Not Perfect But Thriving

This is a small SOS for anyone who becomes the emotional peacekeeper in their family at Christmas. If you absorb the tension in the room, manage everyone’s moods or feel responsible for the atmosphere, this episode offers a few gentle anchors to help you stay more centred.In this episode, we explore:Why peacekeeping often feels like “safety” to our nervous systemChoosing one thing you’re not responsible for this yearThe power of tiny, quiet breaks away from the roomAsking: “Is this my job?” – and letting yourself put some of it downLinks & resources:A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset AudioRe-Centre: A New Year Gathering

If you love Christmas in theory – the lights, the cosy moments, the magic – but find yourself completely burnt out trying to make it perfect for everyone else, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to gently scale back, choose what really matters, and let some things go.In this episode, we explore:How “creating magic” quietly becomes a full-time invisible jobChoosing your “Magic Big Three” – and letting the rest be optionalHow to soften all-or-nothing thinking around traditionsWhy magic is about warmth and presence, not perfectionLinks & resources:Free A Centred Christmas workbook + reset audioRe-Centre: A New Year Gathering (gentle New Year reset)

You’ve thought ahead, bought thoughtful gifts, carried the mental load and made the moments… and then the effort doesn’t seem to come back to you. In this episode, we talk about the quiet sting of feeling unappreciated at Christmas and how to tend to yourself when the emotional labour feels very one-sided.In this episode, we explore:Why it hurts so much when your effort isn’t reciprocatedHow Christmas highlights long-standing patterns of emotional labourNaming what you wish someone would do for you (without shame)Matching expectations to reality – and why that’s an act of self-protectionOne small way you can give to yourself this seasonLinks & resources:A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset AudioRe-Centre: A New Year Gathering

If your December is packed with events, gatherings, school things, work drinks and favours – and you feel guilty even thinking about saying no – this episode is a soft invitation to breathe. We’ll explore how to gently reclaim a bit of space, even if you’re not ready for big boundaries yet.In this episode, we explore:Why December is “peak people-pleasing season”How to gently sort your commitments into must / maybe / noOne small, safe “no” you can practice without guiltWhy buffer days are essential for your nervous systemThe simple question: “Would I choose this if guilt wasn’t involved?”Links & resources:⁠A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset Audio⁠⁠Re-Centre: A New Year Gathering (gentle January reset)⁠

If hosting turns you into a frazzled, snappy, over-tidying version of yourself, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. We’ll talk about why hosting can be so activating for recovering people-pleasers, how childhood messages about “a good home” show up, and how to create warmth and welcome without sacrificing your well-being.In this episode, we explore:Why hosting so often triggers perfectionism, panic-cleaning and performanceThe difference between welcoming people in and performing for themA simple “good enough” approach to preparing your spaceTiny acts of hospitality that come from love, not pressureLetting something stay imperfect on purpose (as a quiet act of rebellion)Links & resources:A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset AudioRe-Centre: A New Year Gathering (gentle January reset)

If your bank account is already feeling the strain and it’s only early December (but you just CAN'T scale it back), this episode is for you. We’ll unpack why overspending at Christmas is often less about money and more about people-pleasing, perfectionism and wanting everyone to feel loved - and how to gently start shifting that, without shame.In this episode, we explore:Why overspending at Christmas is usually an emotional/nervous-system strategy, not a budgeting failureThe difference between a “pressure gift” and a “good enough gift”How to pause before buying without feeling deprivedTiny ways to scale back that still feel generous and thoughtfulWhy simplifying your giving is actually an act of self-trustLinks & resources:Download the free A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset AudioWant a gentler start to the new year? Join Re-Centre: A New Year Gathering

