Renovating the Soul

The ground can feel solid—until it isn’t. When mass layoffs hit the federal government, I lost the job I’d poured nearly five years into, right after earning my warrant and hitting a career stride that finally felt like mine. What followed wasn’t just a scramble for the next paycheck; it was a full-body pause to ask what kind of life I actually wanted to build. I walk through the shock, the one-week ultimatum, the grief over benefits and community, and the subtle ways “security” can keep you from the work your soul keeps whispering about.I share why I didn’t jump into another role, how endless scrolling on LinkedIn clarified what I wouldn’t do again, and the decision to chase a path I’ve wanted since I was young: returning to school. That choice meant facing a dreaded standardized test, buying the prep course, and admitting I couldn’t do it all at once. So I let the podcast breathe—not because it stopped mattering, but because foundations come first. We talk about capacity, identity, and the discipline of choosing one lever that makes everything else easier later. Along the way, you’ll hear about the human side of public service, the truth about change inside big systems, and the quiet power of a back catalog still serving new listeners.Most of all, this is a story about turning endings into beginnings—about gratitude arriving after anger, about discomfort becoming a daily practice, and about letting my kids see me start again with purpose. If you’ve ever been laid off, felt stuck at a “safe” job, or wondered how to navigate a major pivot with family, faith, and focus intact, you’ll find tools and encouragement here. Press play, then tell me: if security wasn’t the goal, what would you build next? Subscribe, share this with someone in a pivot, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway—we read every one.Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Have you ever refreshed your social media feed obsessively after posting something meaningful—as if your soul was waiting for permission to believe in itself?You’re not alone.This deeply personal exploration pulls back the curtain on how we’re slowly losing ourselves in the pursuit of visibility, engagement, and validation.What began as simple research into why we crave viral moments turned into something far more vulnerable. Social media hasn’t just changed how we communicate—it’s fundamentally altered how we value ourselves. We’ve created a world where performance masquerades as purpose, where metrics define our worth, and where we’re constantly asking: “Am I showing up as myself—or the version I think people want to see?”This isn’t just about being online too much. It’s about the quiet collapse of the soul—when visibility replaces validation, when presence is traded for performance, and when real connection is sacrificed for reach.In this episode, we unpack:Why visibility became our proof of worthThe difference between being seen and being knownThe trap of engagement metrics and algorithm-driven identityThe loneliness of being “connected” but never truly heldWhat it takes to reclaim your real voice, values, and presenceBecause being visible doesn’t equal being valuable. And going viral doesn’t mean you’ve been seen.This episode is not content strategy—it’s a rescue mission for the soul.So put down your phone. Look your people in the eye.Say “I love you” with presence instead of emoji hearts.Ask “how’s your soul?” instead of “did you see my post?”Your authenticity is still in there. And it’s worth more than all the likes in the world.Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

For a long time, I thought I needed closure to move on. I thought I needed that one final conversation, the apology, the explanation, the moment that would tie it all together and make it make sense.But what I’ve learned is that closure doesn’t always come. And even when it does… it doesn’t always heal.In this episode, I’m sharing the hard truths about closure—the ways we chase it, the reasons we cling to it, and the power we give away while waiting for it. Whether it’s a relationship, a friendship, or something you’ve been holding onto for years, I want to help you see that healing is still possible… even without a final word.We’ll talk about:Why closure is more about us than the other personThe difference between closure and clarityAnd why your healing doesn’t have to wait for someone else’s words and/or actionsIf you’ve ever felt stuck in the in-between—hoping for something that may never come—this episode is for you.What if you’re not stuck because of what they didn’t say…but because you haven’t stopped hoping they will?Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

