: * TV Show Spotlight: Extraordinary * Podcast Pick: Balanced Black Girl

This episode explores how we can approach life's natural transitions with openness, resilience and a spirit of possibility. Join us as we reflect on unexpected change and the freedom to design the life that calls to us. Episode Highlights: - Navigating the shifting chapters of our lives - Letting go of rigid ambition and trusting the process - Living with uncertainty as an adult - the ups and downs - Reframing endings as exciting new beginnings - Creating the life you want, trying new things, and making space for joy

In this inaugural episode, we're setting the foundation for meaningful conversations to come. Meet your hosts: Fike and Alexa Together, we explore: - The evolution of our aspirations, from childhood dreams to present paths - Navigating age 27 - a time of (beautiful) uncertainty - The wisdom in knowing less than we thought we did - Our appreciation for Beyoncé Featured reading: "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle Our intention for this space is to grow alongside you, fostering a community where everyone feels seen, heard, and supported in their journey. We invite you to join us weekly as we explore life and its challenges together.