Miles Ahead: Strength for The Inner Life

Can we truly find strength in the parts of ourselves we’ve spent a lifetime trying to hide?Welcome back to the show. Today, I’m sitting down with someone who has become a mentor and a guide for many men—including myself. Connor Beaton is the founder of Man Talks and the author of the powerful book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the "unspoken" side of the male experience. We explore why so many of us feel like we’re walking through life with cement blocks on our feet—carrying the weight of childhood hurt, career failures, and relational dysfunction—all while pretending we’ve got it under control. Key themes we discuss include:Alchemy of Suffering: How avoiding pain doesn't make you stronger; it makes you fragile. True strength comes from moving toward your suffering and learning to alchemize it into meaning.The Powerlessness Journey: Why a man who hasn't experienced a journey of powerlessness will often grow up to abuse power.Pseudo-Initiations: In the absence of traditional rites of passage, many modern men unconsciously "nuke" their lives—sabotaging jobs or marriages—just to see if they can survive the wreckage.The Shadow & The Ego: Understanding that your ego is simply a collection of predictable patterns. Changing your identity requires questioning these patterns and making the "unconscious conscious."We also tackle a question I get constantly from women: How do I help the man I love without mothering him? Connor offers a perspective that is "jet fuel" for men. Instead of offering ultimatums or diagnosis, he explains how women are often a "permission card holder."Finally, we discuss the transition from the Logos (rational, black-and-white thought) to the Direct felt experience. Most men live from the neck up, but true emotional sovereignty lives in the body. We talk about how to bridge that gap and why it’s essential for high-performance—whether you're a father or a Wall Street trader.Takeaways for the "Work":Confession is the first step: Admitting the dysfunction or pain you are carrying is the only way to stop it from directing your life.Weakness isn't the enemy: In war and in psychology, ignoring your weaknesses is a surefire way to get "flanked."Pattern Recognition: Your identity is just a mass of behavioral patterns. If they aren't serving you, you have the power to consciously choose new ones.YouTube ChannelCoaching and Counseling with MilesPodcast IGWork with Connor00:00 Introduction to Men's Work and Pain07:07 The Role of Pain in Masculinity10:55 Navigating Midlife Transitions19:40 The Importance of Confession and Vulnerability23:31Supporting Men in Their Journey30:29 Connecting Mind and Body Through Breath39:3 7 The Energy of Emotions42:06 The Impact of Touch on Boys44:57 Understanding Emotional Intensity in Boys49:56 Generational Trauma and Emotional Resilience52:58 The Tyler Durden Complex58:59 The Collapse of the Archetypal Father01:04:43 Navigating Modern Relationships01:10:00 Emotional Labor and Connection01:10:25 The Importance of Male Connection01:11:12 Navigating Relationships and Boundaries01:12:11 Embracing the Villain Archetype01:16:58 Facing Hidden Aspects of Self01:20:02 Understanding Grief and Moving Forward01:24:40 Rebuilding Trust After Trauma01:30:39 Choosing to Grieve01:33:09 Overcoming Negative Patterns as a Parent01:37:47 Managing Expectations and Disappointments

The Grounded Warrior is back! Miles and Phil Horning explore the significance of living by a personal code, emphasizing the importance of values, presence, and vulnerability in building meaningful connections. They discuss the concept of containerization and how it can hinder emotional expression, as well as the necessity of healthy boundaries to protect one's sovereignty. The dialogue also delves into the journey of finding purpose and values, the role of discipline in creating rituals, and the importance of walking a path with vision for personal growth. In this conversation, Miles and Phil explore the themes of materialism, gratitude, community, vulnerability, and the importance of deepening connections in relationships. They discuss the challenges men face in expressing vulnerability and the need for authentic connections. The conversation also delves into the significance of service and responsibility in building community, as well as the transformative power of rituals in processing grief and deepening the soul.00:00 Living by a Personal Code02:41 The Importance of Contact and Presence09:36 Establishing Healthy Boundaries16:07 Sovereignty and Self-Leadership28:01 Courage from Integrity30:38 Establishing Personal Codes and Boundaries33:04 Discipline and Ritual in Daily Life42:03 Walking a Path with Vision58:09 Serving from Responsibility01:06:13 Deepening the Soul01:08:10 Exploring the Concept of Soul01:11:07 Navigating Grief and Darkness01:13:25 Finding Gifts in Grief01:19:05 Rituals of Grief and Transformation01:20:18 The Minnesota Men's Conference Experience01:28:45 The Power of Community and Connection01:34:34 Embracing Rituals in Modern LifeYouTube ChannelCoaching and Counseling with MilesPodcast IGWork with Phil: thegroundedwarrior.comTenets: thegroundedwarrior.com/tenetsYouTube: youtube.com/@groundedwarriorpodcastInstagram: instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior

In this episode of the Miles Ahead Podcast, host Miles speaks with Roxanne Turner, a neurodiversity specialist and equine coach. They explore Roxanne's journey from professional equestrian to coaching, the therapeutic benefits of working with horses, and the complexities of ADHD and other neurodivergent conditions. The conversation delves into the impact of technology on mental health, the challenges of parenting in the digital age, and the importance of patience and understanding in both coaching and personal development. Roxanne shares insights on how equine therapy can build confidence and emotional regulation, making it a powerful tool for individuals with neurodivergent diagnoses. In this conversation, Miles and Roxanne Turner explore the complexities of ADHD and neurodiversity, discussing emotional regulation, coping strategies, and the importance of self-compassion. They delve into the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly in educational settings, and emphasize the need for supportive environments. The discussion also highlights the significance of recognizing triggers, managing procrastination, and fostering curiosity as essential components of personal growth and development. YouTube ChannelWork with RoxannePodcast IGMiles’s IGCoaching and Counseling with Miles00:00 Introduction to Roxanne Turner and Her Journey02:52 Transitioning from Equestrian to Coaching05:51 Understanding Neurodiversity and ADHD08:57 The Intersection of ADHD and Anxiety11:56 Coaching Strategies for Different Age Groups14:57 The Impact of Technology on Mental Health17:55 Parenting in the Digital Age20:55 The Therapeutic Benefits of Working with Horses26:11 Meeting People Where They Are27:33 Normalizing Fear and Building Confidence30:34 The Dance of Coaching and Therapy33:13 The Power of Patience and Presence35:15 Experiential Learning with Horses38:48 Healing Through Connection with Horses42:11 The Journey of Learning and Growth44:43 Communication Styles in Relationships49:11 Trusting the Process of Growth50:48 Building Confidence in Neurodivergent Individuals52:25 Understanding Projection Sensitivity and Feedback53:5Coping Strategies for Emotional Reactions56:29 Recognizing Triggers and Building Awareness59:00 The Spectrum of Sensitivity in Neurodivergence01:01:17 The Role of Environment in ADHD Management01:03:15 Transitioning from School to Home Life01:05:06 The Importance of Unstructured Play01:07:16 Organizational Strategies for ADHD01:10:03 Creating Supportive Living Environments01:14:44 Navigating Working Memory Challenges01:18:15 Harnessing Strengths in Neurodivergent Individuals01:19:14 Understanding Student Motivation and Learning Styles01:25:32 Procrastination and Overwhelm in Neurodivergent Minds01:39:52 Self-Compassion and Support in ADHD Journeys