We all want real, deep, meaningful friendships—but do we actually know what that looks like?Friendship isn’t just about funny memes, shared interests, or convenient connections—it’s about loyalty, depth, and showing up when it matters. So why do so many of us struggle to find real, lasting friendships?In this episode, we’re challenging everything you thought you knew about friendship, including:Why modern culture has redefined friendship—and not for the better.The hard truth about why making friends as an adult feels impossible.What history, philosophy, and psychology reveal about deep, meaningful connection.The difference between true friendships and surface-level bonds—and why both matter.How to stop settling for transactional relationships and build friendships that actually last.If you’ve ever wondered why friendship feels so complicated, or why you keep outgrowing people, this episode is for you. It’s time to rethink, redefine, and rebuild the friendships you truly deserve.Listen now and learn what it really means to be—and have—a true friend.Sources referenced in this episode:Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy - Entry on Friendship"How To Be a Friend" by Marcus Tullius CiceroText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

"Family is family." We’ve been told this our whole lives—that no matter what they’ve done, how they treat us, or how much pain they cause—we owe them: loyalty, forgiveness, and endless chances.But let’s be real—blood alone doesn’t make someone family.In this episode, we’re stripping away the lies we’ve been conditioned to believe. We’re confronting the guilt, the obligation, and the fear of walking away from relationships that do nothing but drain us. We’re exposing the romanticized version of family that keeps us holding on, waiting, hoping, convincing ourselves they'll change.But what if they never do?What if the love, safety, and support you’ve been waiting for isn’t tied to DNA—but to the people who actually show up for you?This is about breaking cycles of generational harm and rejecting the idea that we have to stay tied to people just because we share a bloodline. It’s about giving yourself permission to choose your family—the people who love you without conditions.​We’re tearing down the guilt.​We’re rebuilding with truth.​And we’re creating space for relationships that actually nourish us.So, let’s talk about it. Let’s challenge what we’ve been taught and start defining family on our own terms.If this episode shakes something in you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.Because you don’t owe anyone a place in your life just because of blood. And that truth? Might just set you free.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠@renovatingthesoul⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📺 Watch & Subscribe on YouTube:Prefer to watch? YouTube episodes drop the Friday after each release, subscribe and keep renovating with us: ⁠Subscribe⁠📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠📊 Vote in the Spotify Poll:I want to hear from you. Scroll down and answer the Spotify poll—have you ever felt obligated to keep a relationship with a family member, even when it was hurting you?Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Let’s face it—if you’re feeling stuck, there’s a good chance that someone in your life is either enabling your behavior or you’re enabling someone else. You might not see it at first, but enabling keeps both sides trapped in a cycle of dependency and avoidance.In this raw, unfiltered episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on how enabling works—whether you’re the one enabling someone’s bad habits or the one being held back from growth. This episode isn't just about the enablers around you—it's about the one you might be becoming, too. It’s time to call out the well-meaning, but toxic, behaviors that keep people stuck in a loop of fear, guilt, and complacency.For the enabler, it’s time to stop rescuing, stop making excuses, and start empowering others to stand on their own two feet. For the one being enabled, it’s time to stop relying on others to solve your problems and start owning your own growth. We’re diving deep into how to break the cycle from both sides, strip away the lies, and finally take responsibility for your own life.This episode isn’t about blame—it’s about breaking free from a pattern that’s keeping you from becoming who you’re meant to be. If you’re ready to confront the hard truths and rebuild something stronger, this is your wake-up call.Listen. Reflect. Break the cycle. It’s time to stop being held back by others—and to stop holding others back. Subscribe and let’s continue the work of renovating the soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠@renovatingthesoul⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📺 Watch & Subscribe on YouTube:Prefer to watch? YouTube episodes drop the Friday after each release, subscribe and keep renovating with us: ⁠Subscribe⁠📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠📊 Vote in the Spotify Poll:I want to hear from you. Scroll down and answer the Spotify poll—do you recognize enabling behaviors in your life?Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

