Remix your Marriage Podcast

Send a textIn this episode we talk about finding out how close Brittany was to us throughout her childhood and teenage years. And we crossed paths with her mother numerous times and she never said a thing. Brittanys immediate family was not happy that she reached out to us! Thankfully we have gotten to know the rest of her family, Her Grandma and Grandpa, her Uncle and Aunts and a handful of others. They are all amazing!Support the [email protected]

Send a text December 2nd(or 1st), 1989—a day etched in memory, not just for us, but now for all who tune in. We are recording this episode on our 35th anniversary of when we knew we liked each other, lol!Our marriage story isn't just about love—it's about resilience and growth in the face of challenges and the path toward rebuilding trust. Overcoming obstacles has been central to our journey, and we continue to build stronger. In this episode Lyndan receives a Facebook message that would forever change not only his life, but our whole family! Its a girl! Listen as we walk you through the pain and recovery of this surprise and how something that could have torn us apart made us stronger!Support the [email protected]

Send a textOn this episode of "Remix Your Marriage", we reflect on key moments that have shaped our understanding of marital expectations and intimacy. Influential conversations, like one with Bec Smith, that taught us that consistency and full commitment are essential in both personal and professional realms. These lessons, interwoven with our candid insights into the intimate dynamics of marriage, underscore the importance of being open and understanding with your partner. By moving from blame and unmet expectations to shared responsibilities, we’ve found ways to rebuild our relationship on the foundations of mutual respect and Love.We also discuss the often complex themes of sex, guilt, and communication within marriage, drawing upon personal anecdotes to illustrate our evolution from obligation to genuine connection. Exploring the intricacies of love languages, we discuss how understanding and committing to acts of care can nurture a positive cycle of support. Through our personal narratives, we address the challenges of rebuilding trust after the affair, emphasizing the power of effective communication and emotional affirmation in strengthening relationships. Join us as we highlight the transformative impact of thoughtful gestures and the nuances of desire and intimacy in fostering a resilient and happy marriage.Help us grow by Becoming a supporter of the show! Click here :) Please leave us a 5 star rating and review!! It helps us keep going.Follow us on Instagram and Facebook Ask questions, leave comments or you can just lurk! Love you guys! Thank you for listening!!Support the [email protected]

Send a textToday we talk about Gary Smalley's "If Only He Knew" the book that helped save our marriage! In this episode we uncover how this book reshaped Lyndan's perspective on his wife and women, emphasizing the importance of understanding and respecting gender differences. Hear about a desperate husband who followed Gary's unconventional advice and saw his marriage flourish. Learn why proactive learning about each other’s needs, even before marriage, is key to fostering deeper connections and understanding.Our journey takes a heartfelt turn as we share how faith and new experiences brought hope back into our lives. Discover how friendships with Julianne and Derek positively influenced our family and how a visit to Mosaic Church in Hollywood became a pivotal moment for us. We also delve into the dynamics of spontaneity and compassion in marriage, discussing the importance of empathy, especially around PMS, and how open communication has strengthened our bond. Tune in to be inspired by our story of mutual respect, spontaneity, and the transformative power of understanding in relationships.We have no affiliation with this book but we highly recommend!Click here. IF ONLY HE KNEW by Gary SmalleyFind us on Instagram and FacebookPlease leave us a 5 star rating and a review! It really helps us to continue sharing our story with you and your spouse!Support the [email protected]