Josh is back on the podcast again, and we bring on our friend, Dave Smith, who is a well traveled and well read historian, and all around renaissance man. These two decided it would be fun to go against the state department's travel advisory and go into an active war zone. For Josh, this isn't new, except this time he had to pay for it vs being paid. For Dave, this also wasn't his first rodeo.We get into what they both saw firsthand prior to the recent cease fire deal, and what is different than the news outlets report vs what they experienced. What they thought of the culture, and the nuance upon nuance of a very complicated history, and the things that surprised them and left them in awe. Dave and josh also give their two cents on what could be done going forward to help peace last. We also get into the existential psychology of the human condition and other fascinating topics. Enjoy!YouTube ChannelMiles’s IGCoaching and Counseling with MilesPodcast IGWork with JoshJosh’s IGDave's contact: [email protected]

In this conversation, my guest, Mike Ljubsa, shares his transformative journey from Canada to Jamaica, where he now runs Mycomeditations, a psilocybin-assisted therapy retreat. He discusses the profound impact of psychedelics on mental health, emphasizing the importance of integration and the therapeutic use of psilocybin. Mike also highlights the significance of men's work in creating safe spaces for vulnerability and healing. The conversation delves into the science behind psychedelics, their potential for neuroplasticity, and the future of psychedelic therapy as a means of fostering personal growth and balance.YouTube [email protected]@mikeljubsa@milesaheadpodWork with Miles (Psychotherapy and Coaching)00:00 Introduction to Mike Ljubsa and His Journey02:56 The Impact of Upbringing on Mental Health05:43 Discovering Psychedelics: A Personal Journey08:56 The Duality of Psychedelic Experiences11:44 Understanding Trauma and Healing15:01 The Role of Psychedelics in Therapy17:50 Navigating OCD and Personal Struggles20:57 Exploring Therapeutic Psychedelic Sessions28:53 Conversational MDMA Therapy32:38 Revisiting Grief and Loss35:28 The Power of Feeling to Heal39:18 Exploring Different Psychedelics43:38 Comparing Psychedelic Experiences49:26 Inner Child Work and Healing54:16 Neuroscience of Psychedelics and Healing56:46 The Power of Psychedelics in Performance58:53 Psychedelics and Problem Solving01:00:50 Healing Trauma and Personal Growth01:05:47 Psychedelic Therapy Retreats: A New Approach01:11:50 Integration and Therapeutic Practices01:17:45 Safety and Screening in Psychedelic Use01:19:54 Men's Work and Vulnerability

In this conversation, Traver Boehm discusses the importance of creating dedicated spaces for men to engage in open conversations about their experiences and challenges. He shares insights from his own journey through darkness retreats with a discussion on what occurs in this type of retreat, emphasizing the profound personal growth that can occur when one confronts their ego and past traumas. The discussion highlights the significance of community support, the integration of experiences, and the role of humor in coping with grief and pain. Ultimately, Traver encourages men to embrace vulnerability as a strength and to find meaning in their struggles. In this conversation, Traver and Miles explore the profound themes of caregiving, presence, self-betrayal, and the heroic effort required to live authentically. They discuss the importance of being present with those who are suffering, the necessity of breaking the cycle of self-betrayal, and the courage it takes to surrender to life's challenges. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of building a relationship with oneself and the power of conscious self-dialogue in fostering personal growth and emotional intelligence.Traver Boehm’s IG28 Days in Darkness bookManUncivilized bookManUncivilized Podcast  ManUncivilized.comYouTube ChannelCoaching and Counseling with MilesMiles’s IGPodcast IG00:00 Introduction and Context of the Conversation02:58 The Importance of Men's Spaces05:41 Darkness Retreats: The Journey Begins08:55 The Challenges of Extended Darkness Retreats11:41 Experiences and Insights from the Darkness14:58 The Role of Ego and Surrender17:44 Integration and Post-Retreat Reflections37:28 Transforming Pain into Purpose39:09 Exploring the Depths of the Soul41:51 The Struggles of Men and the Path to Healing45:30 Finding Meaning in Rock Bottom47:58 The Absurdity of Life's Challenges50:32 Grief, Humor, and the Human Experience52:40 Lessons from Hospice Care55:48 The Heroic Effort of Self-Discovery01:05:43 The Price of Entry for Transformation01:09:14 Finding Authenticity in the Dark01:11:44 The Courage to Surrender01:13:51 Dialoguing with Darkness01:17:09 Returning to Self01:20:23 Building a Relationship with Yourself01:23:52 Creating a Supportive Environment