For too long, the church has sheltered predators and silenced survivors. Behind pulpits, under the banner of faith, spiritual abusers have twisted scripture into a weapon, demanded loyalty over truth, and convinced people that obedience to them is obedience to God. In this episode, we expose how predators hide in plain sight, why the church protects them, and what it costs to break free. If you've ever experienced spiritual abuse in the church, felt trapped by religious trauma, or been made to believe that leaving a toxic church meant leaving God, you're not crazy. And you're not alone. Jesus flipped tables over religious corruption. Maybe it's time we start flipping some tables too.Listen now. And if this episode shakes something in you...maybe it's time to start asking the hard questions. Resources Book 1 - The Subtle Signs of Spiritual AbuseBook 2 - Churches that Abuse📢 Join the Conversation:This episode is heavy, but we need to talk about it. Head to my Instagram @renovatingthesoul and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📺 Watch & Subscribe on YouTube:Prefer to watch? YouTube episodes drop the Friday after each release, subscribe and keep renovating with us: Subscribe📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: renovatingthesoul.com📊 Vote in the Spotify Poll:I want to hear from you. Scroll down and answer the Spotify poll—what do YOU think keeps people silent about spiritual abuse?Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Your roots, what you believe, what you've been taught, what you've absorbed without ever questioning—are what make you who you are. The hard truth? If you don't dig deep and confront what's buried beneath the surface, you'll never be able to grow beyond your past. In this raw, unapologetic episode of Renovating the Soul, we pull back the layers and expose the uncomfortable truths hiding in your roots.What beliefs are you holding onto simply because they’ve always been there? What stories have you accepted that aren’t even yours? It’s time to stop pretending they’re harmless. The stories we inherit, the patterns we repeat, and the lies we’ve swallowed shape every part of our lives—our decisions, our relationships, our happiness.This season is about stripping it all down, challenging the narratives that keep you stuck, and rebuilding from the ground up. You can’t evolve until you address the mess beneath you. But here's the kicker: you have to be willing to face it.In this episode, we’ll help you:Recognize the hidden influences that shape your beliefs—family, culture, past trauma.Confront the surface-level ideals you’ve been holding onto, and why they’re stopping you from growing.Understand how your roots—good or bad—hold the power to either anchor you or keep you stagnant.This is your wake-up call. It's time to confront the mess beneath your surface, dig up the beliefs that don’t serve you, and rebuild stronger. Are you ready to face what's been hiding?If you're serious about breaking free and rebuilding, don't skip this one.📢 Join the Conversation:This episode is heavy, but we need to talk about it. Head to my Instagram ⁠@renovatingthesoul⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📺 Watch & Subscribe on YouTube:Prefer to watch? YouTube episodes drop the Friday after each release, subscribe and keep renovating with us: Subscribe⁠📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: RenovatingTheSoul.com📊 Vote in the Spotify Poll:I want to hear from you. Scroll down and answer the Spotify poll—what's the belief you've been holding onto that keeps you stuck?Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Your soul is breaking, and your body is paying the price. In this episode of Renovating the Soul, we’re diving into the truth we’ve all been avoiding: unresolved emotional pain is ruining our physical health. You’ve been carrying the weight of brokenness, stress, unhealed wounds, and trauma for far too long, and it’s showing up in your body—through chronic pain, exhaustion, digestive issues, and more. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to stay stuck in this cycle.This episode pulls no punches. We’re shaking up the lies you’ve believed about your emotional health and exposing how unprocessed feelings are making your body break down. It’s time to stop pretending that pushing emotions down doesn’t have consequences. The mind-body connection is real, and your emotional wounds have taken a toll on your physical being.Get ready to face the mess. We’ll explore how unresolved emotions like anger, grief, and fear wreak havoc on your body, and how emotional intelligence is the key to breaking this cycle. We’ll dig deep into how your emotional state can either heal you or continue to tear you apart, and why healing your soul is the only way to truly heal your body.If you’re tired of the pain, tired of feeling disconnected from your own body, and ready for something different, this episode is for you. Don’t stay stuck. It’s time to start the work to break free—tear down the old, and build something new.Listen. Reflect. Engage. Your body has been telling you the truth all along—it’s time to listen.Sources referenced in this episode:Article - How Emotional Processes Affect Physical Health and Well Being"Emotion: A Very Short Introduction" by Dylan Evans"Why Emotions Matter" by Tristen Collins & Jonathan Collins with Melissa Binder"Philosophy of Emotion" by Christine Tappolet📢 Join the Conversation:This episode is heavy, but we need to talk about it. Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoul⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📺 Watch & Subscribe on YouTube:Prefer to watch? YouTube episodes drop the Friday after each release, subscribe and keep renovating with us: Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Breaking Cycles, Rebuilding SoulsIf your soul is your home—why are you still living in a place built by other people's expectations, past wounds, and false beliefs?This season, Renovating the Soul is about breaking free from toxic cycles, confronting the beliefs that have shaped us, and figuring out how to move forward from where we are. Healing isn't about perfection—it's facing the mess head-on and doing the real work. We're tackling spiritual abuse, toxic relationships, identity struggles, suffering, and what it really takes to heal. ✔What happens when the church you trusted wasn't what you thought it was?✔What if healing isn't about perfection, but about breaking free?✔Why do we glorify suffering like it's proof of our worth?✔And what if the "family" we choose turns out to be just as toxic as the one we left?Your soul is your home. It's time to make it a place you want to live. This isn't just another podcast—this is a movement.A call to stop patching over cracks and start building something real. Season 2 is here. Let's get to work. 📢 Join the conversation:This season is about real transformation. Follow me on Instagram Follow Here📺 Watch & Subscribe on YouTube:Prefer video? Subscribe here: Subscribe📩 Join the Email List:I'm breaking these topics down even further here. For deeper discussions, exclusive content, and behind-the-scenes thoughts, join my email list here: renovatingthesoul.comText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

