Not So Nice Girl

It’s Nat’s birthday, and she will cry if she wants to!!! But...hopefully, she doesn’t need to this year because we are breaking out of our nice girl behavior!  Today is a special solo birthday episode where Natalie talks about birthdays and getting older and how people pleasing can quickly turn your special day into a big event where everyone BUT you has fun. BUT NO MORE! Natalie will talk about her new strategy for birthdays and outlook on aging to remember that putting yourself first and granting yourself grace with each passing year is the best possible way to celebrate. Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Hi, Barbie!! In this solo episode, Natalie discusses Greta Gerwig’s Hollywood Masterpiece, Barbie, its social impact on people of all ages, and the difficulty of living up to the expectations women have to live up to in the real world. She shares her own struggles grappling with comparison culture and positive self-image. Natalie also unpacks the numerous systemic issues explained in America Ferrera’s iconic monologue  Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault 18:38-19:42 If you or someone you know has been affected by Sexual Assault, please see one of the below resources: https://www.rainn.org/resources Call National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: @notsonicegirlpod TikTok: @notsonicegirlpod References for additional information: Eagty, A. H., & Makhijani, M. G. (n.d.). Gender and the Evaluation of Leaders: A Meta-Analysis. Murray, G., Judd, F., Jackson, H., Fraser, C., Komiti, A., Pattison, P., Wearing, A., & Robins, G. (2008). Big boys don’t cry: An investigation of stoicism and its mental health outcomes. Personality and Individual Differences, 44(6), 1369–1381. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2007.12.005 Barbie. Directed by Greta Gerwig, performances by Margot Robbie and America Ferrera, Warner Brothers, 2023. Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.  

Natalie is joined by her cousin(!!) Sarah Prazmark on the podcast this week to discuss the development of personal identity and carving your own path in your twenties. She hashes out the importance of identifying personal desires and vocalizing them. Sarah speaks on her journey to sobriety, self-acceptance, and embracing her intuition. It's a family affair this week, and we cannot wait for you to join in on the conversation! Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: @notsonicegirlpod TikTok: @notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

This week is a mini and unedited episode with Natalie. She is providing a short update on her grieving process and reminding herself and her listeners of the importance to take a break and BREATHE. The “episode” is a thank you to her listeners and hopefully a good example for others to grant yourself grace this holiday season. Tune in to listen and, as always, talk to you all soon :) Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Natalie and Judy are BACK at it! In the second half of this two-parter episode, Natalie and Judy continue their conversation on life after the label of “Nice Girl” and how they have each managed to find their most authentic and true identity. This episode delves into the world of psychology and identity formation while also taking some stops along the way about Natalie and Judy’s own reflection on their “Nice Girl” behaviors through the years. Strap in for another amazing episode!  Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod

Natalie is joined by Judy this week to chat about the turmoil that comes from identity formation. As two people pleasers, we talk about our need to serve others in friendships and families - sometimes (most times) in sacrifice of our own wants and needs. In this episode, Judy and Natalie talk about their shared experience breaking free from other people's expectations of her and creating her own path to self-preservation. Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

In another solo episode, Natalie makes her case–backed by science and personal experience–against New Year's Resolutions and other “compensatory” fads that take over the month of January. From the vague goals we feel pressured to make to “Dry January” to the new “75 Hard” and all other crash diets and “cure-alls” the world loves to push on us into the New Year, Natalie will break them down piece by piece to help you find a healthy balance. All in all, reminding you that New Year can bring new beginnings and a step away from old bad habits, but we must be mindful our attention is in the right direction. Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Long time no talk Not So Nice Girls!! In today’s solo episode, Natalie updates you on everything from her first holiday without her Dad to her very exciting ENGAGEMENT! From this experience, she is learning the ~magic~ of allowing herself to embrace positive and negative emotions. She will share with you the importance of granting yourself permission to turn the volume down on negative emotions every so often to make room for positive moments to shine.  Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Trigger warning: this episode will contain vague discussion of managing eating disorders, please listen with caution. If it’s too much right now, feel free to skip to the next! Ahhh the holidays!!! We love them and we hate them all wrapped in one. Though a Christmas aficionado herself, Natalie recounts her own struggles with the holidays from navigating the chaos of her family to her first holiday without her dad and how her eating disorder impacted her during the holidays. Throughout this episode, she will share her own tips and tricks that helps her get through the holidays when uncalled for comments are made or she gets a bit too overwhelmed. The holidays are meant to be FUN! And Natalie, the holiday elf, is here to help! Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Today Natalie is joined once again by her dear friend Cat Davis, and they are talking a big big topic: toxic positivity. We have all heard it, but what does it really mean and how can this really impact people in practice? Natalie and Cat both share personal tales about how toxic positivity has impacted their lives…particularly as “nice girls” and help open up the discussion of the pros and cons of toxic positivity in everyday life. We’re in for a big one today and even a multi-parter!! Tune in to listen and, as always, talk to you all soon :) Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

This week Natalie continues her discussions about living in a “fantasy” by sharing her experience and the psychology behind a people pleaser’s propensity to romanticize and give significant others and/or friends the benefit of the doubt…when mayyyybe they don’t deserve it. Inspired by the new Taylor Swift *vault track* “Say Don’t Go,” Natalie will help you let go of people who are not living up to the pedestal you have put them on.  Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

In today’s episode, Natalie discusses the psychology behind “Delulu Girls” and “Celebrity Worship Syndrome”, and her findings may not be what you expect! Mixing in her personal experience as a daydreamer with research, Natalie explains the use of delusions and celebrities/TV/movie obsessions as a way of escapism and at what point those coping skills become more detrimental than useful.  Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