Miles, Josh, and Frank discuss the complexities of military life, focusing on the challenges of burnout, mental health, and the transition to civilian life. They explore the importance of community and support systems for veterans, the impact of deployment lengths, and the need for effective transition programs. The discussion also highlights the role of chaplains and the significance of open conversations about mental health within the military culture. In this conversation, veterans share their experiences transitioning to civilian life, the importance of community, and the healing power of storytelling. They discuss the challenges of navigating relationships and mental health after service, emphasizing the need for safe spaces where veterans can share their stories without judgment. The discussion also highlights the role of humor and camaraderie in coping with the struggles of post-military life, as well as the connections formed through shared experiences in jiu-jitsu and other activities.Frank’s IGFrank’s Coffee CompanyVet Speak PodcastYouTube ChannelMiles’s IGCoaching and Counseling with MilesPodcast IGWork with JoshJosh’s IG00:00 Introduction to Military Experiences02:51 Burnout and Deployment Challenges06:00 Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life08:52 Training and Tactical Instruction11:54 Current Career and Technology Sales14:50 Deployment Schedules and Historical Lessons24:24 The Impact of Deployment on Families31:31 Mental Health Challenges in the Military38:38 The Importance of Community and Support45:12 Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life54:45 Creating Safe Spaces for Veterans57:31 The Importance of Sharing Stories01:00:42 Navigating Relationships Post-Military01:04:4 1The Alien Experience of Veterans01:09:46 Finding Community in Jiu-Jitsu01:20:17 The Balance of Peace and Violence01:20:51 The Duality of Violence and Peace01:23:15 Evolution of Military Training and Selection01:27:49 The Journey of Becoming a Pararescue Jumper01:30:48 Reflections on Military Service and Personal Growth01:36:17 The Importance of Sharing Stories01:40:07 Building Community and Connection Among Veterans

In this conversation, Miles and Karden explore the intricate relationship between the body, nervous system, and emotional health, awareness and agency in managing one's autonomic nervous system, the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, and the necessity of emotional tools for navigating discomfort. The dialogue emphasizes the allostatic load and its effects on health, the significance of inner child work, and the intersection of psychology and body awareness in achieving holistic wellness. In this conversation, Karden and Miles explore the themes of masculinity, inner child work, and the importance of men's initiation. They discuss the significance of vulnerability and the healing power of brotherhood, emphasizing the need for men to connect with their inner selves and seek mentorship. The dialogue also touches on the midlife transition, the challenges of self-discovery, and the role of trust in relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey of embracing one's true self and the value of community in this process.YouTube ChannelThe Secret Language of The Body BookWork with KardenKarden’s IGCoaching and Counseling with MilesMiles’s IGPodcast IGChapters00:00 Introduction to Body Awareness and Nervous System02:54 The Importance of Balance in Autonomic Regulation06:10 Agency Over the Autonomic Nervous System08:42 Understanding Male Responses to Threat11:36 Childhood Wounds and Adult Reactions14:37 The Allostatic Load and Nervous System Paradox17:21 Training the Nervous System for Peace20:05 Reintegration Challenges for Veterans28:57 Reclaiming Personal Power29:56 The Journey of Self-Discovery31:55 The Challenge of Healing33:43 Understanding Emotional Responses36:39 Navigating Depression and Overwhelm39:36 The Dorsal Vagal Response41:03 The Role of Perception in Healing42:38 Inner Child Work and Emotional Healing45:12 The Power of Community and Brotherhood48:20 Experiencing the Men's Initiation54:41 The Importance of Trust and Rest56:24 The Value of Trust Over Control57:48 The Transformative Power of Jiu-Jitsu59:55 Embracing the Beginner's Mind01:02:37 The Importance of Humility in Learning01:05:42 Navigating Midlife Transitions01:09:30 The Role of Mentorship in Men's Work01:17:38 Finding Authenticity Beyond Ego

In this conversation, Miles and Zac Miller delve into the transformative experience of Ibogaine treatment, exploring its potential benefits for mental health, particularly for veterans and first responders. Zac shares his personal journey of surrender, the importance of medical supervision, and the holistic approaches taken during the treatment. They discuss the neuroplasticity effects of Ibogaine, the significance of setting intentions, and the challenges of coping with life changes. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community support and the ongoing process of healing and integration, as well as Zac's insights on coaching and helping others navigate their own journeys.Work with ZacWork with Zacmanuncivilized.com/coachingbeondibogaine.combeondibogaine.com/beond-serviceYouTube ChannelWork with Mileshttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpodhttps://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/00:00 Introduction to Ibogaine Treatment02:50 The Journey of Surrender06:08 Medical Supervision and Holistic Approaches08:58 The Experience of Ibogaine12:00 Neuroplasticity and Integration14:56 The Role of Intentions17:39 Coping with Life Changes20:44 The Importance of Community23:36 Reflections on Healing and Growth26:24 Coaching and Supporting Others29:31 Final Thoughts and Future Directions

The legend himself joins me this episode to talk about some of the body of his works. I talk about being MIA and going through a difficult time.In this episode, Miles and Duey Freeman explore the complexities of personal challenges, attachment theory, and the importance of male figures in healing. They discuss the impact of fragmentation in relationships, the role of addiction in emotional struggles, and the therapeutic benefits of working with horses. The conversation emphasizes the fluid nature of healing and the significance of connection and contact in fostering emotional well-being. In this conversation, Miles and Duey explore the intricate dynamics of animal interaction, particularly with horses, and how these principles can be applied to human relationships and therapy. They discuss the importance of building trust through incremental steps, the unique communication methods of horses, and the challenges men face in the therapy world. The conversation also delves into the impact of patriarchy on mental health and the growing epidemic of male loneliness, emphasizing the need for authentic connections and the integration of various therapeutic modalities.00:00 Introduction and Personal Struggles03:03 The Impact of Loss and Grief05:53 Father Wounds and Male Mentorship08:44 Attachment Theory and Its Evolution11:48 Fragmented vs. Integrated Attachment14:16 Addiction and the Need for Contact16:57 The Role of Food, Touch, and Movement20:03 Fluidity in Attachment and Relationships35:47 The Importance of Relational Contact38:07 Addiction and Predictability in Relationships39:38 Contingent Eye Contact and Attachment43:04 Connecting with Horses: A Therapeutic Approach45:12 Understanding Horse Behavior and Communication55:04 The Art of Therapy and Personal Growth01:05:26 Integrating Dance and Self-Expression01:06:44 The Concept of Wholeness and Health01:08:08 Authenticity in Relationships01:10:10 Masculinity and Therapy01:13:15 Celebrating Differences in Gender01:14:00 The Crisis of Male Therapists01:16:26 The Nice Guy Archetype and Male Vulnerability01:19:31 Patriarchy and Objectification01:23:00 Isolation and Mental Health in Men01:25:50 Healthy Masculinity and ConnectionIn Memoriam to MartyGrief is Only Lovehttps://www.dueyfreeman.orgDuey Freeman’s IGDuey Freeman’s FBThe Elder Councilhttps://www.manuncivilized.comhttps://mantalks.comYouTube Channelhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpodhttps://milessalisburylpc.com