Send a textHave you ever found yourself in the middle of an argument, wondering if there's a better way to communicate? Tune into this episode of Remix Your Marriage, where we share our personal journey. This episode promises to provide you with tools to handle disagreements more effectively, focusing on communication, forgiveness, and growth as the cornerstones of a stronger, healthier marriage. Our journey from a challenging time to a place of deeper understanding and love offers hope and practical advice for any couple facing similar trials.Words can build bridges or burn them down, and understanding their power is crucial in any relationship. Lastly, we tackle the often-overlooked nuances of effective communication in relationships. We'll explore why using absolutes like "always" and "never" can escalate conflicts and how shifting the focus from blame to personal feelings can make a world of difference. Through our own stories, we illustrate the importance of choosing battles wisely and appreciating the small acts of love that strengthen our bond. Join us as we unpack these essential communication strategies, aiming to help you and your partner understand each other's needs and intentions better.Please leave us a 5 star review and a comment. We appreciate it!Follow us on Instagram and FacebookDm us any questions.Support the [email protected]

Send a textRebuilding trust after infidelity is tough, but it's one we faced head-on. Join us as we recount our personal experiences and share the powerful lessons we've learned along the way. You'll gain insights into the role of obedience in healing and the nuances of dealing with triggers and setbacks, which are a part of the process!Effective communication and mutual accountability are pillars in any marriage, but how do you achieve them? We share how holding in feelings can escalate conflicts, while smaller, honest conversations can prevent major blowouts. Our journey has involved overcoming deep-seated issues like seeking external validation and managing control dynamics. By focusing on self-improvement and owning our responsibilities, we’ve found that intentional time together, balanced with personal space, is crucial. Listen to our candid stories of what worked—and what didn’t—as we navigated the rocky path to a more resilient relationship.Ever wondered how self-love can transform your marriage? We delve into the emotional journey of overcoming past behaviors and the continuous effort required to rebuild a stronger bond. Through personal stories—like the infamous pair of short.  Join us in this heartfelt conversation, where we offer wisdom and practical advice to help you foster a stronger, more confident marriage.Please follow us on Instagram and Facebook for more stories and advice.Also, PLEASE leave us a 5 star rating and a review! We'd appreciate it!Support the [email protected]

Send a textSeventeen years ago, the fabric of our marriage was torn by an act of infidelity. Through this podcast, we share the intimate and often unspoken journey of rekindling the sexual and emotional connection that was threatened by this betrayal. We reflect candidly on the rollercoaster of emotions, from the false sense of repair in the aftermath of makeup sex to the genuine healing that arises through communication, faith, and laughter.Navigating the rough waters of a post-infidelity relationship, we peel back the curtain on the delicate dance of trust and vulnerability. Our experience has taught us that the path to recovery isn't always straight, and the complexities of emotional ties to intimacy differ for each partner. By sharing our own narrative, we aim to inspire open dialogue in your relationships, recognizing that it's not about assigning blame but about growing stronger together.We wrap up with a message that's part pep talk, part practical advice: "Remix Your Marriage" is more than just a catchy phrase; it's a call to action for all couples to share, listen, and laugh as a way of fostering connection and intimacy. Whether it's embracing the seemingly unromantic "scheduling sex" or finding solace in the shared experiences of friends, our discussion is an invitation to breathe new life into your partnership. Join us in discovering how vulnerability can become the catalyst for a reinvigorated, loving bond that thrives in the face of life's greatest challenges.Please follow our Instagram here @RemixYourMarriagePodand here on FacebookAnd a 5 star rating and review would be great!!Support the [email protected]

Send a textIn this episode we talk about how we allowed our circle to be to big. Letting in to many friends and family. We learned quickly the importance of keeping that circle tight with friends and family that you know you can trust.The ones that were there for us are still in our lives. The ones that used our story to gossip and spread rumors, thankfully are gone!Pay attention to those who are cheering for you and those who sit quietly.The 10 Day Challenge that has changed marriages! One of our favorite things to do together with our Remix Your Marriage community!10 Days of fun things to do together, for each other to Reignite the flames or to add fire to the flames that haven't stopped burning! This challenge is for all couples!Click here to get the FREE 10 day challenge PDF and get started!To Join our FREE Giveaway, make sure you are following us on instagram and look for the "Who referred you" photo for instructions! We are pulling for you!Get added to our RYM private group page on Facebook click here.Support the [email protected]