This week Natalie returns from a two week hiatus with an emotional episode. In her attempt to process the recent loss of her father to cancer, she discusses her father’s life and legacy. Though she could go on and on about all the qualities she admires about her father, there is one potent lesson he taught her that she would like to share with her fellow “nice girls” and any people pleasers: Chasing your happiness does not have to mean you are taking away from anyone else. Hug your loved ones extra tight today and tell them you love them ♥ Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: @notsonicegirlpod TikTok: @notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

We know you loved hearing from Sarah Prazmark on last week's pod, so don't worry because she's back for today's episode! This week, hear Natalie and Sarah discuss narcissism in relationships - both romantic and friendships. They answer questions such as, "What does it look like to have a narcissist friend?" and "How does this affect relationship conflicts?" Unfortunately, many of us have experienced this, so they'll be talking from personal experiences and pulling from the literature. Prep yourself for screaming, "YES! My ex-boyfriend did that!" into your phone. Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.  Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Yes! You heard that right! Not So Nice Girl has a new intro theme song!   Today, Natalie is joined by a close friend from college and budding singer/songwriter and musician Paige Keiner. In this episode, Natalie and Paige will talk about how Paige got into the music industry and her evolution from writing poems and jotting down lyrics in her bedroom at thirteen to performing on stage in Nashville and touring around the country. Even though Paige may make it seem effortless, she discusses that it was anything but. People are quick to judge other’s dreams and try to tear you down, but as Paige perfectly exemplifies, holding onto the magic and supportive community around you is crucial for living a full life. Paige discusses her journey of finding her voice both on and off the stage!   This episode is for my fellow dreamers out there. It goes beyond the music industry into the realm of simply trusting your keen intuition. If you have a passion, go for it. Take the risk and sit in the discomfort because the reward is worth it. Whether it’s your own self-doubt, perfectionism, or other people’s opinions that have kept you from living your most authentic life, Paige will inspire you to trust yourself to know what, in your core, makes you, YOU!   Please check out Paige Keiner anywhere you stream music as well 😊   Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure.   Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.   Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ Twitter: @notnicepod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Today Natalie is joined by her friend and special guest, Marissa Sperry, who recently quit a high-level corporate job when the work environment became so toxic that she had both mental and physical negative adverse effects. Natalie is not immune to toxic workplace environments either, and the two discuss how the bubble of positivity surrounding “women in the workplace” shattered when they entered the workforce. Having been out of the abusive environments for multiple months now, Marissa shares what helped her remove the shame she felt when quitting and replacing it with positivity and light as she regained a hold on her mental and physical well-being. Throughout the episode, as always, Natalie will be providing some of her most infuriating yet, insightful research about generational differences and the unique harmful position this places Millennials and “Cuspers” under.   Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure.   Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms.   Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ Twitter: @notnicepod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Have you ever had a friend break up? Maybe you’re reconsidering some of your childhood friendships. Or…maybe you are hurting from a distancing friend.   THIS is the episode for you. Today we talk all about the nature of friendships and what makes them so uniquely necessary…and uniquely hurtful when they end. We will also talk about the lifespan and changes in friendships as you age. And last but certainly not least, we’ll dive into my self-proclaimed “5 Types of Friends”: 1.     Bloodsucker 2.    Drainer 3.    Filler 4.    Shooting Star 5.    Rock   Hopefully, you will leave this episode thinking through your friendships, which ones serve you, and…. maybe which ones don’t anymore.    Time to take charge and chat this out!!! Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ Twitter: @notnicepod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Starting off my guest features with a bang!! My friend Cat Davis discusses her journey fighting for her childhood Bipolar I Disorder diagnosis, and we will both discuss the challenges we faced as we were understanding and establishing our narrative and life story. Cat will be a regular guest, and we will touch on labels, the pros and cons of labels, and the common theme of negative bias toward mental health. Not everyone will love or accept your story, but Cat is a prime example of how important it is to embrace and advocate for your mental health to live a healthy and authentic life! TRIGGER WARNING: There will be discussion of self-harm/suicidal ideation. Please use these timestamps to skip through mentions of these triggering topics as you listen. Self-harm/Suicide -> 6:50-7:00 Suicide -> 8:45-8:50 Anorexia -> 30:02-30:15 Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow us on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ TikTok: ⁠@notsonicegirlpod⁠ Twitter: @notnicepod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.

Episode 1: Taking Back Control - Embracing Authenticity Welcome to the very first episode of Not So Nice Girl! In this episode, you will get an introduction to your host along this crazy ride---me, Natalie Volpicelli! In this show I will delve into my struggles with being a "nice girl" and the impact it had on my life. Through candid and vulnerable storytelling with a sprinkle of research-based facts we will laugh and maybe even cry as we tackle some very real and pressing issues that face not only women but generations of people who were told to adjust who they are to appease those around them. This podcast is all about empowering you to live a life genuine to who you are. I will share inspiring stories, invite guests from all walks of life, and engage with listeners to explore the power of authenticity and self-empowerment. I am so excited to embark on this transformative journey together as we discover the strength in vulnerability and the freedom that comes from being true to ourselves. Tune in to Not So Nice Girl and join the movement of genuine living and living life as a Main Character! Remember to subscribe, share, and leave a review to help us spread the message of empowerment far and wide. We can't wait to connect with you on this life-changing adventure. Not So Nice Girl is available on all major podcast platforms. Follow on social media to stay updated on upcoming episodes and connect with our community: Instagram: @notsonicegirlpod TikTok: @notsonicegirlpod Twitter: @notnicepod Note: All opinions stated in this episode are wholly my own and do not represent any other administrative body.