My guest today is Lindsay Dettwiler. She has an amazing back story and thousands of amazing stories of survival, perseverance, and the best dating "war stories".Topics covered:Origin StoriesChildhood wounding and traumaAddiction and RecoveryJourney to becoming a Personal TrainerBonus content on dating and what women wantWork with Lindsay:Lindsay’s IGhttps://project360pdx.comEmail contact/sign-up: [email protected] YouTube ChannelWork with Miles:https://milessalisburylpc.comhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod

Josh Sabraw is back and drops in to let us know what he has been up to. We get off and go like he never left. Early adopters of the podcast will especially enjoy this one.Topics covered:Music currently listened toWhat Josh is creatingMaking decisions and how grief and loss are involvedHow shame is involved if you don't make decisions and try to do it allHow to make and trust change"The Red Shirt Phenmena" for boys in schoolClimbing out of dark holes and being self-ledYouTube ChannelWork with Josh:https://www.joshsabraw.comhttps://joshsabraw.substack.comWork with Miles:https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://milessalisburylpc.comMusic Mentioned:Wake Me UpSomething In The Orange

My guest today is Zac Miller. He is a former civil servant of Public Safety, having been in Law Enforcement, Dispatch, and the Fire Service, a rare feat, and is now working with the Uncivilized team. He also does coaching, breathwork, and other healing modalities for first responders, veterans, and people from all walks of life.Topics covered:00:00 Introduction to Zach Miller and His Journey02:53 Exploring the Ibogaine Experience05:44 The Impact of Public Safety Work on Mental Health08:53 Coping Mechanisms and the Role of Alcohol19:53 Breath Holding and Nervous System Resetting22:21 The Connection Between Trauma and Healing25:28 Finding Purpose Through Pain26:21 Finding Gifts in Adversity27:12 The Journey of Self-Discovery30:33 Confronting Dark Thoughts34:39 The Impact of Intrusive Thoughts37:50 Navigating the Chaos of Public Safety41:47 Moral Injury in Law Enforcement50:39 Finding Community and Support53:21 Recognizing and Addressing PTS56:38 The Role of Breathwork in Healing59:52 Struggle vs. Suffering: Understanding the Difference01:01:28 The Journey into Coaching and Breathwork01:08:32 Sharing Knowledge and Resources for HealingWork with Zac:https://www.evolvingguidance.comhttps://www.instagram.com/evolvingguidance/https://www.instagram.com/zac_evolving/Work With Miles:https://www.instagram.com/zac_evolving/YouTube Channelhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/Man Uncivilized book

Michael Returns to the podcast. We get an update from him moving from New York to Georgia and the contrast between the two. Then we get into all things relationships, dating, mating, and much more. Here are some of the topics covered:03:00 The Importance of Male Friendships06:03 Navigating Dating and Relationships08:58 Understanding Masculinity and Vulnerability17:59 Accountability and External Support27:05 The Intersection of Neurobiology and Therapy29:58 The Limitations of AI in Therapy32:52 Exploring Masculinity and Relationships38:55T The Dynamics of Attraction and Control55:45 Biological Imperatives and Relationship Dynamics01:00:00 The Impact of Societal Changes on Family and Community01:05:11 Balancing Career and Family Life01:12:49 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges01:18:01 Polyamory vs. Monogamy: A Biological Perspective01:20:32 The Complexity of Female Attraction01:22:47 Understanding Emotional Needs in Relationships01:25:18 Integrating Masculinity and FemininityYouTube Channelhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/Work With Mileshttps://milessalisburylpc.comWork With Michaelhttps://www.adaptivemen.com 

My guest today is Marlin Bernabe who is one of the most impressive fitness trainers I have seen work live. I have the fortune to watch him work at my gym and am always amazed at how differently he works with people individually and in a group setting.We cover a range of topics:Marlin's background and brief origin storyHow he got into becoming a trainer and coachThe types of training her provides and how he tailors it to each personHow to help one make the leap to becoming someone who goes to the gym consistentlyHow to help your spouse or significant other become interested in going to the gymMarlin's future plans and goals.Work with Marlin:https://www.instagram.com/movethatbody13/Work with Miles:https://milessalisburylpc.comYouTube Channelhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

My guest today is Davy . We were connected through Dave Boyd and the Man Uncivilized Nation. We hit it off immediately and knew we needed to plant the flag for the Uncivilized Nation's Men's Group in the Portland area, and that we would become close friends given we have similar origin stories and backgrounds.We cover a lot of interesting terrain in this one:Religious Trauma.Davy's story from his upbringing, current work, and moving towards becoming a psychotherapist and Men's Work supporter.How Men's Work is Women's Work and Vice Versa.Healing the gender wars.Male Loneliness.Why speaking with a Chaplain is easier than a Psychologist in Veteran and LEO circles.AI "therapy".Fatherhood, divorce, and breaking generational legacy wounds.Our experiences having done Men's Work, retreats, and how we all are standing on the shoulders of giants.This is a great listen for both men and women.If you would like to sign up to join a Men's Group through the Uncivilized Nation, email us here: [email protected] can also send an enquiry via my website below.Work with Miles:https://milessalisburylpc.comYouTube Channelhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://www.manuncivilized.com

Phil Horning and I are freshly returned to the relative and "civilized world". We give a brief synopsis of what we learned and went through at Traaver Boehm's Men's Initiation Retreat, as well as the deep healing we received from the experience.For the Women listeners, this episode will help you understand the men in your life more and the pain they face (and good news, Uncivilized Inc. has an upcoming Women's retreat!, I'll link the website below).Listen in to see how working with Duey Freeman and horses can change your life, how Michael Gay and Dave Boyd can help you to heal, and a shout out to Zach Miller for helping us fuel. And of course, how the legend Traver Boehm himself who started this movement to reach a million men is going.I did a prior retreat and AAR podcast episode from Connor Beaton's retreat last year (3/25/24) and it was amazing to see how these two retreats interlock in amazing ways.If you are on the fence about going to a men's retreat or wonder what you may be in for, this episode will give you a little peek through the lens of Phil and I's personal experiences there. And they were life-changing. Enjoy!YouTube Channelhttps://www.manuncivilized.comWork with Phil:https://thegroundedwarrior.comhttps://www.instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior/Work with Miles:https://milessalisburylpc.comhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/