In this episode, I chat about what to do when you repeatedly find people around you disrespecting your time. ⁠⁠For more 👇🏻 To book your FREE 30 minute discovery call: https://calendly.com/helenbryer Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about how going inward when we have a strong reaction to something is key, and why these situations are such a gift in our people-pleasing recovery. DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING HERE ⁠⁠For more 👇🏻 To book your FREE 30 minute discovery call: https://calendly.com/helenbryer Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about how we're entitled to feel disappointed or frustrated when we're not feeling seen, appreciated and loved... but about how it's also an opportunity to get curious about what's going on and how we might be contributing to the situation! ⁠⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat all about how I moved from being aware but unable to stop the automated patterns, to a place of (more often) having a choice of how to respond. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat all about how people-pleasing has affected my relationship (now marriage), including the shifts that have occurred since I've started to release people-pleasing. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about how the idea that people-pleasing is inherently linked with our personality is a myth, as well as how this can hold us back from releasing it. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat all about the five things I would do for the next 4 weeks if I wanted to start finally releasing people-pleasing. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat all about tapping (EFT), how it’s changed my life, how I use it (and use it with clients), as well as talking about an exciting announcement: DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE! For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat all about personal power versus victim mentality and why it's important to move from being 'at effect' of a problem to being 'at cause'. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about why people-pleasing can cause resentment and is linked with defensiveness (as well as my experiences of both), before sharing how I would start working on those things. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about overthinking and how it shows up. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about three ways my mindset has shifted from having a minor surgery. Youtube Channel mentioned coming soon! For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about my approach to new years resolutions and goal setting for those feeling conflicted or under pressure to set goals at this time of year. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

This episode is for if you’re had a rough Christmas. I talk about some of the ways people-pleasing habits can affect us during the holidays and cause us to struggle, as well as where to go from here. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover some of the ways in which people-pleasing might be affecting your relationship with money and spending habits. Is people-pleasing making you overspend? For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about the 5 key signs I see in my clients (and myself!) that tell me we’re READY to receive support and make some changes. I also talk about some of the reasons why we might not want to ask for help. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about the last 4 weeks and how I’ve navigated a rough patch without falling back into past “all or nothing” patterns. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about what embodiment means and how to finally start implementing what you’re learning to make those tangible shifts in your life. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about my thoughts about managing the run up to Christmas and Christmas itself when you're struggling with people-pleasing, as well as the one question I use to guide me throughout the holidays. For more 👇🏻 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I talk all about the ways in which people pleasing is unhelpful in both existing and new relationships. For more 👇🏻 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I talk about some of the main ways people-pleasing patterns can show up in day to day life. I also share my number one tip for starting to work on breaking free from people-pleasing. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I share my story with people-pleasing, how it affected me and how I started to discover ways to break free from this pattern. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I guide you through a grounding meditation/visualisation intended to bring you a moment of peaceful connection with yourself. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover: ✨ What limiting beliefs are and how they hold us back ✨ An exercise you can use to start identifying and rewiring a limiting belief you hold For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover: ✨ My personal development journey over the past 5 years ✨ The impact this work has on my parenting and why I believe coaching and personal development to be so powerful for parents For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover: ✨ Why gratitude practices work ✨ The fine line between gratitude and toxic positivity and how practising gratitude can therefore become problematic ✨ How to incorporate gratitude practices into your regular routines in a more helpful way For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

Are you seeing results and achieving your goals, or are you finding reasons why you're not? Don't worry - of course, it's much more nuanced than that! But in today's episode, I talk about the when/then game and how we often use it to postpone our happiness to a future time, as well as what I think we should be doing instead. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat honestly about my experiences of friendships as a mum, including friendship break-ups/fadeaways and how people-pleasing tendencies showed up for me. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover: ✨ Why grounding is key when it comes to dealing with overwhelm ✨ My 6 favourite strategies for streamlining life to create more balance For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover: ✨ How learning to process my feelings in more helpful ways has changed things for me ✨ Why I think it’s so important to have a healthy relationship with our feelings ✨ The steps I now take to move through my feelings For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I cover: ✨ What all or nothing thinking means ✨ Why it's so unhelpful ✨ How it's showed up in my own life and how it was reignited by becoming a mum ✨How to start letting go of it For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

This is an introductory episode, where Helen talks about: Her thoughts behind the name of the podcast Why it's taken her over two years to start it What the podcast will be about Find out more about Helen and her work on Instagram www.instagram.com/helen.bryer or on her website www.helenbryer.com.