As we celebrate the season finale of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria invites you to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery by asking a profound question: What are your soul goals?In this empowering episode, we delve deep into the essence of setting intentions that resonate with your true self. Alexandria explores how identifying your soul goals can lead to a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life. She offers insightful guidance on how to uncover these inner desires, align them with your daily actions, and overcome obstacles that may hinder your personal growth.This episode is a culmination of the themes we've explored throughout the season—introspection, personal development, and the courage to transform from within. It's not just a wrap-up; it's a launching pad for your continued journey towards self-fulfillment.Join us for this inspiring conclusion to Season 1, and let's set the stage for even greater growth in Season 2! Thank you for being part of this incredible journey.✨ Stay Connected: Follow us on Instagram and stay tuned for more insights and inspiration!SMART Method How to Do the Right ThingText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

In this thought-provoking episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria explores the powerful and often misunderstood emotions surrounding revenge. While many of us feel the urge for retribution, how often does it truly bring us the satisfaction we seek?Alexandria dives into the lingering "shoulda, coulda, wouldas" that keep us stuck in a cycle of emotional unrest. From old wounds to fresh frustrations, she unpacks the psychological impact of clinging to thoughts of revenge and asks an important question: does getting even ever truly heal the pain?This episode provides practical insights into why revenge can keep us trapped in the past and how to break free through self-reflection, emotional healing, and forgiveness. If you’ve ever wrestled with anger or struggled to let go of a grudge, this episode offers a fresh perspective and actionable tools to help you move forward.Tune in to Episode 9 and join the conversation on breaking free from the burden of vengeance to find true peace.Resources Watch Video Episodes Here!Get My Custom HatArticle on ForgivenessHow to Do the Right Thing: An Ancient Guide to Treating People FairlyText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

In this episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria delves into ancient philosophical perspectives on the soul, exploring how these early theories have shaped our modern understanding of self-awareness and personal growth. By examining the insights of philosophers like Plato and Aristotle, she reveals timeless wisdom that remains relevant today.By connecting these philosophical theories to everyday experiences, Alexandria offers practical insights for integrating this knowledge into personal development.Resources Ancient Theories of the SoulAncient Wisdom for Modern ReadersText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

In this episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria delves into the profound impact of societal concepts like equality and manifestation on our self-perception and comparisons with others. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and embracing our unique gifts, talents, skills, abilities, and passions. By focusing on our individual strengths and how we can leverage them to benefit ourselves and others, we can diminish the urge to conform or compare ourselves to everyone else. Alexandria encourages listeners to concentrate on their personal journeys and utilize their inherent qualities to achieve their aspirations, fostering a sense of fulfillment and authenticity.This episode is a heartfelt reminder that our differences are not flaws but strengths. By celebrating individuality and letting go of the need to compare, we can lead more authentic and meaningful lives.Listen now to learn why being different is your greatest strength and how to embrace your unique path to growth and happiness.ResourcesPew Research Center - Greatest Dangers in the WorldVox Article - Shut Up I'm ManifestingThe Parable of the Talents Additional Resources (Not Mentioned in the Episode)Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy - EqualityThe Equality ConundrumThe Law of Attraction (Where Manifesting is thought to derive from)Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