Ever wondered how massage can heal men? Wonder no more.Martin and I get into a lot of interesting topics:Plant-based medicine.Martin's Origin Story, growing up "on base", running from the military police, being homeschooled, his messaging about what manhood was and was not, and how he has come out of a dark night of the soul recently.Martin talks about male loneliness, the problems men face with dating these days, and how he has overcome being a "nice guy" and more integrated.How to more effectively cope with ADHD.His approach to massage therapy in working with men and women, and how men could really benefit and heal from massage, not just physically, but emotionally as well.Work with Martin:www.wakepdx.comMartin’s IGhttps://www.youtube.com/@wakemassage_pdxWork with Miles:https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://milessalisburylpc.com YouTube Channel

In today's chat, I have Todd Leuch who is a Voice Actor and also does Men's Work With Connor Beaton. We get into a lot of interesting topics:Men's Work, how we both got into it.Todd's growth experience doing the work, his adverse childhood experiences and trauma, and how he navigated having his father go to prison and needing to become the "man of the house" as a young boy.Todd's voice-acting career and its budding success.ADD/ADHD and how this has affected both of our lives and how we have battled and worked with it.Parenting and fatherhood.Todd's spiritual experience that changed his life.And much more.https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://milessalisburylpc.com YouTube Channelhttps://www.toddleuchvo.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@ToddLeuchVOwww.linkedin.com/in/todd-leuch-a3262624bhttps://www.facebook.com/todd.leuchBooks Mentioned:The Mountain is YouGood InsideThe Power of Showing UpReclaim Your Nervous System

My Guest today is Dr Grant Headley, who is a Dr of Physical Therapy.We cover how to be active and avoid injury, what to do about it if you are injured, how to stay physically healthy, and how one's psychological health can play a factor in injury prevention or contribute to it.Other topics include how endurance sports or physical training can sometimes masquerade as addictions to avoidance of underlying mental health conditions or ways to cope with problems, rather than facing them, and how this can be a slippery slope. Grant talks somewhat about his past challenges and how he has grown into the healing and success he has in his personal life and business. We also talk about men's pelvic floor health, how this can affect erectile dysfunction and fertility, and what to do about it.This conversation was a great synergy of mental and physical fitness.Dr Grant's bio, contact information, and content:Dr. Grant Headley, PT DPT - Specialized Physical Therapy for your evolving healthAs a Doctor of Physical Therapy specializing in pelvic mobility and men's pelvic floor dysfunction, I offer comprehensive care that goes beyond symptom management to address the root causes of musculoskeletal issues.My approach integrates precision movement education with cutting-edge therapeutic technologies. I empower you to understand your body's mechanics through proper exercise form and alignment principles drawn from yoga and strength conditioning—teaching you skills to maintain lifelong mobility and prevent joint degeneration.For accelerated healing, I utilize advanced modalities including Winback TECAR therapy and Piezowave Focused Shockwave, providing non-invasive options for tissue regeneration, chronic pain relief, and skin health.Whether you're dealing with pelvic dysfunction, or joint pain, or seeking to optimize your movement patterns, my goal is to equip you with both immediate relief and the knowledge to maintain long-term musculoskeletal health.Schedule a consultation to begin your journey toward pain-free, confident movement.I integrate this approach in the gym setting of Project 360 for athletes, in the medical wellness clinic Evergreen Factor for those dealing with chronic pain and dysfunction, and in the industrial setting for manual laborers. https://www.bodylistener.nethttps://www.instagram.com/thebodylistener/https://www.evergreenfactor.comhttps://project360pdx.comhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://milessalisburylpc.com YouTube Channel

This was my first-ever crossover podcast. Michael has a podcast called The Adaptive Men. We decided to get together and talk about a variety of topics. We cover a lot of ground.How Michael is transforming his gifts as a massage therapist into becoming a Men's Work CoachHow to Prioritize yourselfWhat Society Teaches MenWhy you need to Feel your FeelingsHow hormones can dictate perceptionWhy modern psychotherapy sometimes doesn't land well with menAnd so much more.Pass this one on to a man you think could use ithttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://milessalisburylpc.comYouTube Channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@AdaptiveMenMichael's contact:[email protected]'s Ebook https://docs.google.com/document/d/1FS0pHNXN7RVD1PC6KPwLuYlytc6CPadDUCltuc-O_nc/edit?usp=sharing

Fork in the Road EpisodeIn this episode, Miles and Josh discuss the struggles of the sandwich generation. How each of us copes with family, career, and health demands.Miles shares his breakthroughs with his therapy and what has led to his growth in terms of addressing his narratives. How to complete the loop of learning and dismantle the trauma holding you back from your best.What Josh is up to, why he has to take a step back, and how he will be a return guest.YouTube Channelhttps://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod/https://milessalisburylpc.comhttps://www.joshsabraw.comhttps://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/DMXIt's Dark and Hell is HotGretta Von FleetMeeting the MasterBook: The Courage to be DislikedBy Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

This was a super fascinating and engaging conversation. Cedric's work is very powerful (as you will witness as Josh offers for me to be in the hot seat). He is sharing the stage at some big conferences coming up, (check his website and social media for more information) such as Gabor Mate, Matthias Barker, Peter Levine, and Thomas Hubl.I think you will find this a very interesting and unique approach to doing deep work and finding change that has lasting effects.https://www.cedricbertelli.com/free-guideCedric’s IGYouTube Channelhttps://milessalisburylpc.comhttps://www.joshsabraw.comhttps://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

This is a spur of the (big moment) minisode brought about by the Eagle's HUGE win last night. I thought I'd take some time to relish in this but also use the moment to talk about the great connector for men, AKA, sports, and how we can move to more conversations of depth, and ultimately closer friendships. If you are female and have a man in your life who struggles to find male friendships or talk to men more, this one is for them. If this short episode helps anyone, please forward it on! I will do a deeper dive on this subject at some point as it is very rich. In the meantime, Go Birds!

