Peeling the Onion

In today’s episode hosts Julia Rogers and Angela Quiñones share their thoughts on “feel the fear and do it anyway”. Fear as a primal instinct, was used for survival, nowadays it is used to name any emotion that brings discomfort and it should not be misused as it can be dangerous and reckless to use it lightly. They talk about: Fear as a primitive emotionThe difference between fear, discomfort, anxiety, vulnerabilityPutting fear in the same box as other emotions may not allow personal growthLearn to describe what you are feeling with different words. Here are the highlights of this episode:01:05 Fear as the most primitive emotion, evolved for survival.02:53 Fear is there to tell you there is danger ahead.03:32 But is it actually fear or is it something else?04:36 We can't make an informed choice about what we do because we're just blindly leaping in and doing it anyway.05:07 Putting everything in the same box does not allow us to perceive danger or maybe grow.06:03 Learn to describe what you are feeling to know what to do next.07:18 Standing on a cliff and jumping without assessing risks?09:15 People need to name the emotion and the feelings for what they are. 12:50 Name the emotion or the feeling using different words (expand your vocabulary)14:49 The internal narrative may tell us to do something we shouldn't15:23 Try not to confuse the emotions 16:40 Take your time to pause, to reflect, and to feel your emotions.

In today’s episode hosts Julia Rogers and Angela Quiñones share their thoughts on “purpose” : find your purpose, live your purpose. By definition purpose is the reason for which something or someone exists, is done or is created. But purpose can also be as simple or as meaningful as you’d like.They talk about: Meaning of purpose by definitionWho are you if you have no purpose? Purpose can and may be dynamic and change overtimePurpose can be as simple or and meaningful as you’d likeBeing ok with who you are and not necessarily trying to save othersHere are the highlights of this episode:1:02 Meaning of purpose by definition 1:38 My purpose is to be ok with my decisions and the things that I do. 2:09 Not everything needs to make everyone happy all the time2:38 Finding purpose could create an awful lot of pressure on some3:05 Who am I If I don’t know what my purpose is?4:03 Doing purposeful things to please others and feel accomplished5:56 Does not need to be meaningful to other people nor huge6:03 Finding purpose and validation7:10 Purpose now can be different from what it was 10 years ago, 7:41 Purpose is dynamic 8:50 Maybe you don’t need to find your purpose right now9:56 I am better because I have a purpose and you don’t?10:52 Is it mandatory to have a purpose in life to be successful? 11:40 Purpose does not have to be grandiose 13:51 Purpose could be seen as aims or goals for different stages in your life

In today’s episode hosts Julia and Angela discuss the phrase "neurodiversity is a superpower" and the implications it can have for individuals with neurodiversity and encourage listeners to share their own perspectives and experiences, and to engage on LinkedIn post in a deeper discussion about the complexities and nuances of the "neurodiversity is a superpower" narrative.They talk about:"Neurodiversity is a superpower".Struggles and challenges individuals with neurodiversity face.Managing the anxiety of neurotypical and neurodiverse people.Validating the lived experiences of those with neurodiversityLack of real inclusion and diversity initiatives(01:07) Negating the struggles(01:47) We are all in the spectrum… no we are really not(02:17) Who came up with “neurodiversity is a superpower”, a neurodiverse or a neurotypical?(04:23) As neurodiverse I do feel judged and not accepted(05:43) “Neurodiversity is a superpower" can be an attempt to manage anxiety(06:16) Glossing over things, is never going to help people(07:14) Masking: coping behaviours to fit in and be accepted(07:52) Constantly masking can be hurtful.(08:37) The responsibility of having to be less(09:08) Is there really inclusion in companies and schools?(10:40) Nuances of neurodiversity(13:13) Invitation to share how do you feel about this phrase as neurodiverse adult or parent

Today Julia and Angela deconstruct “Always think/be positive” and share how positivity can be helpful, but forcing positivity can invalidate human emotions and prevents honest relationships, personal growth, and can build a sense of frustration or wrong doing. Healthy emotional life requires accepting all emotions.They talk about:1. Constant positivity is psychologically unrealistic2. The Pressure to stay always positive invalidates other emotions3. Emotions as data4. Suppressing emotions prevents awareness of problems that need change.5. Toxic positivity blocks authentic relationships.Here are the highlights for this episode:(02:22) Constant positivity is physically impossible(03:02) Pressure to stay positive at all costs invalidates other emotions(04:34) Emotions are data.(05:09) Children need to express and live with their emotions safely.(05:59) Learning how to express emotions and not be frighten of them.(07:26) Other emotions may allow you to see things thart need changing.(08:29) Staying positive all the time makes you avoid real issues that might need adressing.(10:06) We can not hide behind constant positivity just to avoid, conflict, difficult converstions and reality.(10:37) Staying always positive may not allow you to have real relationships(12:04) Pause and reflect about your feelings and emotions about different situations and peopleConnect with Angela and Julia

We have all read motivational statements on social media and pop psychology, but what happens when that statement actually negatively impacts our mental health and wellbeing?The hosts, Julia Rogers and Angela Quinones, challenge the common belief that if you keep working hard on something, it will eventually work out. They share personal experiences where instead this led to frustration and sense of not feeling enough. Instead suggest to keep goals and effort realistic, pivot goals when necessary and find the right support when things are not working the way we expected.(01:11) Exploring the notion that "If You Keep Working on It, It Has to Work"(03:53) Sometimes it is better to rearrange what you’re doing to make it work.(04:40) Sense of frustration. Stop-Refllect.(06:09) The Importance of Thoughts, Reflection, Consideration and Analytical Skills(07:53) Question yourself, without sabotaging(07:58) The need for balance between hard work and realistic expectations through reflection and critical thinking.(08:25) Realign and Pivot Goals if you need to(10:50) Realism vs Unrealistic Dreams(12:25) Awareness