After a brief hiatus, Alexandria returns with a compelling installment of Renovating the Soul. In this episode, she introduces Soul Talks—a series of intentional and direct conversations delving into the essence of the soul and the transformative process of its renovation.Drawing inspiration from the HGTV show Unsellable Houses, Alexandria uses home renovation as a metaphor for personal transformation. She emphasizes that, much like houses require more than surface-level fixes, our souls need deep, foundational work to achieve true change. This process involves confronting and addressing internal issues rather than merely masking them.Alexandria outlines key components of soul renovation, including:- Self-awareness: Recognizing and understanding one's thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.- Accountability: Taking responsibility for personal growth and the impact of one's actions.- Consistent effort: Committing to ongoing introspection and self-improvement.She candidly discusses the challenges inherent in this journey, acknowledging that it requires hard work and perseverance. However, she assures listeners that the rewards—such as personal growth, healing, and a more authentic life—are well worth the effort.This episode serves as both an introduction to the concept of soul renovation and a motivational guide for listeners ready to undertake their own transformative journeys.Tune in to discover how renovating your soul can lead to profound personal growth and a more fulfilling life.0:00 - 3:49 - I'm Back & I'm better3:50 - Introducing "Soul Talks"6:45 - Defining renovating11:22 - HGTV/Unsellable Houses analogy 18:40 - Applying the renovating analogy - "you can't just fix the surface level..."21:16 - Components of our renovating process32:00 - Higher level of accountability, "it might start with someone else, but who is it going to stop with?" 33:52 - Moving beyond the surface level43:37 - Suppressing things does not get rid of them48:20 - Renovating requires work50:14 - Why Unsellable Houses. "We're starting from years of things that have already happened..."59:40 - We won't always get it right60:02 - Wrapping it Up; Renovating is Essential & PracticalResources: Unsellable HousesText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Grieving isn’t just about losing someone to death—it’s also about coming to terms with the loss of the relationships we wish we had. In this heartfelt episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria explores the process of grieving relationships with people who are still living. She opens up about the pain of accepting that the idealized connections we’ve imagined may never become reality and reflects on how to navigate this unique form of loss.Through personal insights and honest storytelling, Alexandria invites listeners to consider their own experiences with unfulfilled relationships and how to find peace in letting go of unrealistic expectations. This episode offers comfort and clarity for anyone struggling with unresolved feelings and the challenge of moving forward.We’d love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Comment, DM us on Instagram, or email us at [email protected] to share your experiences.Chapters0:00-3:46 Introduction & Quick Episode Recap3:46 This idea of grieving relationships8:02 Holidays can magnify our emotions17:28 Processing the grief 21:25 The relationships Alexandria is grieving 26:00 "Asking things of the dead is not going to produce results"31:44 The Unhealthy Side 34:36 The Soul journey can be lonelyConnect on IG: @renovatingthesoulArticle: Grieving the Relationships that Could've BeenText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

