OTC

The more education you have - the less likely you are to bully someone!  Join Lauren & Lili as we embark on a profound journey diving into the realm of hurtful comments and online negativity. Together, Lauren & Lili uncover the origins of bullying driven by ignorance and fear, shedding light on the pivotal role of education. Our conversation takes a thought-provoking turn as Lauren & Lili explore the significance of continuous education and the dangers of narrow-mindedness. Through personal stories and reflections, they emphasize the transformative power of exposure to diverse perspectives in shaping individual worldviews. Delving deeper, Lauren & Lili examine the roots of bullying behavior and the influence of passed down beliefs. They chat about how our old fears of differences have morphed into modern-day concerns, especially when it comes to gender diversity. Lauren & Lili find hope in the positive shifts driven by the younger generations, Gen Z and Gen Alpha. They highlight the importance of accountability, resilience, and effective strategies for managing and reporting harmful behavior, ultimately striving towards a more inclusive and compassionate landscape. What we cover: Importance of Education and Diverse Perspectives Understanding Loyalty and Overcoming Ignorance Generational Shift Towards Positive Change

Here in America, work hours are grueling and job satisfaction is often a luxury. Delve into the delicate balance between a healthy work ethic and the perilous allure of workaholism. Together, Lauren & Lili explore the quest for equilibrium between savoring life’s pleasures and fulfilling professional obligations.  Tune in as Lauren & Lili delve into the process of aligning personal values with career choices and the toll exacted by a misalignment on overall well-being. They shed light on the challenges of finding fulfillment in a society where work hours are grueling and job satisfaction is often a luxury. Their conversation candidly addresses the hurdles of layoffs, the pursuit of meaningful employment, and the profound impact of personal values, such as the quest for financial stability.  As the discussion unfolds, they confront systemic issues plaguing our societal infrastructure, from the affordability crisis in housing to the suffocating cycle of debt, prompting reflection on how these barriers stifle our capacity to dream and flourish. What we cover  Navigating Work, Balance, and Growth Finding Fulfillment in Occupational Choices  Balancing Work and Life Challenges Navigating Unpredicted Financial StressorsYou can follow us on Instagram here

Why do we say and do certain things? Because it has been positively reinforced in the past!  Join Lauren & Lili  this week as we dive deep into the intricate world of relationships, communication, and personal growth. Through candid storytelling and introspective reflections, we explore the journey towards healthier connections, both with others and ourselves. Lauren & Lili bring up pivotal moments that have shaped our communication styles and relationship dynamics, from navigating canceling plans to confronting fears of commitment. Throughout the episode, we examine the power of language, context, and respect in shaping the quality of our connections. We ponder societal shifts in acceptable behavior over time and the lasting impact of casual disrespect. Our actions and words often stem from past positive reinforcement. Additionally, we delve into the importance of setting boundaries and offering feedback, highlighting the concepts of rupture and repair in maintaining healthy relationships. Join us as we unpack these themes and more, offering insights and reflections to inspire greater self-awareness and mindfulness in all our relationships. What we cover  Impact of Unhealthy Relationships Understanding Relationship communication Patterns Managing Aggressive Behavior in Relationships  Feedback and Judgment in Relationships  You can follow us on Instagram here

“Wanna Fuck?” - a first time online dating message all too familiar  Dating has come a far far way to what it is in 2024.  Ever encountered the displeasing of dating apps like getting your first message of “wanna fuck” and wondered how to navigate it with grace and confidence?  This episode Lili and Lauren dive into the troubling encounters in the world of dating apps. They share candid stories about the disrespect and boundary violations that are sadly all too common, from unsolicited explicit photos to aggressive messages, and the gaslighting that often ensues when women stand their ground.  Our conversation takes a critical look at the societal pressures and entitlement that may feed these behaviors, providing listeners with insights on how to handle such situations or to walk away with self respect.  Join us on a thought-provoking journey through the cultural expectations of femininity and masculinity in dating. What we cover: Women and Men's Dating Concerns Understanding Audience Reception and Cultural Context  Exploring Gender Norms and Stereotypes  Dating Norms and Gender Expectations  Understanding Men's Perspective on dating

On today's episode, Lauren and Lili discuss the dialectics of joy.

On today's episode, Lauren and Lili discuss social norms and rules through the lens of their own experiences.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss differing reactions to stress and crises.

On today's episode, Lauren and Lili continue their discussion of the healthcare system.

Join Lili and Lauren while they use therapeutic skills while discussing the frustrations of our medical industry and out health care system.

On today's episode, Lauren and Lili continue their discussion of difficult conversations. This time, they discuss walking the middle path in their relationships.

On today’s episode, Lili and Lauren discuss how to have difficult conversations using a variety of dialectical behavior therapy skills.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren take a break from the day and model distracting from high intensity emotions.

Today's episode is the seasons finale of the first season of OTCC. Lauren and Lili have an updated discussion about boundaries and highlight moments where they may have forgotten to continue to maintain their boundaries.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss how to manage feelings of boredom without engaging in target behaviors.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss the loneliness of relationship driven holidays (e.g., Valentine's Day) and their own fumbles with trying to manage loneliness in different moments in their lives.

This episode is dedicated to Lili’s amazing Sister-in-law and friend… te Quiero mucho mi hermosa mariposa azul

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss managing their work/life/self balance.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss their experiences with lying and attempts at being more truthful.

On today's episode, Lauren and Lili describe what validation is and what it isn't.

On today's episode, Lauren and Lili describe their values, how their values have evolved over the course of time, and examples of values-based actions.

On today’s episode, Lauren and Lili discuss how they navigate transitioning between people, places, and other environmental contexts.

On today's episode, Lili shares from her own experience navigating financial pressure and work transitions. Lauren and Lili discuss the role of self-doubt and fear in exacerbating stress in these moments.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss the concept of gratitude and how they increase mindfulness of the things they are grateful for in their own lives.

On today’s episode, Lili and Lauren discuss stress and overwhelm in the context of the upcoming December holidays. Lili and Lauren weave in their own experiences as they identify strategies to make things better and hopefully not worse.

On today’s episode, Lauren and Lili discuss their own experiences navigating their urges to avoid and strategies to avoid avoiding.

During this episode, Lili and Lauren recap the assumptions they have made and how their assumptions impact their daily lives. Through acknowledging their own fallibility, Lili and Lauren begin their journey towards reducing their assumptions and judgments.

On today's episode, Lili and Lauren discuss the other side of acceptance...change. They discuss the process of effectuating desired change across situations and contexts.

On today's episode, Lauren and Lila discuss their own journey towards acceptance and the non-acceptance behaviors that they engaged in along the way.

In this episode, Lili and Lauren talk about what everyone experiences and yet don't really understand how to not be judgemental of, insecurities. Enjoy the discussion of their insecurities in life, how they navigate the topic of insecurities in their sessions, and how they coach their clients and themselves to navigate insecurities without allowing them to affect day-to-day living.

In this mini-episode, Lili and Lauren talk about how they found themselves as licensed clinicians, what paths they took to get to where they are today, and a bit about their current practices and the specifics of who they work with. Lili and Lauren met each other in 2014 as associate DBT therapists at Clearview Outpatient programs in Westwood CA and have been having off-the-clock conversations since.

In this episode, Lili and Lauren go into discussing the importance of boundaries, what boundaries are in the field of therapy between clients and therapists, and how and why therapists can lack boundaries and extend their limits, while also providing personal examples to explain and normalize how boundaries can look in everyone's day to day life, the discomforts boundaries can create for us and others, the tension they can cause and the understanding that all the struggle and tension is for the purpose of change in a positive way for you and your loved ones.