In this episode Miles and Josh discuss the butterfly effect question, and how that may or may not reveal your unacknowledged regret or even areas of your life that you have been lost to "the maze"- a term coined by American Psychologist Phil Stutz- to describe where we abandon our power and become victims. Dr Miles does a deep dive into meditation and how it can be extremely useful or an extreme waste of time. Radiohead-Pyramid Song (What Miles is listening to) Tiger Army- Forever Fades Away (What Josh is listening to)  YouTube Channel https://www.instagram.com/milesaheadpod https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

How to use the pain of being human to your advantage. In this episode, Miles and Josh go deeper into how developmental trauma influences the creation of the ego, the shadow, and what the "golden shadow" is, and what to do with this. We blend Jungian approaches, Buddhist Psychology, and other current psychotherapies, and usual bro-science (N of 2!) to the conversation.  You will also learn how your past traumas and struggles contribute to your dharma (an aspect or truth of reality) or sacred duty (or not) to your life's purpose (or not). YouTube Channel https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ Links to music: "Sometime After Midnight", The Airborne Toxic Event Logic 100 Miles and Running

Dr Aziz, who we have mentioned multiple times on the podcast is here! We begin the podcast fresh from an hour of sauna together, so if we sound drunk, we are all just in a zen-like state. In this episode, we discuss the secret to transformations, both inside and out. Dr Aziz Walks us through the physical and mental transformations he has been through and what the commonalities and the differences are between changing your mind and changing your body. Learn why money, sex and six pack abs won't make you happy, and why that is a good thing. Why you sometimes have to be the villain in another person's story or narrative. How to not give others the custodial duties of your own self confidence. Learn about the different levels of motivation and what they are based upon. How motivation changes many times over in the same journey, and how fears relate to playing small and keeping motivation at a distance. Dr Aziz’s website Book: Not Nice Shrink for The Shy Guy Podcast YouTube Channel https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ Links to listen to: Coldplay's New Album (Moonmusic) Coloratura (The Coldplay song Miles is listening to on repeat) LowFi Christmas Lightning Rod :By The Offspring

This was a BIG episode. We get into our personal stories of pain and growth and the people who helped us get there. This one is very much worth the listen. We discuss postulating and thinking about our emotions vs actually experiencing them, and how to do this. If you're a man and struggle with intellectualization vs emotional experience and expression, or a woman who does or has a man in your life that does, this one is for you. YouTube Channel https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ Coldplay Yellow Coldplay All of My Love Public Enemy/Prodigy Mashup

How to set goals, make them fun, and what to do about inevitable resistance. We get tactical and psychological. Anytime is a good time to set goals. It's the new year, when everyone decides to set "resolutions". What is this exactly ? What are we trying to resolve? Achieving a resolution is hard without having a goal and the accompanying strategy, tactics, and psychological/emotional skills toward resolution. In this episode we will explain how to move into and through what you want to change, accomplish, adapt to, or acquire. YouTube Channel https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ UNKLE

What this episode is about: Josh and Miles interview one of Josh's clients/students about her "overnight success" body fat percentage loss and muscle mass gain. Josh highlights how astonishing and fast the transformation was, Stacy's work ethic, how they achieved this together. Miles asks probing psychological questions to understand Stacy's drive and what pains she may have had to overcome growing up to become the person she is today. This episode is inspirational and the listener may find pieces of themself in her story, and will find pieces that may direct any budding motivation or resistance to change. https://milessalisburylpc.com   https://www.joshsabraw.com   https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/   https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

In today's episode, Miles and Josh go deep on social media and the "for you" feed, how psychographics trumps demographics and how tik tok changed the social media landscape. Most importantly we examine what we can learn about ourselves based on our feeds, how parasocial relationships impact our lives for the better and for the worse, and we also examine what "rage-baiting" or value-insulting content tells us about ourselves. Dr. Jennifer Barnes: Para Social Relationship Ted Talk https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

Phil and Miles give an After Action Review for Josh about their recent seminar with Duey Freeman and Traver Boehm (from the ManUncivilized Podcast, book, and movement), titled, How Best to Work with Men. The seminar was filled with both clinicians and curious folk alike, both men and women seeking how best to support the men in their personal lives and professional settings. Miles and Phil talk about their key takeaways, what they learned, and what personally came up for them. This seminar is highly recommended to anyone interested in men's work, their relationships with men, their sons, uncles, father, grandfather's and how to locate and cultivate heathy masculinity and heal/grow attachment wounds, or wounds of "contact" as Duey likes to say. Have a listen for a brief peek on what the seminar is like. We'll include all of the links you are wanting below! Duey Freeman’s IG Traver Boehm’s IG David Boyd’s IG How Best To Work With Men, Man uncivilized Man Uncivilized book Man Uncivilized Podcast   Phil’s IG/Grounded Warrior Page https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

How to work with physical and psychological pain. The first Noble Truth of Buddhism has many translations, the one we like is "life involves suffering". "Pain is available to everyone." The discussion today was around pain, how we can choose to perceive it in order to best work with it (or the opposite) and to find a lesson or two, and grow from it (or the opposite). This was a more informal episode, with less of an agenda, however the listener will still profit from the conversation. If you are going through a hard time right now emotionally or physically or both, or have in the past (or plan to in the future-because we all are not exempt from pain), this discussion will likely resonate and help guide you to a trailhead on your path. https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

Today we discuss the dynamic of co-dependency under the oft used terms, "Nice Guy" or "Good Girl" and what this means, where it comes from, how it presents, and how to know if you are running some of this energy and behavior. We attempt to illustrate what this looks like using personal and other types of examples and how to train it out of you for a better overall functioning authentic self. No More Mr. Nice Guy https://a.co/d/fOigTyv Not Nice https://a.co/d/0lidQuw The Courage to be Disliked https://a.co/d/19AFx29 https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

In today’s episode, we discuss the essentials of warrior-hood. Resilience. Service. Teamwork. To find out how masculinity and manhood intersect with warriorhood, listen to this episode. Stephen Press-field Warrior Ethos https://a.co/d/71IF5EO Michael Singer Untethered soul https://a.co/d/6NekCuJ https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