In this impactful episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria tackles the complex issues of body image, bullying, and societal pressures to conform to unrealistic standards of appearance. Despite the intricate brilliance of the human body, we often reduce our worth to how we look on the outside. Alexandria shares her personal journey of struggling with weight, bullying, and societal expectations, revealing how it took years to separate her self-worth from her outward appearance.Through honest storytelling and deep introspection, this episode explores the true meaning of body image—a person’s thoughts, feelings, and perception of their body. Alexandria challenges listeners to shift their focus from external validation to internal awareness, emphasizing that how we see ourselves starts from within.If you’ve ever felt the weight of societal expectations or struggled with self-perception, this episode will inspire you to redefine your relationship with your body and embrace your inherent worth.Tune in to explore why the way we see ourselves matters more than what others see and how to cultivate a healthier, more loving relationship with your body.00:00-7:00 Introduction7:00 I hated being skinny28:10 Bodily awareness35:49 Body image is not just a woman issue, it's a people issue!38:36 The focus starts within47:12 Our bodies are a blessing53:57 Conclusion, the only power people have over you is the power you give them. Resources: Bodily AwarenessEating Disorder StatisticsVox: The past, present and future of body image in AmericaConnect with me on social media, IG: @renovatingthesoul (podcast) & @lovezandria (personal)Send me your thoughts, questions or topic suggestions - [email protected] Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

In this episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria unpacks the concept of projecting—how it often stems from neglecting reflective and introspective work and why it’s so common in our interactions with others. Instead of pointing fingers at those around us, Alexandria challenges listeners to take a hard look inward and ask the tough question: Am I projecting?Through insightful discussions and relatable examples, this episode explores how unaddressed emotions, unresolved conflicts, and inner turmoil can unconsciously spill over into our relationships. By learning to identify and address our own projections, we can build healthier connections and deepen our personal growth journey.Listen now to discover how owning your emotions and doing the inner work can transform your relationships and your life.00:00 - 7:00: Intro & Housekeeping7:00: "I use projecting as an example ALL the time."10:55: Defining Projecting23:17: What does projecting look like? 31:06: Why this matters?44:26: How to recognize you're projecting?53:19: Closing in a personal wayResources Dr. Tracey Marks YouTube Healthline ArticleSelf-Consciousness Article Webster DefinitionsText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

In this episode of Renovating the Soul, Alexandria opens up about her personal journey—sharing the pivotal moments from her childhood, upbringing, and young adult life that have shaped who she is today. By facing life’s challenges head-on and embracing self-reflection, Alexandria discovered the power of introspection and growth.Through her story, she hopes to inspire listeners to confront their own hard moments with courage and resilience. Whether you’re looking for encouragement, inspiration, or simply a heartfelt story to relate to, this episode offers a real and honest perspective on what it means to look inward and embrace personal transformation.Join Alexandria as she takes you on a heartfelt journey to show how looking inward can unlock your strength and help you find joy in the process.My blog, Purposefully Royal, I started this blog almost 10 years ago and it's still up. ;) https://purposefullyroyal.blogspot.com/ Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Season 1Welcome to the first episode of Renovating the Soul! In this introduction, host Alexandria dives into the heart of what this podcast is all about: exploring the deeper layers of who we are to create meaningful change in our lives.Feeling stuck in cycles of frustration or struggling to make lasting changes? Alexandria explains why surface-level solutions often fall short and how the true answers lie beneath the surface—in the depths of our soul. She emphasizes the importance of doing the hard, uncomfortable work of introspection, even when it’s not fun or doesn’t yield immediate results.This episode sets the stage for a journey of self-discovery, growth, and transformation, encouraging you to take control of your life rather than living passively. Learn what it truly means to renovate the soul and why it’s essential for breaking free from old patterns and stepping into a more fulfilled version of yourself.Tune in to start your journey of growth and change! 🎙️Email questions to [email protected] with us on Instagram & FacebookText Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠

Renovating the Soul, hosted by Alexandria Robinson, is dedicated to the journey of being intentional about who we are and who we want to be. Instead of letting life happen to us, we are making the choice to be an active participant in our own lives. This requires constant and at most times hard work! It is not easy looking at the innermost parts of ourselves and facing the things that we have buried, pushed to the side or ignored for years. But we're doing the work to improve upon what is broken, damaged, or outdated within ourselves. Follow us on IG @renovatingthesoul. Text Me and Share Your ThoughtsSupport the showSubscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time.📢 Join the Conversation:Head to my Instagram ⁠⁠@renovatingthesoulpod⁠⁠ and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together.📩 Join the Email List:For more deep dives, exclusive content, and behind-the scenes discussions, join my email list here: ⁠⁠renovatingthesoul.com⁠⁠