Send a textThis is the 10 Challenge that has changed marriages! One of our favorite things to do together with our Remix Your Marriage community!10 Days of fun things to do together, for each other to Reignite the flames or to add fire to the flames that haven't stopped burning! This challenge is for all couples!Click here to get the FREE 10 day challenge PDF and get started!To Join our FREE Giveaway, make sure you are following us on instagram and look for the "Who referred you" photo for instructions! We are pulling for you!Get added to our RYM private group page on Facebook click here.Support the [email protected]

Send a text In this episode we talk about reconnecting and trust-building after infidelity, where we don't just share our story, but also the essential steps we took to revive the love that once seemed lost. It's an intimate look at the shifts we endured to mend a bond that was frayed, as we candidly discuss the slow dance of rebuilding trust and rediscovering the tender rhythm of our relationship.We highlight the importance of personal growth and the intertwining paths that helped us emerge as better individuals and partners. Acknowledging that transformation often stems from within, we reveal how the book The 5 Love Languages helped fortified our bond, stressing that love is an action just as much as it is a feeling.  Listen as we share our blueprint for reconnecting  and having fun again.To get get the 5 Love Languages book we mention in the show, click here.5 Love Languages Please leave us a rating and review. We appreciate the feedback!Our Valentines Day Marriage challenge will be posted soon! So make sure to join us on social media!Follow us on instagram hereFacebook RYM page hereSupport the [email protected]

Send a textWe really did not like each other a lot during this process. I (Lyndan) had no right to be angry or mean which made me just want to give up. I am not the victim and I was struggling not to be the coward and run away!Vanessa struggled with feeling bad for me cause she knew I was sorry but also not liking me for betraying her trust. At times she wanted me by her side, laying next to her and other times she couldn't even look at me and questioned if staying together was worth it.In this episode we touch on 5 of the steps we took to rebuild this marriage into something we didnt think possible. Like the houses we mentioned in the last episode that were burned to the ground and 3 months later were rebuilt bigger, stronger and more beautiful. God showed us our marriage. Burned to the ground so he could rebuild it from scratch to this beautiful union!!Thank you so much for listening and if these episodes have been helpful please take the time and give us a 5 star review!! We need your help to keep going!And to Remix Your Marriage!!Questions please email us or Follow and DM us on our Instagram: @RemixYourMarriagePodSupport the [email protected]

Send a textIn this episode Vanessa shares her feelings of being lost and feeling like she had nothing. Feeling like she was just a mom and Lyndan's wife. As she is trying to heal she begins to seek validation from other men. This only causes things to get worse in our marriage. As she spends time with her mentor learning to forgive and grow, she has one foot in a dangerous place allowing flirty conversations with men to happen at her job. Listen and learn how we were able to keep growing, and forgiving as we worked on mending our marriage.If this episode or any episodes have been helpful, Please rate and review our Podcast. We need you to keep us going!Thank you!Support the [email protected]

Send a textAs we, Lyndan and Vanessa, lay bare the rawest edges of our marriage, we confront the shadows of infidelity and the long, often bumpy road to healing. Our heartfelt discussion offers a glimpse into the emotional aftermath that followed my (Lyndan's) confession of an affair, and how it forced us to face the music, leaning heavily on our faith and the wisdom of our church pastor. Marriage is not without its trials, and ours proved no exception as we grappled with the ramifications of broken trust and the sheer importance of communication. We walk you through the discovery, the confrontation, and the community support that surrounded us, spotlighting how our pastor's guidance and the strong bonds with friends helped us find our footing. There is so much more! Stay with us and I promise you will learn some valuable lessons from our mistakes. Our goal for you two is to Remix the old and have a brand new, more excited, more loving marriage!Please follow us on our instagram page, @RemixYourMarriagePodAsk us questions there or at [email protected], Please rate and review us! Those stars keep us going!We appreciate you for listening!Support the [email protected]