In today's episode, we discuss one of the most important topics in mental health right now: Sovereignty, and How To be Self-Led. We'll talk about how much of our lives we spend insulating ourselves from the discomfort of change, vulnerability, and connection with others. We'll go into a little bit of Internal Family Systems and how our parts unconsciously guide our behavior. We'll talk about identifying what parts of our lives need the most work and what parts of ourselves need the most love. https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ Weezer Pork and Beans The greatest man that ever lived

In this episode Miles and Josh address the saying of "pressure creates diamonds" by finishing the often-used idiom with, "pressure often creates dust". We discuss pressure, and how it looks when it is put upon us mostly negatively. We also illuminate how pressure can be applied to create an environment of reinforcement. Finally, we address the core of motivation, define it for ourselves, and talk about how changing your internal reference points and modeling will permanently motivate you toward your goals. Let's go! https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

PDF Download In our final discussion of the plight of men and health outcomes, we end on the problem of delusions, misinformation, and distracted attention. Most people do not have a solid sense of what their physical potential is, because they (us, as both Miles and I have experienced varying degrees of this) don't have a clear perception of what actions we are truly taking on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis. We not only have fuzzy and unclear health objectives and processes, but we also have fuzzy and unclear visions of what we look like in the mirror, how many steps we take, how much we eat and sleep, and how hard (or easy) it might be to change. We talk about how men delude themselves, and what simple steps you can take today to become aware of your actions and what it takes to "get healthy". PDF Download This is the downloadable we have been speaking of which we hope will help you to better understand what gets in your way of fitness goals and how to move through them. https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

In today's episode Dr Miles and Josh delve a bit deeper into the obstacles that men face when tackling their own mental and physical health and today is the big topic of hormones and aging. Testosterone in the average male does peak in their 20s, but that doesn't mean that you have to peak. It's ok if you have a renaissance of vitality and energy in your 40s and 50s and it doesn't take injections of exogenous hormones! We address the common experiences of men trying to diet and exercise the way they did in their 20s, why this falls short, and how we can continue to improve our physical fitness despite our advancing age. Much of this advice can apply to women too, although a more nuanced discussion about men's and women's hormones would be needed in future. How hormones get blamed, and what is behind the fat, tired, and out-of-shape men in their midlife crises, is the discussion for today. https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/

In this episode, we discuss men's struggles in terms of health and economic outcomes, as well as social struggles like lack of dating participation. The current trend is an alarming 4 times the likelihood of suicide, as well as poorer graduation rates, employment rates, and economic prospects. When it comes to the health conversation, men are less likely to have a primary care provider, less likely to visit the doctor, and less likely to purchase self-development books or programs, meaning not only are their health and economic prospects worsening, they are also not investing in themselves to arrest this dive. Today we crack open the biggest struggle with self-awareness and self-management including hormonal and physiological differences in the brains of men and women and how this impacts empathy, connection, and self-compassion. Let's go. https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

Dr. Ray Doktor helps Josh cope with relationship issues. What's it about: Do you have the ability to check in with yourself as to how you show up, including your own definition of love for yourself?  Dr. Ray compares emotional training to the physical training of Bruce Lee who has a higher level of commitment to being the best martial artist alive. Having a clear process to sharpen your own physical and emotional awareness is critical to creating the connected life you desire for yourself. How will the listener benefit:  Cultivating presence and self-awareness will allow you to parse the information coming to you at any one moment, discern what is useful and valuable, and decide how to respond. This allows you to get out of your way, stop "cock-blocking" yourself (or women, the female equivalent!), and show up as a better man, woman, partner, and friend. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions: What is your definition of Love and where did you learn it? Do you have the ability to be present in your life and choose your response to situations? Do you have a process for building mental and emotional resilience? Raydoktor.com https://www.instagram.com/drraydoktorcoaching/ All it Takes is One https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com You Tube Episode

Phil Horning returns. In this episode, we discuss how we get wounded in relationships and how we heal in relationships. The relief that we feel being seen in our pain and our struggles. How this is comforting and can aid the healing process. "I believe you, that does suck" is all that is required. Josh covers stillness and reconciliation including recapitulation, the process of teasing apart your experience to summarize the mistakes, lessons, and most importantly the learning or behavioral change from your own life. This was largely the focus of James Wedmore's Next Level retreat this past week. Phil reveals part of his attempts at repairing a damaged father/son relationship with his dad, who has demonstrated the willingness to acknowledge his own shortcomings. He shares an important connecting tool called attunement, which is the process of meeting someone where they are emotionally, energetically, and philosophically. Not to endorse, condone, or change someone, but to simply be with them in a way that helps them feel understood. Learning the value of stillness, clarity, attunement, and recapitulation will help you drop your baggage and engage more fully in your relationships. https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com https://www.instagram.com/the_grounded_warrior https://www.thegroundedwarrior.com Phil Horning Previous Podcast Episode - Journey of a Maturing Man Fury STIM, RJ Pasin All my life Foo Fighters The Anthem Good Charlotte

Today's guest is Evan Transue, who is a public speaker and podcaster and is spreading his message about mental health and functional health care to the world. Evan has a unique gift for speaking with high school students about mental health, if you are a parent, this episode will be of extra interest to you.  What's it about: How early onset mental health issues occur, and can be avoided with Evan Transue and the FDN family.  A young man from PA shares his experience of being misdiagnosed and how it changed his childhood experiences around drugs, alcohol, and coping. How will the listener benefit: Learn the presentation of panic attacks and how they feel for a young child. Learn about the FDN network and how collaborative health coaching modalities can help people solve seemingly intractable health issues. https://evantransue.com @FDNtraining evan transue IG FDN Training Discount code for our listeners: https://fdntraining.com/miles  Evan's Book: https://a.co/d/brGXRjS https://www.instagram.com/miles.graham.salisburyphd/ https://www.instagram.com/joshsabraw/ https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

Today, we cover the most common issues that people run into when tackling their health and fitness. What's it about:  Staying in shape and the obstacles to staying in shape. Injuries Ego Lifting Past Benchmarks that are not relevant Functional Paralysis Inconvenience Tax Not hard enough workout/good enough workout I can't train HARD anymore Kids dictate food or exercise habits Adrenal Fatigue-Stuck in "The Gray-zone" or purgatory Disease or Special Circumstance Josh's Definition of Strength Training How will the listener benefit: Learning how to listen to yourself as you argue for limitations or put off living your best life. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions: Most of the problems we confront are problems of priority and perception. The solutions to most problems are counter-intuitive; "Don't train as hard" or "Let bad things happen". Peter Gabriel In your eyes Group Love Hollywood https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

What's it about:  How to control your own life, from the inside, and out. How we lose our felt sense of being able to affect our own world and environment. How Josh's childhood struggles impacted his personality and contributed to his core challenges and growth. How the listener will benefit: See how people in real-life situations create trauma for their kids (or don't). Learn how to cope and work through various conflicts with core identity and beliefs. Josh tells the story of why and how he left home at a young age in search of a safe place to study algebra (and drink beer). Miles tells the story of arguing with his wife and exhibiting safe conflict for his kids while protecting their personhood. Empire of the Sun, Walking on a Dream https://open.spotify.com/track/5r5cp9IpziiIsR6b93vcnQ?si=22a69163e1314872 Tiger Army, Forever Fades Away https://open.spotify.com/track/14GLdHADWepLUywqQoLppo?si=99b0a6dec05649a7 https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

Pathway, the "HOW" episodes The biggest problem that arises to interfere with hope is the lack of a "pathway" to the goal, be it love, career, or inner peace. Today we look at why that is. What's it about: Don't let the How, get you down. The mind, especially of smart and proactive people is very adept at finding problems. Our rapid-fire emotional brain will then turn those obstacles into reasons why the path will not work and needs to be fine-tuned to create opportunities from all these problems. What is possible is typically just the marketing from folks selling solutions. The path of least resistance is the pathway that other people choose for you, which discourages dreaming and creative thinking. How will the listener benefit: Learn how resourcefulness provides more opportunities than resources often do. Learn how to identify who has done what you are setting out to do. Ask them how they did it. Meta Version-Ask the industry leader or category creator. Not just a coach, but a coach specific to what exactly you are trying to create. The ability to let go of resistance and baggage is a key skill to traveling towards your goals and one of the biggest variables to creating the life that you actually want to lead. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions" Pathway to Become a Millionaire example. Josh talks about dealing with the emasculating shame of not being able to support his partner's dreams, and how he continues to work with that. The more intelligent you are, the more problems you see with your pathway. Success is about forgetting what could go wrong with your choices more than it is about making the "best" decision- Alan Watts Neil Young Harvest Moon Coldplay Up in Flames https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

What's it about: A continuation on the theme of Hope. What mistakes do people make when it comes to setting goals? How to set goals, even if you feel less empowered. How to set goals that are right for you and not default goals that society gives you. How will the listener benefit: Learn what questions to ask of yourself to get centered on what you really care about. Learn how to tell whether your goal is high or low confidence. How to manage a difficult goal in a challenging space in your life. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions James Doty's Book: Into the Magic Shop Alan Watts: Into the Shadow The Dandy Whorhols: A loan tonight https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

Hopelessness, What it is, and how to define hope in an empowering way. What's the episode about? Zooming out for a moment and examining the state of affairs in America with more options than ever and also more despair. How we go from despair to numbing, even from positive emotions and "normal" situations. What Brene Brown's definition of Hope is, broken down into Goals, Pathways, and Agency. How will the listener benefit: Learn the components and benefits of hope. Learn how we lose hope so easily, and what to do about it. Learn about the power of resourcefulness and reference points, that can completely change your ability to self-lead. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions: Keith Ferrazi and learning to ask people for help. Leili Hormozi's definition of confidence as the willingness to experience any emotion that comes up during the day. https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com Island (band) https://open.spotify.com/artist/1UqvcbBmsHw8rjIZe1WiZl?si=zT0fv9ljQcWRA4PqssV8-Q Soundgarden, Spoonman https://open.spotify.com/track/1jMaB19DiVR8OihLSuYFOt?si=9aa38ced5d0040a3

This episode deepens the conversation about mental health and what our medical system is doing to make it worse. What's it about: How our Medical Establishment and symptoms-based approach is making our mental health crisis worse. How our personality develops with pain and trauma in a way that changes our physiology. How this process culminates in a disconnected sense of self that feels hopeless and purposeless. How will the listener benefit: Understand why they may feel psycho at times. Understand why the problems are getting worse. Learn about how we may be able to re-establish hope, as clinically defined in future episodes. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions: Children in Poverty are 4X more likely to be prescribed an antipsychotic. Our brains degrade over time when our disassociated parts are not re-associated through mental hygiene practices and various treatments. Alan Watts- Meditations on Letting Go https://open.spotify.com/episode/4XNyPjRUl1L3eKUTUaDFgL?si=e2d43e3dbab64994 White Buffalo-Wish It Were True https://open.spotify.com/track/1TSCUaX1XkklmuxpuPUxyR?si=8d4422295c5a4869 https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com

This episode drops into the conversation about mental health and why it is on everyone's mind. What's it about: What is the cause of overdiagnosis, over analyzation, and under-happiness of the US population? How to stop yourself from getting pulled into armchair experts or even your friend's labeling of themselves in medical-speak? How can we empathize with ourselves, our traumatic experiences, and the struggle we have with our family and friends? How will the listener benefit: Learn why the medical systems allow for random diagnosis of patients that may or may not have been vetted or reviewed. Learn why so many people degrade in mental health function over time despite not technically having PTSD or a formal diagnosis. Learn how families perpetuate trauma accidentally from one generation to the next. Key Talking Points, Key Stories, Key Questions: As much as 35% of the US population admits to some form of childhood trauma that is not classified as abuse or criminal neglect. Developmental Trauma Disorder affects the brain development of as much as 40% of the middle class according to a 2011 Kaiser Permanente Study. https://milessalisburylpc.com https://www.joshsabraw.com Rhonda Patrick's Found My Fitness Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/5QjpaU0o1Q2MkVZwwG3y7d?si=c5d93b9f0431406b Bad Religion Sorrow https://open.spotify.com/track/5KiS8SFnu21xI74mHgfZ3D?si=da03f1cb30fe47f5