Send a textIn this episode Lyndan and Vanessa discuss the unreasonable expectations they had for one another when they first got married. Lyndan expected non stop passion in the bedroom, Vanessa expect a church going husband who prayed for strangers!  With little to no communication the stress of not receiving these unreal expections led to a destructive relation! Lyndan made some horrible choices, those choices almost led to divorce!We talk about things both of us could have and should have done differently and how that lack of communication could have been an easy fix if we were surrounded by the right people. Marriage can be fun and if you are going through some hard times, hang in there with us, it really can get better!Support the [email protected]

Send a textAs you learn more about our back story you will understand why we made so many bad decisions as teenagers that we carried into our marriage. In this episode we talk about the beginning of our relationship, the toxicity, drug use and an unexpected pregnancy.How we broke up then jumped into marriage way to soon.  No guidance, and no clue! We were two kids trying to raise a kid and we were destined to fail.Our goal with this podcast is to help you have a fun, exciting, loving, sexy marriage! To go over the mistakes we made and show you how to avoid them. To deeply understand each other, how to love each other and how to argue.We have a passion for marriage! So please hang out with us every week. If you have questions or comments please send them to [email protected] love our 5 star reviewers!! Thank you so much!! Keep them coming ;)Support the [email protected]

Send a textEver wondered how childhood experiences can shape your relationships and self-perception? Get ready to be part of an enriching conversation, as we, Vanessa and Lyndan, uncover the profound impact of childhood trauma, exploring deep-rooted stories that have played a significant role in our lives. Listen as Lyndan opens up about growing up without a father and how this absence took a toll on his relationships and shaped his perspective of self.The episode takes an interesting turn as we delve into the profound impact of representation and the influence it can have on a young person's psyche. Drawing from his personal experiences and insights from TV shows, Lyndan talks about how contrasting images of black children in media can shape perceptions. Lyndan shares a turning point from his childhood, making a decision to be a good father despite not having a positive role model. We also navigate the pressures of adolescence and the importance of communication.This episode is a testament to the power of open conversation and honesty, offering you a chance to reflect on your own experiences and understand the challenges that shape us. Join us on this journey as we share invaluable tips for strengthening relationships, all while having an honest, thought-provoking discussion.Thank you for listening!Help us grow by Becoming a supporter of the show! Click here :)Support the [email protected]

Send a textOn today's first episode, Vanessa shares part of her childhood story . The pain of growing up with parents that fought daily, losing her father at 13 and how that  effected her teenage years.  Please Subscribe! I know we are the first Podcast host to ask you that!Let us know if you have any questions or comments: [email protected] us grow by Becoming a supporter of the show! Click here :)Support the [email protected]

Send a textHave you ever felt like you were just "playing house" in your marriage? Like you were fumbling in the dark, trying to figure out what it meant to be a spouse, a parent, and an adult all at the same time? That's where we, Lyndan and Vanessa, found ourselves as high school sweethearts turned teenage parents. Join us as we peel back the layers of our messy, chaotic, yet ultimately rewarding journey in marriage. We'll delve into our pasts, exploring our upbringings, and the significant events that molded us into who we are today - a far cry from those two broken kids pretending to play the marriage game.Stay tuned, because we're going to be revealing a major event that rocked our marriage to its core in a future episode. We believe that by sharing our unique love story - with all its trials, tribulations, and victories - we can offer encouragement and inspiration to others struggling in their marriages. Whether you're on your first, second, or third marriage, we respect your story and we're here to tell ours. So, pull up a chair, fasten your seatbelt or go for walk and listen in as we embark on this journey, showing you that it's possible to Remix Your Marriage, to make mistakes, and to learn from them. Because in the end, it's not about perfection, but about embracing the messy realities of life.Take a chance and Please Subscribe! You can always unsubscribe later if we aren't a good fit. But we wouldn't recommend that ;)Support the [email protected]